fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

Hmmm! You must be a shrink!!! See Phsycoanalysis. You need to start charging for sessions, cos plenty people get problems for naija.

Most guys are always carried away with beautiful without considering the character of a lady

Guys these days are now more emotional than the ladies...are y'all exchanging roles?


Jeezzz

Ginaz:
It’s too soon and too early. Guy you bleeped up big time , you’re allowing your emotions to overshoot your target.

What do you really know about this lady?
Her habits?
Her moods?
Her anger issues (everyone has one) some are mild and bearable ,others crazy and over the top.
Her values?

I’ve realized inviting a person to come stay with you it’s very easier than telling the person to leave . Don’t start what you can’t finish of which you have already started

You should have watched her from a distance, allowed her to served in her original state of work, get to know her more better first .

This is a huge step , you guys just met o. Everything is happening too quick. You’re gonna regret it soon.

I can’t stand being somewhere for a long time though . I wonder how a girl would just agree for a guy to work things over so she could stay with him. Doesn’t she have her own sense?

It feels weird to live with a guy who isn’t your husband yet. I don’t care the reasons I’m not doing it.

OP, this lady makes lots of sense.

You are moving too fast. Besides that ladies can be are very unpredictable, it is totally wrong for you to cohabit with a lady (that you met less than how many months sef?) Do you realise the grave implications of what you are getting yourself into? If ANYTHING happens to that lady, your own do be and even that your Brig.Gen uncle go take small cover!

A proper risk assessment of your action indicates that when yawa gas, den you go realise say that love wey dey shark you na ice-block love - cause it will sudden melt very fast with the heat you will find yourself.

Final answer, please abort!

Richnerd69:


LOL. No! I also think there are stupid tots and you must be one of them.

low self esteem kil u dia

go ahead without reservation.
atleast someone attested to her good behavior.

your doubt would only lead to issues.

Richnerd69:


I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

Even we married men are sometimes tired of our wives...lol
You will get tired, I promise you that. You will regret this decision in just a few months. The question you will keep asking is what did I get myself into? I don't understand the demon that pushed you to take this decision.

You may just be amongst the lucky few though, I know a guy who lived with a woman for 7 years before finally marrying her and they are doing very well. I hope in your own interest this will be your case.

samtol4:
Most guys are always carried away with outside beautiful with out thinking about the character of a lady.u just met a lady boom she will be living with you as husband and wife abi ? marriage is not build this way .u don't know much about this person already u want to live together.Why not allow her rent a place or share room with another female ? Staying with a lady who is not your wife will affect your destiny plans

No one is talking about marriage here, she's coming for a purpose, to serve, and not just live with me...I just picked Interest in a random friend. She has no other place but I was thinking if she stays for a few month and she's already adapting, then I could get her a place, that's if she would still love to stay back and start a new life in PH after service year.

Richnerd69:


I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

wow this girls pussy Is intelligent, see as pussy dey speak English for your head . Continue speaking English

Richnerd69:


No one is talking about marriage here, she's coming for a purpose, to serve, and not just live with me...I just picked Interest in a random friend. She has no other place but I was thinking if she stays for a few month and she's already adapting, then I could get her a place, that's if she would still love to stay back and start a new life in PH after service year.

Sir can you please press another button that will help me to get a job in any of the MDAs?
Thanks.

frubben:
wow this girls pussy Is intelligent, see as pussy dey speak English for your head . Continue speaking English

Please free the guy. He talks from both sides of his mouth . First it was he liked her reason he moved her to his base.

Secondly, he changed the story to how she was not meeting up to her expectations and sad about her current situation, he wants to help .

Before we see, he don dey talk about how she transferred herself to Abuja.

Now currently saying , if she is adapting to living with him ,he would look for a house for her to stay (this was someone who said he has changed his mind towards that).

That guy is so confused( I don’t wanna use a bad word) . He keeps justifying his selfish interest in the girl . Unlimited sex styles for a whole year.

I’ve already told him to marry the girl if he likes her so much , the guy kept going on and forth making no sense of what he is saying .

Button presser my ass!! . If it was so easy why didn’t the girl’s sister get her a lucrative job in Abuja?

Nobody should bother to give him any advice. It’s a waste of time . He will keep defending his foolish actions spiced with selfishness.

