There is no love when considering one for marriage. Check everything.

If your mind is made up. Then what's the point of bringing up the issue here. It seems you know the right thing to do but you just want to kill yourself by yourself.
So good luck.

If you'd care for my advice, leave that relationship now.

decatalyst:


It's easier said and hoped... You may not understand this

hahaha bros with long years experience. How's work sir?

Cheato64:
I and Oma have dated for more than 2yrs, I intend getting married to her. When we started dating she told me from onset her genotype is AS. I taught I was AA because I did the test when I was like 10yrs.

We decided to go for HIV test just to be sure even though we had unprotected sex. On doing the HIV test, the attendance whom we didn't ask, checked our genotype, performed all the test because she taught we were couple and since it's an Anglican Church hospital and we came together, it means we are planning to get married.

The result came out HIV negative for both of us, blood group O+, while she's AB and genotype we were both AS. She insist we call it off, 2yrs courtship just like that.

Oma is a nicest person I have ever known after my mom, she takes care of me, I eat healthy, I don't repeat clothes both inner and outer wears. She makes sure I work out regularly, I don't do house chores yet my friends envy me whenever they come visiting.

Name any good thing Oma has it. Now Oma has moved on but I can't, I kept on looking for a lady like Oma, now I understand why most men talk trash about Nigerian women (no offense) and when I meet a lady the first thing I ask is her genotype.

I can recall I asked a lady her genotype even before asking for her name. I can't keep a relationship all I think about is my sweet Oma. She has moved on so she claim but we still talk and she told me she has a man right now even though we still sextexting, we talk how much we miss each other it's been over 6 months since we last saw, she relocated to delta while am in Enugu.

I invited her which she decline but invited me which I accepted I intend going this weekend and I will ask her to marry me, if we get married there is a possibility our first 2 children won't carry the sickle cell anemia. My friend is telling me not to do it but my mind is made up.

Do the test again at a different hospital

Bro,....there are a thousand and one Omas outside there,....leave this particular Oma and move on ooo,Have you heard about sickle cell,.....google is your friend and ask around as well......meet parents /guardians whose children / wards are of SS genotype,...
If you can afford (IVF,Bone marrow/stem cell transplant ),then you win........but hey these procedure cost fortunes !....is it worth it ?

What of AC and SC or u think something like doesn't exist?

Marriage is not all about having children. If you think she's the only one you can live with, why not marry her and adopt as many children as you want? The country is already overpopulated, and there are many children waiting to be adopted.

You can be with the person you love and adopt some of the abandoned children looking for who to call parents!

The problem is that we Africans only think of our own. An adopted child is as good as your own or may even better — what makes us think that our genes are the best genes to propagate?

Smellingrillmea:
There are ways around it ......if it's here they will educate you better and will know the outxome before she is 5 months.....
Have u done hepatitis
Many Nigerians got that

Nb

My mum and dad are as and I have 2 siblings no as
So no stress yourself

so if the outcome is unfavorable, you do abortion, right?

Octaves:
so if the outcome is unfavorable, you do abortion, right?

Yep

I'm AA... Single AS/AA should pm me

1Sharon:
I'm guessing you lot have never heard about amniocentesis?

We have, ma! Kindly tell us how many termination of pregnancies she would have after each procedure confirms an SS foetus. Tell us how much exposure to infections and emotional trauma as well as anxiety before and after each procedure she and her partner would undergo and manage. Also elaborate on how many centres offer this care in Nigeria as well as their cost...

No be only amniocentesis...chorionic villus sampling too...mtchew!

It will be a very bad experience... Watching your innocent child cries in pains constantly. It's not advisable to go ahead, it is risky and it is not something one can cope with...

Babaheekmat:
Laughing hysterically


Nothing can give you peace Except following Quran and hadith..


Nonsense.. Genotype ko.. Jinotype ni

Please put me through,what does the Quran and hadith say about sickle cell anemia?

Chikabel:


We have, ma! Kindly tell us how many termination of pregnancies she would have after each procedure confirms an SS foetus. Tell us how much exposure to infections and emotional trauma as well as anxiety before and after each procedure she and her partner would undergo and manage. Also elaborate on how many centres offer this care in Nigeria as well as their cost...

No be only amniocentesis...chorionic villus sampling too...mtchew!

With their genotype, they have a 25% chance of conceiving a child with SS, so what are you on about?

The side effects are a minute possibility so pipe down.

olril17:
fake story..op should be banned..

what is really wrong with you guys?

Cheato64:
I and Oma have dated for more than 2yrs, I intend getting married to her. When we started dating she told me from onset her genotype is AS. I taught I was AA because I did the test when I was like 10yrs.

We decided to go for HIV test just to be sure even though we had unprotected sex. On doing the HIV test, the attendance whom we didn't ask, checked our genotype, performed all the test because she taught we were couple and since it's an Anglican Church hospital and we came together, it means we are planning to get married.

The result came out HIV negative for both of us, blood group O+, while she's AB and genotype we were both AS. She insist we call it off, 2yrs courtship just like that.

Oma is a nicest person I have ever known after my mom, she takes care of me, I eat healthy, I don't repeat clothes both inner and outer wears. She makes sure I work out regularly, I don't do house chores yet my friends envy me whenever they come visiting.

