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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Ghostnick: 3:52pm On Dec 12, 2019
1Sharon:


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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 3:59pm On Dec 12, 2019
Born2Freak:


Ibkayee, computergeek,

This is your sapiosexual. Someone that cannot make simple sensible comments.

Note that one of her crushes is meatloaf. The homie is 5ft 10.

This babe can talk out of both sides of her mouth




If only you had closed your mouth, we wouldn't have known that you lack the very basic ability to comprehend simple facts.

Ishilove doesn't even know who the hell you're talking about and she's been on this forum for 9 years. Maybe because she jokingly called him crush in a few random comments, you don go carry am for head.

Una no dey tire to nag on top wetin no concern una?

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Ishilove: 4:02pm On Dec 12, 2019
computergeek:
If only you had closed your mouth, we wouldn't have known that you lack the very basic ability to comprehend simple facts.

Ishilove doesn't even know who the hell you're talking about and she's been on this forum for 9 years. Maybe because she jokingly called him crush in a few random comments, you don go carry am for head.

Una no dey tire to nag on top wetin no concern una?
He is a troll who takes delight in displaying amazing stupidity. Meatloaf is a musician who trended in 80s. I had a crush him when I was a teenager, and THAT is what the empty headed troll is yapping about.

Silly, huh? Pay the gnome no mind, sis. I am used to his infantile shenanigans.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Born2Freak(f): 4:07pm On Dec 12, 2019
computergeek:
If only you had closed your mouth, we wouldn't have known that you lack the very basic ability to comprehend simple facts.

Ishilove doesn't even know who the hell you're talking about and she's been on this forum for 9 years. Maybe because she jokingly called him crush in a few random comments, you don go carry am for head.

Una no dey tire to nag on top wetin no concern una?



Lol.....it is clear that you are in her category of unintelligent people trying to act smart.

Madam computergeek, how do you know that she jokingly called meatloaf her crush? Do you just pull things out of your behind or are you a mind reader?

Please, Meatloaf is a musician. Crush as they come.


Furthermore, I have been on nairaland almost as long as ishilove and during that time, I learnt for a fact that she does not know much about international politics. Only for her to come here and claim that she was lecturing her ex on international affairs.


Think of me as the anti-bullshite detector.


Have a nice day. kiss

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 4:08pm On Dec 12, 2019
Ishilove:

He is a troll who takes delight in displaying amazing stupidity. Meatloaf is a musician who trended in 80s. I had a crush him when I was a teenager, and THAT is what the empty headed troll is yapping about.

Silly, huh? Pay the gnome no mind, sis. I am used to his infantile shenanigans.
Wait ooo... Meatloaf the singer of "It's all coming back to me now."

I love that song na, though I don't like the guy's brand of music in general. I thought he was talking about some random person with a meatloaf moniker on this forum.


People dey try like this to keep tabs on you shaa grin

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Born2Freak(f): 4:09pm On Dec 12, 2019
Ishilove:

He is a troll who takes delight in displaying amazing stupidity. Meatloaf is a musician who trended in 80s. I had a crush him when I was a teenager, and THAT is what the empty headed troll is yapping about.

Silly, huh? Pay the gnome no mind, sis. I am used to his infantile shenanigans.


You were a teenager in the 80s?

Mama di mama. Old cargo!

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by mrpaedo(m): 4:09pm On Dec 12, 2019
Ishilove:

Oga are you short? You sound like a short boy because it is usually short people that are overly defensive and spiteful over non-issues. My oga is 6'2. Specially selected so that I won't have to deal with the drama of you short people and your inferiority complex.
Ishilove,still thesame short woman with a short temper
Yes...I am short infact I am just slightly taller than aki and pawpaw but do you want to know something?I eventually figured out this relationship thingy between men and women and all i do now is win!...win!!...win!!!.My female options continue to expand exponentially as I grow older while you cuddle your pillow at night in place of your imaginary 6ft2 man cool

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Born2Freak(f): 4:11pm On Dec 12, 2019
computergeek:
Wait ooo... Meatloaf the singer of "It's all coming back to me now."

