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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Nobody: 7:23pm On Dec 29, 2019
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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Kirinwa: 7:23pm On Dec 29, 2019
Riele:


Okay .

Seems you have sense because most nairalanders your age and even older than you are still spreading their decayed sem*n and consoling themselves with the excuse of being on redpill overdose .

My advice :- plan your life first and maybe own a house before settling down .

Did your father own a house before he married your mum?

With this advice, very few will marry.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Kirinwa: 7:25pm On Dec 29, 2019
lovat:
You are advising him to own a house before settling down? His salary is 50k today and to own a house he will need to work for the next twenty years without doing any expenses.


Are you not the Tata abi Pikin that her thread graced Fp? Stop giving kids advice because other people are trying to learn something meaningful

Aptly said. Na small pikin dey worry her.
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Riele(f): 7:26pm On Dec 29, 2019
Kirinwa:


Did your father own a house before he married your mum?

With this advice, very few will marry.

Yes . He had houses before marrying my mum .

Exactly ! . Very few people Should get married . Nigerian is done with overpopulation and malnourished children .

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Nobody: 7:26pm On Dec 29, 2019
womenareapes:
let me advise you!

KILL THAT STUPID FEELING angry

If you want to have heart attack at early age, be my guest. undecided

Naija women are useless, I repeat Naija women are useless to have a serious relationship

Those apes roaming the streets have serious entitlement issue, and them will drain your life both emotionally and financially.

Apart from sex and bringing bastard to this world, nothing they can offer you. undecided

You are too long to be thinking of settling down.
Just find a young girl and be fvvcking her, that's all.

With that 50k salary of yours, you can accomplish many things like building House, taking good care of yourself, buying yourself a nice electronic to enjoy the flavour of life.

Once you dear add a woman into your life. BOY!
YOU WILL NOT ONLY HATE YOURSELF BUT WISHING YOU WERE NOT BORN undecided

You see those biitches out there called Naija women? undecided there are destiny breakers with low mental self esteem!. There are all just looking for who to dumb there miserable life on. Don't fall victim and spread the word.
grin grin grin grin It is well with you ooo womenareapes lol.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by AreaFada2: 7:26pm On Dec 29, 2019
I like your seriousness regarding any future relationship. I hope you meet an equally serious lady.

But begin with a girlfriend. Very different from fiancee. Fiancee is with marriage in view and both families in agreement usually.

A girlfriend can still have 5 or more other boyfriends alongside you easily.

Although money doesn't buy happiness but lack of adequate funds will surely make your marital life miserable. Just how miserable depends on the type of girl.

With 50k monthly you are not ready for marriage. No girl wants to be "Lord of the ring" waiting 5 years to marry after engagement.

Hustle, save and invest before taking such a big step. It's not just a matter of age and emotional maturity anymore. Economic muscle has become VERY important.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Kirinwa: 7:27pm On Dec 29, 2019
Riele:


I meant he should have a house of his own maybe rent one .

He can't marry a woman into a house shared with a friend .

For your second question , Get some sense.

Your mouth will soon put you for corner. Continue.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Nobody: 7:29pm On Dec 29, 2019
At the stage when buhari tenure has finished.
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by guru90: 7:31pm On Dec 29, 2019
CHESTER48:
op. The question you would ask yourself is, all these people telling you to make money, did their parents make the type of money they want you to make before they got married? Most of them are from very poor homes but still there is happiness. The key is happiness. Even a dirty man has another dirty woman admiring him. Find a woman and grow with her. Ask yourself where your parents condition still the same since the day you were born till now?, Of course no. They would have improved

What ar u saying brother? Say that said that pikin go grow past their parents. So u want him to follow his parents footsteps. H.e.l.l. No....

I am a living witness. My late dad didn't own a house at all when they gave birth to me till he died... But now I will be counting how many lands I own plus the one I don dey build now.
Ahamefuna, plz kindly grow past your parents before u think of marriage.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by MetaPhysical: 7:36pm On Dec 29, 2019
When he is 2yrs old, so by time he is 22 he has matured and left his matrimonial tantrums behind him. grin
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by hopsydboss: 7:38pm On Dec 29, 2019
mikeayus:
Congratulations man...I'm really impressed with your story


Thanks bro.. it all hardwork, a lot of forgiveness. Not giving up on one another.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by TheRedpillguy: 7:38pm On Dec 29, 2019
[quote author=Riele post=85325806]

Fixed
Lol I need to understand something. Why is it so important for females to turn men into slaves? I feel like I am missing something.
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by TheRedpillguy: 7:40pm On Dec 29, 2019
Riele:


Fixed .
Lol, why is it so important for females to turn men into slaves? I feel like I am missing something. Less talk about it.
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Kirinwa: 7:41pm On Dec 29, 2019
Barrywhite15:
Which state are you working, if its lagos, Abuja,porthar don't try it mind you if your fiance understand you like my wife you are good to go,I married my wife when my salary is 15000 now I'm collecting 30000 and we are living a comfortable life

How? Is she working?
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Riele(f): 7:42pm On Dec 29, 2019
TheRedpillguy:

Lol, why is it so important for females to turn men into slaves? I feel like I am missing something. Less talk about it.

