Shibaraba:

You don't need our advise as I can see you've advised yourself already. I won't judge the other leech for you know her well, but I'll say tread with caution. I have numerous examples of guys whose babes behave like yours.they end up not marrying. The secret is a lady who is interested in marrying you won't be looking for material things. For she believes she is saving for you. A lady who spends on you beloved you to be an investment. If she doesnt ask it means she is not looking for what she gains now. She is looking at the future. Don't let your dick think for you. Use your sound reasoning. As for me when you start billing me you Don turn sex doll be that. I go dey nack you at will. Christmas list.... Taaaaa. Even wives don't do that now

Even the new lady that is behaving well is probably getting money from another guy and would probably change after marriage. She is probably another chameleon.

Martinez39:
Even the new lady that is behaving well is probably getting money from another guy and would probably change after marriage. She is probably another chameleon.

No be lie

You know the answers to the questions you seek.

Unfortunately you can't be man enough to leave the 21 year old because there are some crazy styles/fantasies of yours that only a girl of that age range may be able to fulfill... Lol ... This is a case of sweet toto but bitter attitude/character...

adewumiopeyemi:
Bro Go and make money

Wen you have money
She will be serious and anxious to get married to you

Bro for ur information, I have a good government job and am well paid so don't t think U're talking to a broke a$$ Nigga

Shibaraba:

No be lie

I hardly trust ladies but sorry to clear ur doubts. she's far from that.

Shibaraba:

You don't need our advise as I can see you've advised yourself already. I won't judge the other leech for you know her well, but I'll say tread with caution. I have numerous examples of guys whose babes behave like yours.they end up not marrying. The secret is a lady who is interested in marrying you won't be looking for material things. For she believes she is saving for you. A lady who spends on you beloved you to be an investment. If she doesnt ask it means she is not looking for what she gains now. She is looking at the future. Don't let your dick think for you. Use your sound reasoning. As for me when you start billing me you Don turn sex doll be that. I go dey nack you at will. Christmas list.... Taaaaa. Even wives don't do that now

Reasonable response from a correct Gee

Martinez39:
Common sense is indeed not common. Since your babe is not serious, why haven't you discarded her? When it comes to relationships, treat ladies like "properties". If they are not useful and thereby constitute a liability, discard them. If they are not serious, discard them. If they are toxic and not humble, discard them. Fvck love and start doing the right thing. Maintain her if she satisfies the following conditions :
1) She is useful,
2) She is serious about the relationship and wants to see it work. She is putting effort so that the relationship can work.

No girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread. If a girl is misbehaving, toxic, and/or not serious, discard her for good. Never get so attached that you make a girl the centre of your life so much that you are unwilling to let her go or dump her when you ought to; you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for her; or you are willing to beg or follow any rule (by her) for her to love you and stay in a relationship with you.

Personally, I would advise you forget about relationship and focus on your goals and areas of self-improvement but since, like many, you want marriage and relationship, swallow my advice in the preceding paragraphs. Relationship is a waste of time, energy and money.

This response got all the answers I want... Thanks

Innobee99:
This response got all the answers I want... Thanks ma

Sir. Na man I be.

Martinez39:
Sir. Na man I be.

Sorry it's typographical error... Never knew the ma is there sef

Your first girlfriend is not ready for marriage and I don't think she's even concerned about your future because if she is, she would be more concerned about you making investments than spending anyhow.

Innobee99:
Thanks so much. I appreciate this little piece from u. My mum was on phone with her mum and was asking her mum while my babe will do such thing to me. Booom, next was ur mum is saying rubbish and my mum heard her from behind.

for her to insult your mum shows she is rude and arrogant please let her go but if u decide to marry her be ready for constant fighting between her and your mum

Bottomline: You are a Mumu Man.

focus on the second bae, the first one is still starting to enjoy her slay queen life, when her eye go clear she go know.

Dump 'em both!

Perhaps, you're the problem here... you seem to wanna use frivolities to buy love like most 9ja men do. No lady other than your wife should be asking you for money to beautify herself. Nigerian ladies love to make a foolery of 9ja men cuz it's become a norm.

Wasn't she good looking before you guys met? How has she been taking care of herself prior to meeting you? What if you guys didn't meet in the first place nko?

Stop spending jack on any lady UNLESS she's your fiance or wife. You can take them out to eat amd blah, blah but, never buy gifts or dash them free money they never worked for. Give your parents those money and they'll bless you. You end up spending so much on a lady just to get the same pvssy an Ashana go easily give you for way cheaper.

Abeg, borrow brain!

Ubunja what do you have to say on this?

nuelsam:
Bottomline: You are a Mumu Man.

Thanks alot

RPirez:
Dump 'em both!

Perhaps, you're the problem here... you seem to wanna use frivolities to buy love like most 9ja men do. No lady other than your wife should be asking you for money to beautify herself. Nigerian ladies love to make a foolery of 9ja men cuz it's become a norm.

Wasn't she good looking before you guys met? How has she been taking care of herself prior to meeting you? What if you guys didn't meet in the first place nko?

