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Richnerd69:
Where else would she stay and who does she know in PH? Except for old friends who also came for service too and a few persons she hasn't connected with in a long time. I'm her best shot to safety and comfort.







She isn't based in abuja, rather she worked her transfer there and her aunt promised to position her in the ministry to serve... But there was no space and her option was to teach. She was disappointed, she had higher expectations .

When she agreed to come serve in PH, she was sceptical about my connections if they would work and was still taken aback with the way I abruptly picked interest in her. I was persuasive and she yielded cuz I meant every promise I made. I want to put her where she wants to be and I have the buttons to press. It's a proposal I offered and she saw it as a development to adapt to. I don't think she's naive or stupid. She's really brave and she gave it a thought.

Ginaz:
Wawu. Me being frustrated at what exactly? The way you guys just throw the word frustration eh? one would think every living soul in the world is. You’re contradicting yourself with each step you make to sound right .

You want to help her, you say you like her, then you say you gonna send her off, come back again to say no.

Mr man, by the time you are through making this mistake , you would be the one frustrated last last. Whatever reason you had the girl, kudos to it. Lemme remove mouth and stop here.

Keep living in a fairytale world, reality is coming soon.

Mcslize:
Cohabiting with a lady is quite stressful. I have been in that situation in the past. It was emotionally demanding, energy sapping and requires high level of diplomacy in handling things with her.

Be rest assured that the whole house will be messed up even after cleaning. She will put things where they should not be. She might leave the plates unwashed most times. The kitchen will always be a mess after cooking. You will address one issue after another of how she should wash the plates after eating her own foods, clean up the room whenever it gets messy, put things in their rightful places and always keep a tidy environment. She might not hid to all of that. You will still see a messy room every day, unwashed plates, dirty dishes, scattered items. She might even be sending you in an errand. You will get fed up at one point in time and start asking yourself if you made a mistake bringing her in?

These are just few of the things that you will experience. So be prepared emotionally and otherwise.

Richnerd69:
Thanks man. My decision to bring her over to PH was not with ulterior motives as people actually perceive it to be. Before I raised the suggestion to help her, I understood the risks involved and I still went ahead anyways. She's told me her story and her visions. Her aunt is making her settle for lesser than she bargained for, but where she's going to be positioned to serve, she would be properly paid like a normal entry staff aside her monthly allowance, and well catered for as she isn't the only one I've connected that way... My plan is to make her independent, so I won't be her cash clown. I have so many other responsibilities on my neck.

I've only been slightly sceptical of late, with the way people I closely confided in have been condemning my decision and tagging it as "stupid". I somewhat feel a bit stupid, but not driven or motivated by lust but out of human kindness and likeness, and I will try as much as possible to avoid body contact. I don't want to appear manipulative or possessive. I've called my mom and I told her everything, she trusts my decision but also hopes I'm not gonna regret my gesture.

Plus, we are both having this discussion tonight. I'm gonna give her a chance to reconsider her choice.. we probably might be heading way fast, or probably not. Thanks again.

Richnerd69:
Why are you people so prejudiced? Do you know how many people I helped work their transfer to their preferred state of choice of service

I even had to pay from my pocket, a season when my uncle wasn't picking my calls anymore... I don't do favoritism and I don't encourage those who spread the tale of my good deeds, because I'll be burdened by those referred to me.

phillippians:
You did not mention the most important part of the exercise -FINANCE.
it's not easy to camp a girl at all. I did it on campus too for five good years, all thanks to my ever flowing cash. (she's now my wife though) I will advise you don't start what you cannot finish just like someone here has said. It's financially draining, if you were 80% rich before, divide that wealth by 2 subtract another 30...10% what becomes of you in less than two months yet d journey continues ...and guess what, some sharp babes still find a way out to double dating. Fear women!

safarigirl:
If you know the meaning of prejudice, you wouldn't accuse anyone of being prejudiced, afterall, we are only working with the limited information you gave us.

You know what prompted you to offer that girl a place to stay after convincing her to switch, hold on to your convictions and hope you haven't been played. Ain't no decent girls going off to live with men they knew for two weeks, for a year, irrespective of whatever arguments you put forward .

