queenitee:

Excuse me, you don’t know me and I would be glad if you refrain from using such words about me. Yes any lady would put a mouth in this matter because she’s human and she has a right to her own opinion and we all view issues from different angle and you don’t see me up there praising what the lady did or condemning the man.

So please read and read with common sense so you can comprehend and if you can’t, kindly run along.

the lady is wayward,and not fit to build a home with, na God save the guy,and I know u the advocate will do the same,yeye dey smell.

victorian:







Thanks, that's what guys say to confuse ladies.

I'm single, not yet married.

But you too have sense I swear.

dangotesmummy:
helooo please think again.

He cheated initially,she forgave him,she cheated,he can't forgive?

Of what use is marriage without forgiveness.so it's only 1 party that should be doing the forgiveness? Mshewwwww

Miss bride Go and thank God for making you escape a bullet.england or no England, you didn't enter into a life of regret and only you in the marriage.thank God.you don't know how God has delivered your body and soul from destruction

Moreover if it's England that is paining you, you can tell your parents to sponsor your trip to England

It shows she was about to enter a marriage where the man will show only conditional love (,traits of a narcisst) as if he's perfect and not guilty of the Same thing he cannot forgive his wife for

My thoughts exactly. Correct narcisst. It's funny how if this story was the other way round all the guys here would still support the guy and blame the lady. The ones saying they can't marry a lady that takes alcohol are the very ones that drink and forget their first name. Most of them even cheat on their wives on their bachelor night, we just don't get to hear because their friends always cover up for them.
You can drink but your wife isn't allowed to. You can cheat but your wife isn't allowed to. You can make mistakes but your wife isn't allowed to. Perfect being.

Jodha:


See as yhu dey proudly generalize ....Asif men don't cheat...

Asif y'all are saints....

What about men that cheat?

If men cheat, it's allowed. Man can have many wife cannot have many husbands. Read the Bible or Quran, how many prophets God likes that wasn't a polygamist.

Women are tools of enjoyment to men.

When barbarism is the order of the day. Open communication, honesty and working towards ridding oneself of life's delusions will be very beneficial to us.

Cheating is bad but if this man wasn't so mean, the responsible thing to do was to call off the wedding way before now. The fact that he has cheated too did not even placate him or move him enough to seek dialogue and then come to an open conclusion. Then he decides to disgrace not only the woman but friends and families from both sides. Shame on him to treat people like that and crucifying the woman he once claimed to love enough to be engaged to. And here we are, having people applaud this behaviour. Phew! Who do dis kain strong thing toh our people na? At 2020? Later na, they will be asking how can something like this or that one still be happening in Nigeria? If only they knew, this is exactly why other absurdities are still rampant in this clime.

Op, let that lady go and sock it up. I wish her the best in life. Let her know she probably dodged a bullet. This kind of man can kill a wife if he feels cheated or offended. E pele o.

Samofamo:
the lady is wayward,and not fit to build a home with, na God save the guy,and I know u the advocate will do the same,yeye dey smell.

You still don’t get it, you need to grow up. I’m not advocating for the lady, neither do I say it’s okay to cheat. I’m saying what if she really was a victim of circumstance considering the fact that it was written up there that she was drunk and pictures were taken(you will agree someone about getting married won’t allow another guy take nudes of her during sex if she was really cheating) and I’m not asking for the husband to take her back, because he’s definitely going through emotional turmoil also and might end up hating her. I’m saying we the public should refrain from judging.
And no, thank you I won’t do the same cos there’s more to relationship than se.x and there are only few intelligent men out there and I won’t jeopardize my chances with the one I’m lucky to get with cheating.

Svnflower:

My thoughts exactly. Correct narcisst. It's funny how if this story was the other way round all the guys here would still support the guy and blame the lady. The ones saying they can't marry a lady that takes alcohol are the very ones that drink and forget their first name. Most of them even cheat on their wives on their bachelor night, we just don't get to hear because their friends always cover up for them.
You can drink but your wife isn't allowed to. You can cheat but your wife isn't allowed to. You can make mistakes but your wife isn't allowed to. Perfect being.

the hypocrisy by these naija men is mind boggling.i don't really blame them for it though I blame their mothers for enabling their entitlement mentality

Sunrise258:



If men cheat, it's allowed. Man can have many wife cannot have many husbands. Read the Bible or Quran, how many prophets God likes that wasn't a polygamist.

