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Hey guys... What's good? Hope this thread meets you at a great time.


Now, this post is majorly for dem guys but hey! Y'all ladies might wanna hang around and chip in a few comments if you so please.

On to the main point of creating this thread. I've stayed around Nairaland long enough and seen a lot of preachers of red pills, blue pills and cockroach brown pills that'd help guys wise up and up their dating game.... I follow Many of these preachers and learn a few tips from them also - Chipped in my own comments too on their posts

Consequently, I've gotten quite a few messages over two years from comments I've made of guys asking me to help up their dating game. Each of these guys have tried the red pills and blue pills and have collided balls first into ladies defensive walls.. coming off as blatantly arrogant, overly cocky and ridiculously egoistic or simply chatting with this distorted type of humour that doesn't just fit in a bid to show confidence.


Confidence.... Confidence.... Confidence! You can't project confidence that isn't there or true... You just can't .. all you're projecting is false confidence and any lady with her sense wrapped around her head like an head tie will smell it along with your insecurity a mile away.. They always do.

You can't tweak a sensible girl into thinking she likes you when she's not interested or attracted.... And you only ever want to attract someone sensible

True confidence must stem from something..( not implying baseless factors like the size of za Dickson or length of time when doing the do ).. Intelligence, vulnerability ( Knowing you're human and accepting your flaws), skillfulness at a particular thing, having emotions and all... I'm talking solid factors that can actually be valued.. That's what you should pull your confidence from. Not making up one inexistent weak confidence from somewhere - you really are not helping your life.


Whatever confidence you possess when going after a woman is likely the same confidence you'll use to pursue your dreams.. that's my Red Pill. Develop true confidence, Value yourself and be you (Accept all to flaws and short comings. You're human and she is too)

Look at many men with the most beautiful women or wives - A plethora of them are wealthy, living comfortably or hustling hard and productively (They might be broke but their necks are always high up and the confidence they use when going after their dreams is still the confidence they use when going for a girl).


What am I saying? False confidence will get you a little of the good stuff in life and with women.. that you have to cook up confidence from somewhere to go after a lady is most likely an indication that you have been going through life with little or no confidence.

Develop yourself man.. read, learn, project emotions - actually matter wherever you find yourself... Self improvement and value addition is key.. strive to be a better version of yourself everytime.

I can bet a few ladies here have been face to face or shullai say "chat to chat" with a guy who ozzed false confidence .... These guys most probably didn't hit third base too.

I hereby call this the Indigo blue Pill.

Wheeew.. 1am and I typed all that

NevetsIbot:
Confidence.... Confidence.... Confidence! You can't project confidence that isn't there or true... You just can't .. all you're projecting is false confidence and any lady with her sense wrapped around her head like an head tie will smell it along with your insecurity a mile away.. They always do.

What do you mean you can't project confidence that isn't there? There nothing like false confidence. Confidence is having faith or relying on something or someone (who can be oneself) so how then can you falsely rely or have faith on something or someone ( who can be oneself)?

You can't tweak a sensible girl into thinking she likes you when she's not interested or attracted.... And you only ever want to attract someone sensible

Now you got the whole movement all wrong. The redpill doesn't teach you how to tweak a girl into liking you. But rather to tell you the manipulation of these women so that when things go sour you wouldn't loose. It doesn't even teach how to get a girl let alone attract one. But it shows you potential girls to meet with low risk of rejectio for those who have phobia for rejection.

True confidence must stem from something..( not implying baseless factors like the size of za Dickson or length of time when doing the do ).. Intelligence, vulnerability ( Knowing you're human and accepting your flaws), skillfulness at a particular thing, having emotions and all... I'm talking solid factors that can actually be valued.. That's what you should pull your confidence from. Not making up one inexistent weak confidence from somewhere - you really are not helping your life.

True confidence stems from knowing your ability to succeed and not fail and also your ability to withstand the shock of failing. What will you call a man who knows the highest a lady he is going after will tell him is "no"?

Whatever confidence you possess when going after a woman is likely the same confidence you'll use to pursue your dreams.. that's my Red Pill. Develop true confidence, Value yourself and be you (Accept all to flaws and short comings. You're human and she is too)

This is very wrong. Some people are very timid when it comes to women but are very confident in their careers that they are very successful. Some just don't take women ish too seriously like there are folks who once you say "no" the first time they back out. Does that mean they are the Unserious type in their career? Their are people who are very good with women to the point they can get any woman be it a nun married or not but are very unserious with their career...
What you should have said is "instead of putting all that energy into being a womanizer, why don't you use it in your career hat will be beneficial to you.

