Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I need your help...
I confronted my friend because I'm not comfortable with her chatting with my boyfriend all the time, cuz I cry most times I go through their chats, I feel insecure.. Although I trust my man, but I don't trust some ladies..
So I told her to back off, then she said she would stop, that she would even do beyond... have i done the right thing
Your advice please...

azimo:
no you did the right to avoid story that touches the heart biko

Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I need your help...
I confronted my friend because I'm not comfortable with her chatting with my boyfriend all the time, cuz I cry most times I go through their chats, I feel insecure.. Although I trust my man, but I don't trust some ladies..
So I told her to back off, then she said she would stop, that she would even do beyond... have i done the right thing
Your advice please...

healthserve:




Completely break it. It's so wrong. Before matters that touches the heart occurs. Your friend needs to go find her own boyfriend and stop sharing companionship with you

Ekemeze:
IS YOUR BOYFRIEND WORST FIGHTING FOR?

before a typical Naija girl would do what u just did, then the guy must be a rich nigga or pretty good in bedmatics

donbachi:
My sister,wisdom is the principal thing....not vice principal.

OJODEL10:
please break the chat before she break your heart. it is well.

Jiggerboiy:
Normal phenomenon. It's What happens when you keep hoe friends
You for just shut up biko.


Now your friend's about to be bleeped by your boo

Puregold3:


I'm I wrong

donbachi:
NO

Puregold3:



You mean i shouldn't have confronted her

Jiggerboiy:
100% you shouldn't have. Now when your boyfriend finds out she's avoiding him cos you made her to then he's gonna do what the average bad guy does. "flex on a hoe lady whenever they are insecure"

I just hope your story doesn't end so

favoryte33:
It's normal to feel insecure but it becomes abnormal when you allow your insecurity consume you so much that you suspect every bee that has no business with your honeypot. The root of d problem lies with your bf. Let him know about your insecurities.okay?

favoryte33:
It's normal to feel insecure but it becomes abnormal when you allow your insecurity consume you so much that you suspect every bee that has no business with your honeypot. The root of d problem lies with your bf. Let him know about your insecurities.okay?

Puregold3:


thanks

healthserve:




I recommend you first report her to your group friends so they will lend support yo your voice and tell her to stop. No human has fully mastered their emotions and you can't afford to have them involved that way because any of the three of you can be exposed to emotional engagements. It's wrong

Puregold3:
I'm having a feeling that I have made my friend sad...

TheGoodJoe:


Your friend is making you sad with the way she chats up your boyfriend. You are the one dating the guy and you are not comfortable with it. That is just it. You are not comfortable. She makes you sad.

Do not hurt yourself to please another when it concerns your relationship.

Puregold3:



Thanks brother �

Puregold3:
I'm having a feeling that I have made my friend sad...

TheGoodJoe:


What was his earlier reason for continuing the incessant chatting after you asked him to stop?

uruba23:

na wa for you o, so you don't trust your F-R-I-E-N-D but you trust your boyfriend. Just learn to look away, and have a spare boy friend just in case...Don't put all your egg in one baskets before they start to use you to yanga... you are not married to him yet and you are already freaking your friend. Na wa o

mrblessed:
I don't think your friend truly deserves to be called a friend after you have expressed dissatisfaction with her relationship with your guy. You aren't insecure by being apprehensive of the propriety of their conversation: human beings are instinctively territorial. If she is a good friend as you portray her to be, she wouldn't engage your guy in a steady, prolonged conversation that does not enjoy your direct supervision. Again, your guy equally deserves some flaws, because no sensible and reasonable man will establish close relationship with his babe's friend to the degree it becomes disturbing, questionable, and inappropriate.

With the regularity of their conversation and the misgivings it has aroused in you, it is not cynical to state that some level of intimacy might have been established between them. You need to be vigilant, talk to both of them, and carry out some investigatory exercise.

On the flip side, it is obvious you have and have shown great love to this dude to make him think he can get away with anything, including bedding your friend. To me, this is a huge red flag.

Puregold3:


What he was...
He said she is not his type that he can never leave me for anyone...that is just normal chat, I told him that I am not comfortable that I'm gonna confront her, he said I should go ahead ...
( I'm not against it, at all
Just don't resort to fight)