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Tolzeal:
Do you make 3D animation for people ? Or have someone that can get something done for me ?

babtoundey:
Well, even those that you see with a large number of friends have just handful friends in the real sense. So what will you say of people with just a handful? People (those you took to be friends) did what they did not because they consider you weak or they think they can conveniently manipulate you. They did it because it is what they are. That's isn't enough to deter you from trusting people or making friends if you truly desire to. Just don't be desperate and don't be appear you can't do without anyone.

And the online friend, just believe they are human. They may turn great as they have always been and may prove otherwise. Just don't be too reliant on anybody. Don't expect repayment of the kindness you did for people from the same people.

skultrick:
I want to ask a question about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

I don't know if this experience of mine is associated with my introverted nature, or something else which is why I've brought it here to know if anyone else is battling with same problem.

Okay, am the guy who's into web development and programming, and ideas are abound (thanks to my introverted nature). I make 6-figures monthly already from my properties online, I've well taught plans to increase this (at least 95% success rate), but the biggest problem I've experience now is that am too lazy to get working on this projects that need my attention.

So, my question to the house is, do you feel overwhelmed with the tasks ahead and prefer to lie down there browsing through the internet, sit down there thinking, reading that interesting story or perhaps find a way to while away time rather than get working on the job?

You only get the best from me when am challenged. I loose interest in everything easily, it has affected my relationship with my lady badly, academics and business.

Please is there any one else here dealing with commitment issues, have you been able to overcome it, and how did you go about it?

Thank you for your time and response.

Kihara14:
Most introverts tend to suffer from social anxiety which has lead to depression in a lot of youths. Being introverted doesn't mean u should be shy or not able to make connections or even interactions. In advanced countries behaviors like this can be cured through cbt(cognitive behavioral therapy). But I've searched and I haven't been able to find any therapist.. If you're an introvert and having problems expressing yourself or even shy and freak out or panic at social interactions. We could link up and help each other..This would hone our public speaking and interaction skills.. We all need that to get by day to day activities. So let's do this..

Dathypebruv:
Finally found a space for peeps like me.................
Name's Kae glad to meet y'all
although id Hate to admit it buh I've been silently suffering from depression although not too deep
Sometimes unnecessary mood swings then I'll pick myself back up
buh lately I've been at crossroads one too many times without knowing what next steps to take........

raydatluvs:
Hi, so I don't believe there's anything to cure about being an introvert. I'll always say if ever see yourself as needing 'help or cure' because you're an introvert, then you're not helping your self-esteem rather focus on it as a growth process meaning you're already enough but you'll like to learn more social skills or better your interpersonal communication skills and your making the conscious efforts, then you'll be better off for the process.

I am an introvert and I do not have the problems you mentioned but if you'll still be interested in chatting then do send me a PM please.

Kihara14:
I don't think you understand my post.. I said being an introvert doesn't mean you have social anxiety or are even shy. Being an introvert doesn't mean u cannot interact normally with people.. The help I'm talking about does not apply to anyone that doesn't face this.. Curing your social anxiety or shyness or even interpersonal skills does not turn you to an extrovert..

skultrick:
I want to ask a question about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

I don't know if this experience of mine is associated with my introverted nature, or something else which is why I've brought it here to know if anyone else is battling with same problem.

Okay, am the guy who's into web development and programming, and ideas are abound (thanks to my introverted nature). I make 6-figures monthly already from my properties online, I've well taught plans to increase this (at least 95% success rate), but the biggest problem I've experience now is that am too lazy to get working on this projects that need my attention.

So, my question to the house is, do you feel overwhelmed with the tasks ahead and prefer to lie down there browsing through the internet, sit down there thinking, reading that interesting story or perhaps find a way to while away time rather than get working on the job?

You only get the best from me when am challenged. I loose interest in everything easily, it has affected my relationship with my lady badly, academics and business.

Please is there any one else here dealing with commitment issues, have you been able to overcome it, and how did you go about it?

Thank you for your time and response.

Iamdeagle:
You're not alone on this. I work best under pressure or when I have a deadline to meet.

As a student then, I spent all my time reading novels until a week to exam, then you'll see me reading like crazy. Beginning of every semester, I'd vow to study every day only to get bored before the week is over.

The andrenaline rush has always been my biggest motivation.
As funny as it may sound, I don't panic under pressure. I'm always calm and will still deliver no matter what.

You ain't alone on this, it's our make up. Hope this helps.

ibkayee:
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CaptainMitch:
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ibkayee:
Lol it was an accidental post

Iamdeagle:
You're not alone on this. I work best under pressure or when I have a deadline to meet.

As a student then, I spent all my time reading novels until a week to exam, then you'll see me reading like crazy. Beginning of every semester, I'd vow to study every day only to get bored before the week is over.

The andrenaline rush has always been my biggest motivation.
As funny as it may sound, I don't panic under pressure. I'm always calm and will still deliver no matter what.

You ain't alone on this, it's our make up. Hope this helps.

