You’re a wise man

LadyGCrueDKilaB:
Story I can never marry or date a broke hass

Says a broke ass that can’t afford sanitary pad with her own money

shuuu I no go marry your type na by force?

Plead:



Says a broke ass that can’t afford sanitary pad with her own money

LadyGCrueDKilaB:
shuuu I no go marry your type na by force?

I have my own house/car, I earn 300k monthly and I’m happily married .

If that is what you call broke I pity you


No female in my hood is dependent on some nigga to buy sanitary pad unlike e-broke rat like you

only 300k and you are happy with your life pls desist from quoting me any further, I don't interact with wretched guys thanks
I only talk to them rich niggas that earn 8 figures, dass my type

Plead:


I have my own house/car, I earn 300k monthly and I’m happily married .

If that is what you call broke I pity you


No female in my hood is dependent on some nigga to buy sanitary pad unlike e-broke rat like you

Toks2008:
Whilst I totally agree that it is perfectly ok to set a standard as regards the type of husband you want, it is sacrosanct that you do not cross that line from realistic standards to fantasy and you can't pray to GOD to give you a good husband and at the same time give him conditions...if you want GOD to lead a good husband to find you then allow him to do just that.

[color=#990000]*Work on yourself to be independent financially and you won't care if your man is jobless, broke or earns 30k per month at the moment cos the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.

Hmmmmm! I got so emotional and shed tears when i read this part. at this time in the last 3 years i was so broke and i remember borrowing 1k from a niece but today i earn about N1M a month when converted to the same Naira i borrowed and this is just the starting point for me.

Indeed the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.

GOD BLESS YOU TOKS BABA for your never-ending insightful threads. I just hope ladies learn.

otherway:


Hmmmmm! I got so emotional and shed tears when i read this part. at this time in the last 3 years i was so broke and i remember borrowing 1k from a niece but today i earn about N1M a month when converted to the same Naira i borrowed and this is just the starting point for me.

Indeed the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.

GOD BLESS YOU TOKS BABA for your never-ending insightful threads. I just hope ladies learn.

O.M.G!

What a 360degrees turn around. I pray that your testimony remains permanent and GOD will lift you from glory to GREATER Glory in Jesus name..AME. WoW!

Toks2008:


O.M.G!

What a 360degrees turn around. I pray that your testimony remains permanent and GOD will lift you from glory to GREATER Glory in Jesus name..AME. WoW!

AMEN BABA.

GOD bless you too.

otherway:


AMEN BABA.

GOD bless you too.

AMEN o.

Lalasticlala I guess this will be a good one to close the front page with today.

Hope you are good.

Plead:


I have my own house/car, I earn 300k monthly and I’m happily married .

If that is what you call broke I pity you


No female in my hood is dependent on some nigga to buy sanitary pad unlike e-broke rat like you

More grace bro.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Honestly. Most times I used to ask this question.I'm still yet to understand why its difficult for most ladies to make decisions when it comes to marriage.

Because they make it very difficult for themselves.

Toks2008:


Because they make it very difficult for themselves.

. I agree. I keep wondering how a lady could not make a choice out of so many men that keep asking for their hands in marriage during their younger ages.It happened to two of my cousins, they are over 45 now. But what I couldn't understand was why it so. I knew then when I was growing up,they had numerous boyfriends and suitors.

Toks2008:


That you should vamolotripicity otherwise you will viscuterlocomoto...

Shey you get?

The most confusion of all is they don't want a workerholic but want a rich husband........what an unserious desire

JONNYSPUTE:
. I agree. I keep wondering how a lady could not make a choice out of so many men that keep asking for their hands in marriage during their younger ages.It happened to two of my cousins, they are over 45 now. But what I couldn't understand was why it so. I knew then when I was growing up,they had numerous boyfriends and suitors.

Your cousins, are they interested in marriage?

Plead:


I have my own house/car, I earn 300k monthly and I’m happily married .

If that is what you call broke I pity you


No female in my hood is dependent on some nigga to buy sanitary pad unlike e-broke rat like you

You don begin de make noise. Make I tell your old foes who you be? Lol.

lefulefu:
u no be nigerian lady nau so in ur case it will be easy for u to shoot ur shot at a guy u fancy .in nigeria its taboo for a lady to talk to a guy she fancies .in naija a lady will see a guy she is dying for but instead of her to make a move she will stay in one corner praying and hoping dat the guy notices her cos she wouldnt want to be tagged as cheap if she makes the first move .relationship in naija can be very dicey .

