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That last line should read "men get finer with age" not 'we'.
Subtly trying to imply that girls too get better with age .
Big fat lie!!

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because if you are mature without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. So, she has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid, even if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. So, except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike and their ex-gfs who are now single/lonely.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

Fountainofyouth:
Pls don't ask me a stupid question, I believe no one is a kid here.

lilwetdick:
how is this a stupid question, i dont know how you guys think, everything is to show your aggressiveness and frustration instead of answering the question..maturity could mean different things to different people, write down your own view instead of the nonsense you typed.

simple question that requires simple answer, i dont understand how this is stupid. god damnit.

Fountainofyouth:
The question is stupid cos every lay man knows what maturity means, if you are so clueless as to know what maturity means to a woman, google it, we have the internet for reasons like these, and I am not under any obligation to satisfy your curiosity on what my own view is..

Godtschild:
For a Nigerian man.

Economy and culture is a factor. Countries with good economy is 25-29. Once a man is through with school and gets a job immediately and has worked 2-5 years, what is he waiting for? In the US a 29 y/o man has already worked for 5-8 years, he has already bought his first house.

When the economy was better (60s and 70s) Nigerian men were getting married much more earlier. Also, in the US the age has increased as their economy worsened. It used to be 24.5.

If you’re matured enough to hold a steady job for 5+ years (in that time you would’ve been promoted once or twice to leadership roles), handle more responsibilities, manage your finances enough to buy a house, manage your debts (loans), maintain a steady relationship (probably live in) then you’re emotionally matured for a marriage, all that’s left is a signed document. Sweet spot, 29 years.

midnighter:
Faulty reasoning, you're assuming they will start breeding in the wedding car or what

Dimples0303:
I'm confused, are we celebrating limitations and poverty on this thread

Instead of looking for who can manage limited resources, why don't you look for financial independence before marriage?

You'll need to stop bringing innocent children into your poverty zoned lives, to be a parent is a privilege and not a right! Mho though

Modified:
now its about age... If he's broke under the age of 33, then he should chill and look for money before he looks for people to join his poverty. If he's able to take on the responsibility of fatherhood then... Np.

lilwetdick:
i agree completely with you but i also noticed people who get married between age 20-27, get divorce easily than those who married when older ,let also not forget that countries with good economy do have higher divorce rate than countries with developing economies.

lilwetdick:
lets be realistic, not many will get financial independence before marriage or even in marriage that is the reality of many Nigerians and nothing will stop them from bringing kids to the world.

midnighter:
No problem with that, I was just stating the nicest age for a man to marry IMO.

Personally when I see 20-something year old guys marrying I find it strange or I think maybe they are doing it for religious reasons. A lot of the 20-somethings I know dont seem oriented towards marriage at all.

But of course age isnt the key factor but maturity and capability. I am just speaking in general.

lilwetdick:
yeah stupid to ignorant people..to be fair women with sense will see this question and give their genuine opinion of what maturity means to a woman unlike you who just wanna throw emotional tantrums

lilwetdick:
how is this a stupid question, i dont know how you guys think, everything is to show your aggressiveness and frustration instead of answering the question..maturity could mean different things to different women, write down your own view instead of the nonsense you typed.

simple question that requires simple answer, i dont understand how this is stupid. god damnit.

Godtschild:
If you’re matured enough to hold a steady job for 5+ years (in that time you would’ve been promoted once or twice to leadership roles), handle more responsibilities, manage your finances enough to buy a house, manage your debts (loans) maintain a steady relationship (probably live in) then you’re emotionally matured for a marriage, all that’s left is a signed document. Sweet spot, 29 years.

yazga:
Mortgage!!!!!!!!

midnighter:
Because divorce is not stigmatised in developed countries unlike here where they will use marriage to insult people and people will suffer
In bad marriages until they slump and die

Plus women are less financially dependent on men and divorce laws try to provide for them to an extent. And there are government/welfare services to help people with domestic problems

Fountainofyouth:
You asked a stupid question and I refused to answer means I'm throwing emotional tantrums? Who wrote a long epistle here and ended it "god dammit" as seen below? Who is going emotional out of me and you here?




Get a life pls

lilwetdick:
i have a life already, if you couldnt answer a question you would as well just ignore it and move on instead of the bulls you wrote.

grossintel:
I'm 26 and marriage is so much on my mind right now, I live in a family apartment, earn a decent income. My girlfriend doesn't live with me until we're married and I completely understand. It's not about religion but mindset, you marry when you feel you're ready, I'm ready to settle down with a life partner, but I'm not ready for kids smashing my TV or dragging my ps4 with me. Those are two different things, so maybe I'll be ready for that at 35

Fountainofyouth:
I did, but you wouldn't stop with the rants so I had to reply, so you can as well desist from quoting me OK, adios.

lilwetdick:
you are not special, just replying the tantrums you started, also stop quoting me or i wont stop the back and forth bulls

yazga:
This absolutely not true

lilwetdick:
i think divorce is stigmatised in developed countries subtly, i have heard the phrase many times "she cant keep a husband, keep away from her" nobody will tell you directly but behavior and body language will tell

i know that women are protected in times of divorce in developed countries but also i will not advice any strong and able person to be on welfare because you got no freedoom, the govt decides for you.

yazga:
No, I am using your 27 as a yardstick to when they start breeding besides, some or many are preggy even before the marriage is consumated

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because if you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. So, she has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid, even if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. So, except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike and their ex-gfs who are now single/lonely.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

Fountainofyouth:
I am very much highly special, deal with it, you quoted me first, so you have to stop quoting first too.

lilwetdick:
yeah indeed, special indeed, you can as well go read the tantrum of a simple question i asked

yazga:
How? when you are 32 your kids is 5 yrs already, 37 ypur kids is 10 and 47 the kids is 20yrs

Fountainofyouth:
Buzz off.

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

Goddys:
If you are 50 year old and your kid is 5 year old and you are able to provide all your kid's needs, does it make any difference? People subject themselves to avoidable penury on the ground of having children early in life so as to see them grow old and see their grandchildren. That's a very stupid reason to get married early in life

vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

midnighter:
Yes, you're right about that. And people there still look down on/gossip about unmarried folks. Even in the tabloid newspapers you'll be reading horrible comments. But there's still a higher degree of personal agency than here.

Marriage will always be a standard for normality in every culture but I think we take it to the extreme here, to the detriment of other factors.

I'm not talking about welfare payments or depending on the state, I'm talking about services that help and advise people who are experiencing problems. They help people to make good decisions that mean that divorce or separation is not the end of the world unlike the catastrophe that happens here, especially when people don't have good family support.

Those welfare payments and state services can also be good as long as you just use them temporarily to help yourself out and don't hang on them for life.