Women are tools of enjoyment to men.

including your Mummy and sisters ABI?

KingGBsky:


I’m a Christian. I’m just helping you ladies to understand men better so you can save your home or relationships

Thank God you said you're a Christian.
It's never okay for a married person to cheat,man or woman.
You don't expect a woman to be happy in a marriage where she knows or suspects her husband is cheating,vice versa.
Besides,it's a sin in God's eyes irrespective of gender.

Redeakaa:
Dawn....

So you mean all the rice and chicken ain't gonna be served.....

Is it your only problem in life?

dangotesmummy:
there will be other times she will offend the man and the man will offend the woman and both of them Will still need to forgive each other but if he is starting on this note then there is more crying for her to do in the marriage that she didn't know God delivered her from

Every disappointment is a blessing from God my dear

a man can forgive an insult,endure nagging and even chop slap from a lady...but once she open that 'pot' for another man and he discovers,that one is un-forgive-able offence...even a sane lady shouldn't forgive either.

Born2Breed:
They party hard...

Drink carelessly....

and it all end in shame.

If you know alcohol turns you on then avoid it in public,only loosed girls drinks to stupor in public.

Didn't you hear it was a setup? What if it was drugged?

Forgiveness is not by force

nnaeyes6:
Women should understand that when a man cheats, it is natural. Reference it with our forefathers who married more that one because there must be a hole to pot the snooker ball.
In current time, it seems almost impossible for a man to get another wife and when he cheats u make noise. Are u okay at all.
When I marry and accidentally cheat and my wife makes some noise I will get a second wife to settle the issue. And when I cheat yet and get more noise, I will get more wives.
Are we more religious, wife and modernise than Isaac's mum and Samuel's mum? Those who read bible will know what I mean.

A man cheats u want to make it even.

U catch me! U go home
I catch u! U go home.

No yeye feminist should quote me.
Cheaters

Three gbosa for you bro.

AfroKnight:










First of all, Thunder faya the woman who wrote this story.

That done, I’d love to salute the young man for refusing to be joined in Holy Matrimony with someone who betrayed his trust, and kept quiet about it, planning to sneak into the marriage with such a vile secret. He has done well. Money is not his problem that’s why he didn’t call the engagement off much sooner.

Let the entire clan behold the hôe they were billing the young man for. Is she worth the yams and kegs of palm wine? You people should be grateful the guy still went ahead with the arrangement up to this point. You can at least entertain yourselves with the gifts. New year party is in full swing wherever the guy is. I wish I could send him a bottle of fine wine to celebrate the new year.



A king!

and I will gladly add a carton of CUBAN CIGAR!

freddaboh:


Three gbosa for you bro.

2020 for u

Born2Breed:
They party hard...

Drink carelessly....

and it all end in shame.

If you know alcohol turns you on then avoid it in public,only loosed girls drinks to stupor in public.

And this came from a girl

kweensheba:
Very humiliating, but the lady should move on with life. When a door closes, another one will open.

her door don close kpatakpata,no sane man will wife a hôe,she should just travel abroad....the man deserves an award...chai!

I dont support cheating na to forgive the babe na.
Me i can't do this shall....is either we end the relationship there not keeping it in mind till whatever.

Was the stupid women expecting wedding after cheating? People no get conscience again ooo, anyways I support the man sha, but he should have halted the whole plan immediately...

dangotesmummy:
of course.she deserves a broken wedding than a broken marriage

Alright I give up, your case is beyond me.

Ishilove:
And you had to wait till the last minute to call it off? People just do things without thinking of the future. They don't care who their actions affect as long as they have their way. There are ways to deal with infidelity, but this is just wrong.