What am I saying? False confidence will get you a little of the good stuff in life and with women.. that you have to cook up confidence from somewhere to go after a lady is most likely an indication that you have been going through life with little or no confidence.

Again there's nothing like false confidence.

Ubunja
Martinez39
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And fuvk you GreenMist21 for getting me banned.

YourTitties:
What do you mean you can't project confidence that isn't there? There nothing like false confidence. Confidence is having faith or relying on something or someone (who can be oneself) so how then can you falsely rely or have faith on something or someone ( who can be oneself)?


Now you got the whole movement all wrong. The redpill doesn't teach you how to tweak a girl into liking you. But rather to tell you the manipulation of these women so that when things go sour you wouldn't loose. It doesn't even teach how to get a girl let alone attract one. But it shows you potential girls to meet with low risk of rejectio for those who have phobia for rejection.


True confidence stems from knowing your ability to succeed and not fail and also your ability to withstand the shock of failing. What will you call a man who knows the highest a lady he is going after will tell him is "no"?


This is very wrong. Some people are very timid when it comes to women but are very confident in their careers that they are very successful. Some just don't take women ish too seriously like there are folks who once you say "no" the first time they back out. Does that mean they are the Unserious type in their career? Their are people who are very good with women to the point they can get any woman be it a nun married or not but are very unserious with their career...
What you should have said is "instead of putting all that energy into being a womanizer, why don't you use it in your career hat will be beneficial to you.

Again there's nothing like false confidence.

Ubunja
Martinez39
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And fuvk you GreenMist21 for getting me banned.

Hey man... I get you but here I'm not talking about the dictionary meaning of the word confidence. I knew I'd probably be misunderstood... Contextually the confidence I meant here refers to the energy ,courage, force or zeal these guys use day to day. It's not about faith or as you say falsely rely.

When I say false confidence - I'm saying a zeal or energy that is not coming from a solid foundation.



I have studied all these red pills... They work.. I've seen them work but most times, we should be honest with ourselves, they're manipulative.... A guy going for red pills only wants to phuck. A guy once showed me his chat... Girl was not interested in him and he used all the red pill gimmicks on her and actually made her feel bad for not being attracted to him in the first place. Ion know how you view redpills but they make a girl who's not interested in you curious enough to want to know you and should I say "blocks her own say" - talking about guys having the balls.

Now, your definition of True confidence, I gree with. A man who know a girl can tell him no at any time and accept it is a truly confident man. Tell me you've not see loads of guys who take the redpills without true confidence come and talk about;
1. How she means a lot to him and he can't live without her. His world is falling apart for her.
2. How he wants to phuck her for revenge.
3. He's throwing in the towel.. he can't take it no more.
Does that speak confidence?

As for your fourth point... If you took note of my vocabulary, you'd realize I used words like "some, most and a few of".... I wasn't generalising.


I'd still argue that false confidence is a thing.....


Good morning bruh.

NevetsIbot:
Hey man... I get you but here I'm not talking about the dictionary meaning of the word confidence. I knew I'd probably be misunderstood... Contextually the confidence I meant here refers to the energy ,courage, force or zeal these guys use day to day. It's not about faith or as you say falsely rely.

When I say false confidence - I'm saying a zeal or energy that is not coming from a solid foundation.



I have studied all these red pills... They work.. I've seen them work but most times, we should be honest with ourselves, they're manipulative.... A guy going for red pills only wants to phuck. A guy once showed me his chat... Girl was not interested in him and he used all the red pill gimmicks on her and actually made her feel bad for not being attracted to him in the first place. Ion know how you view redpills but they make a girl who's not interested in you curious enough to want to know you and should I say "blocks her own say" - talking about guys having the balls.

Now, your definition of True confidence, I gree with. A man who know a girl can tell him no at any time and accept it is a truly confident man. Tell me you've not see loads of guys who take the redpills without true confidence come and talk about;
1. How she means a lot to him and he can't live without her. His world is falling apart for her.
2. How he wants to phuck her for revenge.
3. He's throwing in the towel.. he can't take it no more.
Does that speak confidence?

As for your fourth point... If you took note of my vocabulary, you'd realize I used words like "some, most and a few of".... I wasn't generalising.


I'd still argue that false confidence is a thing.....


Good morning bruh.

Your attachments in this post makes my point easy.

