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I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:22pm On Dec 31, 2019
Hi nairalanders, I need your help...
I confronted my friend because I'm not comfortable with her chatting with my boyfriend all the time, cuz I cry most times I go through their chats, I feel insecure.. Although I trust my man, but I don't trust some ladies..
So I told her to back off, then she said she would stop, that she would even do beyond... have i done the right thing.. should I tell my boyfriend to stop the chat with her? Cuz this is the third time I'm going to tell him...
Your advice please...
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Nobody: 1:27pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I need your help...
I confronted my friend because I'm not comfortable with her chatting with my boyfriend all the time, cuz I cry most times I go through their chats, I feel insecure.. Although I trust my man, but I don't trust some ladies..
So I told her to back off, then she said she would stop, that she would even do beyond... have i done the right thing
Your advice please...
no you did the right to avoid story that touches the heart biko

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:28pm On Dec 31, 2019
azimo:
no you did the right to avoid story that touches the heart biko
Thanks
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by healthserve(m): 1:29pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I need your help...
I confronted my friend because I'm not comfortable with her chatting with my boyfriend all the time, cuz I cry most times I go through their chats, I feel insecure.. Although I trust my man, but I don't trust some ladies..
So I told her to back off, then she said she would stop, that she would even do beyond... have i done the right thing
Your advice please...



Completely break it. It's so wrong. Before matters that touches the heart occurs. Your friend needs to go find her own boyfriend and stop sharing companionship with you

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:31pm On Dec 31, 2019
healthserve:




Completely break it. It's so wrong. Before matters that touches the heart occurs. Your friend needs to go find her own boyfriend and stop sharing companionship with you

Thanks so much
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Ekemeze: 1:31pm On Dec 31, 2019
grin IS YOUR BOYFRIEND WORTH FIGHTING FOR?

before a typical Naija girl would do what u just did, then the guy must be a rich nigga or pretty good in bedmatics

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Nobody: 1:32pm On Dec 31, 2019
Normal phenomenon. It's What happens when you keep hoe friends
You for just shut up biko.


Now your friend's about to be bleeped by your boo
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by donbachi(m): 1:33pm On Dec 31, 2019
My sister,wisdom is the principal thing....not vice principal.

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:35pm On Dec 31, 2019
Ekemeze:
grin IS YOUR BOYFRIEND WORST FIGHTING FOR?

before a typical Naija girl would do what u just did, then the guy must be a rich nigga or pretty good in bedmatics

Yes he is...
� I really love him and i don't want to start regretting...

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by OJODEL10(m): 1:35pm On Dec 31, 2019
please break the chat before she break your heart. it is well.

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:35pm On Dec 31, 2019
donbachi:
My sister,wisdom is the principal thing....not vice principal.


I'm I wrong
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:36pm On Dec 31, 2019
OJODEL10:
please break the chat before she break your heart. it is well.

Thanks �
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:37pm On Dec 31, 2019
Jiggerboiy:
Normal phenomenon. It's What happens when you keep hoe friends
You for just shut up biko.


Now your friend's about to be bleeped by your boo


You mean i shouldn't have confronted her
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by donbachi(m): 1:40pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:


I'm I wrong
NO

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:44pm On Dec 31, 2019
donbachi:
NO

Thanks
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Nobody: 1:52pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:



You mean i shouldn't have confronted her
100% you shouldn't have. Now when your boyfriend finds out she's avoiding him cos you made her to then he's gonna do what the average bad guy does. "flex on a hoe lady whenever they are insecure"

I just hope your story doesn't end so

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Nobody: 1:54pm On Dec 31, 2019
It's normal to feel insecure but it becomes abnormal when you allow your insecurity consume you so much that you suspect every bee that has no business with your honeypot. The root of d problem lies with your bf. Let him know about your insecurities.okay?

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:54pm On Dec 31, 2019
Jiggerboiy:
100% you shouldn't have. Now when your boyfriend finds out she's avoiding him cos you made her to then he's gonna do what the average bad guy does. "flex on a hoe lady whenever they are insecure"

I just hope your story doesn't end so

Thanks
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 1:55pm On Dec 31, 2019
favoryte33:
It's normal to feel insecure but it becomes abnormal when you allow your insecurity consume you so much that you suspect every bee that has no business with your honeypot. The root of d problem lies with your bf. Let him know about your insecurities.okay?

thanks
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by healthserve(m): 1:58pm On Dec 31, 2019
favoryte33:
It's normal to feel insecure but it becomes abnormal when you allow your insecurity consume you so much that you suspect every bee that has no business with your honeypot. The root of d problem lies with your bf. Let him know about your insecurities.okay?


