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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by ashawopikin(m): 8:32pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.
I no know wetin Una see for all these small small girls body, its obvious she's a time waster
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Innobee99(m): 8:32pm On Dec 09, 2019
shawnmendes:
23 years old man chasing a 16 year old. Disgusting predator.
Ask ur father









He did worse to a 13yrs baby now ur mum
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by dojnr4real: 8:36pm On Dec 09, 2019
OP, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage . Please cut every tie with her before 31st, December. Her type Will ruin you. don't make a costly mistake by marrying this lady cuz the love is lopsided for it to work, it must be mutual. she's very ungrateful too. Go for the new gal. Save the future of your unborn kids now that you have the opportunity to do so.

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by yommen: 8:38pm On Dec 09, 2019
2special:
You don't need any advice...just do the right thing which you already know... the First Lady is not for you... And let all this mumu attitude with the opposite sex stop this year.

No be mumu attitude na. He loves the girl but she is just too childish to know. @OP, the 21 year old needs to be taught sense through break up. Flush her out like shit before Xmass. You did your best already. How could you have made up with her family and she doesn't care about your family. That's a poor attitude that might not go away even if you marry her.

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by pacesetting: 8:38pm On Dec 09, 2019
OP you want to marry a girl of 21 years and you're complaining about her flaws? What do you expect?

Someone who still wants to experience more of life. Abi you wan be her Mongo Park?

When you were 21 what did you know about marriage?

Please stick to the new lady you are comfortable with. And from your post, you've already done that. You've also got the confirmation you seek here. Shikena.

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by kelvinovie25(m): 8:38pm On Dec 09, 2019
Do I just see Christmas list by August, omo na NEPA bill oh, honestly some ladies are too dull,, selfish and self centered they just can't see beyond themselves, it has always been about them not even caring how the other party feels, that why most guys treat them like property, bus they do behave like properties bot even a good one, liability for that one, it's difficult finding a nice lady as a wife, don't marry a liability bro
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by adewumiopeyemi(m): 8:42pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
Bro for ur information, I have a good government job and am well paid so don't t think U're talking to a broke a$$ Nigga
And do you think you are talking to a broker ass nigga also
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Archangel20(m): 8:45pm On Dec 09, 2019
[/quote] I'm still wondering why you posted this epistle when the answer is right in front of u
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by kweenybarbie(f): 8:48pm On Dec 09, 2019
Op shine your eyes, the new girl you just met might be forming nice to win your heart, when it comes to marriage matter some babes will go to any length to get what they want, just follow your intuition biko

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Knowseek: 8:49pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
Thanks so much. I appreciate this little piece from u. My mum was on phone with her mum and was asking her mum while my babe will do such thing to me. Booom, next was ur mum is saying rubbish and my mum heard her from behind.

Bro, I understand love is blind and strong. And despite the girl is flawed you still love her . I truly understand how you feel. But Yoruba say you can have a bad wife but never make the mistake of having a bad family. I don't know about you but someone insulting or undermining my mother is a no no, cause she is a peaceful, understanding mother.

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Acidosis(m): 8:49pm On Dec 09, 2019
So you want to marry a 21 year old slay queen? Do you have a spare destiny somewhere?

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by EvenBlogger: 8:51pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.
Abeg , I Must say oooo , Instead of Reading Latest Nigeria News i prefer listening to Good Top Naija Songs Biko ooooo


I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by ReneeNuttall(f): 8:51pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
Thanks so much. I appreciate this little piece from u. My mum was on phone with her mum and was asking her mum while my babe will do such thing to me. Booom, next was ur mum is saying rubbish and my mum heard her from behind.

And u didn't leave ur finger prints on her lovely face? Damn! Nobody talks about my lovely mom in such manner neither will I do same to another person......which kind yeye see finish be that?.....Both of u ain't even mates to start with let alone ur mom? ....Guy she already passed her boundaries o.Go with d second babe asap and build ur future with her.

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by kurlz(f): 8:54pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
Thanks so much. I appreciate this little piece from u. My mum was on phone with her mum and was asking her mum while my babe will do such thing to me. Booom, next was ur mum is saying rubbish and my mum heard her from behind.

shocked
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by goldmatrix(m): 8:57pm On Dec 09, 2019
You have already written your autobiography nau..wetin you wan make we do nau..??
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by CeterisXVII: 9:01pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.
I don't want to call you daft, but from what you wrote here, you are the cause of your own problem.

1). Is the 21 year old babe still in school, or is she actively working and earning a living?

2). If she is a student, where do you expect her to get thousands of naira to spend on you?

3). The money you spent on her birthday, did she ask you to spend it?

4). Have you tried to get her to improve herself and learn new skills or embark on business which could earn her an income?

5). The new girl you are dating how old is she?

6). Is she working or a student?

