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na you sabi... If you like ghost otedola... Pls continue like this till 35..

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

We are the same, the only difference is that I am a guy and you are a lady. And then again, the ones I was able to still sustain for a long time is because it is mostly long distance.

dasdexter:
i swear e dun tey person comment sweet me like this, healthserve come over to alapere, 1 cooler of fried rice for you

Hahahahahaha

Ariza:
There is a purpose for everyone that comes into a person's life.Sometimes we do not understand this purpose and expect something else from people we let into our lives. Simply put, the guy may not be in her life to be her husband but her guardian angel to redemption.

Okay. Not that I didn't understand at first, just wanted to be sure. I think I've been someone's guardian angel since the beginning of the year. And your post made much sense to me. Weldone.

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

No sister. Keep walking boo. Walk walk walk. Walk in the Lord. Continue walking till you get to shilloh 2050 themed. "singles walk with the Lord"

Unfortunately I created this account to respond. I have a Nairaland reputation to protect.

Why do people define themselves via relationships? I always assumed peer pressure had an expiry date but so far it seems the situation continues until someone goes six feet under. I guess in heaven and the other side peer pressure is also a problem.

I don’t see anything wrong in this query. You only keep comparing yourself to others. Humans are greedy and want what others have. You are an individual so your case must differ from theirs, it is expected to. Keep doing you and when water pass garri change whatever you feel is lacking. Not everyone is meant to enter a relationship and not everyone will definitely get married.

Humans say there is someone for everyone. In theory, yes, there is. In real life with seven billion plus other humans there are a multitude of people for one individual. It’s why even when in love we keep falling for and lusting over others.

The truth is this,

You have not met someone who will match that intelligence that you set for yourself.

I want to believe you are a reader of books, love romantic movies and somewhat a deep thinker.

I know a girl in school who was just like you, tells me how she gets so bored of guys.

It was from her that I discovered that we guys don't really pay attention to ladies. She made me read body languages at good precision.

Nothing is wrong with you, You just have not seen that guy who would make you CLICK and make you stay.


I know this coz i have dated a girl that was just like you.

And now I am like her coz I get tired of ladies as well lol

PS she is married today.

Op it simply shows that you don't know what you want yet.
No offense please

healthserve:
Stop using people. Be better. Stop taking people for a ride with your emotional recklessness


Use and discard. Passive Narcissistic personality disorder. Go see a therapist. You're a destroyer


You also have an over-inflated ego. The world doesn't revolve around you. And No, you're not too good for everyone.


You're an egomaniac that exists for feel-good vibes only with a detached feeling from regular existence. Go see a therapist. You're pathetic

One girl I had encounter from here is like that. This one will tell you to take it step by step, she can tell you to give it time but still wants the financial benefits of a girlfriend.

She enjoys keeping men on queue and brag about it.

chigoizie7:
We are the same, the only difference is that I am a guy and you are a lady. And then again, the ones I was able to still sustain for a long time is because it is mostly long distance.

Lol do you know that I wanted to mention your monicker...shes sounding like your female counterpart

Acidosis:
Stop forcing it. Going out and acting like a drama queen isn't your thing. You're INTROVERT. All you need is a man that KNOWS you for who and what you represent. You find it difficult to keep a relationship because you portray a false image to the world, one you cannot sustain. Stop "going out"! Stop partying with the girls! You cannot sustain it. Let your man find you in your comfort zone.

What if her comfort zone is her house?

Let's see your pictures...... You have been meeting the wrong guys Sha

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

Its your ego... Master it!
You are afraid once you and a guy become intimate, he won't like you anymore so you end the friendship before it goes that far. You do it with so much confidence that you think its the right thing, but its just your ego bossing you around.
No one can teach you how to tame your ego, you must learn your own way; but here is my little advice, don't be afraid to be vulnerable, because we all are. Even the toughest, baddest, smartest, maddest motherfuckers are vulnerable bitches!

It is a psychological problem.
Look back to your childhood days. You may be a loner and don't like sharing things with people in the long term.
You need a professional to tall about this and you need to have serious determination to make things work.

Please what is your real name? I don't want my friends or cousins to date you until you change.

You could be a narcissist or sociopath. Do research on dis,identify your weekness and fight them out.otherwise you will regret it

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

you are simply scared,or scarred and it's a psychological condition,it's all in your head and the way out? I really don't know because I'm equally searching for answers,people tagged it "misogyny,gay, player,spirit wives(ridiculous yeah?)and a whole lot of comments,all I knew was I had that misogynistic tendencies since childhood and I been battling it over the years,which yielded a positive result,I've had awesome friendship with ladies,but taking it a step further ruins it all,all relationships were short termed and it's tiring when you have to leave, even without a reason or no fault from your partner,it isn't about narcissism,or being a perfectionist,no one is perfect but it's just something I'm planning to put behind me in the coming year,people don't understand how bad it is one wanna keep a relationship make it work like every normal human,but at the end you find yourself drifting off and detaching without a solid cause or reason,just give this a trial,and give yourself a mandate of seeing it through,tell yourself you are done being lonely,and give a sort of dependency on your partner,that independent mindset have been built over the years of being alone,you gotta break it down,and when that horrible feeling is at it's peek,take a time out but don't detach..

meobizy:
Unfortunately I created this account to respond. I have a Nairaland reputation to protect.

