₦airaland Forum

swaggzo:
Elder0001, Martinez39, tintingz, seun
Jeff1607, lordreed, just4fun, rottennaija, banjicom, Michellekabod2, Joseph1013,
Tillaman, JONNYSPUTE, 1Sharon, astrog

After this thread was made she came around again and it felt like everything was on it's way to be alright, in the last 4 days.

However, yesterday, she has gone back to the old things again, trying to say it won't work and we can't be and stuff. Her excuses are the old things from months back which are even insignificant. She says she's scared and "there's no love for me in her".

There's no love for me but you started to text and call last Sunday.. After I had moved on pretty well, and we've hung out pretty much since then.
What is wrong with this person? I'm in a maze right here.

Then right now, I get a good morning text from her. I'm a soccer game now.

rottennaija:
How old is she?

Martinez39:
You are at fault and you are the architect of your suffering. Why haven't you sent her through the exit door for good?

swaggzo:
Good qualities that are hard to find.
I'm trying to axe it. But it hasn't been easy. These things work somehow.

swaggzo:
Elder0001, Martinez39, tintingz, seun
Jeff1607, lordreed, just4fun, rottennaija, banjicom, Michellekabod2, Joseph1013,
Tillaman, JONNYSPUTE, 1Sharon, astrog

After this thread was made she came around again and it felt like everything was on it's way to be alright, in the last 4 days.

However, yesterday, she has gone back to the old things again, trying to say it won't work and we can't be and stuff. Her excuses are the old things from months back which are even insignificant. She says she's scared and "there's no love for me in her".

There's no love for me but you started to text and call last Sunday.. After I had moved on pretty well, and we've hung out pretty much since then.
What is wrong with this person? I'm in a maze right here.

Then right now, I get a good morning text from her. I'm a soccer game now.

swaggzo:
Elder0001, Martinez39, tintingz, seun
Jeff1607, lordreed, just4fun, rottennaija, banjicom, Michellekabod2, Joseph1013,
Tillaman, JONNYSPUTE, 1Sharon, astrog

After this thread was made she came around again and it felt like everything was on it's way to be alright, in the last 4 days.

However, yesterday, she has gone back to the old things again, trying to say it won't work and we can't be and stuff. Her excuses are the old things from months back which are even insignificant. She says she's scared and "there's no love for me in her".

There's no love for me but you started to text and call last Sunday.. After I had moved on pretty well, and we've hung out pretty much since then.
What is wrong with this person? I'm in a maze right here.

Then I get a good morning text from her. I'm a soccer game now.

LordReed:
For your own peace of mind I suggest that you forget this lady and move on. We should not kill ourselves to make people accept us rather we should seek and hold tight the people that already accept us. Believe me, as long as you are a decent fellow, the number of people that accept you will overshadow those who don't.

tintingz:
I think she doesn't know what she wants, maybe another guy is making a move on her.

You need to give her two options, stay or leave.

swaggzo:
25

rottennaija:
Still immatured in mind. I know a girl like that, 26 but still undecided. She wouldn't accept openly at the same time, wouldn't get jealous when she with another lady.

Some girls are that way. You need to put it clearly that she needs to make a decision or you forget about her.

swaggzo:
Forget about her. That's the part. It's a Lil difficult for me. I've had many of them but there's none like this person. She has shown limited interest in us.

For me I'm available to make things work. For her she's willing to forget about everything.
She's willing to stick around and see if it'll all come back, even though she says she currently feels nothing. She's like on and off.
When I'm off she calls and texts and comes to me, while saying she feels nothing and would like that there's no us.
She'll be coming to spend the night today. I feel I'm a tennis ball hit here and there. I wish to keep her. She's undecided, and I don't know what to do.

rottennaija:
My brother, you need to make a resolute decision, else this girl will break your heart into pieces, mess up your life and then give it back to you.

I had a girl like that. After I lost my relationship of many years, I showed my interest in the girl I knew I love. She had been my friend for a long time. She showed interest, then off. It almost resulted in a problem between us and I had to let her know that it's not nice. If she had the interests, she should be in or out.