Dathypebruv:
Finally found a space for peeps like me.................
Name's Kae glad to meet y'all
although id Hate to admit it buh I've been silently suffering from depression although not too deep
Sometimes unnecessary mood swings then I'll pick myself back up
buh lately I've been at crossroads one too many times without knowing what next steps to take........

JacksonMS:
you came to the wrong place, nairaland don't provide help.

My situation is worst and all I got was insults. It's only God that is keeping me alive. I m just tired of my useless life .

JacksonMS:
you came to the wrong place, nairaland don't provide help.

My situation is worst and all I got was insults. It's only God that is keeping me alive. I m just tired of my useless life .

Ftheophilous:
Don't generalize bro. Nairalanders are very sensitive to issues regarding depression, it just depends on how you present it as well as in which section of nairaland you do. Meanwhile, the person feeling depressed is yet to talk about the cause of his depression.

Depression, from my experience, comes when one fails to achieve something or when things don't go the way you expect them to; ranging, but not limited to, health, academics, relationship, family, finance, social identification, et cetera. Thus, there is gainsaying in the idea that depression is attributed to one's personality. Having said that, the role of one's personality here is to control the extent to which one can manipulate his emotions.

The period of depression is like that of a roving tempest that ravages you emotionally leaving you spent out. Everything happening during that period is caused by the thoughts in your head. More like you are allowing yourself to get sucked in by those thoughts created by your brain. Rather than trying to fight off these feelings, in my case, I allow them overwhelm me by creating the setting and the things needed to enable me get back up - positive thinking. Positive thinking here is not that in the abstract sense, but the fact that that period is a fizz that will blow off eventually. The truth is that you cannot really fight off or hold off a tempest, you can only lay low while it roves around.

There is always peace and calm after a horrid wind and that is the after state of depression. The post depression state is that of revitalization, understanding, enlightenment, acceptance and moving on. It does not help when one wallows in frustration and self pity with the thought that all hope is lost. As long as there is life there is something to live for, you just have to find..no... choose it.

vikel2104:
The thing that baffle me is that an introvert tends to understand people but yet they're the most misunderstood. I tend to sense peoples' feelings but when it comes to mine, they don't even care to know. Another thing is that an introvert tends to understand and get clues quickly. So it pisses me off sometimes when people cannot understand seemingly simple things. I guess it has to do with our ability to think deeply. I prefer thought-provoking discussions rather than empty chatter. That's why some people cannot discuss with me because i don't like shallow talk and that's what most people engage in. Let's just say I love depth in everything I do. I love to ask the question 'why?' before I do things but people would prefer that I go with the flow and just do what everyone is doing. I have a way of revealing myself to people depending on who it is. If I meet a total stranger who I'm most likely never going to see again, I could chat and act like an extrovert. But if I'm most likely going to be seeing the person often, I show them my real introverted self with the mind that with time they'll see that that is how I am and those who accept me will finally make friends with me. Over the years I've come to be able to talk in front of people but I'm still not very comfortable when it's impromptu. If I'm told to teach something, I go the extra mile to make sure you undertand because I don't like the thought that i've wasted my time, my precious time. Staying indoors? Oh there is nothing as blissful as my 'me time' I hate noise more than anything. (sorry for the long unparagraphed post. But being an introvert I know you had the patience to read through it)

JacksonMS:
you came to the wrong place, nairaland don't provide help.

My situation is worst and all I got was insults. It's only God that is keeping me alive. I m just tired of my useless life .

thedio:
this is exactly who I am thou my father added to my prob when he told me to stop gossiping with my sisters that it's not good for boy to gossip. However playing football help me a lot cos it attracted pple to me, being a footballer pple will like to hear my view on football matters, they force me to talk.
nevertheless I still find it difficult to address a crowd or keep a conversation but when I'm in d mist of close friends I'm a champion.i talk like a parrot.

luvablesam:
Same here at first but i got interested in sports,politics,international relationa and music...so when the discussions cum up......i found out some thing....An extrovert must be very intelligent to hold dicussions with an introvert. We have more depth.

thedio:
this is exactly who I am thou my father added to my prob when he told me to stop gossiping with my sisters that it's not good for boy to gossip. However playing football help me a lot cos it attracted pple to me, being a footballer pple will like to hear my view on football matters, they force me to talk.
nevertheless I still find it difficult to address a crowd or keep a conversation but when I'm in d mist of close friends I'm a champion.i talk like a parrot.

Sholaani:
My trick of keeping conversation with crowd is saying nonsense or talk unintelligently with confidence. Sound funny?

Dathypebruv:
NOT at all,
ain't sure this is the right place for you bruh....................

Sholaani:
My trick of keeping conversation with crowd is saying nonsense or talk unintelligently with confidence. Sound funny?

Sethzenon:
Lol, this is weird cos you perfectly described me...

and as for the all black? A friend (girl) had to buy different colours of shirts for me just so I could wear a different colour...

I never wore them.

When people be like "I don't understand you" I am always like "I don't even understand me"