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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Nobody: 4:36pm On Dec 25, 2019
Your foolishness is legendary not just because the dude is using you but because you're too foolish not to notice.

Leave that dude now and save the few pennies in your bank account. undecided

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by MightySirKay(m): 4:36pm On Dec 25, 2019
TemmyT002:


Haaaa
Honourable member, this is too much!

Nah she provoke me jor. Me that is angry already coz my pounded yam and egusi with goat meat was given to an uninvinted guest. The food no go digest for her belle

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by faithfull18(f): 4:51pm On Dec 25, 2019
@OP, wait till he drains your account, isn't it obvious
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Rajman45(m): 5:15pm On Dec 25, 2019
Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??

Hmm.... U be big mumu. Continue begging him, and after e use ur penkus and money finish, ur eyes go clear.

Imagine an auditor without common sense... I piety ur company.

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Newbielearner(m): 5:26pm On Dec 25, 2019
This life sha .
While someone is looking for someone like you. Somebody else is just about to lose you.

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by cooooooks(m): 5:35pm On Dec 25, 2019
This guy doesn't seem like a serious person.

While financials ain't everything, he must have a feasible plan AND he must always pay back any loans or 'help'.

Run from any guy that talks about marrying virgins if they aren't virgins themselves. They are bad news.

I think you need to speak up a bit more in the relationship. When he says something that seems like a red flag, let it be known to him that you disagree. I know life ain't easy, relationships are hard and true love is difficult to come by.

Note that if a guy raises too many red flags, time spent in an exclusive serious relationship with said guy is an opportunity cost.


Cheers girl! Goo luck.

Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Nobody: 5:43pm On Dec 25, 2019
But some girls sha..what other signs do u need again The guy is using u. Better help urself & run away as fast as u can

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Apination(m): 5:46pm On Dec 25, 2019
Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??
You are being played really hard, if he was so interested in marrying a virgin, he wouldn't be asking you for sex. You accused him of being unfaithful, if he was so interested in you as you had made yourself believe, he would be doing anything to change that impression but instead he starts snubbing you. He's just using you as you are beginning to realise and very soon, he will blame you for him being a cheat since you did not give in to his demands.

Secondly, you lying to him about being a virgin is terrible and I believe the sole reason is that time is no longer your friend or pressure to bring a man home. There are better men out there, when the time is right he will meet you.

On a serious note, I don't know if I can apply for a boyfriend position so that I can share from the largesse, head burn this Christmas grin

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Originalsly: 5:52pm On Dec 25, 2019
The problem is that you can't believe someone can be so ungrateful. My advice to you is always remember that we are still on earth... not in Heaven.... people are all different.... like spices... some good.. some bad... you have to pay attention... look for signs.... don't take things for granted.
Look in the mirror to see your shortcomings.... not trying to fix his. He said he would marry a virgin only. You lied and said you were... now what plan you had in mind if he decided to marry you and then he found out you lied? ...to tell another lie?...or then tell the truth? Either way... the marriage would've been over because you can't be trusted. Be upfront with the truth.
Him asking you for money..... large sums.... didn't alarm bells go off? I pray you don't have life insurance. The writing is on the wall.... I don't know why you think he has any other interest in you besides access to your money. You need not answer his calls or be the desperate woman and chase after him. He will call when he needs money..... drop the relationship.... take extra security precautions.... he may be bent on extracting money from you by any means necessary..... hopefully ... you didn't share nudes with him....or else..... do I have to say?

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by chigoizie7(m): 6:01pm On Dec 25, 2019
Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??

Normally, I no for put mouth for all these kind matter because I believe that you have come of age and know what you want. However, it is so wrong that you have to lie about being a virgin or not. You do not need to lure people to love or stay with you by lieing to them. That apart, I think that guy is a big mumu, and you don’t have to be dealing with such cunny and deceptive people.

You caught him cheating. He denied.

He asks for money most of the times.

He doesn’t want to marry a virgin.

He reigned courses on you because he didn’t give him money. All those are enough reasons to stay away from him.

Owing to the fact that you love him already, it will not be an easy task to leave him, but that doesn’t mean that you will have to settle for less.

Move on my dear.

No one is above mistakes, no one is also above falling in love. It is not your fault that you love him, but it will be your fault for not making yourself happy on the long run.
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by TemmyT002(m): 7:24pm On Dec 25, 2019
MightySirKay:

Nah she provoke me jor. Me that is angry already coz my pounded yam and egusi with goat meat was given to an uninvinted guest. The food no go digest for her belle

Hahahaha

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by TemmyT002(m): 7:25pm On Dec 25, 2019
jackals:


I'm sorry if my comment was too demeaning. But some men can be heartless. Why asking a girl for love when u know u don't need her

It is undeniable.
Lots of guys are wicked but not all guys are like that.
Unfortunately, they are very few.
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by akube34: 7:44pm On Dec 25, 2019
Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??
you be him client. continue

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by MARX77(m): 9:28pm On Dec 25, 2019
You've done nothing wrong sister, try to kill this unnecessary guilt you feel. You're pleading with him for what na?

Carry on with your life and stop letting one guy use you for games, you're worth more than that.

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by aminusodiq(m): 9:43pm On Dec 25, 2019
Scam alert
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by gratefulheart(m): 10:31pm On Dec 25, 2019
You need serious deliverance.
You better put yourself together forget his lazy ass.
You can never be happy with an an an signs are their but if lust is pushing you. You will live to the it. I no see love there o.
AlI he want is to your money and your body. He has succeeded with your money...don't give him you body if you desire peace an happiness the reminding days of your life.

