midnighter:


They marry amongst themselves

Or they go and marry outside of their community where it's not practiced or where people don't know them

Midnighter, please educate me what makes this OSU people so special?

So you don't have enough shame to type this nonsense in a public space?

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

please help me before you confuse. Ask our osu inlaw whether he has them fine fine osu sisters. We like them too with spicy specs.

Bro, wise up. That was how few years ago those that know more than me came in with birdflu. If you see what went down between peoples birds and eggs and me, youll understand why birds and egg see me and run. Not saying there was no danger but i was more dangerous than danger.

My point exactly is thank God for the love your sis found and rejoice with them and let go of the things holding us back in these part of the world.

Hahaha why oyinbo sabi something like this. They even entered your shrines and laughed at your gods as the force them into sha sha bag go keep for museum to teach their children THIS IS WHAT THOSE BLACK MONKEYS WORSHIP

In btw, DO YOU REALLY BELIEVE IN CHRIST?

Otunbastevo:
Osu is Osu & it can never be changed, ur sister has committed an abominable sin that will tril ur whole family for ever & ever, why will ur Dad ever give his blessing to such taboo? did ur sister put a gum to his throat? what a coward of a man, God forbid I have such a weakling of a dad, by that single act ur weak dad that condemned ur entire family to an everlasting shame & stigma, it's never too late for him to recind that his stupid act now...... What I just gave u is the must candid advice but mind all this Osu's here talking trash.

Lol only your write up shows how dumb and uneducated you are

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

You're just fretting unnecessarily. I dint see any cause for alarm here.
Let your sister and her Darling husband be. They are not OSUs rather it those calling them OSU that are slaves of their mentality and needs to be liberated from mental enslavement.

When its your turn to get married, they will not trace you to your dad but to your extended family who are not under your father's new status.."OSU " so you have nothing to worry about. Peradventure your extended family points them to your dad as an OSU, marry another tribe.

I can't believe in the 21st century people are still talking trash calling someone an OSU.

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Are you sure you are an Igbo. If you are you should have known when the cast system was abolished by Eze NRI. For for further information go to NRI and inquire. In fact make sure you visit the palace of Eze NRI.

I don't know how to describe your sisters loyalty and genuine love. She has won my heart. It is unfortunate that your entire village and immediate family still dwells in the primitive tradition that labels a particular set of persons outcast at this era. Your sisters gallant steps I pray would break that jinx restore equality to that community

greatbrian:


Midnighter, please educate me what makes this OSU people so special?

They were convicted of crimes and dedicated to the gods or they were captured as slaves during wars.

According to tradition you can't marry or accept any traditional rites being carried out by a descendant of an osu or you and your own family will also become osu

It's officially been outlawed but still practiced, especially in imo state

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Marriages are confirmed through prayers this days, when you pray and get a favourable answers it means God is involved, u can also asked people to help u in prayers for confirmation

Quality20:
pls who can get me d details of ds op and his family, I wanna make some money and name as a new lawyer

Send him a Dm or reply him.

OP... Where are you based?
your location can evidently affect your level of exposure.

Where is your sister and her fiance based or intend to settle down after marriage?

WHATEVER HAPPENS, PLS TELL HER TO MOVE AWAY FROM THE VILLAGE WHERE THOSE PEOPLE CAN FRUSTRATE HER MARRIAGE AND LIFE.

Some traditions are bore out of SELFISHNESS.

IF ITS NOT A TABOO ACCORDING TO THE HOLY BOOKS, THEN IT IS A SELFISH ACT BY THE ANCESTORS.

your sister has my blessings in addition to your dads'...

Mindfulness:
Your sister is a hero. She has my blessings too. You people should try and live in the 21st century. Kuddos to your dad as well.

Oga...are you using Auto-Liker on Nairaland?...over 1300 Likes for your Comments.

midnighter:


They were convicted of crimes and dedicated to the gods or they were captured as slaves during wars.

According to tradition you can't marry or accept any traditional rites being carried out by a descendant of an osu or you and your own family will also become osu

It's officially been outlawed but still practiced, especially in imo state

but these so-called non osus get married to African Americans all over here, the same people captured in war and are "descendants of slaves". Funny people full Africa mehn

Some Africans are still living a primitive life, SMH!

We Igbo's claims to be wise but our wisdom seems to be foolish in the eyes of other tribes. segregation Igbo's are number 1.hypocrisy Igbo maintains the lead. I have gone far and wide to search for the word 'OSU' it still meaningless to me. this stigma has caused more harm than good to many families. we are fighting for Biafra but no unity. you fails to know that 'God says any house that divided by themselves can never stand. during the war you people would have ask the OSU's not fight,that the fight belongs to the originals. in the hospital you would have ask the doctors to separate you from the OSU's. Because you know that all this are highly impossible. Why we Igbo's are so wicked and heart harden. When your looking for job,you will not remember OSU's. Your fore father's made a very big mistake. They forgot to tell you that the OSU's are not human being. Wicked and heartless tribe called Igbo. My sister can you answer me question. had it been the man that wants to marry your sister is poor ,your father will not even entertain the man in your house talkless of praying for them.your not happy that your sister is getting married at the old age,your busy talking rubbish.

