MrNipplesLover:



sorry, ladies. I know this thread is specifically for you. but, I wanna jonz small


one thing I have known about our Nigerian women (though, not all) is that, they become mature in the head when they are older (let's say in their very late 20s-early 30s) - relationship-wise, though.


from the few comments I could read in this thread, I think my knowledge about women is still much valid and realistic.


women have two types of dream man in their lives: 1) the dream man they have while they are still young, and 2), the dream man they have when they are ready to settle down. this is when the reality has become obvious to them.


well, everybody does have that (men not excluded).


so, reading from women in this thread, I have learned one or two things more about how women choose their men and make their choices when it comes to being "real" with themselves.


this is why I can't, and won't court with a lady younger than 26yrs old (yeah, in my early 30s), cos I know the stage when a woman start thinking and acting like a real woman and when they think like a 'girl', this is not hard to know anyways.



I also got to know how some women take sexual capacity of their dream men into consideration. wow! this is one of the things already in place, and I pray it matches my future woman's cos I can't stand a woman who complains about a man being sexually active and strong. this one can cause wahala


also, the financial, intelligence and appearance aspects, I thank God I'm not lacking any. but, there is "but" here


and the 'but' is: if you are looking for a man who is politically intelligent, pls, I'm not your dream man. cos my hatred for politics is second to none. almost failed government subject in high school but thank God . also, not too conversant with foreign affairs, but at least, I know some.



kai! make I stop my jonzing here ooh, before them start throwing bottles at me.


please, I'm not looking for a wife ooh.
cos I know some people would wanna say that I'm stylishly looking for a woman here.
please, that's not my purpose here.


if you can understand my ziggy, you should know that I'm not one to be your dream man.
so, please, I aint looking for a woman here.



good morning, ladies and gentle men.

Ishilove:
Sister computergeek, to be sincerely honest...the below was my list when I was younger and still had stars in my eyes.

Tall
Dark
Handsome
Stinkingly rich
Muscular
Dick_ must be the size of orobo Pepsi bottle (make me walk like a duck, honey)
More intelligent than I am.
A lover of arts
A man on fire for God.

I read romance novels briefly in my teens but I abandoned them because I could not connect with them. Why does the hero always have to be handsome? Is love meant for only handsome people? I would read M&B, and then after reading look round and still see the same strong, sun hardened faces of my Nigerian brothers who didn't have the faintest idea about chivalry. Chivalry is dead. Bleh. Romance novels fill your head with nonsense.


And then I grew up! With maturity comes a more realistic worldview. Many times God doesn't give us want we want but what we need. He works in mysterious ways and he knows what will benefit us, even when we are crying and tearing our hair and demanding...may, begging for the perfect man. He doesn't give us the perfect man; he gives us the man who is perfect for us.

Nature strives for balance, which is why opposites attract. That's why introverts attract extroverts. Garrulous people attract taciturn people, hot tempered folks cope best with cool as ice people. That's why you must always factor the Maker of All Creation itself when choosing a partner, and ultimately, allow Him to select for you. TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE GIVING HIM PERMISSION TO LET HIS PERFECT WILL BE DONE.


With maturity my list evolved to-

God fearing. A man on fire for God.

Comfortable (who stinking rich epp? ) I have a well paying job, Mr Right must have one too.

Intelligent. No compromise on that one. God help you your kids take after your less than intelligent partner. You will spend all your money on private tutors.

Must be a tiger in za oza room. The size of his jabulani didn't seem so important anymore, as long as it worked well and could make me purrrrr like a satisfied pussy...cat

One who complemented me in every way amd would take me as his lover, companion and best friend.

That definitely made more sense than big dicked, muscular fellows who would probably end up losing all those toned muscles, replacing them with Uber flabs, and then become unattractive to me in middle age.

Ishilove:

Sapiosexuality is not a myth. There's something very sexy about a man who can hold his own in a conversation without boring you to tears. I once dated one very unintelligent fellow some years back before fleeing. When I talked about international politics he would stare at me blankly, forcing me to stutter to a stop. I can almost swear a couple of brain cells atrophied during my brief dalliance with the young man.

That was when I knew I couldn't compromise on the quality of grey matter. Very handsome fellow but dumb as fvck. What was i thinking??!

Gforce2015:


Though it's good to marry an intelligent person but what gives you the assurances that your kids will be intelligent because you marry an Intelligent person. Haven't you seen a stack illiterate son doing well in life? Think about it.

mimilogs:
There is nothing bad if you decide to try your luck here. There is no law or rule that forbids a man searching for a woman online or on this forum, in fact, if young, single Nigerians were wise enough, this big forum ought to be a place they could mingle, make true friends, find love, meet their life partners because this forum gets huge traffic, which comprises of people from all works of life; rich, poor, influential, and unknown.


Any lady that knows what she wants and not pretentious can find a great partner from this forum, same with guys.

So don't rule out the possibility of meeting a nice lady from here, your future partner maybe reading this thread unknown to you

Gforce2015:


Though it's good to marry an intelligent person but what gives you the assurances that your kids will be intelligent because you marry an Intelligent person. Haven't you seen a stack illiterate son doing well in life? Think about it.

Ishilove:
Sister computergeek, to be sincerely honest...the below was my list when I was younger and still had stars in my eyes.

Tall
Dark
Handsome
Stinkingly rich
Muscular
Dick_ must be the size of orobo Pepsi bottle (make me walk like a duck, honey)
More intelligent than I am.
A lover of arts
A man on fire for God.