Why do people define themselves via relationships? I always assumed peer pressure had an expiry date but so far it seems the situation continues until someone goes six feet under. I guess in heaven and the other side peer pressure is also a problem.

I don’t see anything wrong in this query. You only keep comparing yourself to others. Humans are greedy and want what others have. You are an individual so your case must differ from theirs, it is expected to. Keep doing you and when water pass garri change whatever you feel is lacking. Not everyone is meant to enter a relationship and not everyone will definitely get married.

Humans say there is someone for everyone. In theory, yes, there is. In real life with seven billion plus other humans there are a multitude of people for one individual. It’s why even when in love we keep falling for and lusting over others.

The same peer pressure that made you create another Monika just to protect whatever it's left of your reputation?

NLers are hilarious

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

u want to change your Sim. it means you're not a serious fellow. if you were, you'd have used your number for something very reasonable that discarding the Sim would be the last thing you'd ever think of.

HenryDion:
The same peer pressure that made you create another Monika just to protect whatever it's left of your reputation?

NLers are hilarious

*Dancing azonto*.

sharone21:
Ladies or MEN? ....The last time I checked, men are FICKLE and easily distracted when it comes to love....it makes females scared of love.

Females can't love,

@ op, u may have spiritual husband, how old are u? Dont worry sha, When menopause come knocking, even ur spiritual husband go free u.

Some people enjoy being miserable tho

midnighter:
Yes, some people are difficult to be with but that doesnt make them unloveable. It depends on how much effort they put into working on themselves and the relationship.

They need to discipline themselves so that they will not be at the mercy of their impulses. And think of the bigger picture and not just how theyre feeling right now.

I see potential in OP because she said that her conscience will not allow her to ghost the guy this time. All she needs is that small seed of conscience and she can develop it into something bigger that will be sustainable.

Thats if she's willing to do some emotional gymnastics. And let him in.

The guy is currently at her mercy.. if misbehaves a little she will definitely get the excuse to leave him forgetting that he has been such a sweetheart to her... That is the problem associated with relationships where one person forces himself/herself to be with the other...

UyaiIncomparabl:


What if her comfort zone is her house?

Then stay in your house. You will find your partner.

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

mee tooo ok

Acidosis:
Then stay in your house. You will find your partner.

That's not true.

How're you doing?

SmellingAnus:
The guy is currently at her mercy.. if misbehaves a little she will definitely get the excuse to leave him forgetting that he has been such a sweetheart to her... That is the problem associated with relationships where one person forces himself/herself to be with the other...

Thats why I said that she has to restrain herself from following that pattern if she wants the relationship to last.

Forcing yourself to be with somebody because youre trying to overcome your own personal issues is different from forcing yourself to be with somebody even though you dont actually like the person, which is what you are describing.

She said she likes him a lot so what youre talking about is different

This is a huge problem.. You might not see it as such.. But it is.. You need to visit a therapist.. I can already forsee that you are the kind that might dump a man few days or a night to your wedding cos you don't feel like getting married anymore..
I pray not to meet your kind..

healthserve:
Stop using people. Be better. Stop taking people for a ride with your emotional recklessness


Use and discard. Passive Narcissistic personality disorder. Go see a therapist. You're a destroyer


You also have an over-inflated ego. The world doesn't revolve around you. And No, you're not too good for everyone.


You're an egomaniac that exists for feel-good vibes only with a detached feeling from regular existence. Go see a therapist. You're pathetic

Shuu! Bros how far now? Una don sabi before ni? You no even hold back at all! Just dey knack her apako dey go!

But what you've said is similar to what the truth is though. Feel-good syndrome is one of the reasons for being unable to keep a prolonged friendship

GogetterMD:
Shuu! Bros how far now? Una don sabi before ni? You no even hold back at all! Just dey knack her apako dey go!

But what you've said is similar to what is the truth though. Feel-good syndrome is one of the reasons for being able to keep a prolonged friendship

You sef check am out na

midnighter:
Thats why I said that she has to restrain herself from following that pattern if she wants the relationship to last.

Forcing yourself to be with somebody because youre trying to overcome your own personal issues is different from forcing yourself to be with somebody even though you dont actually like the person, which is what you are describing.

She said she likes him a lot so what youre talking about is different

of course they are different but she has a serious issue and she is obviously trying to use the guy to help her over come her issues... I have been on this road both at the receiving and giving end... It's not a good situation for the other party... That's why I maintain that I can't even imagine myself in such situation like the guy... Las Las she go most likely still dump the guy...

Frankicent:
na you sabi... If you like ghost otedola... Pls continue like this till 35..