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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:47am On Nov 19, 2019
since
GeeSpyce:
I will come back to say something
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by ImaIma1(f): 8:49am On Nov 19, 2019
taylor89:
Another man fvcking my wife


To my future wife out there please and please if u know you'll tag me an animal for laying hands on you don't do these Four below


1. Don't cheat (even if I cheat don't cheat back it's a set up because i go beat u before sending u packing

2. No matter what happens between us don't yell at me outside (u can do to me whatever you wish indoor even beat me I no go talk since na me dey at fault but don't do it outside

3. This one is the most important one, DONT COME BETWEEN ME AND MY PARENTS/SIBLINGS, they all went through hell for me probably when you were busy fvcking another guy(your then boyfriend) so when it's time to reap what they sowed u Better don't try to stop it because I'll stop you first

4. READ THE NO. 3 AGAIN I CAN EVEN KILL FOR NUMBER 3

If she can keep to this three then I'm ready


You are actually the one who determines no 3. When you make her feel like your family is more important than her, it's bound to happen.

When you marry, your wife also becomes your family. Making her feel like she is a stranger that just came in to interrupt after your family has "suffered for you" is the problem. You should rather integrate her into the family.

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by ImaIma1(f): 8:51am On Nov 19, 2019
Mine has always been being taken for granted... familiarity, arinfin...

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:51am On Nov 19, 2019
being committed to 1 d!ck for the rest of some womens life
Newguyhere:
being committed to one pussy for the rest of my life.
I don't think I can handle that undecided
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by MusaDanladi1: 8:51am On Nov 19, 2019
faithsystem:
me, i'm not scared of anything right now i'm very much prepared and ready to get married once i meet the man. i planed to get married when i'm 25 and now i am . i am done with my first degree, served NYSC, have a good job, and 26yrs so i'm ready with no fear at all.
Baby steps sister, baby steps, too many wolves out there hunting for your already established type. God will favour you to make the right choice .

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:52am On Nov 19, 2019
Sonnobax15:
Fear of ending up with a womb-less woman,perhaps one who has rolled with series of yahoo yahoo boys in the past...that's why it's now recommendable to give her *stomach* first before doing altar things.
Fear of ending up with a man firing BLANKS/impotent
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by bakescos01: 8:52am On Nov 19, 2019
Fisher007:
Hmm where do I start from?

Marriage is a scam.

Legacy is the only thing a man needs. As far as you have a child or children (surrogacy, adoption or baby mama). All na pickin, the rest is history.

Most people marry for flimsy, weird, crazy, survival, unfathomable and dumbfounded reason. I will speak for the men. Ladies you can speak your own too below in the comments section tongue

You will marry a woman who's love for you is provisional, transactional and conditional. ( For better for worse statement na scam). If you doubt me try your luck. 95 percent of people in marriages are sad and cheat on each other.
The last 5percent are in a open relationship known to both party. Them just they push through for survival purpose

For men:

Na white knighting and captain save a slut wey dey do most of us. In order words beauty and toto dey too dey deceive us.

You will marry a woman you think you know. But you have no idea actually. She will form submissive, homely, loving until you done put am for house. Gbam the equation will change. Most ladies marry you based on their time don dey reach or based on they need you to provide.

You will now start understanding the famous quotes "my wife has changed. She is not the lady I married".

You see whoever you marry will always change. Change is constant. So don't complain. She will get fat, she will have hormonial imbalance, she will nag you. You will loose your peace, calm and quiet life. Just even forget sex - that one go turn weapon and manipulation tool for her. She will get old before you. Mind game go kill Una for house. It will be a power struggle since most women don't want to play their traditional role in the house. You will just be slaving and suffering for an ungrateful being brought out from your ribs.

To go home after work will be a problem, beer parlour and hangout will be your new base. She go police your life die. Na pure cage you go put yourself. But what do I know. Instead of you to stay single and enjoy your life as man. Nobody is rushing you. You will let stupid societal norms and Disney/ Naija/ Indian/ American movie fool you. Love doesn't exist man. It is only compatibility that exist.

You will hear excuse such as you will die alone. Lol. Did you come to earth with somebody before? Psssh

Qoute me at your peril. I done talk my own. Transformer and river is not far from you. Find the nearest one. grin






Lol; sad but true. Very well said.

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by franchasng: 8:53am On Nov 19, 2019
01Alpha:
The fear of been trapped with one wife...
cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:53am On Nov 19, 2019
It will get better. Hang in there
feelmeTy:
I am facing it now oooo, I lost my job, n my wife don born, baby is 1 year plus, I dey get high blood pressure ooo. And wife business crashed too. A times I will wake up enter street of Ibadan looking for where them dey load frozen fish or noodles from truck to warehouse!
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:54am On Nov 19, 2019
You yourself is a scam.
ednut1:
Marriage these days look like a scam
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by zigzagluv: 8:55am On Nov 19, 2019
Thanks , how can i know a nymph ?
Lindaa97:

There are intimacy gadgets which could help with her urges.... Plus don't marry a nymph if you fear that happening
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:55am On Nov 19, 2019
Why did you marry her in the first place
mrkings84:
Taking care of a whole lineage of who knows all in the name of marriage.