You're getting it all wrong .

It's the men who wants to turn ladies into slaves .
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by bmaks: 7:43pm On Dec 29, 2019
God gave Adam a job first before he gave him a wife. So I will advise you to please get yourself a job and earn a living first before thinking of a fiancee.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Offpoint: 7:47pm On Dec 29, 2019
Waterview:
Hustle more hustle more hustle more.

This is the problem with Nigerians, we chase money a lot, that's why it'll be very hard to see a selfless politician, greediness has eaten deep into our system no thanks to our barbaric culture.
I made a mistake when I was in Sec. School which am still regretting till today; I couldn't find love in Sec school, it good to find somebody you'll love unconditionally (vice versa) at a very tender age.

Op you need to find someone now, it might be too late to see true love when you turns 30+, find someone that both of you will grow (in love) together.

Don't listen to the ones shouting hustle more above.

50k is not too small, at least you talking about relationship not marriage.

I don talk my own.


You're the only reasonable human being with brain on this thread.

Nigerians have this fùck up mentality about a man being financially buoyant before he can find love or seek one.

Funny thing is in the next 10 years to come they will still be hustling.
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by ibietela2(m): 7:47pm On Dec 29, 2019
Ahamefuna0001:
Matured minds please.

I'm a 25years old guy who who just completed my NYSC and got a job which pays me 50K monthly salary. I paired with a colleague at work to rent a single room self contain.

I have this mixed feeling that am over due to have a fiancée. I don't know if this feeling is wrong. I'm I good to have a serious girlfriend or fiancée at this stage of my life?

My brother start now o, don't listen to those saying make money, make money you can't make money finish o, even Dangote still dey find money.

Start now to plan life and family....

Making money is a process and an ongoing thingy not 1 time... All these boys shouting make money don't even have money

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Fash20: 7:50pm On Dec 29, 2019
Riele:



Care to provide a seat for me ?

Would you mind sitting on my head?
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Riele(f): 7:52pm On Dec 29, 2019
Fash20:

Would you mind sitting on my head?
Only if your head is decorated with dollars .
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Nobody: 7:57pm On Dec 29, 2019
guru90:


What ar u saying brother? Say that said that pikin go grow past their parents. So u want him to follow his parents footsteps. H.e.l.l. No....

I am a living witness. My late dad didn't own a house at all when they gave birth to me till he died... But now I will be counting how many lands I own plus the one I don dey build now.
Ahamefuna, plz kindly grow past your parents before u think of marriage.
don't listen to this fellow. Change your mindset. You can never live forever. Even if you make the billions in the world. You don't need to own millions to have a woman. This is ordinary woman we are talking about here. I never mentioned he should not surpass his parents. Always calm down and read properly before you comment..

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Elvinho2244(m): 7:58pm On Dec 29, 2019
Waterview:
Hustle more hustle more hustle more.

This is the problem with Nigerians, we chase money a lot, that's why it'll be very hard to see a selfless politician, greediness has eaten deep into our system no thanks to our barbaric culture.
I made a mistake when I was in Sec. School which am still regretting till today; I couldn't find love in Sec school, it good to find somebody you'll love unconditionally (vice versa) at a very tender age.

Op you need to find someone now, it might be too late to see true love when you turns 30+, find someone that both of you will grow (in love) together.

Don't listen to the ones shouting hustle more above.

50k is not too small, at least you talking about relationship not marriage.

I don talk my own.




You're mouthed bro
Chop knuckle cool

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by ruffDiamond: 8:01pm On Dec 29, 2019
in those days, it's easy to differentiate between a call girl (olosho)and normal well brought up gal..but today, there is a very thin line between the two, most Nigerian ladies now are nothing but CODED OLOSHO, with terrible mileage.uncountable boy/man friend, even house wives dey fuvk anyhow,dem no send again so long you can settle dem.that fiancee you are looking for now will probably ruin yr life ,get money first , (that's the ONLY THING they know:they think a man with money makes good husband LOL) they'll come rushing you!then u can be able to select very carefully.Any gal you're dating now, know you're not the only one fuvking her, trust me,those born bitc*es ain't never loyal ..go foreign!

