Starlight10:
listening to him speak would have captivated me, i would have followed him about and sleep wherever he slept. A man of great wisdom is hard to come by now, and I did not say wise men ohh. So many guys think they are wise but they lack wisdowisdom.

Ishilove:

Sapiosexuality is not a myth. There's something very sexy about a man who can hold his own in a conversation without boring you to tears. I once dated one very unintelligent fellow some years back before fleeing. When I talked about international affairs he would stare at me blankly, forcing me to stutter to a stop. I can almost swear a couple of brain cells atrophied during my brief dalliance with the young man.

That was when I knew I couldn't compromise on the quality of grey matter. Very handsome fellow but dumb as fvck. What was i thinking??!

computergeek:
I'm laughing so hard at this. Days of "what are you wearing" indeed my dear ;

The one wey dey vex me pass that time na "Have you eaten?" And if you say no, they won't buy you food.


Bia Poco, this burnt plantain meal on your D.p is signifying what exactly? zero yards wife material lol...

ibkayee:
I had this weird obsession with him having natural bags under his eyes like this lool, like this was the standard and there was absolutely no settling for less

UyaiIncomparabl:
I can't say yet. I'm still growing, but I know it will evolve in time to come. For better or for worse is what I'm not sure about.

What's very consequential to me right now is a man who's highly intelligent (I'm very sapiosexual). It trips me to my feet when a man can engage me in an intelligent discourse.

* Have a great sense of responsibility (this isn't dependent on how rich he is. A man could be rich and be disinterested in your affairs).

* Love God. He should have a good relationship with God. I can't stress on this too much.

* Homely. Down to earth. Humble. Spiritual (not religious). Teachable. Reserved.

Above all, he MUST be my best friend.

Ishilove:
Sister computergeek, to be sincerely honest...the below was my list when I was younger and still had stars in my eyes.

Tall
Dark
Handsome
Stinkingly rich
Muscular
Dick_ must be the size of orobo Pepsi bottle (make me walk like a duck, honey)
More intelligent than I am.
A lover of arts
A man on fire for God.

I read romance novels briefly in my teens but I abandoned them because I could not connect with them. Why does the hero always have to be handsome? Is love meant for only handsome people? I would read M&B, and then after reading look round and still see the same strong, sun hardened faces of my Nigerian brothers who didn't have the faintest idea about chivalry. Chivalry is dead. [

Bleh. Romance novels fill your head with nonsense.


And then I grew up! With maturity comes a more realistic worldview. Many times God doesn't give us want we want but what we need. He works in mysterious ways and he knows what will benefit us, even when we are crying and tearing our hair and demanding...nay, begging for the perfect man. He doesn't give us the perfect man; he gives us the man who is perfect for us.

Nature strives for balance, which is why opposites attract. That's why introverts attract extroverts. Garrulous people attract taciturn people, hot tempered folks cope best with cool as ice people. That's why you must always factor the Maker of All Creation itself when choosing a partner, and ultimately, allow Him to select for you. TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE GIVING HIM PERMISSION TO LET HIS PERFECT WILL BE DONE.


With maturity my list evolved to-

God fearing. A man on fire for God.

Comfortable (who stinking rich epp? ) I have a well paying job, Mr Right must have one too.

Intelligent. No compromise on that one. God help you your kids take after your less than intelligent partner. You will spend all your money on private tutors.

Must be a tiger in za oza room. The size of his jabulani didn't seem so important anymore, as long as it worked well and could make me purrrrr like a satisfied pussy...cat

One who complemented me in every way amd would take me as his lover, companion and best friend.

That definitely made more sense than big dicked, muscular fellows who would probably end up losing all those toned muscles, replacing them with Uber flabs, and then become unattractive to me in middle age. Come with all your flabs and warts so we know what we are having from the outset.

seunmohmoh:
Coming of age= I admired young cute athletic white man. Now = I want to get married to a very cute white guy and have kids.

That's what changed- KIDS

trutht828:


If physical appearance forms the fulcrum of your so-called standards, then you may find yourself being single at above 30 or ending up as a baby mama to a physically handsome man, who may not be mature enough to be a husband or may not be ready for commitment.

You've been on this forum for some time now, which means you are not a child anymore; don't you think it is high time you snapped out of those childish, unreal, nollywood-inspired expectations?

