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Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Enemyofdarkness: 8:16am On Feb 15
I opened a mini shop lately and I employed one fine girl there as a sales girl. Based on my observation, she has every quality a girl should have.

And most importantly, she took my business as hers, running around, doing all sort things. Everytime I visit that shop and its surroundings, I always met it tidied up.

Yesterday I overheard her asking my friend if I have a girlfriend but my friend said no.

My issue is, if I should date her, won't she start disrespecting me and acting shenanigan?

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Davash222(m): 8:19am On Feb 15
You just opened a ‘mini shop’ and the first and only thing you’re thinking is how to date your sales girl.
You’re not even thinking how to make your shop ‘super shop’ considering its still at the ‘mini’ stage.
Your ‘mini shop’ would be reduced to ‘nothing shop’ the moment you start any nonsense relationship with that girl. the only relationship you should keep with her is ‘Employer-Employee’ relationship, at least for now.
When your shop gets to the stage you so wish, then you can tell the girl about your intentions. That would give you enough time to know the girl truly, if she’s your type of woman.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Validcode: 8:21am On Feb 15
Marry her if you like her so much. Don't date her if you're married.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by TheGiftedOne(m): 8:22am On Feb 15
I didn't hear OP well...

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by iliyande(m): 8:22am On Feb 15
mini shop about to be closed down

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Enemyofdarkness: 8:27am On Feb 15
Validcode:
Marry her if you like her so much. Don't date her if you're married.
I'm not married na, still in my late 20s though

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Enemyofdarkness: 8:28am On Feb 15
iliyande:
mini shop about to be closed down
You mean that may crumble my biz?

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by gingercrazy: 8:36am On Feb 15
Have you heard the saying "don't sh!t where you eat?You can date her but be careful.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Atlanticfire: 8:37am On Feb 15
Enemyofdarkness:
I opened a mini shop lately and i employed one fine girl there as a sales girl.
Based on my observation, she has every quality a girl should have.
And most importantly, she took my business as hers, running around, doing all sort things. Everytime I visit that shop and it's sorroundings I always met it tidied up.
Yesterday I overheard her asking my friend if I have a girlfriend but my friend said no.

My issue is, if I should date her, won't she start disrespecting me and acting shenanigan?

Don't date your sales girl. That can be considered as sexual abuse.

Business and pleasure does not go nicely together.

If you want to marry her, then simply go and meet her people and pay her bride price.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by iliyande(m): 8:42am On Feb 15
Enemyofdarkness:
You mean that may crumble my biz?

Yes, there are likelihood of the business to crumble.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by chidekings(m): 8:45am On Feb 15
Ur not supposed to,but sometimes matters of the heart can be confusing atimes.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Kylekent59: 8:47am On Feb 15
Someone is about to go broke in the nearest future. If you doubt me, go and verify from those who started dating their sales girls and how their stories ended.

No sex when it comes to profit, business. What did I mean:

The OP is playing with a ballon is a spiky and windy environment and when the ballon bounces on the spike, it burst.

The ballon is your business containing your money.

The spike is the sales girl

The wind is your sorrow

The environment is your shop.

The ballon bursts, wind starts blowing your money away, the environment which is your shop becomes empty and deserted.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by DominusPrime: 8:50am On Feb 15
When an adult asks this question on nairaland and expects people to answer yes or no it baffles me. First you are asking people who don't even know the girl or what she looks like or even 1/4 Of the full picture between you and the girl. What kind of advice do you think you will get? Of course it's misguided advice based mostly on their own points of views or experiences of life. They are not able to give sound unbiased advice. Coupled with the fact that the amount of info isn't anyhing to go by.

Here's mine. Any decision you take is ok as long as you can bear the consequences.
If u don't date her, your heart will fight you. You'll even keep falling for her more and you'd go through some emotional stress. So if u choose not to, be ready to go through all that.
If u date her there's the risk of things changing as regards your business. An employee who works for u is totally different from a gf who works for you. Are you ready to bear the changes that may come? Your business might suffer.
And finally, most rarely you can date her and things will even get better but this is the slimmest of all 3 things that could happen. All the best

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by grossintel(m): 8:52am On Feb 15
If you date her, that will be the beginning of the fall of your shop business. She will sell and pocket money as she likes, after all it's my boyfriends shop and I need money to make my hair. In my opinion it's far better you marry her if you must, that way she knows you both will suffer if she runs it down.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by GeneralPula: 8:57am On Feb 15
Enemyofdarkness:
I opened a mini shop lately and i employed one fine girl there as a sales girl.
Based on my observation, she has every quality a girl should have.
And most importantly, she took my business as hers, running around, doing all sort things. Everytime I visit that shop and it's sorroundings I always met it tidied up.
Yesterday I overheard her asking my friend if I have a girlfriend but my friend said no.

My issue is, if I should date her, won't she start disrespecting me and acting shenanigan?

Try it, experience it then after sometime, come back to share wetin your eye see for others to read and learn.. sad

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by DominusPrime: 9:00am On Feb 15
grossintel:
If you date her, that will be the beginning of the fall of your shop business. She will sell and pocket money as she likes, after all it's my boyfriends shop and I need money to make my hair. In my opinion it's far better you marry her if you must, that way she knows you both will suffer if she runs it down.
This is the kind of one-sided reasoning I talked about earlier. This kind of child will give the same advice to every one who comes to him with the same problem . They are not able to see exceptions or rare possibilities. These are the worst kind of people to take advice from.
His reasoning will definitely be correct sometimes but in some cases he will destroy beautiful things cos he can't reason in other dimensions

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by NeoWanZaeed: 9:02am On Feb 15
Enemyofdarkness:
I opened a mini shop lately and i employed one fine girl there as a sales girl.
Based on my observation, she has every quality a girl should have.
And most importantly, she took my business as hers, running around, doing all sort things. Everytime I visit that shop and it's sorroundings I always met it tidied up.
Yesterday I overheard her asking my friend if I have a girlfriend but my friend said no.