I love that song na, though I don't like the guy's brand of music in general. I thought he was talking about some random person with a meatloaf moniker on this forum.


People dey try like this to keep tabs on you shaa grin


I just have a good memory.

By the way, I'm a real sapiosexual. kiss

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by mrpaedo(m): 4:14pm On Dec 12, 2019
Born2Freak:



Bro, you deserve a bottle of stout for this comment.

My advice to guys is that they should hustle while young and improve their attitude so that they attract reasonable women. Not some old gagoos that come online to tell lies
Baba I got this memo many years ago cool

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Ishilove: 4:15pm On Dec 12, 2019
computergeek:
Wait ooo... Meatloaf the singer of "It's all coming back to me now."

I love that song na, though I don't like the guy's brand of music in general. I thought he was talking about some random person with a meatloaf moniker on this forum.


People dey try like this to keep tabs on you shaa grin
Hahahaha! The same MeatLoaf o. The one and only cheesy You see how stupid he is? grin grin

That one is keeping tabs because he has no life outside the internet. This is the only place that gives purpose to his meaningless existence, so the bile you see in his posts are a projection of his acute self loathing. I took some users' advice here and started ignoring him a long time ago. I only respond to his yapping when I have some free time on my hands and feel like adding colour to his life. cheesy
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Born2Freak(f): 4:18pm On Dec 12, 2019
Ishilove:

Hahahaha! The same MeatLoaf o. The one and only cheesy You see how stupid he is? grin grin

That one is keeping tabs because he has no life outside the internet. This is the only place that gives purpose to his meaningless existence, so the bile you see in his posts are a projection of his acute self loathing. I took some users' advice here and started ignoring him a long time ago. I only respond to his yapping when I have some free time on my hands and feel like adding colour to his life. cheesy



You have spent 9 years on nairaland.

The same nairaland where you were disgraced and sacked as a mod.

The same nairaland that your facebook info was leaked by some guys.

You keep coming back to fight trolls.



And somehow, I am the one without a life? Lol


Madam sapiosexual!

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Born2Freak(f): 4:20pm On Dec 12, 2019
mrpaedo:

Ishilove,still thesame short woman with a short temper
Yes...I am short infact I am just slightly taller than aki and pawpaw but do you want to know something?I eventually figured out this relationship thingy between men and women and all i do now is win!...win!!...win!!!.My female options continue to expand exponentially as I grow older while you cuddle your pillow at night in place of your imaginary 6ft2 man cool


I thought I was the only one who noticed her imaginary man. grin

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 4:37pm On Dec 12, 2019
Eye-opening thread.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by mrphysics(m): 4:42pm On Dec 12, 2019
Preshy561:

Alright. Happy Xmas in advance.
Same. Anything for me this Christmas? Anything for broke boys?
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Preshy561(f): 5:06pm On Dec 12, 2019
mrphysics:

Same. Anything for me this Christmas? Anything for broke boys?
grin
Yeah, the Blessings from above.
Though you aren't broke. grin
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 5:50pm On Dec 12, 2019
pocohantas:


Tosyne2much has never been any sensible. Even if he is on hiatus, he would be right on time to pull down. His isn't even trolling; it is who he is! Silly Ekiti dwelling NFA.

Tell him how his poly cert is a second class one and he would start crying. Yet, the element is here to belittle ladies he can NEVER go one on one with on any intellectual topic. Person wey them no even born am well to quote people outside Romance section. When no be say im no dey fear!!! grin



Have you ever been reasonable asides throwin trantrums av you ever created any intellectual post ursef, a profile comparism shows d tosyne guy is more impactful than yu've ever been here ... does academic grades really determine our achievement on d outside , frm zuckerberg to gates, dangote, soyinka which one had a uni. 1st class degree. do yu knw hw many 1st class & prof. work under these men
poco you're so full of yursef yet you work under a man, i am challenging you creat that intellectual topic n lets see if my guys won't beat you ladies hands down.
miseducation challenge stil up, i can see no lady as been able to creat a sensible female version, the ones that even tried are "nobody" by moniker 2day grin bring up d topics

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 6:10pm On Dec 12, 2019
[/quote ]

I wanted:

-Tall
-Italian half-caste with very yellow skin
-Gorgeous shoulder-length jet-black hair
- Eight packs grin
-Catholic like me
-Tech savvy like me
- Extremely intelligent
-Smiling and cheerful
- stinkingly rich
-God-fearing (ever lady's list features this, even the atheists grin)
- Cool-tempered
- light brown eyes
- full red lips (lol, I was literally dreaming for a man doll)
-Amazing in za oza room

And all the other regular stuff like loving, romantic, funny, caring, gentle, kind, and so on.