Richnerd69:
You were judging me already, but extrapolating from my posts, I didn't give off any notion of never helping people other than ladies. You think I can't help my fellow man, It's very wrong of you to allude that.




I agree, she isn't decent in your opinion...

safarigirl:
she isn't decent in the opinion of sensible people, your agreement is inconsequential, since you need the internet to think for you.

Maybe if your daughter goes off to live with a man she has known for two weeks, you will be fine with it and the world will applaud your fathering skills.

Stop disturbing us here, since you think you have found the most decent and 'teachable' woman in the world, even your use of terms is codescending. She is 'teachable' as what? An animal or a baby? I hope you are just as teachable, you will both learn lessons from each other eventually

Take your indecisive self off the internet, and face the quagmire you have put yourself in like a man. If it turns out fine, good for you, if not, good for you too...for someone who recently came out of a rather bad break up like you claimed, you sure make rash decisions, it explains a lot about you.

Good night sir.

biggy26:
You are complicating issues by doubting your decision after making the decision. What motivated you to do what you did? If you were convinced then, then hold on to your conviction and do what you perceive to be right. Fear always come with decision making, but go with the peace inside.

On this journey: avoid body contact so your emotions don't get in the way and watch her. Just treat her like a friend and take notes. At the end of the day, if her positives out weigh her negatives and your heart is at peace, marry her!

safarigirl:
she isn't decent in the opinion of sensible people, your agreement is inconsequential, since you need the internet to think for you.

Maybe if your daughter goes off to live with a man she has known for two weeks, you will be fine with it and the world will applaud your fathering skills.

Stop disturbing us here, since you think you have found the most decent and 'teachable' woman in the world, even your use of terms is codescending. She is 'teachable' as what? An animal or a baby? I hope you are just as teachable, you will both learn lessons from each other eventually

Take your indecisive self off the internet, and face the quagmire you have put yourself in like a man. If it turns out fine, good for you, if not, good for you too...for someone who recently came out of a rather bad break up like you claimed, you sure make rash decisions, it explains a lot about you.

Good night sir.

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Funkyswagzz:
God this is painful to read. Dude? My God I'm just short of words. I really think u are lost how old are u?

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

safarigirl:
she isn't decent in the opinion of sensible people, your agreement is inconsequential, since you need the internet to think for you.

Maybe if your daughter goes off to live with a man she has known for two weeks, you will be fine with it and the world will applaud your fathering skills.

Stop disturbing us here, since you think you have found the most decent and 'teachable' woman in the world, even your use of terms is condescending. She is 'teachable' as what? An animal or a baby? I hope you are just as teachable, you will both learn lessons from each other eventually

Take your indecisive self off the internet, and face the quagmire you have put yourself in like a man. If it turns out fine, good for you, if not, good for you too...for someone who recently came out of a rather bad break up like you claimed, you sure make rash decisions, it explains a lot about you.

Good night sir.

Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

Equity15:
guy, you're wise abeg. if she's too easy, I bounce. just two weeks fa..total stranger

Richnerd69:
LOL. If she allows herself to be convinced by someone else and she eventually leaves, I'll inform her sister that she isn't under my care anymore. It's not like I'm investing my all in her. I just feel like I'm too forward with all this, tho I really like the babe and I want to help her.

smsreseller:
He is about 31yrs according to him. Lost his dad some years back and it has been painful for him. It is obvious he needs a father figure. Hope he gets a sincere uncle that can help fill in the gap.

Richnerd69:
All these are based on assumptions but it's also good to view the two sides of the coins and analyze the "maybes and what ifs". Well my younger sister stays with me also and she's usually in charge of my house but I've informed her I would be bringing someone over and it doesn't mean she would have to relax in executing her normal domestic duties, tho there would be times they both have to divide the labor amongst themselves but that would be much later.

I want them to be friends as my sister is very accommodating and humble. It was one of the reasons I wanted this girl to come stay, cuz she has some of my sister's traits and I think they would both make a good team .