7). Do you truly love the new girl? Because if you really loved her, you will not be thinking about the old girl.

cool. What makes you think a 21 year old is mature for marriage, when she has not even developed herself in any aspect of life?
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Boss13: 9:06pm On Dec 09, 2019
Nigerian men have made Nigerian women feel spending money on them is love. The irony is Nigerian men complaining after spending.

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Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by mechanics(m): 9:13pm On Dec 09, 2019
Just forget your old babe, she's not ready to settle down, she thinks she's till young, since you are sure this present babe is ready to settle down and you really love her, you can go ahead but make sure you tell your present babe if not it may bring up issues.
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Innobee99(m): 9:20pm On Dec 09, 2019
CeterisXVII:

I don't want to call you daft, but from what you wrote here, you are the cause of your own problem.

1). Is the 21 year old babe still in school, or is she actively working and earning a living?

2). If she is a student, where do you expect her to get thousands of naira to spend on you?
But she can take my own thousands abi....





Who is daft here biko?
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by healthserve(m): 9:21pm On Dec 09, 2019
sonofanarchy:
grin

You're a real son of anarchy. Which one is smiling sovietly again
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Innobee99(m): 9:22pm On Dec 09, 2019
adewumiopeyemi:

And do you think you are talking to a broker ass nigga also
I never said so bro







Just a tip for u to knw that am living well bro
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by felix281(m): 9:36pm On Dec 09, 2019
Romanoff:
Leave that girl alone and go after a woman.

I know of a girl who got married at 21, now, after two children, babe deh lock her kids for house dey go club when her husband no dey. Na different guys dey flat her, for street.

There are some youthful exuberance that should be enjoyed before anyone marries. Allow her enjoy it in peace mbok.


You just said what happened to one of my colleague that divorced her husband because she didn't enjoy her youthful age,She married at 20.
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by golddare: 9:38pm On Dec 09, 2019
With the suffering in the country you still want to put yourself into another suffering despite the fact that God dey pity you not to enter Suffering Season 2. It's ok.
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Effico5real(m): 9:39pm On Dec 09, 2019
Romanoff:
Leave that girl alone and go after a woman.

I know of a girl who got married at 21, now, after two children, babe deh lock her kids for house dey go club when her husband no dey. Na different guys dey flat her, for street.

There are some youthful exuberance that should be enjoyed before anyone marries. Allow her enjoy it in peace mbok.
are you serious? I also know of a similar case like this, after 2 boys still flirting around
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Suremikky(m): 9:56pm On Dec 09, 2019
sweetonugbu:
She was just 16 when you started dating her, YOU ARE A PERVERT.

Like say if 16 years girl open for u u no go enter.AWU
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by 2cul2care: 10:00pm On Dec 09, 2019
Damn u just hit the nail on the head @ OP a word is enough for the wise, leave the girl and go after the woman, girls aren't meant for marriage women are, don't be sentimental about it, its ur life bro. TOGETHER FOVEREVER is a long time, don't make a decision u will regret.



quote author=Romanoff post=84752982]Leave that girl alone and go after a woman.

I know of a girl who got married at 21, now, after two children, babe deh lock her kids for house dey go club when her husband no dey. Na different guys dey flat her, for street.

There are some youthful exuberance that should be enjoyed before anyone marries. Allow her enjoy it in peace mbok. [/quote]
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by CeterisXVII: 10:01pm On Dec 09, 2019
Innobee99:
But she can take my own thousands abi....

Who is daft here biko?
Did she hold a gun to your head to take the thousands? Why couldn't you tell her NO? Why are you now coming here to lament over the money, that you willingly offered?
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by CeterisXVII: 10:04pm On Dec 09, 2019
Boss13:
Nigerian men have made Nigerian women feel spending money on them is love. The irony is Nigerian men complaining after spending.
That is the nonsensical noise they always make, whenever the relationship does not work out!

Did the girl hold a gun to the guy's head to force him to spend money on her? Or did she put her hand inside his bank account to forcefully collect the money?
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by Nmezor(f): 10:04pm On Dec 09, 2019
OP stick with the latter lady and dump the former . U HV no future with her and its pretty obvious too
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by CeterisXVII: 10:06pm On Dec 09, 2019
pacesetting:
OP you want to marry a girl of 21 years and you're complaining about her flaws? What do you expect?

Someone who still wants to experience more of life. Abi you wan be her Mongo Park?

When you were 21 what did you know about marriage?

Please stick to the new lady you are comfortable with. And from your post, you've already done that. You've also got the confirmation you seek here. Shikena.
Acidosis:
So you want to marry a 21 year old slay queen? Do you have a spare destiny somewhere?
Help me tell am, o!! I just dey laugh for one corner since..... cheesy grin
Re: My Lady Is Showing Signs Of Unseriousness by sacx: 10:14pm On Dec 09, 2019
Yesterday a.lady created a thread languishing on the.fact that her ex left her to marry someone else despite they been together for 6 years. She also admitted to keeping his proposal hanging all those years. I guess this was her few years back.

OP, you know what to do.

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