To short everything, we got into a fight because of her ways. She wasn't here or there, but will not also allow me to move forward. I regret everything, but as I got to know her more, I realised she was immature in mind and heart.

swaggzo:
Elder0001, Martinez39, tintingz, seun
Jeff1607, lordreed, just4fun, rottennaija, banjicom, Michellekabod2, Joseph1013,
Tillaman, JONNYSPUTE, 1Sharon, astrog

After this thread was made she came around again and it felt like everything was on it's way to be alright, in the last 4 days.

However, yesterday, she has gone back to the old things again, trying to say it won't work and we can't be and stuff. Her excuses are the old things from months back which are even insignificant. She says she's scared and "there's no love for me in her".

There's no love for me but you started to text and call last Sunday.. After I had moved on pretty well, and we've hung out pretty much since then.
What is wrong with this person? I'm in a maze right here.

Then right now, I get a good morning text from her. I'm a soccer game now.

JONNYSPUTE:
..Bro just show her the exit. She is just toying with your emotions.

swaggzo:
Forget about her. That's the part. It's a Lil difficult for me. I've had many of them but there's none like this person. She has shown limited interest in us.

For me I'm available to make things work. For her she's willing to forget about everything.
She's willing to stick around and see if it'll all come back, even though she says she currently feels nothing. She's like on and off.
When I'm off she calls and texts and comes to me, while saying she feels nothing and would like that there's no us.
She'll be coming to spend the night today. I feel I'm a tennis ball hit here and there. I wish to keep her. She's undecided, and I don't know what to do.

Gaggi:
This place smells of estrogen, can someone give me a spray? Everyone experiences heartache at one time or the other but as a man, a lot is expected from you in terms of how you handle it. What's all this talk of crying and begging? My ex called me to break up a relationship. I was really hurt but I refused to show it. Never called her again, she was the one who kept calling later to check on me, and even when she claims she misses me, I just tell her thanks, I don't ever say, I miss her too even though I did. She still calls till date after many years and both parties have since married.
Men should learn to control emotions if you want to be taken seriously. Women will prey on your weakness if you ever let them see it. Go and hang out with your guys, let them tease you and make fun of your situation, it helps. Stop crying like a woman and put yourself together. Time heals all wounds no matter how deep. I don't frown at you grieving but the way you are handling it is messed up. Grow some balls son.

Martinez39:
You don't want me to tell you about red pills? Now listen very well. If you had taken the red pill to know that as far as relationship is concerned, no girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, and the best thing to happen since slice bread, you would probably not have opened this thread. It's foolishness and degrading for a man like you to follow women to label Ubunja, myself, and others as women bashers when you clearly haven't taken time to read our messages. Isn't it stupid to cast judgement on things you know nothing of?

The fact that no woman, no matter how beautiful or educated, as far as relationship is concerned, is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread is a common sense that weak and foolish men are yet to grab. Women are nothing special and they are just another human. There is no law in the universe that doesn't apply to them. Never, I repeat never, beg your fellow homo sapiens (especially one that you are providing for and hence needs you more than you need her), who isn't interested, to be in your life and love you. Get some sense of self respect. If a woman says she is not interested, let her go and don't beg her to stay. In fact, close the door on her for good and let her be the one to beg if she wants to come back.

Only foolish men put women on a pedestal. I know you will discard my advice like many since you love your sweet illusions of romantic love instead of reality. If you are crying, weeping, creating a scene, and rolling on the floor to beg your fellow human being to love you, you are a big fool and a disgrace to manhood. Mtewwww.



Omar09, healthserve, astroG, Ubunja, CAPSLOCKED

IHate9jerianss:
@swaggzo
In all my days and all my experiences in life, no woman will ever love you except for her personal interest.No woman born in this world is worth it.The only woman that truly loves you without personal interest is your mother besides that it’s all about personal interest.If men understand that, they wouldn’t be killing themselves over woman and just live with it so don’t expect anything short of that from a woman
By a nlander

Martinez39:
Well spoken. Don't mind him. Just like a weak child, swaggzo wants sweet illusions instead of reality. Whether you like it or not, no woman can love you except what you can provide and how you make her feel (the is very secondary as what you can provide is her top priority). To a woman, a man is always a utility. Once that utility cannot perform it's duties anymore (provide), it is no longer welcomed or loved. A woman will always end up with the highest bidder she can lay her hands on. I say this not because a woman hurt me or because I learnt the hard way but because this is the reality of things and I accept reality whether it turns out to be what I like or not. In fact, I have never had a girlfriend in my life or spent money on a girl since I consider romantic relationships to be overhyped and a pure waste of time and resources.