Richnerd69:


No one is talking about marriage here, she's coming for a purpose, to serve, and not just live with me...I just picked Interest in a random friend. She has no other place but I was thinking if she stays for a few month and she's already adapting, then I could get her a place, that's if she would still love to stay back and start a new life in PH after service year.

Oga you talk from both sides of your mouth . You said the reason you wanted her to stay was because she behaves like your sister. She is teachable and Humble, that you really liked her.

You have changed the whole story she wanna serve bla bla bla. She doesn’t have anywhere else to stay. Who brought up the ideal of a life in ph? Was it not you? Who convinced her and called the shots for her to be transferred to ph? Was it not you?

So what’s this whole blabbers of “her serving , picking interest in a friend, she will adapt, bla bla bla “.

You’re not serious o. I regretted wasting my time with this piece of shiiit . The other guy that said you were a fool was right.

The chances of success in any relationship is 50/50 . It is not out of place to have some degree of fright. If you want want your relationship with your girl to be successful ,the yam and the knife is your hand. I think it would have been rational to study your girl from a distance before taking her as a co partner.

Ginaz, there are many reasons people do things. Letting her come over to get an experience is one, and her kind of person is accommodating and her traits are recognizable, somewhat like sis's... Which is another reason. It's either you have a language problem or an issue with comprehension...anyways I don't seem to like your style of approach.

I think you have more life threatening issues to sulk about. You must be a loner and sick piece. You knew it was a "piece of sh*t" from the beginning, but you just love to deal with sh*t, don't you? like the wingless house-fly that you are.

I chose to ignore you initially, cuz, I wasn't getting any good vibe from you, rather you want to drag this issue like it's a big deal. You are aggressive and you sound pained over people's business. I hope you find happiness someday . It's not healthy to be this frustrated.

Richnerd69:
Ginaz, there are many reasons people do things. Letting her come over to get an experience is one, and her kind of person is accommodating and her traits are recognizable, somewhat like sis's... Which is another reason. It's either you have a language problem or an issue with comprehension...anyways I don't seem to like your style of approach.

I think you have more life threatening issues to sulk about. You must be a loner and sick piece. You knew it was a "piece of sh*t" from the beginning, but you just love to deal with sh*t, don't you? like the wingless house-fly that you are.

I chose to ignore you initially, cuz, I wasn't getting any good vibe from you, rather you want to drag this issue like it's a big deal. You are aggressive and you sound pained over people's business. I hope you find happiness someday . It's not healthy to be this frustrated.

Wawu. Me being frustrated at what exactly? The way you guys just throw the word frustration eh? one would think every living soul in the world is. You’re contradicting yourself with each step you make to sound right .

You want to help her, you say you like her, then you say you gonna send her off, come back again to say no.

Mr man, by the time you are through making this mistake , you would be the one frustrated last last. Whatever reason you had the girl, kudos to it. Lemme remove mouth and stop here.

Keep living in a fairytale world, reality is coming soon.

Carlmax:


Hmmm! You must be a shrink!!! See Phsycoanalysis. You need to start charging for sessions, cos plenty people get problems for naija.

Lol.. U just made me laugh...
Behavioural patterns are easy to spot if u have lived long enough and know what to look for.

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Wat are u asking people for? You went ahead and made plams without consulting people. You bent over to see that your dream came true nowyour are scared. SMH

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Have u finished building urself up?

I don't know why people get so worked up, this life has no manual or guarantees, just be careful and follow ur guts instincts or maybe even your very emotions can lead you rit sometimes, in some years to come,this damsel can be ur lovely wife who has brought so much blessings to you, and in some years time too, she can be ur downfall or undoing, life is unpredictable like that, never take it so seriously, for 90%/of the things you fear never comes to pass, your meting her could also be divinely orchestrated to set her up for her missing rib or destiny is in pH, some small things happen for a big reason and some big things happen for no reasons, life has no guarantees and all it owes us is only death, but in between being born and dying let's hope and work that the coin of life deals us a good one! Peace out joor

GrabHisBalls:
Abeg! You for leave her with her myopic view of what PH people are. The city is even becoming too crowded for my liking, yet, all I see on social media is that PH is unsafe. Stupid people!