Yimnu, no be like that ooo... By the time I hit 21 - 22, me was not doing again grin. I just wanted someone with whom I shared a strong attraction. A decent man who had a good head on his shoulders, a steady source of income and ambition.

When my list became reasonable and meaningful, I guess I found one who checked out grin. Guess what? I married that "big head".

He had some of the qualities on my first list shaa, like he's Catholic and tech savvy, tall and intelligent. But uncle is not Italian, he has brown skin and he does not like smiling grin.

**********************

It's different when a woman decides that she does not want to get married. Marriage is not for everyone and society needs to evolve to a time when it stops shaming single ladies.

However, some who may really want to be married are getting held up by the unrealistic qualities they seek in a life partner. It's your life, sure, but only Jesus is perfect Nne. Chase attraction and compatibility and quit looking for perfection. This doesn't mean you should settle for the first shit-head that comes your way or over-lowering your standards, but let's try not to chase a reflection of our 8-year-old imaginations.

So ladies, what changed about your own list? Even if you're not married yet, give us your evolved status grin.
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Pocohantas, Ishilove and Bukatyne - The three musketeers grin. Come and get the party started here. My babes from the Diary section, Pateffy, Tiffany07, MelaninQueen, Henriettttta, Luckygurl, Hermionegranger, Bloomingbud, Peacefulhome, y'all get in here!
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Interesting read!!!Your choices,I applaud them but is it a naija thing that the desired preferences are often lowered ?!coz almost everyone does.I'm a happily married man with children and I think children for my generation were born in the 80s til now are what makes it difficult.We were told we can have everything but that's not true.Something we pinch ourselves out of.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 6:17pm On Dec 12, 2019
Twoclans:
My list was Simple

Tall (90% of the men in my family are very tall,I did not want them to bully my guy with height )

Catholic ( ohhh I am a staunch Catholic girl )

Not a spirikoko church boy (I can't come and be doing vigil to vigil ,for what naaahhhh)

Intelligent and smart (that is the only way any guy can match up to me,I have always been street smart )

Dark (I have NEVER dated a light complexion guy,we can't be competing for freshness/creams when we step out)


The only thing that has changed from the above list is that I am not so keen about a tall guy anymore .Ask me what happened ? Hmmmmmmmm after enjoying standing sex with a guy about the same height with me dammmmmmm what the hell do I need a tall guy for .Standing sex is bea

Interesting read!!!Good sex is indeed a treasure and can be addictive.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by SensualMan1(m): 6:21pm On Dec 12, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:
I can't say yet. I'm still growing, but I know it will evolve in time to come. For better or for worse is what I'm not sure about.

What's very consequential to me right now is a man who's highly intelligent (I'm very sapiosexual). It trips me to my feet when a man can engage me in an intelligent discourse.

* Have a great sense of responsibility (this isn't dependent on how rich he is. A man could be rich and be disinterested in your affairs).

* Love God. He should have a good relationship with God. I can't stress on this too much.

* Homely. Down to earth. Humble. Spiritual (not religious). Teachable. Reserved.