Na only in Nigeria it happens that u marry a girl and u are marrying all her family most especially when they aren't the rich type
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:56am On Nov 19, 2019
shocked
nowpresence:
freedom like when I was single
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:56am On Nov 19, 2019
fatymore:
Fear of not having enough money.
Fear of changing after marriage
Fear of marrying a second wife
Fear of falling out of love
Fear of divorce
Fear of fear itself
wink
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:57am On Nov 19, 2019
Are you talking from experience?
maynation:
Marriage na scam.
I swear to God.
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 8:57am On Nov 19, 2019
Stop masturbating
FuckThaMod:
She might run away cos i will destroy her pussy day and night.. I love sex too much and I'm hardly satisfied. Today alone i had 14 rounds with 3 different girls. I'm a sex freak and I've tried so hard to control it but it's very difficult.
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by UnknownQueen(f): 8:59am On Nov 19, 2019
AryaSand:
Having babies.
The whole process is Scary and Traumatising. I've seen photos and videos and I don't think I want to go through it. I feel like if I do go through with it, I'm probably going to hate that child cry cry cry
It is like the major reason I sabotage all my relationships, whenever we start getting serious like this, i stop talking to them. I abandon them in the relationship and move on with my life.

I used to have same thoughts but today, I'm an overcomer with two children via Vaginal birth..
And u know what only you can help yourself, yes the process is extremely painful but the koy they bring afterwards is immeasurable, but please of you must do, have great financial plans before venturing into child rearing oo also it' isn't a must u birth one via V. B ELECTIVE C. S IS LESS PAINFUL compared to V. B

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cococandy(f): 8:59am On Nov 19, 2019
Attachment to your spouse isn’t undue attachment.
Also business and a life parent are not the same thing.
I rest my case.

donjobill:



@ bolded

a successful businessman would equally say after spending so many years building & developing his business to become a success, it becomes part of him, if he loses it, is like losing part of him.

# undue attachment is a vice that one can learn to outgrow through emotional growth towards emotional maturity.

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 9:03am On Nov 19, 2019
and men are good
Heineken:
hahaha nawao. Some women bad
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 9:04am On Nov 19, 2019
makavelli80:
The fear of marrying a second hand lady. Aside family I can't imagine living with another person for the rest of my life. Is there any thing one can enjoy in a woman without getting tired of one day?
Is there any thing one can enjoy in a man without getting tired of one day?
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by donjobill: 9:05am On Nov 19, 2019
cococandy:
Attachment to your spouse isn’t undue attachment.
Also business and a life parent are not the same thing.
I rest my case.


Your are entitled to your opinion!
Emotional attachment is emotional attachment, irrespective of who or what one is unduely attached to.

@ cococandy
Please don't take it too personal. It's merely for the benefit of other readers or researchers who might stumble on it and pick something out of it.


I equally rest my case.

# peace!!!
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Fisher007: 9:05am On Nov 19, 2019
musachara:

That's bitterness bro. What happened to you

Bro it is the reality of life. Life is chaotic and out of the chaos you need to accept it and path a way out through it.

You think it bitterness (which is a shaming Language you used) ? Am even susprised you have not asked who hurt me . Lmao

I see it as the truth so sad to accept and swallow. Look around you because your case might be different for now.

You want to tell me you can't correlate with what I clearly stated in my first comment. Cheating, infidelity, manipulation, kids outside wedlock brought to the family, men drinking at bar constantly lying they are almost home due to wify problems and responsibilities placed on them as the head.

Women confused and not sure about what they want in life because they were pressured into marriage without defining themselves first (both career wise, financial wise, health wise and mentally wise). Then they bring all the garbage to the poor Mr husband while still keeping a lover at the side for sex and emotional tampon .

Well i rest my case if you can't see any truth in all I have stated. Have a great day bro.

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 9:07am On Nov 19, 2019
grin grin grin
Advancedman:


3. This one is the most important one, DONT COME BETWEEN ME AND MY PARENTS/SIBLINGS, they all went through hell for me so when it's time to reap what they sowed u Better don't try to stop it because I'll stop you first


Just marry any or all of them Fool!
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by tiptoe1: 9:07am On Nov 19, 2019
Slimdada:
AS A REAL GEE!!

