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lilwetdick:
this is just nonsense

this what i hate to read, the pity and emotional game, the story that everything can end just in a day.

getting rich and going broke is a process, it just not start and end in a day

but how can you be earning 30k and be in marriage.

i cant allow a man earning 30k to marry my sister..simple as abc

You are like a person who only reason just physically only in this world wey we dey...Mr open your eyes...I have someone close that was earning 15k monthly with masters...with the wife little husle too...but as I speak to you...he works in an oil company today....

How would you have felt if that person you deject becomes the corner stone..

lilwetdick:
17k with 2 kids and proper planning..

father, mother and 2 kids = 4 mouth

17k to take care of 4 mouth monthly...

17k/30 days=567 naira daily for 4 mouth

this is impossible

Remember the man is having a bike, maybe once in a while he use it to work

lilwetdick:
a man with vision and focus wont be earning 30k. i believe in spousal support, both couples should work, combine income but 30k is nothing

how will this 30k earner pay for rent before they marry, who is bringing whom to the house, the man or the woman.

How much is the profit of Vision and Focus?

Some will not start profiting from their ideas until some months or years later.

Am not earning 30k per month nor am I salary earner. Yet i have met good ladies who care less about that. There was one two years older than me who even woo me with her hard working and independent in income but, i dont see into that.
What attracted me to those ladies is my personality.

olabrinks:
Late thirties to forties you are no longer in your prime. And if you don’t have substantial money or something very meaningful to offer at that point in your life, no young girl in their 20s will marry you. That’s why when some men talk about having all the time in the world I laugh. It’s better to settle down early with more options, because there’s no guarantee you will make it in life by the time you are 39.

Leave that one. Let him be dreaming there. He is talking about risks from the female side. He hasn't read the part where a male's fertility starts to reduce from age 35. He thinks he can chase girls and pay school fees at 50. He will end up fathering another man's child and die early.

Let him come and try his luck again with his old, lame emotional blackmail.

The guy na confirmed mumu.

lilwetdick:
a man with vision and focus wont be earning 30k. i believe in spousal support, both couples should work, combine income but 30k is nothing

how will this 30k earner pay for rent before they marry, who is bringing whom to the house, the man or the woman.

Shut up joor, social media has a way of promoting fools....

There are many successful men out there that started with salary lesser than 30k

wizardus:
You are like a person who only reason just physically only in this world wey we dey...Mr open your eyes...I have someone close that was earning 15k monthly with masters...with the wife little husle too...but as I speak to you...he works in an oil company today....

How would you have felt if that person you deject becomes the corner stone..

good for you..replicate his life if it works for you.

you can start with 10k self..have fun

Mires:
Come and rent my landlord self contain in ph for 270k

Is selfcon in PH #270 000? Let's quit the jokes.

Fxwarrior:
Is selfcon in PH #270 000? Let's quit the jokes.

Bro there are places like Woji where self contain goes for N350,000

onadana:
Getting rich and broke...that's crazy.Just like that.Dangote,Bill gates etc will go broke one day.How?.Never,N30,000 marriage no be must ok.

you dey mind them

according to them millionaires just go broke, workers just get sacked, and someone working in nnpc will die.

just marry do not plan because oneday, you will be rich..lol

maasoap:
Lol. Let's scare them o

Please let them marry who they want o. That idea that marrying a rich guy will pose problems later is a fallacy created by the "not rich" ones in a bid to keep the women to themselves.

IyaTola:
After seeing the post https://www.nairaland.com/5456607/ladies-marry-guy-earns-n30k of a man earning 30k shouldn't consider marriage Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy That Earns N30k? by ejitest1(m): 6:04pm On Oct 06 - felt I needed to post my opinion so others can learn.

If your idea of a good marraige is to get a man or woman with a good source of income from both parties and a comfortable lifestyle..

It's fine BUT>>>>

let me tell u the truth..

All those things can be wiped in days.. e.g job's good lifestyle wiped in a matter of days...

So what if he or she was a multi billionaire b4 you decided to marry them.

After few months or years, demons of parking everything appears and parks everything? Oh you forgot 1 bad loan gone south can cripple everything?

We focus on one thing, always related to money gain.. nobody talks about the spiritual aspect of marriage.. everyone always goes with - he must be working in shell or NNPC.. We have seen people who retired from those places and went back to square minus 0.

I told my sisters, never should a man bulk salary or business profits energize you to be a reason to want to marry him because if anything happens to that job or business - you will lose interests in the marriage - then divorce...

Marry a man who got a purpose, drive, vision, someone you can support to be something.. from scratch so that even if he crashed you can always advice him back to the top.

Those kinda marriages last long, majority of those men will love you till death.. even if they cheat, you will never find out... and they can never say "where were you wen I was building my wealth?"

When my uncle's friend (Now working in NNPC) a muslim was told to add another wife, I was in that room - he said in Hausa and I quote "you guys were not there when this lady (his wife) had to sell akara to sponsor his transport fares looking for jobs, so I don't want anyone competing Me with her."

