Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

freshvine:
You paid the bride price or wed a woman doesn't mean she's your wife. Most of what people do is negotiated cohabitation. Marriage is a thing of the mind and a commitment of total indulgence.

Bro...if that lady is your wife, she'll laugh off your pseudo Facebook account and even make a joke of her friend not having you finally or teasing you how you don't have the skills to woo her friend. she'll joking say she helped your ministry.

if she is your "house partner " she'll shout, get angry and make mountain out of a mole hole. Taking your kid away from you for that excuse simply means she's in charge.

Now, stand like a man and give her ultimatum but pass it through her parents. Call the parents and tell me you want her to return back in a week or the marriage is over. Be arrogant and wait the family decision. She'll convey her real intentions to the family. From there you can take a stand.

freshvine:
You paid the bride price or wed a woman doesn't mean she's your wife. Most of what people do is negotiated cohabitation. Marriage is a thing of the mind and a commitment of total indulgence.

Bro...if that lady is your wife, she'll laugh off your pseudo Facebook account and even make a joke of her friend not having you finally or teasing you how you don't have the skills to woo her friend. she'll joking say she helped your ministry.

if she is your "house partner " she'll shout, get angry and make mountain out of a mole hole. Taking your kid away from you for that excuse simply means she's in charge.

Now, stand like a man and give her ultimatum but pass it through her parents. Call the parents and tell me you want her to return back in a week or the marriage is over. Be arrogant and wait the family decision. She'll convey her real intentions to the family. From there you can take a stand.

Youthleader22:


The only thing I can tell you is that I think you made a mistake marrying her in the first place. You knew she had a relationship back in the states. Did she tell you she quit it before marrying her. I can never marry a woman who feels she's the one dictating the pace.

SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...

cococandy:
See how everyone is trying to convince him that his wife has someone on the side.

pocohantas:
Your wife no get talk.

pocohantas:
Your wife no get talk.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

statusquoante:


That exactly is the case. The lady has been managing him thus far. She just got the perfect excuse to leave...

cococandy:


I see. I thing absolutely wrong with his 10 year old troll account aka hidden identity account that he’s still operating huh?

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

statusquoante:



Has he used the account to flirt since they got married at least

cococandy:


Ask him.

pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

Jewessgratitude:



You mean, you still kept account of ten years ago? And you're still using the same phone from ten years ago? Still doesn't add up.

Let assume you have changed your phone, the new phone will not automatically bring up those anonymous account unless you sign in to them. So you prolly signed in to it recently and was still using it which made her to see it but you're trying to make us believe all that ended 10yrs ago.
I'm still not convinced.

izzou:


Dated Briefly

I missed that part.

He better go back to Abia state and tell her family what's happening. The wife dey behave like small pikin

simplepee:
Yes o,she doesn't know it's a do or die affair..The thought of getting Married to a Nigerian man is the scariest feeling.