But focus on God to lead to right person to you. Don't mAke that mistake again. Sex is a big deal do it only with your spouse (husband a wife) not boyfriend



Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Lamanii22(f): 11:24pm On Dec 25, 2019
Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??


Yo! Girl... Dump his sorry ass... He's got nothing to offer you... Brace yourself.. Raise your head up high... A man should chase you... Take care of you not try to ruin you... Your story kinda look like an aunt of mine who pleased her husband until she eventually lost her life... Last year... Now the so called husband is married with kids.. He had those kids even before my aunt died..

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Switch07(m): 11:24pm On Dec 25, 2019
jackals:


Why is that when you people see a good girl who is ready to stay by you, you try to frustrate all her efforts?

I'm sorry if I have gone too much ;but I can relate with what happened to this girl. it's painful

So mature of you
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by jackals(f): 10:19am On Dec 26, 2019
It's painful we didn't see ubunja, martinez39, pansophist and other reepilled brother to come see what their brother has done. But if it is one that say something about women gold digging, you'll see them trying to scatter everywhere
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by YabaLeftist: 10:27am On Dec 26, 2019
Why do I have the feeling that you are so fugly, unattractive and full of low self esteem. That is the only plausible reason why you are selling yourself short, 'dashing' money to guys and they are using you to play ping pong. undecided

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by frozen70(f): 11:45am On Dec 26, 2019
Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??

You did wrong by giving him the impression that he is the only one fit for the job

Stop giving him money, it will get to a stage he won't refund you and you won't do anything to get it back

Pls don't be desperate about relationship you may end up in bad guys hand

Be calm, a responsible guy will come your way

Pls drop that guy before he drops you
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by stanliwise(m): 1:03pm On Dec 26, 2019
Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??
Let me ask you something, grin grin grin
sincerely tell me the truth.
1. Do you have any fear of loosing this guy
2. Do you emotionally feel like giving him what he wants but you brain is warning you.

Answering this question will help me advice you better.
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by stanliwise(m): 1:07pm On Dec 26, 2019
Rossycee:
He's using you, it's crystal clear. Please forget about him and move on with your life and be very watchful next time.
All of una like to dash out advise, like you people do follow it yourself.

Can't you see there is something wrong with the OP?
isn't it easy to spot?
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by stanliwise(m): 1:09pm On Dec 26, 2019
jackals:


Why is that when you people see a good girl who is ready to stay by you, you try to frustrate all her efforts?

I'm sorry if I have gone too much ;but I can relate with what happened to this girl. it's painful
jackals there is something you need to understand about socialism.

You blame guys much but sometimes, it is very clear that he isn't just the one playing the game alone.
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Jeweltz(f): 1:15pm On Dec 26, 2019
stanliwise:
Let me ask you something, grin grin grin
sincerely tell me the truth.
1. Do you have any fear of loosing this guy
2. Do you emotionally feel like giving him what he wants but you brain is warning you.

Answering this question will help me advice you better.

Yes,I never wanted to lose him.

The love I have for him over rules anything my brain tell me
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by stanliwise(m): 1:28pm On Dec 26, 2019
Jeweltz:


Yes,I never wanted to lose him.

The love I have for him over rules anything my brain tell me
First of all, Hide that fear, don't make him notice it. I think he has seen it anyway, so he is capitalising on it.
playboys are opportunist, they stay in place, look for opportunities, when it comes they grab him with both hands.

All the curses he is giving you, is just a strategy to capitalize on your desperation.

Giving him money when he hasn't proved himself worthy has sent him the wrong signal already.

I somewhat feel your story is too stupid to be true though. I can go lengthy into analysis of what and what I think.

But to cut the story short.
If you still need this guy, you have to create the right impression which is:
1. You are valuable
2. You are precious
3. You are not desperate
4. You're ready to give your love to who is worthy.

Stop calling him.
Stop apologizing
Stop giving him money, anytime you must give him money, it should be at your discretion.

Stop complaining of his lack of love for you, love him as much as he loves you. It is called MIRRORING.

In one word, STOP MAKING HIM MAKE YOU DO THINGS.

I drop my pen.

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by LoveThemChubby(m): 1:31pm On Dec 26, 2019
Op I will advice you forget about that guy. He isn't into you. He just wants to keep maniputing you because he knows that you love him. Save your money and save yourself the stress of that slowpoke.
You have a good heart and the right person will locate and treasure you.

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by LedRock: 1:33pm On Dec 26, 2019
We can all see the good advice the guys on the forum are giving this lady but if a guy comes here and seek advice ladies would side the suppose girlfriend and tell him lies, so he can never ever break free.

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Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by jackals(f): 1:40pm On Dec 26, 2019
LoveThemChubby:

If you count your dad and brothers abi? Must you comment? She asked for advice and you had the option of keeping quiet but you chose to show yourself. How many men have you met to warrant you drawing such a conclusion?.
Op I will advice you forget about that guy. He isn't into you. He just wants to keep maniputing you because he knows that you love him. Save your money and save yourself the stress of that slowpoke.
You have a good heart and the right person will locate and treasure you.

I'm sorry if my comment sounds offensive, But how many times will I say this?
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by LoveThemChubby(m): 1:42pm On Dec 26, 2019
jackals:


I'm sorry if my comment sounds offensive, But how many times will I say this?
I am sorry too. I only got to see your apology as I tried reading more comments. I have modified my comment accordingly.�
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by jackals(f): 1:44pm On Dec 26, 2019
LoveThemChubby:

I am sorry too. I only got to see your apology as I tried reading more comments.

I admitted I let my emotion took the better of me
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by LedRock: 1:44pm On Dec 26, 2019
jackals:


I'm sorry if my comment sounds offensive, But how many times will I say this?
If you are truly sorry, then modify your first post.

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