Baba all this girls no no wetin Dem want, even if the guy wer she de admire come meet am,she go still de form give am,..

LadyGCrueDKilaB:
only 300k and you are happy with your life pls desist from quoting me any further, I don't interact with wretched guys thanks
I only talk to them rich niggas that earn 8 figures, dass my type

okay na Shiloh 2050 don sure for you

Raalsalghul:


Your cousins, are they interested in marriage?

.. My brother, I don't know. They are based in PH.I don't even communicate with them cause they are all my senior.Shebi women say that whatever they do with their self and body is no ones business? Idgaf

LordKO:


You don begin de make noise. Make I tell your old foes who you be? Lol.

Nuclear99:
Baba all this girls no no wetin Dem want, even if the guy wer she de admire come meet am,she go still de form give am,..

well outside naija if a girl like u either she go give u very obvious signs that she likes or she might even approach u.its just that in naija if a lady approach a guy or make it obvious that she likes the guy then naija dudes will start tagging her as ashawo or cheap girl so dats why many naija babes dey always lock up.but the funny thing is that naija ladies outside nigeria also act the way non naija ladies act by approaching u or giving u obvious signs.if guys in naija start appreciating bold ladies then more will come out of their shells .

condemn:


Last last you go drop your standard. The country is extremely hard and there is no money in circulation.

Having a standard should never be about money, if we settle down to analyse it. But money makes life sweeter
No woman should lower her standard in order to bear missus, and no man should settle either. Such marriages are oftentimes miserable ones.
If you love comes into the picture, great. Afterall love covers a multitude of sins. However, if you lower your standards, there will always be that background resentment. That's not healthy for any relationship.

Toks2008:
Do you know that 99% of ladies who are still single at marriageable ages have no business with singlehood?

Many ladies pray to GOD every now and then for a spouse but unknown to them, GOD has blocked his ears to their prayers...WHY? Because God has already given them a spouse but they rejected his choice for them due to the preconceived unrealistic standards they have already created in their minds of what a good husband should be. The average woman is totally confused as regards the type of man she truly wants, she does not really want a good man or a good husband in the real sense but what she wants is her own fantasy idea of what a good husband is supposed to be, in order words, she already has her MIND MADE HUSBAND...

Whilst men may get away with this mind-made choice because they are at a vantage position due to their ability to walk up to any lady of their choice, a lady may find It very difficult to do the same...maybe things would have been easier if ladies can walk up to the man that has their standards to decisively woo them and make them fall for them, propose to them and stay married to them

Whilst I totally agree that it is perfectly ok to set a standard as regards the type of husband you want, it is sacrosanct that you do not cross that line from realistic standards to fantasy and you can't pray to GOD to give you a good husband and at the same time give him conditions...if you want GOD to lead a good husband to find you then allow him to do just that.

*Work on yourself to be independent financially and you won't care if your man is jobless, broke or earns 30k per month at the moment cos the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.
*Sixpack or a good body frame does not equate to a good husband.
*A big dck is not a guaranty that he will be a good husband.
*That he is rich does not mean you are also rich.
*You will hardly find a rich man that will be there for you whenever you need him.
*It is very unrealistic to expect a good husband to act or look like the super romantic sexy F boys you have met in the past and hoping to turn a F boy into a husband is lame.
*A man is not supposed to be cute like ladies who are regarded as the fairer sex or must be tall to be considered a good husband...what a man needs to have is a genuine desire for you.
*You can never date a pastor, a divorcee, can't marry a man with kids, you can't date a workaholic and you want a rich man, you can't be with a guy who is not fluent, who talks too much, he has to belong to a certain tribe, religion or even church denomination, must have a certain skin colour, must have good dress sense, must be based abroad or from a certain country, the age difference must not be too much as if close age gap is a prerequisite for a good marriage...
*He texts you or calls you too much or so into you and you feel he is not your type!...would you rather prefer he cares less?
*You want a good guy or husband but you have bad manners, you act and dress indecently and your nude or semi-nude pics and videos are all over social media and you dare crave for a good man
*Your feelings for a man as important as it is can not guaranty that he will have the same feelings for you and if you marry a man you have feelings for but does not have true feelings for, sister you are finished maritally.
*You Have friend-zoned and you keep friend-zoning the good guys and running after bad boys like a jinxed lady and you still talk about how difficult it is to find good men...
*You don't want to build a life with him cos you feel he will leave or cheat on you if he is made...Crazy!... I can go and on highlighting a series of unrealistic standards many ladies look for in a prospective good husband.