If a man has a good dose of self-respect and self-esteem, he would not want to sleep around. He would look for a girl inclined with his beliefs and chase her. If after all said and done, she says no, he counts it as her loss and move on. He is very sure that he is quality material (not money) and knows the value he is bringing to any woman lucky enough to be his. He doesn't need games (who builds anything solid on games)? He also avoids loose women who have nothing apart from sex to offer him.

If a woman has a good deal of self-respect and self-esteem, she knows the kind of men suitable for her. Low quality men wouldn't even come for her because they cannot invest what is needed to get her. They need cheap thrills so naturally would not waste their resources on quality. If a low quality guy mistakenly chases her, she tells him no politely and move on. (No is not 'I will think about it while collecting his gifts'. Else, you are a low quality girl no matter what your exterior looks like). Such a girl does not fall for the gimmicks and tricks of play boys and other low quality men. A man/guy who is seeking her knows he has to be worthy of her and treat her with respect.

The problem is that too too many men & women lack self-respect and self-esteem in Nigeria.

That's why they base their worth on the number of women they sleep with, no of men's money they chopped, how they maltreat people, they fall for people who don't respect them when they don't even see any good in themselves. They twist and adjust like chameleons to whomever they are with instead of laying their cards (strength, flaws, hope, dreams, aspirations) etc on the table and letting their partners choose to the with the real them.

That's why they don't respect themselves and hop from bed to bed, claim the devil made them do something, cheat about with their partners, claim to be things they are not, blame the society for their choices etc.

Nigerian parents need to really do better raising up kids that are content with themselves and in them selves.

bukatyne:
Your attachments in this post makes my point easy.

If a man has a good dose of self-respect and self-esteem, he would not want to sleep around. He would look for a girl inclined with his beliefs and chase her. If after all said and done, she says no, he counts it as her loss and move on. He is very sure that he is quality material (not money) and knows the value he is bringing to any woman lucky enough to be his. He doesn't need games (who builds anything solid on games)? He also avoids loose women who have nothing apart from sex to offer him.

If a woman has a good deal of self-respect and self-esteem, she knows the kind of men suitable for her. Low quality men wouldn't even come for her because they cannot invest what is needed to get her. They need cheap thrills so naturally would not waste their resources on quality. If a low quality guy mistakenly chases her, she tells him no politely and move on. (No is not 'I will think about it while collecting his gifts'. Else, you are a low quality girl no matter what your exterior looks like). Such a girl does not fall for the gimmicks and tricks of play boys and other low quality men. A man/guy who is seeking her knows he has to be worthy of her and treat her with respect.

The problem is that too too many men & women lack self-respect and self-esteem in Nigeria.

That's why they base their worth on the number of women they sleep with, no of men's money they chopped, how they maltreat people, they fall for people who don't respect them when they don't even see any good in themselves. They twist and adjust like chameleons to whomever they are with instead of laying their cards (strength, flaws, hope, dreams, aspirations) etc on the table and letting their partners choose to the with the real them.

That's why they don't respect themselves and hop from bed to bed, claim the devil made them do something, cheat about with their partners, claim to be things they are not, blame the society for their choices etc.

Nigerian parents need to really do better raising up kids that are content with themselves and in them selves.

The right word I think Nevestlbot is looking for is Self-respect and Self-esteem. These two words means what the OP is trying to present and not the false confidence thingy. Lack of confidence or false confidence isn't the same as lack of self-esteem and self-respect and also doesn't mean what you @op is trying to put up but rather self-esteem and self-respect means what bukatyne is trying to put up. I'd give you an example: because the wrong person is wielding power like PMB of Nigeria would you say power is bad?
And because respectable men Like Macron is at the helms of power in France would you say power is good?

Power is deviod of good and bad regardless of whoevee wields it. Redpill isn't the problem but personality.

I also got a mail from one nairalander her on how he could get his girl to love him if I've got any redpill to do it for him, I told him simply you won't get what you are looking for from her because he wanted to bang and leave the girl. I told him to forget about her and move on and the nigger blocked me. It all depends on personality. I am a redpiller but I've got important things to do other than going after women. I need tk make money and travel round the with or without a woman by my side. So individual difference. Remember don't hate the game but hate the players.

bukatyne:
Your attachments in this post makes my point easy.

If a man has a good dose of self-respect and self-esteem, he would not want to sleep around. He would look for a girl inclined with his beliefs and chase her. If after all said and done, she says no, he counts it as her loss and move on. He is very sure that he is quality material (not money) and knows the value he is bringing to any woman lucky enough to be his. He doesn't need games (who builds anything solid on games)? He also avoids loose women who have nothing apart from sex to offer him.

