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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Princewill1(m): 10:26am On Dec 03, 2019
ednut1:
chimamanda is married to a black Nigerian
Ok noted. I thought she married a Caucasian.

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by frozen70(f): 10:26am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

From my understanding, your expectations are high and its even higher than those that are already working and willing to assist a man to raise a home

Don't be fastidious because the race is still ahead

Go and review most if your requirements and expectations from men to a standard level

Your target now is how to serve and start making incomes so that those classes of men you desire will line up for your consent
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by LongThickPenis(m): 10:28am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?


Are you for real you are my type. Call me on 08051567273

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by TheManOfTheYear: 10:28am On Dec 03, 2019
OmoOshodi:
Jesu!!!!!!

RIP English
mistake bro.
I guess you're perfect

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by skedy1(m): 10:28am On Dec 03, 2019
Babe come let's build the future together.

It's that simple.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Paulscholari(m): 10:29am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?
it's good to set high standards for yourself but when you do so u put yourself in a trap! Because ppl that fits into your standard also have standard for the kind of woman they are looking for, which probably you don't fit into!! So before you set your standards high, make sure you are also operating in that standard or just a little level to it else you end up where you don't plan.

If I have all this qualities you are looking for, I will only date you, at the extreme become a babymama, I can't marry you cos you ain't a Virgin!

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by stanisbaratheon: 10:29am On Dec 03, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
The thing is that you have raised a standard for yourself. Perhaps, if you're patient enough, he'll come around. I'm in same shoes as you. Infact, I have one that has been disturbing me of marriage but he's just not my type. He knows he's not and has confronted me citing not being up to what I want but I refused to state the major reason why I won't accept to date or marry him 'cause I don't want him feeling less. I just believe that with time, things will fall in pleasant places.

He probably doesn't have a "ball" for you to grab cheesy
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by electroTech: 10:30am On Dec 03, 2019
Hi Harlequeen. It's not a big deal to get the man of your choice if you can go out to woo them. But the problem is most women sit and expect men to do the wooing. Most of these ambitious guys might be too busy with their lives to even start thinking of women.

I'll say I'm a guy version of you. But the only difference is I currently don't want to get married or have any kid.

In the past, I had the problem of meeting ladies that don't meet to my standard. Though I later met one of my taste but it didn't work out between us after she discovered I was irreligious.

So, for some reasons, the ambitious one might reject you too or you might discover some undesirable in the long run. Just work on yourself and take your mind off so you don't get disappointed.

On the other hand, your can also help narrow down your standards.

For instance, you can put more effort to work on your own relocation and solve the problem of finding a man who wants to relocate

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by pocohantas(f): 10:32am On Dec 03, 2019
ednut1:
poco wetin dey worry all these babes na. Educate them. The kind man dem dey find self get access to high class rich babes . Let them settle for their kind abeg. 90% of ladies cant be gunning for 15% of men

So, I should educate myself? grin
This is a troll post, sweetie.

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by AntiMCU: 10:33am On Dec 03, 2019
Laurene:
I'm sure you are one of those online feminists. Are you Poco? Karma don catch up with you.

Which way, Laurene?
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by vince96w2(m): 10:34am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?
apart from leaving the country what are ur ambitions?u only mentioned career. And why you talking of sex and womb with regards investment and commitment as you are selling sex and he only enjoys it n u don't..To the subject matter, you can't have a perfect man(man of ones dreams is only in the dream)..Once u see a responsible man, you both can work things out..some men need a woman push love and support to succeed.so be the right woman too..make friends with responsible guys.with time u will see one u can work with..show him little care and attention and don't demand things from him..naturally he will fall for u and u both can kick off..
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Tsolutionifede(m): 10:34am On Dec 03, 2019
Originalsly:


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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by healthserve(m): 10:34am On Dec 03, 2019
frozen70:


From my understanding, your expectations are high and its even higher than those that are already working and willing to assist a man to raise a home

Don't be fastidious because the race is still ahead

Go and review most if your requirements and expectations from men to a standard level

Your target now is how to serve and start making incomes so that those classes of men you desire will line up for your consent



Op works at MTN.


nOW, TWEAK YOUR COUNSEL TO FIT A SINGLE LADY WITH THAT C.V wink
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by abiolamitodun(m): 10:35am On Dec 03, 2019
Ladylite:



Aunti
Aunty

Calm down, go and enjoy your life.

You may not believe in religion now but I bet you when you are 35 you will know life is spiritual.


All this you explained here are normal for teenagers and under 25 girls.

Lady to Lady I tell you that you know even if you meet a mature guy with all that standard, he may not be interested in you and you are too proud to chase or beg.


See, you are not ready so move on and have fun with your life and other areas of your life.

IN your 30s try again by then the standards you spent so much time explaining now will not seem important to you.

