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It's one thing to b in love with a girl it's another thing to b married to a lady ur presents galfrnd is just a girl the second one is a lady....they are both on different stage of there life allow d little girl b shes just using you...go and marry if you want to marry pls

Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.

Bro before you got another babe why didn't you break the first one?

me i dont know the color of money but i am better than the second girl and i want to settle down asap. i dey wait oh

Innobee99:
Thanks so much. I appreciate this little piece from u. My mum was on phone with her mum and was asking her mum while my babe will do such thing to me. Booom, next was ur mum is saying rubbish and my mum heard her from behind.

and you still want to marry her
how dumb are you?

I have few question to ask you;

when you meet this first girl, does she have this nonchalant attitude that you've to savage for long throughout your relationship

if she didn't behave this way in the early relationship then I don't see why you should acknowledged this new girl because of she asked for 2k and you acted movie and you quickly believe she's the best


my guy relax and take a back sit, your first girl is naive and don't ever force her into marriage that her mental state cannot handle


for the other lady, don't rush as well. you've tested her patience. have you tested her loyalty and honesty? you gat to test her before rushing things my guy

Guy why? I feel lyk insulting u cos an angry at d moment If u were my broda i swear i 4 shoot u. Hw on earth will a man allow a girl to do him lyk dis? If u lyk no follow d new babe.break up wit d old hoe jawe. The truth is she neva luved u. U re jux her maga. B here askin stupid question.Beta go marry ur new catch. Most Naija girls re nt meant to b luved. Jux Bleep em nd brk up wit em.

Martinez39:
Common sense is indeed not common. Since your babe is not serious, why haven't you discarded her? When it comes to relationships, treat ladies like "properties". If they are not useful and thereby constitute a liability, discard them. If they are not serious, discard them. If they are toxic and not humble, discard them. Fvck love and start doing the right thing. Maintain her if she satisfies the following conditions :
1) She is useful,
2) She is serious about the relationship and wants to see it work. She is putting effort so that the relationship can work.

No girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread. If a girl is misbehaving, toxic, and/or not serious, discard her for good. Never get so attached that you make a girl the centre of your life so much that you are unwilling to let her go or dump her when you ought to; you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for her; or you are willing to beg or follow any rule (by her) for her to love you and stay in a relationship with you.

Personally, I would advise you forget about relationship and focus on your goals and areas of self-improvement but since, like many, you want marriage and relationship, swallow my advice in the preceding paragraphs. Relationship is a waste of time, energy and money.

You said it all, career, money before relationship because dis girls won't stay if u lack dem.

Maybe the old babe is prettier/sexier than the new one. There must be a good reason the old babe is still an issue. Who her Jealousy epp?

Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.

I only have one advise for you as a lady
Stay away from materialistic babes...when I say stay away,I meant RUN......stay blessed.

Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.

first babe lacks home training. if you marry her, just be ready for serious thorns in the fresh. men should stop pursuing girls. Adam did not pursue eve. Any girl who is ready to marry you would not give you unnecessary stress.

sweetonugbu:
thank you my sister, my annoyance is that the girl is 21, and they have been together for 5 years, remove 5 from 21=16

U knw mathematics like this and u still failed it in WAEC?

MusaDanladi1:
@Innobee99 must you tell the other mumu that you are getting married, she doesn't deserve any information due to her lackadaisical and unserious nature. Do your wedding in peace with your serious madam and live life happily ever after. You people know the right thing to do and yet you will come to nairaland to ask childish questions.

Thanks

Dude your first girl is just reaching olosho age at 21.

A relative made such a mistake marrying such a young girl. All the three kids she gave him were not his. She's not ready for marriage. Move on.
Thank your stars.

Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.

Why do guys feel they have to give their girlfriends money or spend on them? Is normal birthday and Christmas present not enough? And may be occasional gifts given to each other?

faithfull18:
People come online to act a script, I truly pity anyone who takes this advice. Most online personalities are total opposites in the real world.

He who wears the shoe knows where it pinches him....






Go and drink beer bro

Innobee99:
He who wears the shoe knows where it pinches him....






Go and drink beer bro

The quote wasn't meant for you. Be mindful of the kind of advice you take, that's my own.


Alcohol is for the weak.

Dump her

bethyz:
At 21 the last thing a girl will think of is marriage. Please if you are ready and she is not move on na.

21 and married ma .?There are alot of things to still achieve has she finished school ?or worked to make a dime so she can know how difficult it is to work for the money.

She is still young and no one should blame the girl.
At 21 did you in anyway think of marriage and because you are ready you want her to be ready automatically abeg. Keep your marriage you may not be the right person for her anyways dont raise your ego because of marriage.
If you cant wait or rather be patient with her please move on its as simple as that

Omotola Jalade married at 18.
Leave that age matter. Who good, good.

Bros, you need to be focused in what you desire. Marriage is not a child's play. You do not need to persuade your babe to marry you.
You will suffer in the long run if you marry her.

I just tire for Nairaland topics of late...lady this..girl that..should i do this..should i do that?..i no dey when you dey toast her..why i go give advice now?...me get my own issues...nigga please

Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.

23 years old man chasing a 16 year old. Disgusting predator.

I will rather marry a lady older than me, as long as there is peace and genuine love, rather than marry these kids, evryday you have to settle very senseless fights, fights like why did you look at me like that, why did you call late, why are you quiet, why can't you hug me tight.......naaaa, focus on someone mature mentally not just age wise.

sonofanarchy:

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Marry d first one..u may likely die of heart attack..... Pick d second one...u may likely have a gud home...u can't b too sure of both...but d second one looks gud d way u described her.....permit me to insult u a little...meeting ds second lady has shown DAT u have been a fool all D's while not in love...when it comes to marriage matter love is not d most important...your brain is...

oga, to slap u dey hungry me... apply common sense....

vikkimimi:
OP please follow your mind and preference... cause when the whole thing come crashing down after marriage you alone will feel the heat.

At 21 I was damn sure I will not be married in 3 years time, allow her enjoy her youthful age, and move on with the one you think is ready for you.

From your write up she's got plenty faults, pick one and dwell on it, then boom, break up comes calling.

P.S Refusing to apologise to your mum is enough reason to break up with her if that's what you wanna do, cause it's disrespect.

bad girl.

Anoda day anoda balless front page simp na.

if babes have the call of the wild in dem then u have to let 'em go and don't look back.
op, u juiced her during her young prime years so don't be greedy, go forward with the mature babe. thank me later.

Guys, please call me let talk cos there's more to this 2348027964393

shawnmendes:
23 years old man chasing a 16 year old. Disgusting predator.

Ur father did worse... Ask him