It's not normal my dear. Its not just relationship she stands to loose but possibly marriage and a future. She needs to protect her territory how she sees fit

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by healthserve(m): 1:59pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:


thanks



I recommend you first report her to your group friends so they will lend support yo your voice and tell her to stop. No human has fully mastered their emotions and you can't afford to have them involved that way because any of the three of you can be exposed to emotional engagements. It's wrong

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 2:03pm On Dec 31, 2019
healthserve:




I recommend you first report her to your group friends so they will lend support yo your voice and tell her to stop. No human has fully mastered their emotions and you can't afford to have them involved that way because any of the three of you can be exposed to emotional engagements. It's wrong


Thanks
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 2:14pm On Dec 31, 2019
I'm having a feeling that I have made my friend sad...
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by TheGoodJoe(m): 2:18pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:
I'm having a feeling that I have made my friend sad...

Your friend is making you sad with the way she chats up your boyfriend. You are the one dating the guy and you are not comfortable with it. That is just it. You are not comfortable. She makes you sad.

Do not hurt yourself to please another when it concerns your relationship.

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 2:21pm On Dec 31, 2019
TheGoodJoe:


Your friend is making you sad with the way she chats up your boyfriend. You are the one dating the guy and you are not comfortable with it. That is just it. You are not comfortable. She makes you sad.

Do not hurt yourself to please another when it concerns your relationship.


Thanks brother �

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by TheGoodJoe(m): 2:25pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:



Thanks brother �

What was his earlier reason for continuing the incessant chatting after you asked him to stop?

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Nobody: 2:31pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:
I'm having a feeling that I have made my friend sad...
na wa for you o, so you don't trust your F-R-I-E-N-D but you trust your boyfriend. Just learn to look away, and have a spare boy friend just in case...Don't put all your egg in one baskets before they start to use you to yanga... you are not married to him yet and you are already freaking your friend. Na wa o

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 2:40pm On Dec 31, 2019
TheGoodJoe:


What was his earlier reason for continuing the incessant chatting after you asked him to stop?

What he was...
He said she is not his type that he can never leave me for anyone...that is just normal chat, I told him that I am not comfortable that I'm gonna confront her, he said I should go ahead ...
( I'm not against it, at all
Just don't resort to fight)...

After all these has been said by him, he still continue the chatting
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by mrblessed(m): 2:42pm On Dec 31, 2019
I don't think your friend truly deserves to be called a friend after you have expressed dissatisfaction with her relationship with your guy. You aren't insecure by being apprehensive of the propriety of their conversation: human beings are instinctively territorial. If she is a good friend as you portray her to be, she wouldn't engage your guy in a steady, prolonged conversation that does not enjoy your direct supervision. Again, your guy equally deserves some flaws, because no sensible and reasonable man will establish close relationship with his babe's friend to the degree it becomes disturbing, questionable, and inappropriate.

With the regularity of their conversation and the misgivings it has aroused in you, it is not cynical to state that some level of intimacy might have been established between them. You need to be vigilant, talk to both of them, and carry out some investigatory exercise.

On the flip side, it is obvious you have and have shown great love to this dude to make him think he can get away with anything, including bedding your friend. To me, this is a huge red flag.

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Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 2:42pm On Dec 31, 2019
uruba23:

na wa for you o, so you don't trust your F-R-I-E-N-D but you trust your boyfriend. Just learn to look away, and have a spare boy friend just in case...Don't put all your egg in one baskets before they start to use you to yanga... you are not married to him yet and you are already freaking your friend. Na wa o


Hmmmm
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by Puregold3(f): 2:44pm On Dec 31, 2019
mrblessed:
I don't think your friend truly deserves to be called a friend after you have expressed dissatisfaction with her relationship with your guy. You aren't insecure by being apprehensive of the propriety of their conversation: human beings are instinctively territorial. If she is a good friend as you portray her to be, she wouldn't engage your guy in a steady, prolonged conversation that does not enjoy your direct supervision. Again, your guy equally deserves some flaws, because no sensible and reasonable man will establish close relationship with his babe's friend to the degree it becomes disturbing, questionable, and inappropriate.

With the regularity of their conversation and the misgivings it has aroused in you, it is not cynical to state that some level of intimacy might have been established between them. You need to be vigilant, talk to both of them, and carry out some investigatory exercise.

On the flip side, it is obvious you have and have shown great love to this dude to make him think he can get away with anything, including bedding your friend. To me, this is a huge red flag.



Wow!
Thanks so much
Re: I Confronted My Friend Because I'm Not Comfortable With Her Chatting My Boyfrnd by TheGoodJoe(m): 2:46pm On Dec 31, 2019
Puregold3:


What he was...
He said she is not his type that he can never leave me for anyone...that is just normal chat, I told him that I am not comfortable that I'm gonna confront her, he said I should go ahead ...
( I'm not against it, at all
Just don't resort to fight)

You know, relationship issues is so confusing, especially when it comes to trust issues. Worst part is that individuals are mentally wired differently. The only true compass I believe that can direct you is how you feel.

Do not be pushy but try to take a stance when it concerns your heart. Find a tune button you can use to make him listen to you. Your friend is not the main challenge but you trying to make your man understand your happiness should be his priority.

Do not feel guilty for trying to stop it. At the end we are different and should work towards what makes us happy.

Put your happiness in front and hope he does the same for you.

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