Swinger60:
Not fair you are generalizing, some one close to me ended her marriage this Jan. She is the best woman any one can have, unfortunately she married a man that was raised wrongly.

Imagine her husband beating her because she came back, and, saw her husband's weed he poured inside their plate, and, she threw it away. This marriage already had 3kids, even if the man smokes, does he have to flaunt before and kids.

I encouraged her to arrest him after hitting her, she did, and the man was detained, he didn't show any remorse afterwards, rather, he was threatening her with divorce, I told her is time she move on, and she did.

And before this last incident, Her 9years marriage has been 9years of domestic violence.


Now, tell me, didn't she deserve a second chance of remarrying?

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face, just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contacts her ex regularly...

Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still has the guts under my roof to mess up.

Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!

CAPSLOCKED:


MARRIAGES FAIL. RELATIONSHIPS FAIL.... WHETHER SINGLE MOM OR NOT.

FROM YOUR NOTE, I'VE CONCLUDED THAT YOU WERE THE PROBLEM IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
WITH THE AUTHORITATIVENESS IN YOUR WRITING, THERE'S A CHANCE YOU KEPT MISTREATING HER, EXPECTING HER TO WORSHIP YOU BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IT'S A FAVOUR YOU'RE DOING HER BY BEING WITH HER.

I'M HAPPY FOR HER WHOEVER SHE IS. PEOPLE DESERVE BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE YOU.

We4all:


I presume the ex she was always in touch with fathered her child. If that was the case, then you should have anticipated that, and figured out how to deal with it before hand.

A single mother/father will always have something to say to their ex cos a child is involved. I think your relationship crashed cos boundaries were not set from the outset.

Saintmary:

Sleeping alone is equal to singlehood. Being single is a good thing, but ending a marriage of 6 years based on hotheadedness is just plain stupid.

Swinger60:
Are you kidding me?

She deserve beating for throwing his weed away? And, you expect us to hug him with open hands?

A father of three kids flaunting his weeds before his kids and wife?

Imagine she is your sister, you came, saw her face with bruises, all because she threw her husband's weed away. What would you have done?

We don't care that the relationship has ended ooo, she is definitely renting her apartment by Tuesday. As far as this year is concerned, or even for life if she wants, she is definitely not going back to that marriage. Let the guy Marry someone else, why she stay alive for me. I need her more than what the world will say.

You can allow your own person to be panelbeaten and let her be talking to him and begging him to stop, my own person won't do that.

Lastly, he was detained in police cell and not sent to prison. Mr killer from prison, know the difference between the two.

isthatso:


Never marry a single mother.....period!!! even when you marry a woman without kids, you soon become an afterthought once she has given birth to your children talk less of another man's child!!!

you can date them, you can have them as side chicks but NEVER marry a woman with children from another man!! Even if she gives birth for you .....dont marry her!!!

Women should also be wary of becoming single mothers because your options for a future partner become limited, you have to scrape from the botttom of the barrel to find a husband and to be totally honest any man prepared to marry a single mother himself must have issues.

Shibaraba:

Sorry
When shibaraba talks children go dey advise me like I be their mate. The other thread them insult I just dey look. Wetin my eye Don see!!!!!
Single mothers.... Japa. I say one so called ex waylay me wan kill me. Make I no talk. Once they leave the house their head Don dey messed up. I feel for them but for your own life, just bang if you want bang and japa.

Sorry bros. Chassis cha cha full outside. Grab your copy.... Now

TheRedpillguy:

Lol you still don't get it. Its not a big deal to just burn a countries flag, when the president is talking just throw water on him, go ahead do it its just water no big deal. How about you walk to a mosque and give them holy communion. You friend concluded on her own to throw the guys weed out thinking its not a big deal without ever thinking the value the guy might have associated with his weed. This is why we say marriage is a prison. U women invade our spaces and flunt ur ideas restricting our life style in the process. Yeah how about I find your make up case and throw that shit out and the wig that looks like an animal why am it. When thy guy reacted to what is dear to him. What happens he got jailed. Becouse his wife who disrespect him without saying. "Hey babe, the babies don't need to see the weed less try to be careful wea we put it ok" (problem solved) is a cohort with a power hungry monster that want to send people to prison. Anyways good for the guy he can now do whatever he wants without an army of women in his face

oloriLFC:
too many young boys with phones and data here. What do you expect?

luminouz:



Are you just a friend or you want to marry her off?

Your narrative has become very very personal sis

GeniusWannabe:
Mehn! I just dey pity youths wey dey rush enter marriage these days.

Swinger60:
Not fair you are generalizing, some one close to me ended her marriage this Jan. She is the best woman any one can have, unfortunately she married a man that was raised wrongly.

Imagine her husband beating her because she came back, and, saw her husband's weed he poured inside their plate, and, she threw it away. This marriage already had 3kids, even if the man smokes, does he have to flaunt before and kids.

I encouraged her to arrest him after hitting her, she did, and the man was detained, he didn't show any remorse afterwards, rather, he was threatening her with divorce, I told her is time she move on, and she did.

And before this last incident, Her 9years marriage has been 9years of domestic violence.


Now, tell me, didn't she deserve a second chance of remarrying?

cococandy:
In contact with the ex who fathered her child or some other ex? What kind of things did they discuss?

Per comments on the post: So, I suppose a single mom should deny the father of her child access to the children in order for the new man to like her? Ever heard of co parenting?