Ciao
Daada re Koni baje
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Caseless: 10:36am On Dec 03, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
The thing is that you have raised a standard for yourself. Perhaps, if you're patient enough, he'll come around. I'm in same shoes as you. Infact, I have one that has been disturbing me of marriage but he's just not my type. He knows he's not and has confronted me citing not being up to what I want but I refused to state the major reason why I won't accept to date or marry him 'cause I don't want him feeling less. I just believe that with time, things will fall in pleasant places.
that guy you look down on will get you pregnant. Mark this post!
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Godsgracee: 10:36am On Dec 03, 2019
[quote author=Harlequeen post=84579274]
Can you send me a pm?
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Nobody: 10:38am On Dec 03, 2019
digitaltrades:


Telling him will help him to see where he is lagging behind so that he can make necessary amends, not necessarily to please or be acceptable to you, but to make himself better
Telling him will bruise his feelings and I don't intend hurting anyone deliberately with words. He's not broke, has a degree and is pursuing others but I can't find that attraction. To make it worse, his beliefs are terrifying.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Tobadessss: 10:38am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
I am not under 25 sister, and your christian dogma won't sit with me. If i do become 35 and remain unmarried, i have decided that i will live life, adopt a child and get a boytoy. I have tasted what it is like to settle for a random guy(to be egging on a full grown man on what to do like his mother). Will never go through that again.
But thanks for your opinion but i will be avoiding Shiloh like the plague.

I concur with you 100%. Most guys (of nowadays) don't have set goals anymore, once money show, that's all.

If you don't mind me asking, what exactly is your definition of success??
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Nobody: 10:38am On Dec 03, 2019
People Can Advice.

But only you know what Rocks Your Boat.

Just don't keep building Castle in the Air.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by stanisbaratheon: 10:39am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
Yes i am. I am feminine, soft, good company, intelligent, just starting out my career, well read and so much more. The man who i end up with will be truly blessed.

grin okay.

But this your self appraisal is staggering. You still need to be put to test.

Good luck in your search for the man of your dream.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Nobody: 10:40am On Dec 03, 2019
Caseless:
that guy you look down on will get you pregnant. Mark this post!
LMAO. cheesy grin That could only happen in my dreams. BTW, I never said I look down on anyone.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Kazeemakeem(m): 10:40am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?



hello,i no has a Muslim it is not right to post pix on social media,if i may asked which state are you and are you really ready to settle down ,i ma intreseted
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by adebaba5: 10:40am On Dec 03, 2019
The thing is; most times we attract people within our circles. the fact that you attracted people whom you think have no plan for their future speaks volume.
Are u successful? cos a lot of successful men would go for a successful lady.
Another thing you should know is that; some of those guys on the mainland today might still take over VI tomorrow.

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by luminouz(m): 10:40am On Dec 03, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
Alright.

Sent...
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Remix10(m): 10:40am On Dec 03, 2019
Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?


I fit the description of your type of man, I hope you do too, let's have a conversation, check my signature for my WhatsApp contact.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by idonhammer: 10:40am On Dec 03, 2019
Nne did I hear you say you are not a religious person?No wonder you keep attracting urchins as friends.See make I tell you, even as rugged and as a street king that I am,God na my odeshi. You also sound like a proud and arrogant babe,why not bring yourself down.i met my babe in the street when I had nothing and now she is smiling to the bank cuz Godwin.

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Tsolutionifede(m): 10:41am On Dec 03, 2019
AlphaStyles:
Madam your standards too much oo watin happen with all of this I don't think u will find the perfect man release yourself small and u will see how love will find u
ehya, sorry, I guess ur standard is way too low
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Tobadessss: 10:42am On Dec 03, 2019
frozen70:


From my understanding, your expectations are high and its even higher than those that are already working and willing to assist a man to raise a home

Don't be fastidious because the race is still ahead

Go and review most if your requirements and expectations from men to a standard level

Your target now is how to serve and start making incomes so that those classes of men you desire will line up for your consent

Frozen, I have met a babe that practically prepared a "relationship CV"...I can tell you her expectations are high for the generation of men we have today.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Nobody: 10:42am On Dec 03, 2019
Originalsly:


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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by Uchefame(m): 10:43am On Dec 03, 2019
Ladylite:



Aunti
Aunty

Calm down, go and enjoy your life.

You may not believe in religion now but I bet you when you are 35 you will know life is spiritual.


All this you explained here are normal for teenagers and under 25 girls.

Lady to Lady I tell you that you know even if you meet a mature guy with all that standard, he may not be interested in you and you are too proud to chase or beg.


See, you are not ready so move on and have fun with your life and other areas of your life.

IN your 30s try again by then the standards you spent so much time explaining now will not seem important to you.

Ciao

That was how one of my sisters set the standard she want from a man. She underated every. Man that came for her hand in marriage. When Mr right came, she did not know because the man is not the type that like to show affluence . Unfortunately, she rejected him, citing many baseless reasons.
Finally, when she realize that age is no longer on her side, she accepted one guy that cannot boast of anything in life. She was the one that sponsored there wedding and all the expenses that was made in there union. Till date, she is still the one taking care of her family bills.
Dear ladies, Good Education qualifications and riches does not guarantee a successful marriage.

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Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by toye440: 10:43am On Dec 03, 2019
Trust me no one understands ur worries more than i do, anyway i'm not a therapist but from experience i think from all u wrote, i sense "hubris". Am not comfortable sharing or divulging my story online, but if u really want to talk u can watsapp me on 08183602921. Maam am ethnocentric, and today am seriously searching, pls lower ur standard cos i pride myself to be God's gift for women and i can tell u ur biological clock will soon start clicking, sis u hv gat to lower ur standards thier r so many faithful guys like me out there, praying earnestly for a reasonable partner.
Re: I Don't Know What My Problem Is With Men And Dating by surrogatesng: 10:43am On Dec 03, 2019
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