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Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by landmark86: 9:45am On Jan 04, 2020
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branches here in Akure, Ondo State.

I stay in my elder sister's house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.

To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that I have never dated before, just that it never worked well while I was in school.

The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she couldn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.

She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also takes her as a sister not an house help.

Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an event and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.

She called me in and asked what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but I wish I could date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by vertueptime: 9:46am On Jan 04, 2020
No

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by healthserve(m): 9:48am On Jan 04, 2020
Pele woman wrapper. Its a woman that's telling you what to do. Why not ask your sister what are the reasons you can't date her beyond the she's a house girl logic. What a sad classist she is. Better be a man and take your decisions solely by yourself. Tell her you didn't chose her own
lover and there's a limit to her participation/involvement in your life and she shouldn't choose yours. If she'll make a good wife overlook the house girl stereotype. Mrs. ALAKIJA that owns oil Wells today was once like her. Shame on your sister if she doesn't have solid reasons beyond she's an house help. Not in our class.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Davash222(m): 9:49am On Jan 04, 2020
The Oga of the house nko, I mean your sister’s husband? Hope he’s also seeing the pretty, caring, neat and intelligent 25 years old house help

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by madridguy(m): 9:50am On Jan 04, 2020
One of the most dangerous place on earth to be poor is AFRICA. The elites hate the poor simply because they are poor forgotten no one knows tomorrow.

My dear OP, do you know what " Honor killing " means? I would advise you to leave the innocent lady alone before your sister kill or harm her.

Your sister is a proud and selfish woman. Forget the lady because if you ever go along with her, your sister may kill or harm her or never regard/respect her as a wife.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Olalan(m): 9:52am On Jan 04, 2020
It's quite unfortunate we live in a society that see some persons as lesser beings......this is Africa where families could make or mar a union. Thus your sisters myopic thoughts is a signal of what other members would feel towards the relationship.
BTW if you sincerely love her you could do your bit in assisting her to cut her her education while letting go of any emotions relationship you might want to have.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by GhettoG1(m): 9:52am On Jan 04, 2020
Well ur sis actually love you nd she probably foresaw d dangers ahead. First they re both living together bfr ur appearance which speak much about her being right.
Second don't b a fool egbon, I'm sure once u get cordial with her then d nxt shii u gon wanna send her to school nd I'm very sure sey na tears go end am.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by donstan18: 9:53am On Jan 04, 2020
Your sister know her more than you do.

This is just like a guy telling his sister to stay away from one of his particular friend or a lady advising his brother not to date one of her particular friend.

She sure knows her more than you do, but if you feel you are too wise, then you'll have to choose between your sister and her housemaid.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by gnaftalee(m): 9:53am On Jan 04, 2020
The only thing bad is the stigma attached to her tittle

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by kinzation(m): 9:55am On Jan 04, 2020
Davash222:
N
power

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Davash222(m): 9:57am On Jan 04, 2020
gnaftalee:
The only thing bad is the stigma attached to her tittle
There’s no stigma here... we’re all house maids in the eyes of God.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by yanabasee(m): 9:58am On Jan 04, 2020
OP, you've just awoken the evil in your sister.., She'll most likely begin to maltreat the housemaid now... All because of your interest on her.....


This is 2020, Wise up oh, make people no come sabi body leave you.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Headlesschicken(m): 9:59am On Jan 04, 2020
undecided Why do u Motherphuckas always like to be complicating sh!t,of all the gals in the world why yuh sisters help huh?.... I thought this stupidity ended wiv 2019 buh obviously u Motherphuckas never learn..

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by gnaftalee(m): 10:00am On Jan 04, 2020
[quote author=Davash222 post=85487650]
There’s no stigma here... we’re all house maids in the eyes of God. [/quote

That's God eyes, here on earth, stigma dey attached to house Maid title..... Believe it or not

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:07am On Jan 04, 2020
I SEE WHAT YOUR PROBLEM IS. YOU WANT EASY ACCESS TO SEX, DON'T YOU?

OLE!
YOU DON'T WANT TO DATE HER, YOU JUST WANT TO EJACULATE. PLEASE MASTURBATÈ FREQUENTLY TO PREVENT CAUSING ISSUES BETWEEN YOU, YOUR SISTER AND THE MAID.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by iPrevail(m): 10:17am On Jan 04, 2020
Get your dirty claws off that helpless girl and allow her to focus on her job. You are being disrespectful to your sister, and if she says she doesn't want you near her maid, oga stay the fvck off.
Go establish yourself first then come back and fall in love with the maid

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by prettysassygirl(f): 10:30am On Jan 04, 2020
landmark86:
Am a fresh graduate that just got a job with a private organisation. Last month I was transferred from our headquarters to one of our branch here in Akure, Ondo State.
I stay in my elder sister house right now cos I moved in last year December but have met with an agent who promise to get me a good apartment soonest.
To cut my story short, my sister has a house girl/lady which was so caring to me. Am 29yrs and still single not that have never dated before, just that it never work well while I was in school.
The house maid of my sister is 25yrs and a school cert holder but due to some reasons she cudn't further her education but still willing if she can get help.
She's a pretty, caring, very neat and also intelligent. And my sister also take her as a sister not an house help.
Lastly weekend, my sister came back from an invent and saw me and her catching some fun (I mean gisting and playing games) in the house and she got provoked.
She called me in and ask what is the relationship between me and her but I told her the basic truth that though we are just friends but wish I cud date her and my sister shouted on me NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not even when am alive.