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Elvinho2244(m): 8:02pm On Dec 29, 2019
Riele:


Okay .

Seems you have sense because most nairalanders your age and even older than you are still spreading their decayed sem*n and consoling themselves with the excuse of being on redpill overdose .

My advice :- plan your life first and maybe own a house before settling down .

This girl u funny o grin
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by ibietela2(m): 8:03pm On Dec 29, 2019
enshi:
Immediately he starts paying his rent two months in advance, he starts sending home food stuff or money as the case maybe, he starts wanting to have food served him once he is home, once he has been in a wedding committee of friends trice

What are you saying?
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by rayobaba(m): 8:03pm On Dec 29, 2019
Ahamefuna0001:


Can you throw more lights on this
a girl that is contended wt Ur present 50k and doesn't see u as inadequate. That also pray and hope u get better paid job and ready to plan a life with u no matter ur income and not shawarma girlfriend. Be careful. U hear!
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Fluency(m): 8:05pm On Dec 29, 2019
mogboyelade:
Pls hustle more and take care of your parent first, they've invested on you and this is right time to pay back. If you have a fiance and marriage sets in, you won't be able to take care of your parents and siblings again. Na to focus on your nuclear family go remain.




My dear, your advice is like an Octogenarian.
You speak like a God fearing person. I really like this!

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by kamikaz1: 8:08pm On Dec 29, 2019
Ahamefuna0001:
Matured minds please.

I'm a 25years old guy who who just completed my NYSC and got a job which pays me 50K monthly salary. I paired with a colleague at work to rent a single room self contain.

I have this mixed feeling that am over due to have a fiancée. I don't know if this feeling is wrong. I'm I good to have a serious girlfriend or fiancée at this stage of my life?

Your age is OK..look for a girl within ur life style budget. She has to be working too..as long as both of you are committed you can start a family.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by MrHandsome2013: 8:10pm On Dec 29, 2019
Ahamefuna0001:
Matured minds please.

I'm a 25years old guy who who just completed my NYSC and got a job which pays me 50K monthly salary. I paired with a colleague at work to rent a single room self contain.

I have this mixed feeling that am over due to have a fiancée. I don't know if this feeling is wrong. I'm I good to have a serious girlfriend or fiancée at this stage of my life?
.
where do you work sir?
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Jodha(f): 8:14pm On Dec 29, 2019
Ahamefuna0001:
Matured minds please.

I'm a 25years old guy who who just completed my NYSC and got a job which pays me 50K monthly salary. I paired with a colleague at work to rent a single room self contain.

I have this mixed feeling that am over due to have a fiancée. I don't know if this feeling is wrong. I'm I good to have a serious girlfriend or fiancée at this stage of my life?


It's "am" not "I'm"

That said... it's yhur personal decision...if yhu think yhu can deal with it.. why not?
Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by TheRedpillguy: 8:15pm On Dec 29, 2019
Riele:


You're getting it all wrong .

It's the men who wants to turn ladies into slaves .
Ok, how is that? Cus am thinking. We have a laundry machine, cleaning bots. All chores have been. Automated. Why will I want a woman to be my slave? My problem is women manipulating men to extract resources. I understand that a pregnant woman needs support, so is the nursing mother, which am glad to support. But women just want men to work for them and give them all the things they have suffered for. That sounds like slavery to me.to top it all. Women ofen say they are special which implies that men are not special and wea created to serve women. Even thou we are physically more powerful than a woman. This is why I think men should stay away from women since we are not appreciated and are usually shmaed for our efforts.

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Re: At What Stage In Life Is It Okay For A Man To Have A Fiancée? by Mypeople2(m): 8:15pm On Dec 29, 2019
Kirinwa:


I will advise you like my junior brother.

First of all: take a deep breath.

Good. Congratulations first of all on your new job.

Let's get down to the basics. Its from clap, that a dance starts. Do you have a close girlfriend at the moment?

Do you intend to marry within 2 years from now? If not I don't think you need a fiancee. Reason being that its a liability. Majority of the Nigerian females take relationship as a career where they are entitled to salary. So how much will you be paying her monthly? #20k?
That leaves you with #30k, how about that?
Its irrelevant whether she's working or not because she will still be expecting something from you.

I believe I have answered your question.
My guy, you mean he should be paying 20k to a babe from his salary of 50k? Which kind work she dey do for am to warrant 40% of his salary ?

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