₦airaland Forum

swaggzo:
This is nice. But you know, it's gonna take sometime.
I'm a really sensitive person. I look around, see all these people and the kind of life.. And it doesn't make me comfortable.
I've been heartbroken before. Lover of 4 years won't stop messing around with random boys while crying she loves me. Kept forgiving, until I ran out of forgiveness. Lover didn't even care. Only calls once in 4 months till today to remind me of the worse relationship experience.

I look around and I see many people like her who won't stop messing around. Then I spot this one that is 99% all I've dreamed of. Now I lose it.

Everything will be alright, I know. But right now, everything is all wrong.

swaggzo:
You all conclude too much. Where I stay, I can have up to 5 real girls every week.
I just liked how I connected with this person.
But you know, love is a loosing game. I lost this round.

Nnaabros:
Which religion, if you don't mind my asking?

IHate9jerianss:
@swaggzo
In all my days and all my experiences in life, no woman will ever love you except for her personal interest.No woman born in this world is worth it.The only woman that truly loves you without personal interest is your mother besides that it’s all about personal interest.If men understand that, they wouldn’t be killing themselves over woman and just live with it so don’t expect anything short of that from a woman
By a nlander

Eagba:
this guy just laid out a simple solution to a multi dimensional problem. now, who have noticed that legendary Chris brown have lost his touch. I noticed this since he started collaborating with people like davido.

tintingz:
If you mean woman in her 30s is an evening newspapers then you're silly and ignorant.

swaggzo:
Women bashers, Clueless Men, and people that have never been in love, please keep off.
I'm already seeing some worthless "offpoint" statements and disregard. How difficult is it for Nigerian Adults to either be meaningfully useful, or ignore and mind their business?



To my fellow men, how did you get through this?

You fall in love with someone, and they leave you and never come back. You plead, and plead, and cry at their feet because you loved them sincerely. But they swear never to come back.

Not that you were a bad person that beat up your partner, cheated on them or treated them carelessly. You only made a few "common" mistakes like raising your voice, correcting certain flaws, or whatever it is that would go on in a relationship and normal couples will get through it. But your partner leaves you 3 times because he/she "wasn't happy" in the relationship because of these "common" mistakes/situations. You beg them and they come back, but this 4th time they leave you, you go on to try to get them back for days or weeks, with no success.

Usually they like to leave because they've found someone else. Sometimes they leave because they cannot cope with you. But you really want them for all their great qualities, and this 4th time, you've made up your mind to be good. To be better than you ever was, even though you cannot really see how those "common" relationship situations are worthy to be called faults that should lead to a breakup.

They make up their mind not to return to you. Cry, roll in mud, bang your head a hundred times but they're unimpressed. Their minds have been made up to "leave a man like you for a man that will value and cherish them". In fact seeing you, your calls, and texts make them angrier.


My friends, how did you get through this situation?
How did you comfort yourself with their absence with the fact that in your heart, you know they were too good but your small mistakes were huge to them and you let them down.

You wanted them forever. Marriage, children and happiness. Now you wonder if there are any people as good as they were. You're worried you'll never such love and kindness and commitment and passion and honestly and loyalty and dedication and pureness of heart, anywhere in the world again.

You really want them back. But they don't even want to see your name or face anywhere. They used to love you. But their fragile hearts couldn't endure your little naggings or jokes, or complaints and inconsistent love. They had their own shortcomings too. In fact, you reacted the times you did because of their actions. But they put all the blames on you. For love's sake you accept all the pains and blames and decide to fight further and keep things together. But they are now less interested. They're also worried about the tribal differences between your families.

Not that you're begging to be loved. No. They're unhappy because of you. Your "common" mistakes hurt and offend them. So you "beg" for forgiveness. But they've had enough of you.

Men that has been in these oversized shoes that are mine currently, how did you get through this?

palmshots:
I know your fellow pussified (she-male) clicked those likes...Incase you don't know you and the rest of your kind are their perfect retirement plan!
Yes they are "EVENING NEWSPAPERS"..I can only feel sorry for you Fool"

rottennaija:
I understand your pain. Have been there before, lost a relationship of almost 9 years because of religion, my life was practically built around her, she was my dream, my life, my love etc. At the end, it ended like that.

Though it's been more than a year, each time I think about her or discuss with her in phone or in person, it puts me in a melancholy mood. I have met different people with different trait and characters, I kept moving forward, kept looking for the sort of person I'm interested in.

