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You are moving too fast, and needed to take awhile to study her. Living together from day one is not a good idea,
Both of you needs space to familiarise each other.

joeking2222:
Babe, na u dey DAT picture wey u upload? OMO, you carry.....walahi. Na you dem suppose to dey call GREENER PASTURE!!!

I swaer....over gather worry her.

Go and help her save her alawi. At least while living with u, she won’t pay rent and u will feed her. After her service year she go leave a bigger vacuum.

I stopped acting super man last year,any gal i meet now,gist,see at a lounge.
3rd visit fuc k her like 3 more times,blockd on whatsapp.
No time

The whole characters in this story are 100% stuupid. The lady is 30% stuupid,her aunty/husband 30% stuupid and op is 40% stuupid. I hate guys who are dumb and manipulative,so op waka.. For the lady,mumu of the year,after one month na her small london go hear am. And for the other stuupid set that called themselves family to the girl,they dont really love the girl,they were stuupidly decieved with op's wealth and handed their lil sister's pussy to a stranger. Spit on them all

Did I hear you said you were coming from a messy heart break?? This is another heart break loading oo

Oga I pity you

You wan de help girls of these days you will end up runn down

A girl you have not.married you wanna live with oga it's better you marry her and carry her away simple

Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

What a wicked world, the young woman got posted to Abuja, you call general to change her post, went to her sister without thinking and now you are calling people on nairaland... You must be a very wicked man for knowing that you are too fast now

Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

OGA HERE IS THE TRUTH: THERE IS NO WAY TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE MAKING A MISTAKE TILL YOU ACTUALLY LIVE WITH HER.

NOW YOU ARE ASKING PPL TO ADVICE YOU. SO THAT YOU CAN DO WHAT, IF I MAY ASK? TELL HER THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER TAKING HER IN?

OGA GO AHEAD AND TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. ITS PRETTY MUCH THE ONLY THING YOU HAVE AT THE MOMENT. STOP ALL THIS PITY PARTY.

If there is a way you can press more buttons for her to stay back in Abuja please do, this your decision is RISKY.
OP it seems you have plenty connection, please I am in dire need of a good job. connect me biko.
Just that I won't move in with you

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

Tiri gbosa for you?

Ginaz:
Getting her a place so she can live with a roommate is out of point. What if something happens? Didn’t she tell you she have not been to ph? You want to leave her to stay alone now you have realized you were too quick with the whole thing? Guy do you know the implications of what you have done?

Her life and all that concerns her are in your hands, whatever goes wrong, you’re in soup.

You better put her in your house so you can have eyes on her and her movements. In fact finish what you have started o.

That’s how men put themselves in trouble with their own hands!!

You dey mind am? Na toto dey talk. If him like make e no look well before e enter wall.

This is only a fling relationship you are taking to far but if I were in your shoes you mention your friends has a rich babe with connection can’t she hook you up with her friend who’s in the same class just as her. I mean

Bro na toto go kill you bro no be say love, 2days relationship booda I repeat na sex go kill you

Its not yet christmas and you're already acting Father Christmas..would you do the same for a male corper?

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

You don knack already. fine and good. thatswhat you shud do.
but right now u dont even know or discussed her present relationship.
she must hv accepted to stay in PHC with you cos she wants to explore.
but you may get the shocker after one year.

Girls?
girl leave camp. that same night, she dey untop dcvk (of a guy u just met few hours in the same lodge after leaving orietation camp) dey tell her man say she dey miss am. she is returning the next day.
I cn imagine the remaining days of her service.

There are many male corp members you could have helped with job and accommodation. Your help was for your own interest.

No

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

You take advice from Us before u made the offer?

Did she force u?

Rubbish and richnerd69

Alawaxbimbex:
Hummmmmm, just be careful,I'm also a lady ooooo,I know what we are capable of doing...

Give a hint on what babes are capable of doing.

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

What is wrong with our young men these days?

On what basis are you bringing her in to stay with you? Be sincere with yourself, on what basis?

Did you ever think of an emergency? And what if it leads to simething more deadly? What will you explain to the world? Who would believe that you didn't lure her to use her for rituals or something especially with what is happening in PH these days and you're not even engaged to her.

Don't let your lustful desire land you in trouble.

This is December. Everyone is praying to stay out of trouble, you are bringing one upon yourself.

Read inbetween the lines and advise yourself.
Eventualities occur

How else do I have to say this,

It is not your place to determine for her, her fate or to build her up. You just merely met, you don't even know her well, with zero future plans, yet you are already doing so much. Honestly you have a good heart, but the thing is that it might backfire in ways you don't expect.

You should have gotten to know her better and find ways to support her instead. Well, happy married life. You just got a wife

Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

Did the relocation work or till January? If she has already been relocated to PH then you don't have a choice you have to fulfill your promise so as not to mess her life up, you started it by the way.

But if the relocation didn't work then you should leave her where she was posted don't start what you can't finish.

you convinced a lady to stay leave with you a total stranger in just two weeks? believe me, If you can do.that in two weeks, then a richer nigga will make her leave you in two days. some of you behave like you don't know girls..

Oh boy, way too early. Can you carry her load and see her go later?

You should have let her finish her service in Abj and see how things go.

I guess you are trying too hard to make up for the messy relationship you came out from a while ago.

Bruv fix your problem and don't let the social media think for you. Most people here will end up talking like they own you. Do you man!

samso247:
OP, once she gets to ur house, ur plan now is to tink of Hw to get her pregnant, at least dat will keep her one place. Think abt it, a gal u just met decided to follow u to ph a total stranger, if am correct it's not up to 2wks oo, na wa, what mks u feel dat if anoda guy comes to her and convince her to Benin, she will not follow? Be wise.

guy, you're wise abeg. if she's too easy, I bounce. just two weeks fa..total stranger

Hmm the power of pussy can make some boys lose their senes

Ginaz:
Wawu. Me being frustrated at what exactly? The way you guys just throw the word frustration eh? one would think every living soul in the world is. You’re contradicting yourself with each step you make to sound right .

You want to help her, you say you like her, then you say you gonna send her off, come back again to say no.

Mr man, by the time you are through making this mistake , you would be the one frustrated last last. Whatever reason you had the girl, kudos to it. Lemme remove mouth and stop here.

Keep living in a fairytale world, reality is coming soon.

I've been following your comments for a while now and so far you've made positive points from the things you typed, but you are making a mistake by carrying op's issue on your head adding a few insults too, that's bad, let me also tell you that while it seems he is making a mistake, he might not after all, let's be positive for once, issues like this doesn't go wrong for everybody, many got their hearts broken from decisions like this while others found their soulmates and wives from the same situation, so please lady, take it easy with him.

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Girl never use you finish bros.

Starting a relationship with a girl by letting her know you have money to spend never ends well. It makes them hunger for me. Always know that where your money stopped is where another's started from.

You dont even know anything about this girl. Women are smarter than we think.

Summary: never start a relationship with a Nigerian girl by spending money. It never ends well. I speak from experience, cos more often than not, their love or likeness stem from the money they get from you.