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midnighter:


It's the man who was supposed to let her know after like 3 years. Then she could decide if she still wants.

She's now thinking of her age, if she had known initially she would have dumped him which is what the guy was afraid of.

She also should have though of it sha.

Why should anyone court with the intent of marriage for 3 years? Is that still a relationship or a waste of time and a show of indecision and disinterest?

thorpido:
What is Osu?Are they some kind of aliens?
Why in the world would people still keep up with this backward idea?

Hahahaha.. The Aliens got me

I know you and ur family won't complain if the guy in question is very rich..

Fabricated story

If u dont know anything about traditional please keep quiet. The land you stand upon will fight you if you commit such taboo .if you like be a bishop you cant escape the wrath

Your sister is brave and she should be allowed to carry on with her marriage.
Wtf is osu in this time and day?

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

I am so surprised that a young man in this century and time is seriously confused and worried because of an outdated societal discrimination.

Did the creator of your sister's husband call him an outcast?
doesn’t this discrimination show that your judgments are guided by evil motives?--James 2:4

Why have you chosen to subscribe deeply to this traditional error of discriminating your fellow man made in thesame image and likeness of God?

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.--Galatians 3:28

pickatyou:
Truth be told your sister is a selfish bastard.

And all of you saying otherwise I believe you are not Igbo or ignorant, I guess if you family member brought an OSU u will welcome them along with all the curses they will bring.
Then you could all happily hug an Ebola victim instead of quarantining them.
That's what an OSU is in spiritual form, am Ebola victim.

Don't quote me if you are not Igbo.

Shut up

Smh. At the end of 2019. Na wa.

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Who still talks about Osu in 2019?
We are all equal in the eyes of God. So stfu and allow your sister to enjoy her life. Mtcheeeew.

midnighter:


It's not him, it's his ancestor.

Ok, tell me about it...
If it's an heritage, there is nothing to discuss here then. Kindly explain the concept of OSU to us...

There is no more Osu in igbo land.

It's been completely eradicated in the entire Igbo land and in fact,the new law is that,u dare not call anyone Osu in Igbo land else u will be jailed.

Tellemall:


People don't seem to understand it. They're just using sentiment to judge the matter.

The guy hid this issue from her. I'm surprised they dated for 7 entire years and she knew next to nothing about it. This is why courting shouldn't take forever. In a year know what you need to know. Why drag it on for ages? Years in a fruitless pursuit, and now she's just doing it because she's wasted years and isn't getting younger.

Exactly. He was dishonest about it. Who knows, maybe if their dad hadn't done that investigation he may not even have told her.

Yes, she should have been a bit wiser and done her research. She would have had more options if she had discovered this 3 or 4 years ago

Courtship shouldn't last too long but we still don't know their circumstances

Shit happened to me too. I had a girl friend who I dated for two years. I proposed to her and she said yes, only to call back after two weeks that she is no longer interested. I asked why, but she couldn't tell me the reasons.

After many months of getting over the incident and moving on, we met and she opened up. Her folks on learning that I proposed to her sat her down and told her they were OSU and that she cannot go ahead with the relationship.

Even she herself didn't know she was one. Can you imagine?

Osu is Osu & it can never be changed, ur sister has committed an abominable sin that will tril ur whole family for ever & ever, why will ur Dad ever give his blessing to such taboo? did ur sister put a gum to his throat? what a coward of a man, God forbid I have such a weakling of a dad, by that single act ur weak dad that condemned ur entire family to an everlasting shame & stigma, it's never too late for him to recind that his stupid act now...... What I just gave u is the must candid advice but mind all this Osu's here talking trash.

chemberlin:
Honestly, you made my Sunday.

You don't say.

Thanks

May God forgive you first for calling somebody GOD created as osu.

Tellemall:


Why should anyone court with the intent of marriage for 3 years? Is that still a relationship or a waste of time and a show of indecision and disinterest?

It depends...you can't dictate when you're going to meet your spouse. Some people are in a position to marry after a year and some people have to wait a decade, it just depends.

If she had met him age 30 and is now 33 its different from meeting him age 18 and getting to 21. Only some people are ready to marry at 21

But one thing is for certain, there's no excuse for the lady not knowing the facts after 7 years of relationship.

If you don't know he's an osu until your father tells you then what do you know

Eberex:
Shit happened to me too. I had a girl friend who I dated for two years. I proposed to her and she said yes, only to call back after two weeks that she is no longer interested. I asked why, but she couldn't tell me the reasons.

After many months of getting over the incident and moving on, we met and she opened up. Her folks on learning that I proposed to her sat her down and told her they were OSU and that she cannot go ahead with the relationship.

Even she herself didn't know she was one. Can you imagine?

I was just thinking, maybe the guy himself didn't even know. Some people grew up far away from their state and don't really go home often.

It's possible

Mindfulness:
Your sister is a hero. She has my blessings too. You people should try and live in the 21st century. Kuddos to your dad as well.

All my years in Nairaland, this is the comment with the highest like I've come across. Your comment was so on point. Osu my arse.

BurnStoner:
What’s all this peer pressure from the dead doing your family ? So if an Osu person dash u money or good job you go reject ?

God bless u boss..na hypocrite dem be

Sorry to say this, op, you are stupid. In this 21st century, you are talking about osu. Very selfish human being. You don't want any curse to befall you but prefer to have your sister who is in her early thirties to remain single. Idiot. It's your type that will lazily stay poor in the house and say village people are holding your destiny. Goat.

I stopped reading the post immediately I saw the word OSU

Boyooosa:

Ok, tell me about it...
If it's an heritage, there is nothing to discuss here then. Kindly explain the concept of OSU to us...

It's a type of punishment to discourage people from committing crimes. Your children inherit your crimes.

At least if you know that your family will suffer the consequences of your actions hundreds of years from now, you might consider that before doing the wrong thing.

We don't know what his ancestor may have done but it was sufficient to warrant being dedicated to the shrine of the gods.

Alternatively some of them were just unlucky prisoners of war who were captured by a nearby clan or village. They were slaves

An outcast/slave (osu/ohu) can't marry or lead a meeting for a freeborn (diala) otherwise you have violated the land (ala) and you will bring curses upon yourself and your family

Hate speech.... Hate post....

Lemme call Federal government for OP

Please theskyisblue.Lol

Mindfulness:
Your sister is a hero. She has my blessings too. You people should try and live in the 21st century. Kuddos to your dad as well.

OSU?
And you will marry same whites who carried your ancestors as slaves abroad.Please yourskyisblue...

Osu nikan ko what if he had impregnate your sister so the new kid too will be an osu rubbish

OP there are no more Osus in Igbo land. All the monarchs in Igboland had a meeting in Anambra and banned the practice.

Besides do you know that the "Osus" are the richest and most educated in Igboland?

Odingo1:

Yes, it is transferred to the descendant of the person

even till this 21st century?

Jus4c:
It's disturbing that these same set of people will travel outside their country and complain about racism, and oppression of immigrants. If at this point in time we still perceive that some clans are superior to the other based on certain historical incidents, then, I think we have no rights to be angry when we are racially discriminated against in the western countries.

My brother you don talk am finish. God bless you.