Am I happy today? Yes. Am I also sad? Yes, for I am sad of how it could have been. In all these, I learnt a big lesson and I could move forward. In my own case, while I knew we love each other, I also learnt than in some cases, love for something else was greater than the love she had for me (in this case her religion). So in that case, it probably was all for nothing.

Anyway, believe me. You will get over it and will be a better person. But it's not easy, but you will pull through.

Neduzze5:
Religion... Cost me my last relationship

May also cost me the one I'm about to embark on. God airpus oooo

swaggzo:
What do you mean?
How?

pansophist:
When hitmen like Martinez39 and co de around, no one dares talk rubbish.

The fear of redpill men is the beginning of wisdom

swaggzo:
What do you mean?
How?

tintingz:
Ok dummy.

So what makes a woman in her 30s an evening newspaper?

Let's have an intellectual discussion.

Equity15:
lmao na wa oh...those hitmen dey really show em pepper

Equity15:
lol..our NL ladies don dey respect topics oh.. the O.P said "men only" and truly no woman don comment.

pansophist:
When hitmen like Martinez39 and co de around, no one dares talk rubbish.

The fear of redpill men is the beginning of wisdom

swaggzo:
This one pass their power. Forget the men only.

tintingz:
Ok dummy.

So what makes a woman in her 30s an evening newspaper?

Let's have an intellectual discussion.

palmshots:
Lol... Intelligent Reasoning with you?? Boy, from your posts above I cud see you are still very young. Learn carefully and don't thread this path you wanna choose....It doesn't end well

Dont be part of the retirement plan of these girls when they are done enjoying their youth (hoeing)

Henceforth you are hereby ignored! If you like come back with another moniker

Oluromantic:
Lol. Stop dating girls in their early 20s. They have a lot of attention from men that makes them use extreme words like "never again" No wise human uses words of finality in relating with people.. Girls in their early 30s are better unless you're very young too.

Avoid excess familiarity with one woman. They declare always that they want a man who will love them if possible more than Jesus loves them, but in reality what they want is a man who can overlook their emotional manipulations... they themselves know they're trouble and they enjoy being one. That's why u see some men have 3 girlfriends so as not to get too used to one to d level of regretting showing her too much love.

Choose personality over beauty. The understanding of temperament may help. Some peaceful girls may be dark in complexion, plumpy, and calm while you are looking for a yellow slim and active queens English speaker who may be insensitive. Many men have reached their early grave cus of beauty

Oluromantic:
Lol. Stop dating girls in their early 20s. They have a lot of attention from men that makes them use extreme words like "never again" No wise human uses words of finality in relating with people.. Girls in their early 30s are better unless you're very young too.

Avoid excess familiarity with one woman. They declare always that they want a man who will love them if possible more than Jesus loves them, but in reality what they want is a man who can overlook their emotional manipulations... they themselves know they're trouble and they enjoy being one. That's why u see some men have 3 girlfriends so as not to get too used to one to d level of regretting showing her too much love.

Choose personality over beauty. The understanding of temperament may help. Some peaceful girls may be dark in complexion, plumpy, and calm while you are looking for a yellow slim and active queens English speaker who may be insensitive. Many men have reached their early grave cus of beauty

thelastmediator:
I advice young men to listen to hard core rap music. It will help toughen them and prepare them for reality of life.

Fountainofyouth:
That is becos we are not like most of y'all males that don't respect people's wishes, we are sensible like that, unlike you males that jump about yapping dust and bile in a female only thread.

pansophist:
Some years ago, the romance section of nairaland was littered with misandrist forming woke and enlightened, regurgitating feministic psychobabbles, and there was few red pill apostles to counter them. Meanwhile, lots of the apostles were underdogs breeding themselves into metamorphosis. Right now, romance section has been cleansed or at least, their points countered.

Ubunja was the spearhead that turned things around hence, the constant glorification by the mention of his name.

swaggzo:
Women bashers, Clueless Men, and people that have never been in love, please keep off.
I'm already seeing some worthless "offpoint" statements and disregard. How difficult is it for Nigerian Adults to either be meaningfully useful, or ignore and mind their business?



To my fellow men, how did you get through this?

You fall in love with someone, and they leave you and never come back. You plead, and plead, and cry at their feet because you loved them sincerely. But they swear never to come back.