ChristineC:
but these so-called non osus get married to African Americans all over here, the same people captured in war and are "descendants of slaves". Funny people full Africa mehn

Lol. Interesting right

But those ones are more like foreigners since their ancestry can't be traced. A slave in one man's land can be king in another. A traditional ruler here can still travel to America and be working as maiguard

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

come make I marry you since you dee fear .

1Sharon:


I'm not igbo, but I agree. there are no real stories on NL anymore

good to know others can see through the nonsense happening here

it's the habit of the owner of this forum and his mods to create/sponsor fictional/controversial stories solely to drive/attract audience. you will find alot of such threads in romance section ...

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Is very shameful what you igbos are doing to there fellow igbos in the name of tradition. This is the reason the rest of Nigerians will never respect you people with your backward culture and believe. My mum is igbo...one day I asked her what this osu is all about but to my surprise she said those people ran to the gods for protection during wars and in the process they took oath to serve the gods...I said is that all....and she said yes....the funny aspect of it is that most of the osu have since repented and are now Christians believing in Christ ....infact I visited two families with rev fathers...The reason given for treating the osus that way is not justify if you are truly a Christian that believe in God....Kanye west has been with illuminante and suddenly he gave his life to Christ ....should we continue to tag him an outcast cos he once worship the devil? The bible says being in Christ means old things are past away...I have no regret to say that most igbos are blinded by stupid culture ...

I didn't want to reply

But let me drop one or two things
1.u ppl don't care for the happiness of ur sister...imagine mumu traditiona.....
2. My father so much believed in this thrash ...he even boast that none of his daughters will marry one
3.I personally will go for the will of God......whether OSU or not
4.allow ur sister ...op op its not ur marriage....
5.u r selfish.... Including all ur family members
All those ppl that started that mumu tradition av all turned to ashes inside grave ....mitvheew

Big ups to your sis....

Happy married life to her in advance...
I pray the lord grant her every good thing in life



*So me that is dating Igbo girl now so if I want to get married to her now that is how they will check my background and everything abi..

*she even told me that they won't allow her get married to any body outside Igbo land because the first daughter "must" get married to an igbo man

Forget tradition, no tradition in heaven, and by the way I think the practise has been abolished some time ago, if you are a Christian nothing evil will come after you.

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

For 2019? Y'all should just go create an OSU republic or something or demand for a state of your own.. The ancestors that were casted out as OSU and the ancestors that casted them out are prolly together now having a ball,una dey here they worry. Let her marry who she loves abeg. Who needs plenty people for wedding these days,bags of rice to buy go even reduce.

You should be very ashame of yourself for this writeup, these are people that will carry Bible and go to service every now and then, may the good Lord forgive you and your family in fact your entire village for this your devilish act of stigmatization, you don't have any right to tag anybody OSU,who are you

Pardon me but you including all your family are all stupid. Wait you thought you're making sense sef by bringing this shameful mentality here to nairaland. Nigga even said he depressed like tf.

Kudos to your sister seems she is the only one with brain in your family and if I was her, would have disowned you dumb fvckrs centuries ago.

So what qualifies someone as a freeborn or an osu? From your write up, you seem educated. Please join hands with your dad and bring light to your folks. This is 2019, let's stop this discrimination, racism, stigmatization.

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

OP you are talking nonsense. So, in this 21st Century and in this Computer age, you still believe in and practice the nonsense and stupid tradition called "osu"? Which kind village sef you from? Abeg, nwanne, pack one side oo. No come disgrace Igbos here oo! Judging from your grammatical expressions in your entire write up, it is obvious that you went to school, but it is more obvious that you are not educated at all.

DaddyRochie1642:


Oga...are you using Auto-Liker on Nairaland?...over 1300 Likes for your Comments.

Who did they pay d dowry to? I guess d same umunna who r discriminating! They can accept money from Osu while discriminating him abi.

fieryy:
'I am really worried and depressed '


Pele

But this is the 21st century

"You can also build beautiful things out of stones that get in your way" - Johann Wolfgang Goethe.

Tellemall:


He mentioned that the stigma will extend to him. So because of her love choices, he and the rest of the family should be branded as outcasts, too?

People need to think of the extent of their choices. It's like choosing to marry a person with a contagious incurable disease, will that be a perfect option for a person who wants lifelong partnership? If not, find someone else. Same with this tradition. Why bring stigma to your whole family, why not adjust?

Look who is talking about stigma. So you have no problem a group of people is stigmatized (osu) as long as it is not your family? See see ..