what an acolade.this's my man of the year

Situation001:
Shocking details posted on Facebook has got many people angry and slamming the man for humiliating his wife and her family, read the details posted below by Sandra Ibeh and lets know your opinion, was the man right?
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Sandra Ibeh Posted :

Tomorrow is 31st December 2019 and the last day of this decade. While some are in celebration mood, a man has decided to humiliate a whole family by pulling out of his church and traditional wedding scheduled for tomorrow somewhere in Anambra because his bride to be cheated on him 2 months back.
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In as much as I am not in support of what the bride did, I equally condemned the groom's last-minute decision. He knew that his bride cheated on his since October and didn't confront her. He went along with the marriage preparation putting the lady through so many stress while he remained in England hatching his evil plan.
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He came back to Abuja on the 28th and told his mother this morning that he's not going ahead with the wedding.
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The painful part of this whole thing is that he's acting as if he's doing the right thing. Spoke with him, he was laughing and the next thing he said was that I can provide my brother to take his place since everything is in place. He carefully planned to humiliate this girl and her family and to be honest, this is wrong.
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Bride to be has been crying uncontrollably in the village. She admitted that she made a mistake and she regrets her action. She had more to drink during her friend's birthday and ended up sleeping with one of their mutual friends (action she greatly regrets) without knowing that it was a setup. The next day pictures were sent to her fiance and he held on to it and acted normal until today.
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I asked him why he kept quiet and continued with the preparation, he said that he wants the girl to feel the kind of pain he felt when he saw the pictures.
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I honestly think that what he's doing is wrong and insulting to both his family and the bride's family because both families have been preparing for this wedding and are ready until he called this morning to cancel.
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Every other person is against his decision except his older brother but he's not ready to change his stance.
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This is not the kind of news one should be hearing at the end of the year. It's painful and annoying.

Meanwhile, the girl said that he had cheated on her before and she forgave him.
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My question is, why can't he forgive her too and call it even? Why grandstand? asked the poster..
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When you are in courtship, at the very least, stay faith.
If you cant, get out of it.
or else, what you see is what you should accept.
If you think a man who is based in England and shouldering all the responsibility of tax and bills, supporting his family, possibly supporting yours, will accept, "SORRY" when you cheat on him, then you are thinking every man has the Holy Spirit inside of him.
Clearly this dude was pained and only played out a plan he has thought of very well.
While it is wrong, I do not blame him.

dangotesmummy:
you are still not getting the point.forgiveness is part of the package that comes with marriage.you don't just take the good side.you take the good , the bad and the ugly.shebi Una dey always say for better for worse,in sickness and in pain till death do you part,so why can't you take the lime with the lemon.na only the lemon you want,you don't want the lime

They are not yet married so the for better for worse is null and void, thereby not applicable in this matter at hand.

dangotesmummy:
you are still not getting the point.forgiveness is part of the package that comes with marriage.you don't just take the good side.you take the good , the bad and the ugly.shebi Una dey always say for better for worse,in sickness and in pain till death do you part,so why can't you take the lime with the lemon.na only the lemon you want,you don't want the lime

maybe you should get it straight .....they are not married yet ....had it been it was after marriage then ur logic can work out but they are not yet...... only few men can go ahead to marry such a lady and I doubt if any is in Nigeria

Godoverevery:

maybe you should get it straight .....they are not married yet ....had it been it was after marriage then ur logic can work out but they are not yet...... only few men can go ahead to marry such a lady and I doubt if any is in Nigeria

then they're better apart than being joined together

Jodha:


See as yhu dey proudly generalize ....Asif men don't cheat...

Asif y'all are saints....

What about men that cheat?

Break up with any man that cheat,she chose to forgive him and he decided not to.

maclawrence02:

They are not yet married so the for better for worse is null and void, thereby not applicable in this matter at hand.

Yorubas said what you won't take as a rich man, you reject it as a poor man.it has already showed that he's unforgiving

nnaeyes6:
Women should understand that when a man cheats, it is natural. Reference it with our forefathers who married more that one because there must be a hole to pot the snooker ball.
In current time, it seems almost impossible for a man to get another wife and when he cheats u make noise. Are u okay at all.
When I marry and accidentally cheat and my wife makes some noise I will get a second wife to settle the issue. And when I cheat yet and get more noise, I will get more wives.
Are we more religious, wife and modernise than Isaac's mum and Samuel's mum? Those who read bible will know what I mean.

A man cheats u want to make it even.

U catch me! U go home
I catch u! U go home.

No yeye feminist should quote me.
Cheaters

I don't blame them. Na the jonzing mumu men here (who are increasing in number by the day) that I blame.

All the loud mouthed pseudo feminists here would any of them make noise if their E Money or Otedola or whatever rich man husband is 'caught' flexing with another woman? It's ridiculous.

The truth is that male faithfulness in Nigeria is the broke man's burden. You shouldn't be chasing women up and down if you can't foot the household bills (hustle first o). But as a normal omo ope doing the needful, you would be a fool to allow a scheming woman manipulate you into faithfulness.

The marriage would have been dead on arrival,because that bride will not stop been wailward after marriage, According to the Bible if a woman is found cheating (adultery) divorce is allowed.Na wa o..... This one just destroy her own life by her self...

Nice one.