Name any good thing Oma has it. Now Oma has moved on but I can't, I kept on looking for a lady like Oma, now I understand why most men talk trash about Nigerian women (no offense) and when I meet a lady the first thing I ask is her genotype.

I can recall I asked a lady her genotype even before asking for her name. I can't keep a relationship all I think about is my sweet Oma. She has moved on so she claim but we still talk and she told me she has a man right now even though we still sextexting, we talk how much we miss each other it's been over 6 months since we last saw, she relocated to delta while am in Enugu.

I invited her which she decline but invited me which I accepted I intend going this weekend and I will ask her to marry me, if we get married there is a possibility our first 2 children won't carry the sickle cell anemia. My friend is telling me not to do it but my mind is made up.

I want to understand you. You created a topic in 2018 that you are married now u want to propose please help me understand.

Cheato64

Drop any thought of marriage. Just drop it!

She's wiser than you.

I lost a cousin to this deadly ailment

Guy got married. He went for a honeymoon with his wife to Dubai. There he had a crisis. Within 2 weeks, he was dead. His wife lost consciousness.

You can still marry and have healthy children through IVF.

They will retrieve your wife's eggs (embryos) and a genetic exam will be carried out. If they extract between 15 to 17 embryos, at least 7 to 10 can survive and make it to blastocysts. After blastocyst they will screen all the embryos for sickle cells carrier. Most times 6 out of 10 will be SS and the remaining eggs will be AS, which is good enough for transfer. The fertility doctor will transfer one or two eggs into your wife's uterus and babies are born. It's now up to you to guide your children by letting them know that they are AS incase they want to marry. There is nothing wrong marrying AS if you are AS.

I shame for Nigerians. Some of them claimed to be very educated, but lack knowledge. I blame lack of research and scientific development in Nigerian universities.

Please marry your love.

God bless you my brother.

Okoroawusa:

My sister we know but we're enjoying the topic. Leave it like that for us.

Abi u have any TRUE story to tell us?

Lmao. Make I no lie, I'm enjoying it.

Cheato64:
i also know someone they are both AS but non of their 4kids is SS and they also have twins among them

Your foolishness and myopic nature is going to land you in big trouble...just go ahead and marry her that is if she's foolish enough to fall for your devilish antics nd see what would happen.

decatalyst:
My brother, I understand your plight.

I am in the same shoe...and the people out there just keep singing "you should get married" upandan and I wonder if I go just carry anyone to the alter and start family ni.

Your situations aren't same. You are been pressurized to marry while he is looking for Oma lookalikes in it's entirety with AA genotype before thinking of marriage.
So keep your shoes well as it isn't same

Any girl that poses these attributes must be good. Can you share her number with me? Main while is for your own good. Look for AA genotype and get married to. Because if you go ahead to keep her as a wife and eventually your first born becomes SS then you will hate her join. Do the needful and look for AA. My advice, enter maidugri most funali girls are AA. Almost all. I don’t know how dem Dey doam ooooh.

Mouthgag:

Ignorance will kill most Africans...

You people just pas tru school for nothing...

What happens to technology like
Prenatal diagnosis
Pre implantation selection
IVF etc?
I know many fools here will still quote me to talk about religious moral bullshîts. But I'm very sure that if they told you that you're carrying an imbecîle or a deformed child in your womb, you won't think twice before you ask that they take it out ...

These things cost money.

Nigerians sounds like people of 1870's. This is 2020 and there are technologies that can detect if the pregnancy will result in a child being born as, you can do the test after four weeks of pregnancy and if result is positive you terminate the pregnancy. In America people are doing it and living happily with their children. Google SICKLE CELL PREGNANCY TEST and read articles you dummies.

Blindersoff:


It is not a foolish risk. In fact it is no longer a risk at all especially in the face of IVF. IVF can help you have a healthy baby by screening for sickle cell disease. The technique is called preimplantation genetic diagnosis, PGD.

So it is not foolishness for an AS and AS to get married and have children these days

Interesting.

Brother don't take the risk it's too high. Having sickly kids drains live so fast and only leads to regret. Call it off no matter how painful it can be right now, I'm in the same shoe with my girl, but we deeply know we can't end up with each other, that obstacle is a really tall one
But you can go ahead if you are wealthy enough to afford IVF to have your kids in the future, and there's also a way you can test the genotype of an unborn baby to knw if you should terminate the pregnancy which is less costly but risky too as you'll know but if you can't go for those options if not quit it

Bros respect yourself. You don't want your kids growing to be aggrieved with you because you failed to make a logical decision whence it mattered. SEEING IS BELIEVING

who do d stat abeg

uzohrome:
Any girl that poses these attributes must be good. Can you share her number with me? Main while is for your own good. Look for AA genotype and get married to. Because if you go ahead to keep her as a wife and eventually your first born becomes SS then you will hate her join. Do the needful and look for AA. My advice, enter maidugri most funali girls are AA. Almost all. I don’t know how dem Dey doam ooooh.

skyplustk:
Please let her go, my neighbor daughter is a carrier and I know what it feels seeing the woman spend months in the hospital sleeping on the bare floor at lantoro hospital and this is her first and only daughter

What about her husband?

Once you hear a child is SS, nobody set ever mention the papa because men easily abandon sickly chipdren to women.

Smellingrillmea:


Yep

This is shameful. What about looking for a partner with a compatible genotype. So the so-called love is more important than the life of innocent babies

you have been saved from long time pain