With that said, my older friend just introduced her husband to me and I was shocked he isn't any of the guys I saw building her empire with her thinking they had a place in her heart. Be wise! A word is enough for the wise. I am happy for her though 'cause it seems some of you don't have a brain.

Why are you like this na?

Let the girls enjoy being taken care of naaaaaaa....

Richnerd69:


Where else would she stay and who does she know in PH? Except for old friends who also came for service too and a few persons she hasn't connected with in a long time. I'm her best shot to safety and comfort.







She isn't based in abuja, rather she worked her transfer there and her aunt promised to position her in the ministry to serve... But there was no space and her option was to teach. She was disappointed, she had higher expectations .

When she agreed to come serve in PH, she was sceptical about my connections if they would work and was still taken aback with the way I abruptly picked interest in her. I was persuasive and she yielded cuz I meant every promise I made. I want to put her where she wants to be and I have the buttons to press. It's a proposal I offered and she saw it as a development to adapt to. I don't think she's naive or stupid. She's really brave and she gave it a thought.

you're her best shot because you convinced her to come and live with you in a place you knew you would be her best shot.

You Sound like a manipulative guy. She will be at your mercy for the duration of her stay in PH. You must be obsessed with the idea of being someone's lord and personal savior, preferably a woman you can be having free sex with, while blackmailing her with threats of eviction if she ever challenges your authority.

For a woman to even agree to leave Abuja that she worked and had plans to stay with an aunt, to go to PH, where she only knows you, a man she has known for how long? You should be very afraid, because it speaks poorly of her. She must have ulterior motives just like you, because no good, decent girl would put herself in such a dicey situation

I hope this decision bites you in the ass and you receive a year of fire and brimstone on your head for inviting a stranger into your space for one year.

You will be the cunning man that will be buried with his cunningness.

Don't come here and cry fowl tomorrow
Which opportunity dey PH sef? Me wey be PH boy run Come Lagos u wan carry person daughter go PH in the name of greener pastures ogbeni, thread with caution oooo don't allow your JT control your thinking faculty.

Guy listen to me.... You did nothing wrong apart from asking her to come stay with you. You should have taken it slow and allow her to serve in Abuja.


The sex and emotions will wear out soon... and you gonna need space very soon...you gonna feel trapped and you gonna look for a way of escape.

samtol4:
Most guys are always carried away with outside beautiful with out thinking about the character of a lady.u just met a lady boom she will be living with you as husband and wife abi ? marriage is not build this way .u don't know much about this person already u want to live together.Why not allow her rent a place or share room with another female ? Staying with a lady who is not your wife will affect your destiny plans

O BOY SEE ENGLISH!!!!

Nawa ooooo...

If i ask the guy to work my posting to PH na, he will be saying he has no one but God. See wetin broda do for geh now o.


Even the women here are bashing OP.

Guess being that stoopid angered them

No.

luminouz:

Why are you like this na?

Let the girls enjoy being taken care of naaaaaaa....

Well, I don't have a problem with that. After all, person must fall mugu.

This my friend's own was just too much. Fear Igbo girls.

Wow. But what is so interesting about her that you did all this without even knowing her?

This just sounds like a terrible idea

You mean her elder sister accepted that you, a strange guy should carry her sister to his house in port Harcourt? What type of elder sister is that, if I may ask?

Is it that I'm experiencing dyslexia or what I can't understand this story

Even if you rent an apartment for her, how do you know that she's not just pretending to love you so that she won't be homeless?

I don't want to use this word but I am forced. OP you are very stupid...

Reading through this thread, I got a familiar, peculiar feeling of irritation in my mind. I wondered what it was until finally I put my finger on it:

This is how I felt reading through the travails of nairaland legend, Mazi GREATRESEARCHER... if you know, you know...

God help you...

Since you're the reason she's relocating to PH, why don't you rent an apartment for her(if you can afford it) so that you guys won't be a burden on each other but can still see and work out your relationship at a slow pace?

It is very simple: you seems so desperate. Slow down a little bit and know more about her. Dig deep and unravel her past history. Let her know your intentions on the get go. Don't get too intimate with her because it might be a distraction for both of you. Are you sure she is in the same pedestrian with you: your goals and aspirations per say? Remember, marriage is a marathon; not a hundred (100) metre race. Goodluck.