Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by jackals(f): 1:48pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
LedRock: If you are truly sorry, then modify your first post. done sir 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by jackals(f): 1:50pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
But you guys should tell your colleagues to stop hurting girls that genuinely Love them. please 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by LedRock: 1:51pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
jackals:
done sir Ok good, I know some guys and girls scum but we don't have to put everyone in same category. Happy boxing day. |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by jackals(f): 1:52pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
LedRock: Ok good, I know some guys and girls scum but we don't have to put everyone in same category.
Happy boxing day. Hmmm |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by LedRock: 1:53pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
jackals:
Hmmm So you don dey speechless now. |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by zanebaddo(m): 1:53pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
The way some girls dey craze for guys day make me dey wonder whether I be guy at all.
Girl go love a guy with money join, the guy go de mess up, girl go still dey die untop the guy
It has never happened to me i swear, I no say i no fine but no be me worwor pass 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by biddostandard: 1:56pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
you seems like a decent gal who deserve better,it might be hard but you just have to dump him ,he isnt for you 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by jackals(f): 2:00pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
LedRock: So you don dey speechless now.
Happy boxing day |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Prakash247(m): 2:06pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
He is not even your shadow. Move on with your life please. |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Injera(f): 2:32pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Jeweltz:
I googled search" how can I get him to be committed" . That was four days ago
Thanks for the input all. I really appreciate. I'll have to reconsider my stand.
It only hurts he can ignore me after everything Leave. I say leave. Ghost him and never look back. Try to widen your social cycle to increase your chances of meeting someone new 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by ednut1(m): 2:44pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
I thought auditors were smart. U cant be from pwc or kpmg. It must be delliote |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by ednut1(m): 2:46pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
jackals: But you guys should tell your colleagues to stop hurting girls that genuinely Love them. please girls should also stop being stupid . A guy asks for 130k and u guve him just like dat 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by MEGA4BILLION(m): 3:00pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
You are his MMM - Money Making Machine.
Run for your life. |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Evergreen4(m): 3:28pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Jeweltz: Good afternoon my fellow women,
This is going to be a long Post
Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.
I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.
It happened;
Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.
About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.
Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.
Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.
Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.
To cut the story short;
He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........
He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .
I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.
Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.
Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong?? The guy is really pressing your mumu button seriously and you respond perfectly. The earlier you free your self from his grip, the better for you. The idiot doesn't treasure the gold he has. And I'm here searching for a loyal girlfriend while one mumu dude has one already but doesn't value her. Irony of life. Inside life . 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Nobody: 4:38pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
zanebaddo: The way some girls dey craze for guys day make me dey wonder whether I be guy at all.
Girl go love a guy with money join, the guy go de mess up, girl go still dey die untop the guy
It has never happened to me i swear, I no say i no fine but no be me worwor pass
Lol, you will definitely meet someone who will love you like that. But you might not love her in return |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by bogdaddy(m): 4:52pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
Shey you bleach ? Why you come resemble maga like this Jeweltz: Good afternoon my fellow women,
This is going to be a long Post
Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.
I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.
It happened;
Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.
About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.
Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.
Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.
Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.
To cut the story short;
He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........
He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .
I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.
Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.
Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong?? 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Jeweltz(f): 6:15am On Dec 28, 2019 |
I'm very much appreciative of the honest feedback I got from this site and I can verify that I'm begining to review my stands concerning how much trust I can give to people now.
On one side, just yesterday, he sent series of SMS telling me how disturbed he was which is hindering his decision about what he wants from me. Told me about how he missed me but I never deemed it fit to reply any of the text. He called ceaselessly only I had to oblige after his 8th attempts. We talked and discussion continued into early hours of today ( since about 10pm yesterday). There was nothing we discussed that we have not ironed out before but he keeps going back. I got a lot of commitment from men everyday, that are well to do, but I seem to be so focused on this guy. He know this and I think that has been his only bargaining chip.
As it is,I can't trust anything he tells me because trusting him was what led me into this state. But I can't deny the fact that I can't get him off my thoughts. His words and charms are not letting me be. I wished I Never picked his calls.
But I appreciate you all. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by stanliwise(m): 6:24am On Dec 28, 2019 |
Jeweltz: I'm very much appreciative of the honest feedback I got from this site and I can verify that I'm begining to review my stands concerning how much trust I can give to people now.
On one side, just yesterday, he sent series of SMS telling me how disturbed he was which is hindering his decision about what he wants from me. Told me about how he missed me but I never deemed it fit to reply any of the text. He called ceaselessly only I had to oblige after his 8th attempts. We talked and discussion continued into early hours of today ( since about 10pm yesterday). There was nothing we discussed that we have not ironed out before but he keeps going back. I got a lot of commitment from men everyday, that are well to do, but I seem to be so focused on this guy. He know this and I think that has been his only bargaining chip.