Not that you were a bad person that beat up your partner, cheated on them or treated them carelessly. You only made a few "common" mistakes like raising your voice, correcting certain flaws, or whatever it is that would go on in a relationship and normal couples will get through it. But your partner leaves you 3 times because he/she "wasn't happy" in the relationship because of these "common" mistakes/situations. You beg them and they come back, but this 4th time they leave you, you go on to try to get them back for days or weeks, with no success.

Usually they like to leave because they've found someone else. Sometimes they leave because they cannot cope with you. But you really want them for all their great qualities, and this 4th time, you've made up your mind to be good. To be better than you ever was, even though you cannot really see how those "common" relationship situations are worthy to be called faults that should lead to a breakup.

They make up their mind not to return to you. Cry, roll in mud, bang your head a hundred times but they're unimpressed. Their minds have been made up to "leave a man like you for a man that will value and cherish them". In fact seeing you, your calls, and texts make them angrier.


My friends, how did you get through this situation?
How did you comfort yourself with their absence with the fact that in your heart, you know they were too good but your small mistakes were huge to them and you let them down.

You wanted them forever. Marriage, children and happiness. Now you wonder if there are any people as good as they were. You're worried you'll never such love and kindness and commitment and passion and honestly and loyalty and dedication and pureness of heart, anywhere in the world again.

You really want them back. But they don't even want to see your name or face anywhere. They used to love you. But their fragile hearts couldn't endure your little naggings or jokes, or complaints and inconsistent love. They had their own shortcomings too. In fact, you reacted the times you did because of their actions. But they put all the blames on you. For love's sake you accept all the pains and blames and decide to fight further and keep things together. But they are now less interested. They're also worried about the tribal differences between your families.

Not that you're begging to be loved. No. They're unhappy because of you. Your "common" mistakes hurt and offend them. So you "beg" for forgiveness. But they've had enough of you.

Men that has been in these oversized shoes that are mine currently, how did you get through this?

swaggzo:
Women bashers, Clueless Men, and people that have never been in love, please keep off.
I'm already seeing some worthless "offpoint" statements and disregard. How difficult is it for Nigerian Adults to either be meaningfully useful, or ignore and mind their business?



To my fellow men, how did you get through this?

You fall in love with someone, and they leave you and never come back. You plead, and plead, and cry at their feet because you loved them sincerely. But they swear never to come back.

Not that you were a bad person that beat up your partner, cheated on them or treated them carelessly. You only made a few "common" mistakes like raising your voice, correcting certain flaws, or whatever it is that would go on in a relationship and normal couples will get through it. But your partner leaves you 3 times because he/she "wasn't happy" in the relationship because of these "common" mistakes/situations. You beg them and they come back, but this 4th time they leave you, you go on to try to get them back for days or weeks, with no success.

Usually they like to leave because they've found someone else. Sometimes they leave because they cannot cope with you. But you really want them for all their great qualities, and this 4th time, you've made up your mind to be good. To be better than you ever was, even though you cannot really see how those "common" relationship situations are worthy to be called faults that should lead to a breakup.

They make up their mind not to return to you. Cry, roll in mud, bang your head a hundred times but they're unimpressed. Their minds have been made up to "leave a man like you for a man that will value and cherish them". In fact seeing you, your calls, and texts make them angrier.


My friends, how did you get through this situation?
How did you comfort yourself with their absence with the fact that in your heart, you know they were too good but your small mistakes were huge to them and you let them down.

You wanted them forever. Marriage, children and happiness. Now you wonder if there are any people as good as they were. You're worried you'll never such love and kindness and commitment and passion and honestly and loyalty and dedication and pureness of heart, anywhere in the world again.

You really want them back. But they don't even want to see your name or face anywhere. They used to love you. But their fragile hearts couldn't endure your little naggings or jokes, or complaints and inconsistent love. They had their own shortcomings too. In fact, you reacted the times you did because of their actions. But they put all the blames on you. For love's sake you accept all the pains and blames and decide to fight further and keep things together. But they are now less interested. They're also worried about the tribal differences between your families.

Not that you're begging to be loved. No. They're unhappy because of you. Your "common" mistakes hurt and offend them. So you "beg" for forgiveness. But they've had enough of you.

Men that has been in these oversized shoes that are mine currently, how did you get through this?

pansophist:
If every guy becomes redpilled like guys on the thread, women go hear am , but until then, let's the redpill apostles keep dozing them until it takes maximum effect.