Above all, he MUST be my best friend.
But u r married naa... A contract marriage to a GreatResearcher. You wish all these in ur dream/next world?
I only pray u do not kill that man GreatResearcher and run away with his properties only to start living ur dreamland. No wonder u made him go off NL.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by pocohantas(f): 6:25pm On Dec 12, 2019
Jagajaga boy

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by QuintessentialW: 6:37pm On Dec 12, 2019
smeag0l:
Please, I just want to beg you in the name of God or whatever you serve, dont rush into this decision. Give it a whole lot of time and close watch. Like you know very well a lot of nigerians that go abroad overstay and have issue with papers and in a bid to get a permanent residency or even green card they marry a foreign woman on contract and then come home to marry the nigerian lady. Some of them Marry the nigerian lady keep her here and come home once a year to impregnate her while they keep their white wives abroad. Please before making your decision to marry him, let him arrange a visitor's visa for you to visit him there and see how he lives his life, what he does, if he stays alone, if he has a family there etc and after your introduction, let him arrange a permanent visa for you. Please do not make the mistake of getting pregnant for him till you get married and he takes you over there otherwise you may have just wasted your youth. I've given you my two cents from repetitive experiences.

Thank you for giving her such a heartfelt, candid advice. God bless you.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 6:39pm On Dec 12, 2019
tosyne2much:
Never take all these miserable self-proclaimed "sapiosexual" ladies serious jawe

Even the ones that are old enough to be grandmothers are dragging the romance section with kids.. What a shame! grin

To them, your grades determines your success. In this era where technology has eliminated 50% of white collar job

Can't you just see how warped their mentality is?
With all the mouth wey dem dey run for this platform, they are actually working for someone while the person they throw tantrums against works for no one

Very miserable set of ladies




You knw the funnily thing about poco .. are inner most desire is to find a man on NL, the day guys here wil see her picture or what she looks like is the day d few ones sliding into her DM will realised she not worth more than an average gurl next door, her mouth is so much bigger than her tit & ass, ....never take dem serious.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by pocohantas(f): 6:44pm On Dec 12, 2019
"the day guys here wil see her picture or what she looks like is the day d few ones sliding into her DM will realised she not worth more than an average gurl next door"

This one no kuku get sense. Have I ever claimed to be more than the girl next door? I always say it, I am THE GIRL NEXT DOOR.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by QuintessentialW: 6:56pm On Dec 12, 2019
Asour:



Hahaha!

Are there really dumb personalities ? Or just people with whom you don't have shared interests.

It's funny how we Nigerians tend to reduce intelligence to being able to "hold conversations on International politics/economics".

What if that is not my Kettle of fish? I become dumb?
What if my interests are in Deep sea exploration or Big data analytics or even recent developments in cancer research ? Can you also have meaningful conversations on those?

Some see International politics/economics as pretentious conjectures, where everyone is an expert — while the subject discussed is completely outside the control of the discussants.

Ego might be what's at play sometimes.
It forces some of us to indulge in interests we don't really care about deeply.

It always seems nice being able to make "contributions" to public discussions on int'l politics but it shouldn't mean those who can't/don't are dumb.

Intelligence, while good, is not as effective as people imagine though. I would always prefer resourcefulness.


God help us.

Are you single? Can we get married already?
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by QuintessentialW: 7:08pm On Dec 12, 2019
Godsfavour78:
is this the type of man you are or the qualities you want in a woman? HP 4gb?

You cracked me up, man! cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Born2Freak(f): 7:11pm On Dec 12, 2019
pocohantas:


Same section your life revolved around, not just because you were miserable- but because you don't even have the brain power to step out. Continue projecting your inner evil thoughts on people. It is it that will consume you! cheesy

I sha know say I done enter you today grin


Madam. I'm feeling you
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 7:55pm On Dec 12, 2019
SensualMan1:
But u r married naa... A contract marriage to a GreatResearcher. You wish all these in ur dream/next world?
I only pray u do not kill that man GreatResearcher and run away with his properties only to start living ur dreamland. No wonder u made him go off NL.

shocked shocked shocked
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Dec 12, 2019
ericsmith:




You knw the funnily thing about poco .. are inner most desire is to find a man on NL, the day guys here wil see her picture or what she looks like is the day d few ones sliding into her DM will realised she not worth more than an average gurl next door, her mouth is so much bigger than her tit & ass, ....never take dem serious.
shocked shocked shocked Have you seen her before?
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Dec 12, 2019
Ariza:
shocked shocked shocked
Inside life. Things are really happening on this forum cheesy cheesy

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