All women are like that. Even the one that you think is good, churchy, and descent is like that. Just like true friendship, romantic love doesn't exist instead it exists only in the heads of men. Women are brutal survivalists and no matter how much you sacrificed for her, she will dump you cold without remorse when you can't provide and she has found someone else that can. Even if you donated a kidney or lost an arm to save her life in the past, you get the same thing. If she is married to you with children, have lost her sexual market value, and can't find a higher bidder, you get to face her disrespect, loathing, irritability (she gets upset and mad at you at any little thing) and nagging. It's worse when she making massive money and you are broke.

For many men, they will never learn early and in the easy way. They will wait until they learn the hard way after investing so much and close to drinking sniper. Good day.

Omar09, healthserve, CAPSLOCKED, Ubunja, astroG

Nesso:
Men don dey hear am from women since. Red pillers have taken it upon themselves to turn the tables before breaking it las las

swaggzo:
Broke up with me one time. Reason was I slept off without her

The last break up.. She told a lie. Refused to tell the truth. I said the truth I knew was right. She started laughing.
I left her presence to my house in the calmest manner you can ever imagine.

No apologies from her. Only for me to call a million times before finding out that she's broken up with me over so many allegations that has never existed. This is what really happened. It's confusing till this moment.

The last begging was last night in the street. I made sure I entertained onlookers for close to 2 hours with tears and catarrh. I'm not kidding

I'm a very funny fool.

pansophist:
Some years ago, the romance section of nairaland was littered with misandrist forming woke and enlightened, regurgitating feministic psychobabbles, and there were few red pill apostles to counter them. Meanwhile, lots of the apostles were underdogs breeding themselves into metamorphosis. Right now, the romance section has been fummigated and their points debunked.

Ubunja was the spearhead that turned things around hence, the constant glorification by the mention of his name.

swaggzo:
Elder0001, Martinez39, tintingz, seun
Jeff1607, lordreed, just4fun, rottennaija, banjicom, Michellekabod2, Joseph1013,
Tillaman, JONNYSPUTE, 1Sharon, astrog

After this thread was made she came around again and it felt like everything was on it's way to be alright, in the last 4 days.

However, yesterday, she has gone back to the old things again, trying to say it won't work and we can't be and stuff. Her excuses are the old things from months back which are even insignificant. She says she's scared and "there's no love for me in her".

There's no love for me but you started to text and call last Sunday.. After I had moved on pretty well, and we've hung out pretty much since then.
What is wrong with this person? I'm in a maze right here.

Then right now, I get a good morning text from her. I'm a soccer game now.

swaggzo:
Forget about her. That's the part. It's a Lil difficult for me. I've had many of them but there's none like this person. She has shown limited interest in us.

For me I'm available to make things work. For her she's willing to forget about everything.
She's willing to stick around and see if it'll all come back, even though she says she currently feels nothing. She's like on and off.
When I'm off she calls and texts and comes to me, while saying she feels nothing and would like that there's no us.
She'll be coming to spend the night today. I feel I'm a tennis ball hit here and there. I wish to keep her. She's undecided, and I don't know what to do.

swaggzo:
Elder0001, Martinez39, tintingz, seun
Jeff1607, lordreed, just4fun, rottennaija, banjicom, Michellekabod2, Joseph1013,
Tillaman, JONNYSPUTE, 1Sharon, astrog

After this thread was made she came around again and it felt like everything was on it's way to be alright, in the last 4 days.

However, yesterday, she has gone back to the old things again, trying to say it won't work and we can't be and stuff. Her excuses are the old things from months back which are even insignificant. She says she's scared and "there's no love for me in her".

There's no love for me but you started to text and call last Sunday.. After I had moved on pretty well, and we've hung out pretty much since then.
What is wrong with this person? I'm in a maze right here.

Then right now, I get a good morning text from her. I'm a soccer game now.

swaggzo:
Elder0001, Martinez39, tintingz, seun
Jeff1607, lordreed, just4fun, rottennaija, banjicom, Michellekabod2, Joseph1013,
Tillaman, JONNYSPUTE, 1Sharon, astrog

After this thread was made she came around again and it felt like everything was on it's way to be alright, in the last 4 days.

