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truthsayer009:
You are 26.

A nugget of speculation that can be neither confirmed nor debunked so do you think our prospective age-gap suits?

midnighter:
A nugget of speculation that can be neither confirmed nor debunked so do you think our prospective age-gap suits?

Ahn ahn, 33 to 26 is perfect na. Abi you want me to be 27?

lilwetdick:
let also not forget that countries with good economy do have higher divorce rate than countries with developing economies.

Because in those societies, divorce is an option and they are mostly not ashamed to pursue it. Longevity of a marriage is not a measure of how happy the marriage is. We already know in our culture people are willing to endure bad marriages.

I also want to add in Western societies, by 18 males have already left their parents’ house and started their own independent lives.

djoe21:
So what makes 33 the lower limit 'perfect age' and not 32? Or what makes 37 the upper limit and not 38?

32 is borderline to me and at 38 the man is overage.

Besides that's an illegitimate question. So why have limits for anything

There must be a limit for things na otherwise how do we define anything

truthsayer009:
Ahn ahn, 33 to 26 is perfect na. Abi you want me to be 27?

Lol it's sounding good but as everybody has said, plenty of factors are involved and not just age

midnighter:
Lol it's sounding good but as everybody has said, plenty of factors are involved and not just age

oya, what do you want to know?

truthsayer009:
oya, what do you want to know?

Lol are you serious? You want me to start courtship grilling you? hahaha

midnighter:
Lol are you serious? You want me to start courtship grilling you? hahaha

midnighter:
32 is borderline to me and at 38 the man is overage.

Besides that's an illegitimate question. So why have limits for anything

There must be a limit for things na otherwise how do we define anything

But I didn't say there shouldn't be limit. I only asked why those should be the perfect limits.

midnighter:
Lol, they are uncountable..maybe you should go for another chick

If u say so....

djoe21:
But I didn't say there shouldn't be limit. I only asked why those should be the perfect limits.

Okay. I've now explained the limits

This post is for ladies alone, gentlemen back off gently

Ladies, is time.

yazga:
On Monday I read a post asking women if they could marry a 29yr old man earning 60k a month which translates to 720k a year.

Whether the ladies were pretending with their replies or not, The responses were really interesting to read. Its nice to see that there are still reasonable women here who don't dance around in fantasyland and are keen on working together while looking ahead.

A woman who knows how to take a little and make it work is priceless. A trait I thought was lost with the generation of our mothers.

Apparently I was wrong and such women who are great at managing limited resources still exist

What caught my attention however, was the fact that more than half the women said the salary was ok but they couldn't marry any man under 33. I snooped around to try and see if anybody gave a logical reason for this conclusion but couldn't find any

So I want to ask officially. What's wrong with a man under 33?

If he makes you happy, and he is ready to spend the rest of his life with you what's the problem with his age that would be a hindrance?
Or could it be that you are older so like the typical

Nigerian woman you can't marry a younger man?
Is it possible that a man can tick all the right boxes on your list of an ideal man but you turn him down cuz of age?

Please ladies share your thoughts on this with us. We want to know oh

Dey there dey dull yourself, until 19yr old boy go fvck your 33 yr old wife taya...

Women respond to confidence as men do to hips irrespective of her age and vice-versa...

The lady na 33yrs old be that lobatan

Ladies are the cause of Nigeria problem

I would say age is not a dependent on marriage, a guy can be less than 33years and his mature enough to handle responsibility I believe such person can get married, I would rather say, as far he can handle responsibility, that makes he a mature man for marriage.

Nne eeeh
This your analysis is BULLSEYE ACCURATE

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

Watch it when a girl goes for older men. She wants a father. Someone who's already established, ready to pamper her while overlooking her excesses. And they think it's life. Hey, economy to bad! Get your lazy ass and work. He can't pamper you forever. Marry a man of your youth.

They are usually immature.( generalization I know)

But you might get lucky and find one who isn’t.

Sometimes Even the ones who come across at first as mature “for a guy of their age”, in the long run they show their immaturity as well.

Case in point? Assess the reasoning level of NL males. The kinds of topics they create, the kinds of comments they post, their affinity for malicious trolling and etc etc.

you don’t need anyone to tell you why.

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

The right ime 4 a man to marry is when his Kokoro starts bragging

grossintel:
I'm 26 and marriage is so much on my mind right now, I live in a family apartment, earn a decent income. My girlfriend doesn't live with me until we're married and I completely understand. It's not about religion but mindset, you marry when you feel you're ready, I'm ready to settle down with a life partner, but I'm not ready for kids smashing my TV or dragging my ps4 with me. Those are two different things, so maybe I'll be ready for that at 35

This...

midnighter:
Too young

no one is too young. you are old enough when ready. there are many above 40yrs old fool nowadays

A man shouldn't marry so late. There are things better done during your youth. If you say 50yrs, why not 60 or even 70!

lilwetdick:
when you start calculating your age and the age your children will be, i think it is a recipe for disaster, that is desperation.

i think a man need to prepare himself financially, mentally and emotionally and also select a good woman to have a good marriage instead of calculating his age and future kids age. nothing bad if as a man you get married at 50 years, if you take care of yourself, you will see the prime of your
future children.

vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

that's the best.

olabrinks:
I married at 23 and my husband is well into his 30s. I think it’s the best. Men before 30 are mostly not ready for responsibility

exactly what i am saying nau.a 23 yr old lady in nigeria would find it difficult to settle down with a guy of 24 cos at that time the guy would be hustling and trying to settle down to life hence she would go for a guy who is much older.

I can't speak for other girls,but I personally have romantic interests in guys who are usually way older than me.

As for the topic,guys in their 30s are usually more mature than those in their 20s,tho there are exceptions.

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

almost everything here don't come with age. there are 20yrs old people with maturity of 50yrs . some people will still not mature even at 80

lilwetdick:
because they believe that he doesnt have the financial capability to take care of them, also he might not be ready for marriage

as a man grows in age so his financial capabilities and stability

many men younger than 33 in Nigeria are still finding their career and financial path, some are still exploring. some young men might see their finances improve at age 21 while most men will see their finances improves at age 33 and as they get older and mature

it is easier for women to date someone at 33 or above because she believes he is stable, serious for marriage and financially ready.

correct answer

It's more of financial security

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

interesting

I only agree with number 1 and 5 tho

You called it a stupid question with your first response. The bible said grievous words stir up anger!

Fountainofyouth:
I did, but you wouldn't stop with the rants so I had to reply, so you can as well desist from quoting me OK, adios.