lefulefu:
u that will dump her after seeing a fresher younger babe .is it not we naija guys again

lilwetdick:


nonsense.

lilwetdick:


but not all men dump for a fresher younger babe, many men are loyal to a fault even if the woman is 2 times older than him.

lilwetdick:


hmm, i see...marriage is a do or die affairs in Nigeria, some see it as a poverty elevation program while some as a means to get respect and be among.

a big problem here among men in Nigeria is that once a man start earning salary the next thing he thinks about is marriage, to me it is strange because i believe once a man starts earning salary should be time to know more about himself and try to experiment with life, take risk, instead of finding any girl who wanna settle down and rush into marriage.. the desperation to marry among men and women here is real and has lead to lot of troubles..marriage is a long game decision and needs to be gotten into with caution.

Goddys:


If you are 50 year old and your kid is 5 year old and you are able to provide all your kid's needs, does it make any difference? People subject themselves to avoidable penury on the ground of having children early in life so as to see them grow old and see their grandchildren. That's a very stupid reason to get married early in life

lilwetdick:


hmm, i see...marriage is a do or die affairs in Nigeria, some see it as a poverty elevation program while some as a means to get respect and be among.

a big problem here among men in Nigeria is that once a man start earning salary the next thing he thinks about is marriage, to me it is strange because i believe once a man starts earning salary should be time to know more about himself and try to experiment with life, take risk, instead of finding any girl who wanna settle down and rush into marriage.. the desperation to marry among men and women here is real and has lead to lot of troubles..marriage is a long game decision and needs to be gotten into with caution.

lefulefu:
why do u think nigeria is the poverty capital in the world

Raalsalghul:

My brother, I no fit shout.

Nigerians in particular are obsessed with marriage and child bearing.

lefulefu:
as in ehn thats our greatest achievement.to marry and born pickin .no wonder street kids full ground for naija

WildChild00:



In that case, "will you marry me"?

midnighter:


Hahaha do you know if you can meet my other requirements?

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

lefulefu:
that is if the love the guy has for the girl dey really deep and the girl also maintains and takes care of her body.P square"s even though older even looks fresher than many girls much younger than her age and also she was the one behind him when he was nothing.but many guys these days na just to just to chop free meat and to experience how it feels wen u date an older lady.u can call it curiousity of the young mind.as such guys get older and time has come for them to settle down u will see them codedly doing away with their much older girlfriends and looking for young meat to settle down with.

lilwetdick:


but sincerely speaking that taking care of the body for a woman older is very important if dating young guy

to be sincere, if a woman take care of her body and she is set, even if she is 40, she will get lot of guys wanting her.

lefulefu:
any lady who says she cant marry a man under 33 is probably a lady 28 and above.u cant expect in naija a lady to be marrying her age mate nau.she would prefer a man who is slightly older or few yrs older than her.

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

lefulefu:
u that will dump her after seeing a fresher younger babe .is it not we naija guys again

olabrinks:
I married at 23 and my husband is well into his 30s. I think it’s the best. Men before 30 are mostly not ready for responsibility

lilwetdick:


when you start calculating your age and the age your children will be, i think it is a recipe for disaster, that is desperation.

i think a man need to prepare himself financially, mentally and emotionally and also select a good woman to have a good marriage instead of calculating his age and future kids age. nothing bad if as a man you get married at 50 years, if you take care of yourself, you will see the prime of your
future children.

Craig24:



50yrs? How much more years do you think such person has left to live?

I for one, I don't care what the society thinks but our families makes up the society, we grew up in it, schooled in it Worshipped in it, which we draw our norms n values from. You have no idea what stigmatization the 50year old nuclear n extended family will go through, money or no money. The society doesn't care.



My uncle who was close to fifty before he got married has five children today


First,is gurl 26yrs with no plans of getting married anytime soon cos they practise holiness n righteousness at deeperlife, besides his wife's a devil's incarnate.

Second, a boy, 24, just graduated from
ANSU(igbariam campus) yet to be called up for NYSC.

Third, a boy, 20, yet to gain admission but has been sitting for exams.


Fourth, a gurl, 17, still doing her O'level.


Fifth, a gurl, 14, Jss1


Now tell me how he has to live n anticipate for grandchild while he has a family of seven(including himself n wife) from his monthly pensions at the FCT at the age of 74, hypertensive too?

greatbrian:


Are you serious? What of those that are good to go before that age

truthsayer009:


Oh really? Oya I'm 33 oh. Biko come & let's marry

WildChild00:
Why not
Is it finance name it......

Newguyhere:
gbam! you just said it.
And the funny thing is even those women claiming 25 are in most cases lying about their age. All of them are old cargos, it's only make up and push up bras nah im dey hide the sorry state of their body

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

KingWarri:

No.... Dating ur bestie is sooooo sweat

midnighter:


Lol lemme jor, can't you see I'm interviewing for the position already

truthsayer009:


Oh okay sorry, i didn't notice. I was carried away by the sweetness of the thread.

midnighter:


Lol don't take me serious, na joke oh besides you don't even know how old I am

lilwetdick:


but not all men dump for a fresher younger babe, many men are loyal to a fault even if the woman is 2 times older than him.

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because if you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.