If they check him too, he may have cheated on her a couple of times...more than once. But he's feeling like a saint...lol. His own is waiting for him in front

Did the lady confess to him when she played the away match or she thought it would be her little secret? I don't want to take sides in this matter but if she confessed and apologised for her action, I don't think the guy will have the mind to go this far. He found out on his own and felt cheated, so let the girl Swallow the bitter pill of shame and heart break too.

Op ur mad for even supporting the girl

Davesaves:
u were created with a single rib from a man..a single rib.. how many ribs do we have again? yet u want to drag equality with the men.. SMH

It’s common sense, not dragging equality with men. And if we are to be logical, we are created out of a single rib from your many ribs, yet we have the same one head like you, two hands and only our private parts are different. We have the same 24 hours, isn’t it a shame that although we have are created from a single rib out of the many you posses, yet we have the same qualities and hours in a day with you when it’s obvious you guys should have more?

Besides, the post was about your negative words and not about dragging equality with men. Stop using words to cover your negative attitudes and bitterness. The post wasn’t about dragging equality with men, the post was about common sense. You don’t go about wishing people evil

Hedonisco:


I don't blame them. Na the jonzing mumu men here (who are increasing in number by the day) that I blame.

All the loud mouthed pseudo feminists here would any of them make noise if their E Money or Otedola or whatever rich man husband is 'caught' flexing with another woman? It's ridiculous.

Very ridiculous.

Men are not in their menses and u expect them to block their kpekus in

1: Wive or girlfriend period
2: When they gave birth and are nursing
3: When they are about to give birth
4: When they are observing religious rite line fasting
5:When they say they are not in the mood.


Absolute wickedness and rubbish.

Hedonisco:


You think you're in Norway or Sweden or maybe Finland? Mumu. Tell that to a full blooded African man who has to pay your useless bride price and shoulder all the financial responsibilities from courtship to wedding to marriage.

In this culture, the man is allowed to cheat and get away with it.The woman isn't. Deal with it or stay single. Simple.

Samofamo:
The marriage would have been dead on arrival,because that bride will not stop been wailward after marriage, According to the Bible if a woman is found cheating (adultery) divorce is allowed.Na wa o..... This one just destroy her own life by her self...

It’s wayward and you people just talk. Didn’t you people read up there that she was drunk and it was even a set up? Cos pictures were taken and sent to her fiancé. I’m not saying that excuses the girl because why would you get drunk in a party that’s not yours? What even if the party is yours. You simply don’t get drunk in a party involving multitudes. It’s common sense. But some people are dimwi.ts, they simply do not have this common sense, the lady might not be wailward like you said up there, she might just be devoid of common sense and thus becoming a victim of circumstance. After all it wasn’t said that the husband has caught her cheating multiple times

I love the guy. I will do same

A woman that can cheat 2 months to wedding will cheat 2 days after wedding

Dump the THRASH!

queenitee:

I never said he made a bad decision. I’m talking about those talking as tho guys are saint here forgetting the part where he cheated also. Didn’t you see where I wrote up there I can’t judge him for the decisions he made cos we all have different ways of reacting to stuffs? I said they both deserved bashing cos they both cheated. I never told you I’m in support of what the lady did or something. I’m saying if he has high standard/morals In the first place, he wouldn’t have cheated also. They both have no morals.
His judgment wasn’t based on having high standard/morals, It was based on the fact that his ego was crushed.

[s]Besides, you really need to do something about this your bitter lifestyle come 2020, cos only bitter people thinks everyone who says something is wailing[/s].

Bla bla bla whatever.
Cry baby, cry me a river!

Is it your money that was used for the preparation?
Like he said, provide your brother to marry the bride since everything has been settled.

dangotesmummy:
Yorubas said what you won't take as a rich man, you reject it as a poor man.it has already showed that he's unforgiving

And the ibos says what you are wearing on you wrist you don't need a mirror to look at it. She has proven that she is a loose woman not worthy to be married and made a wife and as such deserves what came to her.

queenitee:

It’s wayward and you people just talk. Didn’t you people read up there that she was drunk and it was even a set up? Cos pictures were taken and sent to her fiancé. I’m not saying that excuses the girl because why would you get drunk in a party that’s not yours? What even if the party is yours. You simply don’t get drunk in a party involving multitudes. It’s common sense. But some people are dimwi.ts, they simply do not have this common sense, the lady might not be wailward like you said up there, she might just be devoid of common sense and thus becoming a victim of circumstance. After all it wasn’t said that the husband has caught her cheating multiple times

You mean the guy should have waited till she gives birth to another man's child for him to take care.

Oduduwa707:


I hope they realize you're the same biggest troller on this forum...

NkitaAla, NgadaAwo etc... Olofo!

have a nice day sir and happy new year

I am never getting married to a Nigerian. Thank God I already have a daughter. If they are not serial cheaters they are possessed by marine spirits. People think it's a joke. I cannot count the number of times married women Have courted me. If you are guy PLEASE before you marry a Nigerian seek for God's approval first.

why is the man acting like a saint, can he swear he hasn't been cheating on her while abroad

eni4real:
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Waper2:

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My legs wey straight ....how e wan turn to bow legs again nah...

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Jodha:


Obasanjo. ...

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eni4real:
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