I read romance novels briefly in my teens but I abandoned them because I could not connect with them. Why does the hero always have to be handsome? Is love meant for only handsome people? I would read M&B, and then after reading look round and still see the same strong, sun hardened faces of my Nigerian brothers who didn't have the faintest idea about chivalry. Chivalry is dead. Bleh. Romance novels fill your head with nonsense.


And then I grew up! With maturity comes a more realistic worldview. Many times God doesn't give us want we want but what we need. He works in mysterious ways and he knows what will benefit us, even when we are crying and tearing our hair and demanding...may, begging for the perfect man. He doesn't give us the perfect man; he gives us the man who is perfect for us.

Nature strives for balance, which is why opposites attract. That's why introverts attract extroverts. Garrulous people attract taciturn people, hot tempered folks cope best with cool as ice people. That's why you must always factor the Maker of All Creation itself when choosing a partner, and ultimately, allow Him to select for you. TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE GIVING HIM PERMISSION TO LET HIS PERFECT WILL BE DONE.


With maturity my list evolved to-

God fearing. A man on fire for God.

Comfortable (who stinking rich epp? ) I have a well paying job, Mr Right must have one too.

Intelligent. No compromise on that one. God help you your kids take after your less than intelligent partner. You will spend all your money on private tutors.

Must be a tiger in za oza room. The size of his jabulani didn't seem so important anymore, as long as it worked well and could make me purrrrr like a satisfied pussy...cat

One who complemented me in every way amd would take me as his lover, companion and best friend.

That definitely made more sense than big dicked, muscular fellows who would probably end up losing all those toned muscles, replacing them with Uber flabs, and then become unattractive to me in middle age.

fatymore:
Good Muslim guys are hard to come by.

What you see now is half and half,

Either he is too religious or not serious.

My dream guy was a Muslim, one who prays regularly, doesn't drink or smoke...

Intelligent and handsome and must be a social person which are so rare to see.

But now sha get small sense to justify what is right and wrong with enough money.

kingofthemall:


Hmmmm, how I wish we could make it work

fatymore:

bigfrancis21:


Another coming-of-age change I noticed: Ex Evangelist Ishi became less Agu-nwanyitic and less Igbophobic...

kingofthemall:

Abi, talk nah,I'm already in your DM. You could even be someone I know

computergeek:
That's not what she's asking. She says she's not used to trying to strike up relationships with people she was "introduced to". It's easier to move to the next level from friendship. The financial stability part is just a fact in a case.

Ishilove:

Sapiosexuality is not a myth. There's something very sexy about a man who can hold his own in a conversation without boring you to tears. I once dated one very unintelligent fellow some years back before fleeing. When I talked about international politics he would stare at me blankly, forcing me to stutter to a stop. I can almost swear a couple of brain cells atrophied during my brief dalliance with the young man.

That was when I knew I couldn't compromise on the quality of grey matter. Very handsome fellow but dumb as fvck. What was i thinking??!

biotechshola:


His inability to flow with you on matters of international politics doesn't make him intelligent, going by the definition of intelligence though.

BreconHills:


Man speaking with a son who has completed NYSC ( I married very very early)

It can take time to get to know someone but just how much time is relative. Marriage often draws out traits that were only very vague shadows before marriage. This is because a lot happens as a result of interactions between two difficults trying to fuse. Success then changes from knowledge of a person to resilience and adaptability. Anyone who wants to remain unchanged after marriage should probably remain single.

Having said that, warning are always out there in front of one. Many times they are ignored. But I dont think the lady in question should be too scared. Success in marriage largely depends on we evolve and whether that evolution is towards our spouse or away from them. Even if it is away from them, the next question is how good ur refining equiptment is. You can filter out the stuff you dont like and build on what you love. The best marital teams are complementary not twins. Marriage takes work. Not for the emotionally fragile. But it's beautiful.

I have said enough.

Gforce2015:


Though it's good to marry an intelligent person but what gives you the assurances that your kids will be intelligent because you marry an Intelligent person. Haven't you seen a stack illiterate son doing well in life? Think about it.

Ishilove:

There is a big difference between unintelligent and illiterate

luminouz:

Your comment made me laugh out loud especially the sun hardened guys part. No blame us,na hustle we dey.
Your other points are deliciously well grounded and logical. Romance bores me.mom had a full library filled with M&B and Harlequin novels. I read them to improve my English while very young, that's all. The concept of such stereotypical love is way off reality and even while around 9 years or so,I already knew that. I just want to have peace in any marriage I go into,if I ever decide to marry. Being a human is hard enough.


N.B:
You always had a very matured outlook on NL,something so rare around here. You are one of the few I look out for their comments.

Peace!!!

computergeek:
Ishi dem don mention you tire for this thread Shuo!

And each mention is as good mentioning me too cos you wrote my name on your post. Shaa leave it o. Lemme be reading along.

Ishilove:

Your threads are always such fun, and you write so well!

computergeek:
Ladies, let's gist.


I wanted:

-Tall
-Italian half-caste with very yellow skin
-Gorgeous shoulder-length jet-black hair
- Eight packs
-Catholic like me

ibkayee:
I had this weird obsession with him having natural bags under his eyes like this lool, like this was the standard and there was absolutely no settling for less

MedicH:


What's special with periorbital puffiness? I'm kinda lost. Your possibility of getting married depends on a condition that occurs in one out of 10k men below 35. Most girls are not just intelligent.