In two years coming I'm getting married to the love of my life, my white lady in USA
Who I have been talking for over a year now
She has promised to come see me next year during her vacation
I wanted us to get married whilst she would be here but she said she's not ready to get married on the first time we are together
And she would rather want us to do a low key wedding in her home in USA,yes she's the one on my wallpaper
And I love her so much
Even without sending me money ever since we met till date
I still love her lai DAT

So in other
word's

AS A REAL GEE!!

I'm not gonna get married to any Nigeria Lady
This female folks from this country are mischievous and only want to marry for the wrong reasons
Which is claiming ownership or partnership of your achievement and assets immediately they take your name
No wonder Timaya aka papichulo refuses to marry his gf despite living with her,and having 3 children with her

Bros. abeg you fit drop your WhatsApp number make we they share ideas together. i also have an American babe coming to visit me next year

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nobody: 9:09am On Nov 19, 2019
cococandy:


Why aren’t you asking the male posters why they think cheating is okay for them? I guess that’s normal in your opinion but you get an aneurysm when the shoe is on the other foot. Asking me if it’s the norm. You have common sense. You figure out what’s normal and what’s not.

Hypocrites.
Swerve please


cheatin for men is nt a norm rather it is all about our biological edge over woman when the worst happens.
1. A man can keep multiple wives under one roof n the world won't end,
2.Men appreciate with body counts buh women depreciate over body counts.
3. A man can. av babies outside n till be fully available to his wife.
4. like i said b4 it natural in play ... a man can cheat becos his emotions are not attached to sex, the wife remains d luv of his life but asides whores , can a woman sleep around n stil respect his man talkless of love.
5. when a man cheat n get caught is either d wife leave or stays becos its d man's house ..
reverse be the case can women do all these, can a woman sleep around n stil respect his man talkless of love. lets even ignore what d society think.

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Ahdunns(m): 9:10am On Nov 19, 2019
MedicH:


Talk about vin diesel and james bond. Or GTA san andreas.

No be lie sha.
How to keep her interested is the real koko
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Ahdunns(m): 9:11am On Nov 19, 2019
muykem:
Na GEJ you won marry?

Lol.. Babaaa
I b real nigga o
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 9:12am On Nov 19, 2019
hmmmmmmmmmmm or his gay
Simplep:
That he doesn't wake up one day and say he's no longer interested without doing anything wrong..
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by AstuteAyo(m): 9:12am On Nov 19, 2019
AK481:
Marrying an unemployed lady and at the same time has no degree and skill.
Are you to look at all these after marriage?

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 9:12am On Nov 19, 2019
Get a life.
anslem04:



cheatin for men is nt a norm rather it is all about our biological edge over woman when the worst happens.
1. A man can keep multiple wives under one roof n the world won't end,
2.Men appreciate with body counts buh women depreciate over body counts.
3. A man can. av babies outside n till be fully available to his wife.
4. like i said b4 it natural in play ... a man can cheat becos his emotions are not attached to sex, the wife remains d luv of his life but asides whores , can a woman sleep around n stil respect his man talkless of love.
5. when a man cheat n get caught is either d wife leave or stays becos its d man's house ..
reverse be the case can women do all these, can a woman sleep around n stil respect his man talkless of love. lets even ignore what d society think.




Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Fisher007: 9:13am On Nov 19, 2019
ImaIma1:


Hmmmm...true.

Good to realize how much peace I give hubby. Because he spends most of his free time at home and likes me to tag along when he goes out sometimes.

Thanks for this

My sister you must be an exception cause there are always exceptions.

Your hubby must be lucky trust me. Look at the lives of your female colleagues in school, what they have been through and how they pressure the poor husband to accept all these emotional baggages.

Most women don't understand what having a happy home means. They are so self centered and entitled that even it means disturbing the peace of the husband. The poor guy will just stay out all the time. Madam will think he is busy cheating around, not knowing the guy has so much responsibilities (school fees, mother, house rent, feeding and providing for the house, family (cousin, newphew, relatives ), career issues , self development issues) that cheating is his list priority.

Your hubby must be lucky though cause, look around you really, it is rare to see case as yours.

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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cococandy(f): 9:13am On Nov 19, 2019
Trash
as usual

anslem04:


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cheatin for men is nt a norm rather it is all about our biological edge over woman when the worst happens.
1. A man can keep multiple wives under one roof n the world won't end,
2.Men appreciate with body counts buh women depreciate over body counts.
3. A man can. av babies outside n till be fully available to his wife.
4. like i said b4 it natural in play ... a man can cheat becos his emotions are not attached to sex, the wife remains d luv of his life but asides whores , can a woman sleep around n stil respect his man talkless of love.
5. when a man cheat n get caught is either d wife leave or stays becos its d man's house ..
reverse be the case can women do all these, can a woman sleep around n stil respect his man talkless of love. lets even ignore what d society think.
[/s]

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