Wetin God go judge plenty o.

lol

I just pity women sha, the gender inequality thing

Youngpo413:
a man can forgive an insult,endure nagging and even chop slap from a lady...but once she open that 'pot' for another man and he discovers,that one is un-forgive-able offence...even a sane lady shouldn't forgive either.

hmnnn

frozen70:


He humiliated her by taking such a wicked decision on her happy day

Let him prepare himself very well and wait for the out come

Nothing dey happen joor,the guy even get sympathy,i for abandon the hoé for church...you cant a hoé a house wife,they kill faster than cancer of the boôbs.

Alexaonfleek:
Thank God you said you're a Christian.
It's never okay for a married person to cheat,man or woman.
You don't expect a woman to be happy in a marriage where she knows or suspects her husband is cheating,vice versa.
Besides,it's a sin in God's eyes irrespective of gender.

That’s why I said men don’t cheat only women does. Men only have concubines or side chicks which is normal.

frozen70:

His own meal is still cooking

until then.

List world

Youngpo413:
and I will gladly add a carton of CUBAN CIGAR!

Respect!

queenitee:

You still don’t get it, you need to grow up. I’m not advocating for the lady, neither do I say it’s okay to cheat. I’m saying what if she really was a victim of circumstance considering the fact that it was written up there that she was drunk and pictures were taken(you will agree someone about getting married won’t allow another guy take nudes of her during sex if she was really cheating) and I’m not asking for the husband to take her back, because he’s definitely going through emotional turmoil also and might end up hating her. I’m saying we the public should refrain from judging.
And no, thank you I won’t do the same cos there’s more to relationship than se.x and there are only few intelligent men out there and I won’t jeopardize my chances with the one I’m lucky to get with cheating.

we are not judging but let's together condem bad and wayward behavior in our society so that we can make Nigeria better,condem the act if u are not advocating for evil,there is nothing to justify here ......stop saying she was set up,and if she was, she didn't pass test,how can some one get drunk until she was ganged bleeped,common,that is not the xteristics a virtueous woman,and if u don't stop this advocating u are doing,I will use the most dehumanizing words on u,that u will never forget in ur life....

Samofamo:
we are not judging but let's together condem bad and wayward behavior in our society so that we can make Nigeria better,condem the act if u are not advocating for evil,there is nothing to justify here ......stop saying she was set up,and if she was, she didn't pass test,how can some one get drunk until she was ganged bleeped,common,that is not the xteristics a virtueous woman,and if u don't stop this advocating u are doing,I will use the most dehumanizing words on u,that u will never forget in ur life....

Now I feel you have a problem. Saying how I feel and you saying yours shouldn’t lead to using dehumanizing words, but it’s few hours to 2020 and I don’t have the strength to carry this on to next year. Yes, we are both condemning what she did, no one is supporting her for cheating, we are talking about judging her. Because I don’t support you doesn’t mean I should judge you, And you should see the part I said she’s a dimwi.t who didn’t have common sense because it’s common sense to know you shouldn’t drink without care at a party. But yes I also did not support what she did. But any which way. Happy new year in advance, I wish you a glorious 2020.

Lmao and what you dog know is that you can’t use a dehumanizing word I will never forget on me. Why? Because I know me and whatever you say doesn’t define me and if you actually are not in the category of people I’m very eager to know or get close to, I really don’t care about your opinion of me.

So don’t stress yourself and prepare for your beautiful 2020

queenitee:

Now I feel you have a problem. Saying how I feel and you saying yours shouldn’t lead to using dehumanizing words, but it’s few hours to 2020 and I don’t have the strength to carry this on to next year. Yes, we are both condemning what she did, no one is supporting her for cheating, we are talking about judging her. Because I don’t support you doesn’t mean I should judge you, but yes I also did not support what she did. But any which way. Happy new year in advance, I wish you a glorious 2020.

this is how Eve your mother destroy this world by partnering with the devil,eating the forbidden fruit and giving it to Adam,look at the mess the world is in now,you daughter of Jezebel in the name of slay queen,slay mama and olosho in modern day.