Now I keep asking my self some question;
Is house help not a human being?
Is it a crime in dating/marry them?
Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ?

Please help a brother cos am in love with her.
Thank you.
Its not a crime jare no mind your sis,follow your heart.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by STARGREEN(m): 10:32am On Jan 04, 2020
"Now I keep asking my self some question;"

Is house help not a human being? She is

Is it a crime in dating/marry them? No

Is it a crime for a graduate to marry non graduate/illiterate ? No.

You are now a man, the final say is in your table. Before you conclude quietly find out the reason your sister is against it. You never can tell she might be a relation.

The more you seek, the more you find. Don't be in a hurry

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by SarakiBukola: 10:32am On Jan 04, 2020
grin

Go for Gold, OP!
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by uninspired07: 10:51am On Jan 04, 2020
SarakiBukola:
grin

Idle hand is the Devil's workshop.

When unemployed, all the stray women in the neighbourhood look like goddesses.

He’s not unemployed. He works in a private organization’s branch in Akure. Read again, this time, slowly.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by SarakiBukola: 11:18am On Jan 04, 2020
uninspired07:


He’s not unemployed. He works in a private organization’s branch in Akure. Read again, this time, slowly.

Ain't you supposed to be asslicking me as per your job description?

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Lamanii22(f): 11:32am On Jan 04, 2020
Awwwwn... The only reason your sister's disagreeing with you is cause the girl's her housemaid.. And the girl will not be as respectful to her as she used to..

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by Lamanii22(f): 11:35am On Jan 04, 2020
yanabasee:
OP, you've just awoken the evil in your sister.., She'll most likely begin to maltreat the housemaid now... All because of your interest on her.....


This is 2020, Wise up oh, make people no come sabi body leave you.


You're right oo... She wouldn't do anything right again in his sister's eyes...

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by landmark86: 11:35am On Jan 04, 2020
vertueptime:
No


Can u pls state ur reason
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by landmark86: 11:41am On Jan 04, 2020
GhettoG1:
Well ur sis actually love you nd she probably foresaw d dangers ahead. First they re both living together bfr ur appearance which speak much about her being right.
Second don't b a full egbon, I'm sure once u get cordial with her then d nxt shii u gon wanna send her to school nd I'm very sure sey na tears go end am.

Sorry sir, but u very wrong on dis.
Ur way are not mine

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by healthserve(m): 11:43am On Jan 04, 2020
landmark86:


Sorry sir, but u very wrong on dis.
Ur way are not mine


Go and ask her for reasons. Stop disturbing us.. Go and meet her in person and tell her you want to have a word with her. angry

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by ATTemi: 11:45am On Jan 04, 2020
If you really love her and not just sex, marry her.

Forget ur sister, na noise she dey make.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by uninspired07: 11:55am On Jan 04, 2020
SarakiBukola:


Ain't you supposed to be asslicking me as per your job description?

Asslicking you for what?

Read the articles before responding next time.

I don’t have time for childish back & forth.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by SameerAhmad: 12:04pm On Jan 04, 2020
Continue deceiving yourself. You see this lust thing eh, sometimes it will come in form of love, you will feel like you are really in love but na just one round go cure your foolish lie. I'd advise you to masturbate or get laid by any girl out there, then sit up and ask yourself if you truly love the girl.

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Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by SarakiBukola: 12:04pm On Jan 04, 2020
uninspired07:


Asslicking you for what?

Read the articles before responding next time.

I don’t have time for childish back & forth.

You have a history of asslicking me and writing childish articles.

Now stop barking. You are already boring.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by uninspired07: 12:09pm On Jan 04, 2020
SarakiBukola:


You have a history of asslicking me and writing childish articles.

Now stop barking. You are already boring.

Lol. I don’t even know you.

You must be joking.

Bye.
Re: Is It Bad To Date My Sister's House Help? by chigoizie7(m): 12:11pm On Jan 04, 2020
Why do people keep misusing “ I am” as “ am” ?


At 29, you cannot ask your sister to tell you why you cannot date her.


Keep asking Nairaland, later you will call yourself a mature man.

And why are people seeing a 25 year old lady as just a housemaid?

That maid sef de dull ooh, at 25 she is still doing housemaid job. Her only hope in this life is to migrate from housemaid to a housewife.

Girls her age are learning skills to better their lives .

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