If you have a child and end up not marrying the woman who bore the child , do you deserve to loose that child so that she can move on to the next man? Or is a civil arrangement where you both can have your separate relationships and still be in your child’s life not a good option.

Na una dey do una self..

Swinger60:
Uncle, I use to believe that people are usually responsible for some fate that befalls them, but, now, I know it's not always true.

If you are Guy, you will agree with me that when it comes bad habits like smoking, most men hide it from thier women till they marry them.

You sound like "Mr knows it all and can never make mistake", and, I pray life always appear for you the way you want it.

And, I'm also glad you are just human and your power about things of life it's limited. If not, you would have denied all single mothers second chance of being happy, if possible, you may even have them sentenced to death because they couldn't put up with thier toxic marriage.

Last word, it's easier for us to judge others, till happens to us or anyone close to us.

Cheers.

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face, just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contacts her ex regularly...

Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still has the guts under my roof to mess up.

Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!

Swinger60:
I want to marry her off to you.

thorpido:
Marriages fail even when she is not a single mother.
The key is not to rush into marriage but study each other very well while dating and see that you can really work together and there are no baggages.
A lot of single mothers will really try to make the marriage work with the benefit of hindsight.This one just didn't work.

Michellekabod2:
the father of a child always want to be involved in the child life. As a man can you forget your kid and dash him to a new family? The problem now is the nature of visit. Because of the bad reputation contacting an ex has,most people contact their exes clandestinely in other not to anger their spouses. The clandestine "meeting" or "calls" or "chat" is suspicious itself. The key to solve this whole single-mum-baby-daddy problem is to let the ex be involved in the "[couple's" and the baby's life.
I mean the ex should be in contact with your family(your wife,the kid and yourself),he should be a family friend so that they will be no need for him to contact her alone. The husband should have a rapport with the baby daddy so the number of times he has to call the wife be reduced. Instead of calling her always to ask if he is ill, he can put you on call at times.
If room is made for him to see his own child once in a while(for example quarterly),whereby his visit is planned and anticipated by the husband and wife,then there will be no room for secret meetings or contacts.



That said,aside single mums,they are people who establish a soul-tie with someone. For life that bond may never be broken,especially their first love. Men in the 40s,married with kids still remember their teenage first love of decades ago,ladies do the same too

Swinger60:
Heheheh.

You are totally right about marriage being a prison. You men wanna do all sorts of rubbish and expected to be worshiped. You guys think you are demigods that should be worshipped, well, this generation of women are dishing it back to you guys without no remorse. And, marriages will keep breaking and everyone will lose something at the end of it.

I swear the guy is lucky I'm not the one, the marriage won't only end, I will so turn his kids against him too.

Did I read where you said she should have discussed with an adult on how not to be flaunting his weeds before their kids? She should also discuss with him how to eat, and bath too. Since as an adult, he is an Idi..ot that don't know what to do and not what to do.

With this your mindset, please, I beg you, don't ever think of ruining someone's daughter life in the name of marriage, stay single and rock your weed life to eternity.

luminouz:



Lol....thanks sis.

You defended her well too

But can I suggest reconciliation? U know that woman married him knowing he smokes. When things get hard or lonely,can you support her through that? What of her kids? Separation between parents affect their psyche and messes things up.
Although you love your friend but I have seen that most times the blame comes from both sides.

My suggestions:

Family meeting
Church meeting

stupidity:



Here’s my plan. I’ll date you, we’ll have kids and live like married couples. When we get to 60s, 70s, and I discover you are indeed a wife material and you did not mess up, I’ll go pay your bride price and we do our marriage officially. In a grand style. By then sef money go boku. All my friends go don turn politicians and CEOs by then. Enough money to steal and spray at our grand style wedding. HaahahHHhAhahahahahhahaahhahahaah, after reading dis ur comment, I just looked at ur account name and had no option than to shake my head cos ur name alone has said it all�

Everywhere good

imolile:
Any Lady who left a husband is a Red Flag, most especially if the husband is still alive.
A lady from age 30 upward are domineering, they are worse when they are aged from 38 Upwards. They are not marriageable
Unfortunately younger girls are Promiscuous and are prone to infidelity
But older Ladies are retired experts on promiscuity and adultery
Most single mothers are Demons in human flesh, mostly if their husband is not dead. Those who loose husband are excepted from this profiling
Who do you marry?
Only God can give a wife in today's world

stupidity:



Here’s my plan. I’ll date you, we’ll have kids and live like married couples. When we get to 60s, 70s, and I discover you are indeed a wife material and you did not mess up, I’ll go pay your bride price and we do our marriage officially. In a grand style. By then sef money go boku. All my friends go don turn politicians and CEOs by then. Enough money to steal and spray at our grand style wedding.

Everywhere good

Swinger60:
Lol. Suggestion noted.

She is more than a friend, she is a blood.

Thanks.

TheRedpillguy:

Lol am way ahead of u sis. I already know that a woman is a total waste of time. I mean come on look at the type of evil you just spilled here.
Ok should I talk to an adult abt rubbing chemicals that damage ur skin on ur face, or putting up plastic on ur head? Or buying shit u don't need. You are right we all going to loose something. To that I say Amen. Let it burn.
And if I feed u, cloth u, protect u from danger then best belive am a Demigod, only a Demigod can stand in front of a bullet or a charging beast. Show some respect mortal.