If a woman has a good deal of self-respect and self-esteem, she knows the kind of men suitable for her. Low quality men wouldn't even come for her because they cannot invest what is needed to get her. They need cheap thrills so naturally would not waste their resources on quality. If a low quality guy mistakenly chases her, she tells him no politely and move on. (No is not 'I will think about it while collecting his gifts'. Else, you are a low quality girl no matter what your exterior looks like). Such a girl does not fall for the gimmicks and tricks of play boys and other low quality men. A man/guy who is seeking her knows he has to be worthy of her and treat her with respect.

The problem is that too too many men & women lack self-respect and self-esteem in Nigeria.

That's why they base their worth on the number of women they sleep with, no of men's money they chopped, how they maltreat people, they fall for people who don't respect them when they don't even see any good in themselves. They twist and adjust like chameleons to whomever they are with instead of laying their cards (strength, flaws, hope, dreams, aspirations) etc on the table and letting their partners choose to the with the real them.

That's why they don't respect themselves and hop from bed to bed, claim the devil made them do something, cheat about with their partners, claim to be things they are not, blame the society for their choices etc.

Nigerian parents need to really do better raising up kids that are content with themselves and in them selves.

I must say.. your comment was a really really good read. Now this is what a constructive contribution feels like..

If I were to follow any procedure, take a class or painstakingly read pages cos I want to get a girl... She better be a damn superb girl... A girl I'd be able to show off.. a girl who'll be confident and able to make her own decisions.

The calibre of girls most of these guys get are ladies who also have inferiority complex or false confidence - That's probably the only way they were able to even get redpilled in the first place. I have to be insecure and feel inferior before you can manipulate me. A solid woman who knows who she is and what she's made of won't get into anything with a guy without the right values. I have this female friend who used to say "I know what I carry" - Confident lady


In addition... People don't build themselves.... There's no place for self improvement...they do not build the right values. You see. Men get confident over the wrong things (My first post - I mentioned bragging about Dickson's size or money)..... Basically, Many people lack content!


Cos of redpills, a guy would make himself look like an almighty Alpha and omega who doesn't feel hurt or have emotions when in fact he's a sensitive, caring and homely person..


What the phuck is that??

NevetsIbot:
I must say.. your comment was a really really good read. Now this is what a constructive contribution feels like..

If I were to follow any procedure, take a class or painstakingly read pages cos I want to get a girl... She better be a damn superb girl... A girl I'd be able to show off.. a girl who'll be confident and able to make her own decisions.

The calibre of girls most of these guys get are ladies who also have inferiority complex or false confidence - That's probably the only way they were able to even get redpilled in the first place. I have to be insecure and feel inferior before you can manipulate me. A solid woman who knows who she is and what she's made of won't get into anything with a guy without the right values. I have this female friend who used to say "I know what I carry" - Confident lady


In addition... People don't build themselves.... There's no place for self improvement...they do not build the right values. You see. Men get confident over the wrong things (My first post - I mentioned bragging about Dickson's size or money)..... Basically, Many people lack content!


Cos of redpills, a guy would make himself look like an almighty Alpha and omega who doesn't feel hurt or have emotions when in fact he's a sensitive, caring and homely person..


What the phuck is that??

Thank you.

@bold: it is because you have placed a premium on yourself.

Mtchewwww....

These ones don come again with plenty analysis.


You don't teach a man to be an Alpha. He is either one or he is not.

Happy Sunday

With the amount of time you guys spend on nairaland talking about this red pill shit makes one to wonder if you guyz actually find the time to apply it. Everyone wanting to be alpha in a world of betas.

luminouz:
Mtchewwww....

These ones don come again with plenty analysis.


You don't teach a man to be an Alpha. He is either one or he is not.

Happy Sunday

Sigh... I doubt if you read it at all...

"You don't teach a man to be an Alpha. He is either one or he is not."

What you said there is just a tiny summary of what was said

coolestofall:
With the amount of time you guys spend on nairaland talking about this red pill shit makes one to wonder if you guyz actually find the time to apply it. Everyone wanting to be alpha in a world of betas.

If you read the post.. you'd be saying another thing entirely... The post was not in support of redpills

You Said Something About Arrogance, Red Pills Can Be Abused and When Abused such Guys Could Come Out As Arrogant. That Is Not The Goal Of The Red Pill

I'll just sit back and read