RealMrNigerD:


Intelligence is relative you know. But I've learnt in life that one ultimately attracts people in the class of their intelligence. If you would get an intelligent one, then, you'd have to be about that intelligent. I'll give you the benefit of doubt that you are at least to a degree intelligent for even desiring an intelligent one. That said, I would like to ask something. I was on your thread the other day where you sought for a suitor with certain attributes, you claimed to be getting old, under pressure from family, about 35 or so. A few months later, here you are still growing, apparently no longer under pressure(having all the time for an evolution of your taste), patiently projecting a future man from an seemingly relaxed position.
1. My first question, mam, is do you have an intelligent explanation for how you're still 'growing' after '35' years at which you should be all grown up and how under pressure(that increases with time), you have enough time for your taste to evolve?
2. Second, if you got a man as intelligent as your display in posting two contradictory posts within months, will you trip for him?
3. Third, if you lied in either post, would you accept a man that tells lies like you?

omolorlarh:


These are my qualities too except that I would have added a tall man. May our heart desires be granted.

AntiMCU:

So because he's not conversant about international politics, he's dumb.

Are you aware we're smart in some topics and dumb in others?

For your mind..

Mtcheww.

Starlight10:
listening to him speak would have captivated me, i would have followed him about and sleep wherever he slept. A man of great wisdom is hard to come by now, and I did not say wise men ohh. So many guys think they are wise but they lack wisdowisdom.

Luckygurl:
Nothing has really changed in the way I pictured my dream guy.
I've never been so keen on facial appearance or him been handsome. Just give me a man with a good dress sense and body build.
He should be significantly older than me

Someone who loves God and is from a close knitted family and finally someone with a purpose.

Well! I'm still waiting for the dream guy while I mould myself into his dream woman

CastingCrowns:
My Preference Didnt Change Much.. When I Was Younger I Wanted A Tall, Very Intelligent,confident, Good Bad Boy That Is Ambitous And Has Drive And Very Neat Cause I Am An Extreme Neat Freak...At This Stage I Have To Add Compatible And Godfearing.. But Not All This Over Churchy Type.

luminouz:


I Like your nose

Oya coman take me for free.

CastingCrowns:
Lol Thanks.. I ll have to to think about it.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Don't get it twisted. It was just a troll thread.

RealMrNigerD:

I see. So you do lie, for your own perceived 'justified' reasons and laugh over it like it's nothing when called out. That's not very 'spiritual', do you think? So you disqualify yourself for your dream man by not matching all his qualities. If the divine matchmaker is in anyway just, he should never give you the man you desire. I think you should begin now to modify your taste to what you qualify for, for justice sake, yeah?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Lol. Na you sabi if you no understand say na joke joor. Good things always come my way so I don't need your validation.

luminouz:


I'm sure she meant general knowledge, not specialist stuff.

Anywhere in her post where she indicated that?

AntiMCU:

Anywhere in her post where she indicated that?

luminouz:


Today na Sunday...

No carry ur animosity reach my side.

Its simple logic...

Your definition of logic you mean.

Funny, you're the only one that sees that it that way.

About five other folks after me said the same thing to the Op.

Go and correct them na, Mr Logic

AntiMCU:

Your definition of logic you mean.

Funny, you're the only one that sees that it that way.

About five other folks after me said the same thing to the Op.

Go and correct them na, Mr Logic

luminouz:


[s]
I'm alien so I see deeper than u humans. You hammered on the literal but I dig deeper into the subliminal. Like I said, your emotions beclouded your judgement and the others. I saw the way you twisted everything and I just let you be. Trust me,if she had meant only international politics,I would have come for her myself. A man should have general knowledge and be widely read.

My last reply.[/s]

CastingCrowns:
My Preference Didnt Change Much.. When I Was Younger I Wanted A Tall, Very Intelligent,confident, Good Bad Boy That Is Ambitous And Has Drive And Very Neat Cause I Am An Extreme Neat Freak...At This Stage I Have To Add Compatible And Godfearing.. But Not All This Over Churchy Type.

mrpaedo:

Ishilove,still thesame short woman with a short temper
Yes...I am short infact I am just slightly taller than aki and pawpaw but do you want to know something?I eventually figured out this relationship thingy between men and women and all i do now is win!...win!!...win!!!.My female options continue to expand exponentially as I grow older while you cuddle your pillow at night in place of your imaginary 6ft2 man

OgaBuhari:
omo this one deep chai

luminouz:


*singing hymns*


Look no more Ye Faithful,
Joyful and Triumphant,
Here come to Ye,Luminouz
Riding on the chariots of faith and love and bodybuild,
He comes with a dazzling smile and older than you..
Good dress sense hath God blessed him with..
O say no more, embrace him with joy.

Chorus:

Embrace him with joy
Give him pounded yam and vegetable
Embrace him (4x)
Embrace him with joy (2x)

Repeat till fade.



I'm in a clownish mood tonight

Luckygurl:
.

Lmao

You got me loling