However, yesterday, she has gone back to the old things again, trying to say it won't work and we can't be and stuff. Her excuses are the old things from months back which are even insignificant. She says she's scared and "there's no love for me in her".

There's no love for me but you started to text and call last Sunday.. After I had moved on pretty well, and we've hung out pretty much since then.
What is wrong with this person? I'm in a maze right here.

Then right now, I get a good morning text from her. I'm a soccer game now.

swaggzo:
Women bashers, Clueless Men, and people that have never been in love, please keep off.
I'm already seeing some worthless "offpoint" statements and disregard. How difficult is it for Nigerian Adults to either be meaningfully useful, or ignore and mind their business?



To my fellow men, how did you get through this?

You fall in love with someone, and they leave you and never come back. You plead, and plead, and cry at their feet because you loved them sincerely. But they swear never to come back.

Not that you were a bad person that beat up your partner, cheated on them or treated them carelessly. You only made a few "common" mistakes like raising your voice, correcting certain flaws, or whatever it is that would go on in a relationship and normal couples will get through it. But your partner leaves you 3 times because he/she "wasn't happy" in the relationship because of these "common" mistakes/situations. You beg them and they come back, but this 4th time they leave you, you go on to try to get them back for days or weeks, with no success.

Usually they like to leave because they've found someone else. Sometimes they leave because they cannot cope with you. But you really want them for all their great qualities, and this 4th time, you've made up your mind to be good. To be better than you ever was, even though you cannot really see how those "common" relationship situations are worthy to be called faults that should lead to a breakup.

They make up their mind not to return to you. Cry, roll in mud, bang your head a hundred times but they're unimpressed. Their minds have been made up to "leave a man like you for a man that will value and cherish them". In fact seeing you, your calls, and texts make them angrier.


My friends, how did you get through this situation?
How did you comfort yourself with their absence with the fact that in your heart, you know they were too good but your small mistakes were huge to them and you let them down.

You wanted them forever. Marriage, children and happiness. Now you wonder if there are any people as good as they were. You're worried you'll never such love and kindness and commitment and passion and honestly and loyalty and dedication and pureness of heart, anywhere in the world again.

You really want them back. But they don't even want to see your name or face anywhere. They used to love you. But their fragile hearts couldn't endure your little naggings or jokes, or complaints and inconsistent love. They had their own shortcomings too. In fact, you reacted the times you did because of their actions. But they put all the blames on you. For love's sake you accept all the pains and blames and decide to fight further and keep things together. But they are now less interested. They're also worried about the tribal differences between your families.

Not that you're begging to be loved. No. They're unhappy because of you. Your "common" mistakes hurt and offend them. So you "beg" for forgiveness. But they've had enough of you.

Men that has been in these oversized shoes that are mine currently, how did you get through this?

Well said brother!!! I was about to give that fool a piss of me

Martinez39:
You don't want me to tell you about red pills? Now listen very well. If you had taken the red pill to know that as far as relationship is concerned, no girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, and the best thing to happen since slice bread, you would probably not have opened this thread. It's foolishness and degrading for a man like you to follow women to label Ubunja, myself, and others as women bashers when you clearly haven't taken time to read our messages. Isn't it stupid to cast judgement on things you know nothing of?

The fact that no woman, no matter how beautiful or educated, as far as relationship is concerned, is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread is a common sense that weak and foolish men are yet to grab. Women are nothing special and they are just another human. There is no law in the universe that doesn't apply to them. Never, I repeat never, beg your fellow homo sapiens (especially one that you are providing for and hence needs you more than you need her), who isn't interested, to be in your life and love you. Get some sense of self respect. If a woman says she is not interested, let her go and don't beg her to stay. In fact, close the door on her for good and let her be the one to beg if she wants to come back.

Only foolish men put women on a pedestal. I know you will discard my advice like many since you love your sweet illusions of romantic love instead of reality. If you are crying, weeping, creating a scene, and rolling on the floor to beg your fellow human being to love you, you are a big fool and a disgrace to manhood. Mtewwww.



Omar09, healthserve, astroG, Ubunja, CAPSLOCKED

what kind of rap songs do you recommend in that regard bro?

thelastmediator:
I advice young men to listen to hard core rap music. It will help toughen them and prepare them for reality of life.