Stop spending jack on any lady UNLESS she's your fiance or wife. You can take them out to eat amd blah, blah but, never buy gifts or dash them free money they never worked for. Give your parents those money and they'll bless you. You end up spending so much on a lady just to get the same pvssy an Ashana go easily give you for way cheaper.

Abeg, borrow brain!

Thanks bro

I have a married friend(woman) of my age, she got married at an early stage and the husband doesn't have time for her needs at all, always traveling for one business or the other.

She has been forcing me to make love to her including volunteering to send my sister money to clear my hospital bills when i had an accident later year, sending sultry pix even though I didn't request for any etc... When i asked why she's doing all these, she simply said she didn't enjoy all these during her youthful age so it's her time now

I always have goosebumps chatting with her but I'll never go that way, I nor want generational curse on top my unborn kids abeg


So op let the girl be, she's not ready to settle down yet

I don't know why this post is funnier than Instagram comedians jokes...

Thank you for the comic relief...

The way you take fall in love dey very very laughable

Romanoff:
Leave that girl alone and go after a woman.

I know of a girl who got married at 21, now, after two children, babe deh lock her kids for house dey go club when her husband no dey. Na different guys dey flat her, for street.

There are some youthful exuberance that should be enjoyed before anyone marries. Allow her enjoy it in peace mbok.

After marriage, those exuberances will go right??

Martinez39:
Even the new lady that is behaving well is probably getting money from another guy and would probably change after marriage. She is probably another chameleon.

Woman power, super power!!!
You don code..

Some are genuine tho

eni4real:
After marriage, those exuberances will go right??

Not always o.

Romanoff:


Not always o.

Habits are hard to let go!!
Especially bad habits!!!

Can you believe all what you wrote. Guys una be the same. See a new girl today and Start looking for flaws

Bro leave her sharp sharp,
She's using you as her ATM
She will leave when she's done with and also disrespecting your mum is a bad attitude.
And for the second girl take time to study her and ask her close friends and family about her flaws..

Innobee99:
Thanks so much. I appreciate this little piece from u. My mum was on phone with her mum and was asking her mum while my babe will do such thing to me. Booom, next was ur mum is saying rubbish and my mum heard her from behind.

Jesus! Bros the handwriting is boldly written na
She's arrogant

vikkimimi:
OP please follow your mind and preference... cause when the whole thing come crashing down after marriage you alone will feel the heat.

At 21 I was damn sure I will not be married in 3 years time, allow her enjoy her youthful age, and move on with the one you think is ready for you.

From your write up she's got plenty faults, pick one and dwell on it, then boom, break up comes calling.

P.S Refusing to apologise to your mum is enough reason to break up with her if that's what you wanna do, cause it's disrespect.

Let me do gender warring here, this is too tempting. Here goes: they secretly want the slay queens, the bleachers, the mean females, the rude ones, the ones that will tear their family apart, the ones that will wreck their pockets. They get these “bitches” and demand total submission from them. When the babes act up and or want to bail later, they scream blue murder
But what do we know, they are the men and they rule ba? I am sure they know it all


Dear poster, kindly leave a 21 year old girl alone!!!!!!!. Allow her to breathe and grow and fall for whoever she wants (hopefully ten years from now!) Ah! Ah!! What is this?
Thanks

The first is bad for you and the second may be a worse manipulator.. You are too needy, forgiving and giving. Ladies don't respect such character.

Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having alot of relationship issues which we do settle.
There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side. The problem is seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.
I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.
OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.
Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.
My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.
For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I dont have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u. The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?
To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.
Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.

That's the part you got me ROTF

She is immature and not emotionally ready for marriage. She's got not up to 1yrd wife material in her. Emotional compatibility is key in marriage .....you know what to do anyway

Brothers, my assumption is that your narrations are untrue, because it makes for a good movie script.

If they are true; count yourself lucky, this is the type of signs many men had been waiting for before going into marriage, but they would see it, because everyone put on their camouflage best behavior before marriage.

Ladies will mask their true color until they get married. Here this lady is telling you and showing you, who she truly is and how she will behave and you are asking, if you should still marry her? Hope she have not given you love portion to eat, because it does not make sense.

She does not respect your mom enough to even say "I am sorry"...Is that the kind of lady you want to marry or are you thinking she will miraculously change one day?

Please, don't drink that koolaid, marriage is not a child's play...Open your eyes wide open before getting into marriage and once in, close your them. Forgot that "love...love...love". Am among the few that believe, love is a big scam....People only "love" what they want.

You see a lady and if she have most of the packages you desire, you conclude that you love her..those items could be good behavior, nice ass, good upbringing, good boobs, nice interaction, good synergy, good education, good cook, tall, short, fair, black, humble, the way she walk, the way she present herself, she completes your sentences, etc.....the ladies also have their own list of packages before "falling in love". Once those things starts disappearing, the supposed love will start fading as well....Only God can love, we humans gravitate towards what we inwardly desire and wants.

My point is, DO NOT GO INTO MARRIAGE SOLELY BECAUSE OF LOVE....when there are other things you are not comfortable with. Another lady or guy with those same set of package you desire or more is right around the corner...and surprise! surprise!! You will equally "fall in love" with them.

let's make good money Together