If it was all about the money, you think faith Oyedepo would have married David Oyedepo? Am sure he wasn't seeing 30k monthly salary when he started Living faith church...

Btw, ladies - am not implying you should go marry a lazy broke man, rather marry a man who is starting little with dreams and strong visions, such that if everything crashed, he can pickup again and fight back.

If Bishop wife was after money or someone rich..she won't have married him..NO way..he said so himself but today the story is different..You see most 9ja girls today only gauge a guy by his now prospects and in most cases end up making choices that will lead to regret...they marry a guy that seems to be week to do and 1 year into marriage the story changes..the guy goes down and she is back to square one as her real identity come to the fore as disaster becomes the end of the union contracted on the basis of material and money availability.

funmisticqueen:
my DAD is actually well to do. that is why i will not settle for less

Lol
Well to do

lilwetdick:
to all those shouting vision, mission, focus and determination bla bla

your father shouted the same thing but he still in the same condition

you also are shouting the same thing and you will be in the same situation

change your country economic situation and life will be better for most of you.

You will be a terrible marriage advisor

Stop flocking with liabilities, if you cut your coat according to your size and your wife is also bring something to the table. You can live well with 100k income in lagos

uninspired07:
How many women will agree to marry you with a 100k salary in Lagos, Nigeria?

Unless of course you want to keep petting & begging a woman to be with you for the rest of the marriage.

Marriage will manageable for a family in Lagos, Nigeria if the man earns from 250 and above & they plan well. Anything else will be a struggle if you marry a normal Lagos girl. Unless you want to import a wife from the village.

My guy even second hand furniture has value

Fxwarrior:
Seems you live far from your work place?

not really. It's just 70 naira to my workplace. and I go to work only 4 days a week

Fxwarrior:
Which state? I can help you plan your expenditure.

bayelsa, yenagoa actually

Hairdo666:
Loud it!!! I'll not even be married if I earned 30k. Talk less of marrying someone that earns same. Many nairalanders like to come here with their "pity me" bullshit. "Ladies, its not about the money" always forcing broke men on women! Trash thread

Nobody is forcing no one on anyone but by the time cobwebs...

they will ask questions that required ladies to answer, men no go let them talk. just be commenting here and there. tufiakwa!

FuckAllTheMODs:
Shut up joor, social media has a way of promoting fools....

There are many successful men out there that started with salary lesser than 30k

ok,you can join the 15k gang and marry....do what works for you.

lilwetdick:
do what you like

make are ask u this.


If u find yourselve in DAT kind of situation, will u marry or not.

Remember u didn't pute urself there. God pute u there

urchcoded:
not really. It's just 70 naira to my workplace. and I go to work only 4 days a week

If you take bike, you can walk a short distance to pay #50 or trek to school sometimes. @ #70 I believe school is trekable.

For food, a tin of local rice is #700 which can last for 2 weeks, cook it with pepe onion #50 and power oil #50, beans is #50 a cup, yam #500.
Foufou is #50, you can cook #1000 soup.

Economically you can cope.

lilwetdick:
good for you..replicate his life if it works for you.

you can start with 10k self..have fun

Are you married?

lilwetdick:
so why are men coming to my father's house to ask her hand in marriage with all their cheap wine

Guy which kind wine you dey find ? Abi dem nor dey piss the wine dey throw way ?

AuwalYusuf812:
make are ask u this.



If u find yourselve in DAT kind of situation, will u marry or not.


Remember u didn't pute urself there. God pute u there

god did not put you there, you put yourself there, everyman has his success in his hand, choice matters in this life

if i earn low, i wont marry but will strive to improve my income.

Stupid poverty Struck Nigeria Mentality. What stops you as a woman from doing a job that pays more than 30k?
Lazy slay queens up and down looking for a man that earns large to stick to like a blood sucking leech.

GeneralPula:
Everyone just dey talk hin own sha...

The question only requires a simple yes or no answer but here we are;

Nah comprehension some people dey write for here

lilwetdick:
but this is poverty.

Lol... oh c'mon

You people should leave me alone this night o.
See comments.

E2000:
Stupid poverty Struck Nigeria Mentality. What stops you as a woman from doing a job that pays more than 30k?
Lazy slay queens up and down looking for a man that earns large to stick to like a blood sucking leech.

My guy na so oo.They don't want to do anything .Just to get belle for us that is their contribution to us financially .Very wicked mentality ..That is why you see more men committing crimes and going to jail just because he wants a better life for himself and his woman.Check properly, you will observe that we have more widows than widowers...them don work die

Marry or hit menopause at home

I still stick with Donpata thorough analysis and I believe any sensible person should also try and work out what works for best for them.

P.S; Some of us still believe in a world filled with fairies, cupcakes and rainbows so most comments here are understandable but not all is justifiable...