My issue is, if I should date her, won't she start disrespecting me and acting shenanigan?

And you think she doesn't have bf? Or fiance or even married?

Don't use your status to oppress another

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by makydebbie(f): 9:08am On Feb 15
Control your penis ah!

You're hiding behind she's a good girl she sweeps your shop and takes charge. Bro that's her job that's what you employed her to do, I don't expect her to do otherwise.

You just want to fvck that's it. Na wa oo.
I go born man so?

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by gingercrazy: 9:09am On Feb 15
grossintel:
If you date her, that will be the beginning of the fall of your shop business. She will sell and pocket money as she likes, after all it's my boyfriends shop and I need money to make my hair. In my opinion it's far better you marry her if you must, that way she knows you both will suffer if she runs it down.
If she knows that you are for real and you want to marry her and she truly loves you back, she won't want to do anything that will affect your business, infact she will be more concerned about the growth than you yourself. Listen to this advise.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by DonEd(m): 9:13am On Feb 15
Dating her isn't really a bad idea but most times, it always lead to complacency and too much familiarity in the workplace.

Be honest to urself and check if u r lusting after her or u really like her to be ur woman.

If u really do, then sack her, get her a job somewhere else and employ another so u can date her without issues. She can always come around and check on things.

My two cents though

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Expensiverichyb(f): 9:16am On Feb 15
@op, I thought you wanted to make money when you decided to open a mini business. Never knew you were looking for pleasure.

Try dating her and see if she will be punctual, obident and respectful again.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Expensiverichyb(f): 9:17am On Feb 15
DonEd:
Dating her isn't really a bad idea but most times, it always lead to complacency and too much familiarity in the workplace.

Be honest to urself and check if u r lusting after her or u really like her to be ur woman.

If u really do, then sack her, get her a job somewhere else and employ another so u can date her without issues. She can always come around and check on things.

My two cents though
What if he develop the same feeling for the next girl after firing this one?

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by grossintel(m): 9:18am On Feb 15
gingercrazy:
If she knows that you are for real and you want to marry her and she truly loves you back, she won't want to do anything that will affect your business, infact she will be more concerned about the growth than you yourself. Listen to this advise.
Keep a bundle of cash where your girlfriend will see it, that day you'll split it into two cause she'll tender all her problems and future problems to you and expect you to do something about it immediately. Now imagine your girlfriend keeping your money for you, it's not just wise at all.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Enemyofdarkness: 9:22am On Feb 15
makydebbie:
Control your penis ah!

You're hiding behind she's a good girl she sweeps your shop and takes charge. Bro that's her job that's what you employed her to do, I don't expect her to do otherwise.

You just want to fvck that's it. Na wa oo.
I go born man so?
I no just wan fvck I've got good intentions

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by depato88(m): 9:23am On Feb 15
when you want your business to fall...are there no other gals...if u must date her, sack her first

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by grossintel(m): 9:24am On Feb 15
DominusPrime:

This is the kind of one-sided reasoning I talked about earlier. This kind of child will give the same advice to every one who comes to him with the same problem . They are not able to see exceptions or rare possibilities. These are the worst kind of people to take advice from.
His reasoning will definitely be correct sometimes but in some cases he will destroy beautiful things cos he can't reason in other dimensions
I'm not a child, I owned a Medium shop in Port Harcourt for 4 years where I sold Phones and accessories, I employed 2 sales girls during that period so I'm talking from experience. Not ready to shade anyone this morning.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Digmygold: 9:25am On Feb 15
Change your Caption to "IS IT RIGHT TO FVCK MY EMPLOYEE*.. That's all you want. When your business that is already crumbling now closes down you will blame the devil when you are the Devils incarnate. Nonsense.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Digmygold: 9:27am On Feb 15
Expensiverichyb:
@op, I thought you wanted to make money when you decided to open a mini business. Never knew you were looking for pleasure.

Try dating her and see if she will be punctual, obident and respectful again.


Op is a dirty old individual who thinks of nothing but pvssy.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by DonEd(m): 9:31am On Feb 15
Expensiverichyb:

What if he develop the same feeling for the next girl after firing this one?

That means he is a confirmed he-cow.

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Enemyofdarkness: 9:36am On Feb 15
Digmygold:
Change your Caption to "IS IT RIGHT TO FVCK MY EMPLOYEE*.. That's all you want. When your business that is already crumbling now closes down you will blame the devil when you are the Devils incarnate. Nonsense.
Calm down boy, why carry my matter for head like this? You even went to comment on my other thread....

Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by MedicH: 9:38am On Feb 15
makydebbie:
Control your penis ah!

You're hiding behind she's a good girl she sweeps your shop and takes charge. Bro that's her job that's what you employed her to do, I don't expect her to do otherwise.

You just want to fvck that's it. Na wa oo.
I go born man so?

You can just born wh0res lol. It's a free world

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Re: Is It Right To Date My Employee? by Digmygold: 9:40am On Feb 15
Enemyofdarkness:
Calm down boy, why carry my matter for head like this? You even went to comment on my other thread....

Who you dey call boy? I am no pvssy brain. You need to calm your tool down and respect your old age. You lack discipline and focus. Probably one old pvssy brained shameless bachelor.

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