As it is,I can't trust anything he tells me because trusting him was what led me into this state. But I can't deny the fact that I can't get him off my thoughts. His words and charms are not letting me be. I wished I Never picked his calls.
But I appreciate you all. Ir you like pick, if you like don't pick. But sha don't give him any money. Have sense this 2020 |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by stanliwise(m): 6:26am On Dec 28, 2019 |
jackals: But you guys should tell your colleagues to stop hurting girls that genuinely Love them. please How do we know a girl loves us genuinely |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Digmygold: 6:28am On Dec 28, 2019 |
All he wants is your money and sex. Dont be surprised he is giving your money to another woman to impress.
Drop him like a hot potato and never look back and in future once you here "Can you losn me money" from any man you are involved with, pull both ears and ruuuuuunnnn!" Okay?
Dont get involved with men like Ubunja. They will choose your money and chop your pussy yet they will still be poorer than church rats becsuse Karma is a bitch. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Nobody: 6:47am On Dec 28, 2019 |
bogdaddy: Shey you bleach ? Why you come resemble maga like this Women always fall for bad guys hand. It's in their genes since they lived in trees; when they mated with the most aggressive males to secure the best fruit trees. 2020 prophecy: Against all advice, she's going to fall for his charms, give him money and sex, then come back to NL crying for her sisters to console after she is unceremoniously dumped. You can't fight your genes. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by TerryMcGinis(m): 7:08am On Dec 28, 2019 |
And I'm here lonely AF .. Dude find better woman dey mistreat her, life no fair. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 11:50am On Feb 04, 2020 |
zanebaddo: The way some girls dey craze for guys day make me dey wonder whether I be guy at all.
Girl go love a guy with money join, the guy go de mess up, girl go still dey die untop the guy
It has never happened to me i swear, I no say i no fine but no be me worwor pass
Girls like bad guys 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by daisidavid(m): 12:33pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Lady! Advise you to build yourself up and leave him alone!!! Secondly either virgin or not you don't have to lie bout that! Is nothing and if you claim you love him as you've said do the needful!!! 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by maya007: 1:15pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
you are a mumu look at urself in d mirror and keep telling ur self that, sombody is threatening to leave u and ur worried you and your money and your sex lmaooo chai it's like to dash guys money is just hungrying u...my sister ask God for guidance cause this your own is follow come and with d wayvur sounding its obvious ur still gona go back to him cause to you his ur only option nobody can advise u again o advise yourself when your eye clear. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Annajuzieogu20: 2:56pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Talking with experience here......all woman should be very cautious with Nigerian men ......cuz yes a lot are only out to get money from you! Dont be a fool, be smart!!!! Know and learn about the signs of all that........a real good man weather from Nigeria or not ....will be with you regardless of what you can or can not do for him........if your love and respect to him is not good enough without making sure he has money in his pocket, than leave him, cuz than he is with you under no good intentions!!.... know your worth ladies and learn to always have respect for yourself! 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by emeijeh(m): 9:06am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Hi, I hope you have broken up with the guy? He was only using you. Jeweltz: Good afternoon my fellow women,
This is going to be a long Post
Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.
I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.
It happened;
Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.
About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.
Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.
Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.
Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.
To cut the story short;
He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........
He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .
I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.
Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.
Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong?? |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by content208: 9:14am On Feb 17, 2020 |
jackals:
Most men are irresponsible. But why including my dad Have you dated and fvcked most of the men on Earth? So, where did you get the stupid idea that most men are irresponsible? Don't you even feel stupid saying that rubbish? 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Jeweltz(f): 9:17am On Feb 17, 2020 |
emeijeh: Hi, I hope you have broken up with the guy? He was only using you.
I can't say. All I know is he loves me and I'm beginning to see reason why he behave the way he did then |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Toks2008(m): 9:22am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Jeweltz: Good afternoon my fellow women,
This is going to be a long Post
Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.
I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.
It happened;
Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.
About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.
Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.
Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.
Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.
To cut the story short;
He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........
He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .
I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.
Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.
Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong?? You made this story up I guess... |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Jeweltz(f): 9:24am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Toks2008:
You made this story up I guess...
No. The guy is now acting good and he's actually a good person just that he was going through a lot. I'm trying to reason with him. Also, I've been trying to pull this post down off nairaland but I've not been able. Thanks |
Re: Advise Needed; Is He Not Interested And Only Using Me For Resources Or Need Time by Catchfirez: 9:25am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Let Him Go |