No matter how you pray and no matter the number of the singles summit you attend, If you are not ready to forget your false standards and make a serious compromise, you may remain single for a very very long time. l believe that the most paramount desire of an unmarried lady is to have a GOOD husband who will love and care for her and any other thing should be secondary and when you pray to GOD FOR a husband, blank your mind from any Imaginary standard you have created for yourself and allow GOD HAVE HIS WAY or simply develop the balls to approach any guy that matches your imagination and stop bothering GOD.

I hope this makes sense.

how low the mighty men have fallen

yeyeosoronga:


Having a standard should never be about money, if we settle down to analyse it. But money makes life sweeter
No woman should lower her standard in order to bear missus, and no man should settle either. Such marriages are oftentimes miserable ones.
If you love comes into the picture, great. Afterall love covers a multitude of sins. However, if you lower your standards, there will always be that background resentment. That's not healthy for any relationship.

I totally agree that having a standard is very ok but it must be a realistic one. Nevertheless, as I wrote, it is saddening that the culture of man making the first move in wooing a woman and not the other way round is making things difficult for ladies with high standards cos there are many men who meet the standards and strangely enough, these guys are single and hoping to meet a serious-minded lady but most ladies would rather hope that their standard comes to them first even when they see him every day. Quite sad.

lefulefu:
well outside naija if a girl like u either she go give u very obvious signs that she likes or she might even approach u.its just that in naija if a lady approach a guy or make it obvious that she likes the guy then naija dudes will start tagging her as ashawo or cheap girl so dats why many naija babes dey always lock up.but the funny thing is that naija ladies outside nigeria also act the way non naija ladies act by approaching u or giving u obvious signs.if guys in naija start appreciating bold ladies then more will come out of their shells .

It's the same Lefustic..most Ladies all around the world are laidback when it comes to approaching guys for romance and I guess it is their genetic makeup especially in the area of hard to get. Even if a man is the most ideal and perfect choice of a lady, she go still dey form which makes them a very complicated species.

They will have silly standards till dey clock 35. They would then marry that company driver who as been nice to them. Ndi ala. Some are on nairaland opening husband thread but still put conditions

Toks2008:


It's the same Lefustic..most Ladies all around the world are laidback when it comes to approaching guys for romance and I guess it is their genetic makeup especially in the area of hard to get. Even if a man is the most ideal and perfect choice of a lady, she go still dey form which makes them a very complicated species.

not exactly true.outside nigeria a lady can approach u and strike a conversation with u and from there normal friendship can start.she might not tell u directly that she likes u but she will give u obvious signs .Toks u are in the uk nau so why u been economical with the truth.how many uk girls dey clam up and squeeze their face if a guy says hi like they do in nigeria .i am in the dominica here and over here a lady can approach u and strike a conversation with u. there is no timidity here but then in nigeria i believe the guys still a part of the blame cos in nigeria if a lady is bold enough to approach a guy she fancy to strike a decent convo they will be calling her ashawo.the way of doing things in nigeria has made many nigeria girls very timid and anti social.no be their fault.

Toks2008:


That you should vamolotripicity otherwise you will viscuterlocomoto...

Shey you get?

Bros, that's an archaic mobotorious English words ooooo.....she has been confused already

otherway:


Hmmmmm! I got so emotional and shed tears when i read this part. at this time in the last 3 years i was so broke and i remember borrowing 1k from a niece but today i earn about N1M a month when converted to the same Naira i borrowed and this is just the starting point for me.

Indeed the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.

GOD BLESS YOU TOKS BABA for your never-ending insightful threads. I just hope ladies learn.

Bros, how did you manage to do? Abeg introduce
me to that thing now....abi you japa ni?

lefulefu:
not exactly true.outside nigeria a lady can approach u and strike a conversation with u and from there normal friendship can start.she might not tell u directly that she likes u but she will give u obvious signs .Toks u are in the uk nau so why u been economical with the truth.how many uk girls dey clam up and squeeze their face if a guy says hi like they do in nigeria .i am in the dominica here and over here a lady can approach u and strike a conversation with u. there is no timidity here but then in nigeria i believe the guys still a part of the blame cos in nigeria if a lady is bold enough to approach a guy she fancy to strike a decent convo they will be calling her ashawo.the way of doing things in nigeria has made many nigeria girls very timid and anti social.no be their fault.

Maybe in Domina and not U.K.
They are very laid back and timid here.

Wey lalasticlala sef?