LewsTherin:
If you follow Nairalanders, you will believe life is only about sadness and misery.

The overwhelming consensus on marriage here is that 99% of marriages are sad, filled with cheating spouses, have financial disasters and are 1 step away from divorce or even murder! Yet outside of Nairaland.com, statistics say otherwise.

While I have been unable to find any stats concerning Nigeria directly (as per Naija factor, I'll bet), I came across this
https://www.wevorce.com/blog/poll-most-marriages-are-happy/

Long story short, 75% of people polled said they were happy up to 75% of the time in their marriages. This is in a country with an almost 50% rate of divorce! When you compare it with Nigeria that has a much MUCH lower rate of divorce then you wonder what Nairaland is all about.

In my small group of 7 couples, only 2 can be seen to have issues in their marriage (they don't come out to say so anyways but we can all see it) 2 out of 7. That rhymes with the stats of about 75% of marriages being happy.

So read these sob stories as what they are - sad stories that represent the percentage of sad stories only. I am not sayong they are fake stories. I am saying we get to hear only the sad stories which in itself is a good thing. It helps the rest of us know what to avoid, and it helps those affected find some therapy and answers.

In summary, most marriages are good. Marriage as an institution is basically a good thing. Your marriage can be good. Your marriage can be fixed. Like everything else in life, you have to work at it.

Most of the people here are very pessimistic and negative. They zoom into the negative and bad aspects and brood on it. They poke holes into positive stories because they believe everyone should be sad and miserable.

Been married seven years plus.


I love her.


But if given another chance, I wouldn't.

godblessuyirich:
MY DEAR I AM STILL IN IT OOO WITH A VERY BROKEN HEART COS OF MY KIDS. BUT PLANNING ON HOW TO CHANGE MY LIFE FOR GOOD. I HAVE TOLD MY GOD I MUST EXPERIENCE LOVE IN THIS MY LIFE TIME. NOTHING IS BETTER THAN LOVE. I DID ALL I DID FOR MY HUBBY COS OF LOVE BUT HE FEELS I AM A FOOL. I DONT WISH WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH ON EVEN THE PERSON THAT KILLED MY PRECIOUS MOTHER. I AM ALWAYS SAD, ALWAYS DAYDRAMING, FILLED WITH REGRETS AND WISHING I COULD TURN BACK THE HAND OF TIME

Wow, you had a terrible experience. I pray you find happiness.

biggy26:

I actually like long stories...
But hope it won't affect your getting married again?

Am hopeful,only God make all things possible.

Sniper101:


Stüpid degenerate who's refused to be useful to himself, his family and the society.
May thunder fire you there and damage your destiny.
Silly nitwit.

You are a mor0nic, dim-witted cretin whose mother has given up hope on. You are a complete waste of space cos you are still dependent on your helpless mother who is still feeding and housing you. Why not commit suicide like your useless father and free your mother of her misery, you nicompoop?

May Amadioha, Ogun and Iyi oji destroy you and your destiny. (It's not like you have a bright destiny anyways).

Annstar:
fix the date

08039145158

Fearcom:
Been married seven years plus.

I love her.

But if given another chance, I wouldn't.

l love you sir for saying the truth

Aadiana:
No no no.I will never

it is well

Jimbadly:


You are a mor0nic, dim-witted cretin whose mother has given up hope on. You are a complete waste of space cos you are still dependent on your helpless mother who is still feeding and housing you. Why not commit suicide like your useless father and free your mother of her misery, you nicompoop?

May Amadioha, Ogun and Iyi oji destroy you and your destiny. (It's not like you have a bright destiny anyways).

Ha ha ha. Fool. First of all, am independent, unlike you miserable reject who's been cast aside by family and friends.
Second if all, am not being housed by anyone, unlike you who's still under your father's roof and shamelessly feeding from your mother's kitchen at your age.
But am not surprised though, cos your destiny has been long destroyed, you have no future cos you've been rejected and cursed by your father.
By now, you ought to be praying for Ogun to kill you. You're a waste of space on this planet; consuming oxygen for nothing.
You should be dead.
Infact, you'll die soon.
And I'll be there to spit on your grave. #Fact

Fearcom:
Been married seven years plus.


I love her.


But if given another chance, I wouldn't.

Wow...

I wish my hand can type from my whole heart...

Sniper101:


Ha ha ha. Fool. First of all, am independent, unlike you miserable reject who's been cast aside by family and friends.
Second if all, am not being housed by anyone, unlike you who's still under your father's roof and shamelessly feeding from your mother's kitchen at your age.
But am not surprised though, cos your destiny has been long destroyed, you have no future cos you've been rejected and cursed by your father.
By now, you ought to be praying for Ogun to kill you. You're a waste of space on this planet; consuming oxygen for nothing.
You should be dead.
Infact, you'll die soon.
And I'll be there to spit on your grave. #Fact

You and your mama feeding you are walking corpses, you are already both dead.

Keep deluding yourself you fucktaard, we know your mama is still feeding, clothing and housing you, you lowlife. A dog's corpse is more useful than you dingbat. Like I said before, you are a complete waste of space. But don't worry, your imminent death in a few days will put you out of your misery you filthy animal.

I spit on your ugly, apish, nauseating face you faggott!

Jimbadly:


You and your mama feeding you are walking corpses, you are already both dead.

Keep deluding yourself you fucktaard, we know your mama is still feeding, clothing and housing you, you lowlife. A dog's corpse is more useful than you dingbat. Like I said before, you are a complete waste of space. But don't worry, your imminent death in a few days will put you out of your misery you filthy animal.

I spit on your ugly, apish, nauseating face you faggott!

Stupid son of a reprobate.
You'll die in perpetual penury just like your father did a few years back.
And when you die off, soon, you'll forever be cast into the abyss of eternal damnation to burn for all eternity; just like your father is burning right now.
Useless scoundrel.

AlataSuesue:
Yes, Yes and Yes a million times!!! In this life and the next!

My hubby is the absolute best and I don't honestly know what I did to deserve him, I am infinitely blessed and lucky so much that I wonder if this is truly my life.

Marital life is bliss with the right person, forget everything you read on Dear Joro.

..please can i hav 3some wit u & Onstelly from nairaland...Onstelly have all ready agree. Are u in?

Sniper101:


Stupid son of a reprobate.
You'll die in perpetual penury just like your father did a few years back.
And when you die off, soon, you'll forever be cast into the abyss of eternal damnation to burn for all eternity; just like your father is burning right now.
Useless scoundrel.

Infantile, lame rant.

I have already signed and sealed it. You are walking dead. Your death is just around the corner so that more oxygen will be available to people living around you. Your corpse will be food for vultures you asinine slobbering cretin.

Jimbadly:



Infantile, lame rant.

I have already signed and sealed it. You are walking dead. Your death is just around the corner so that more oxygen will be available to people living around you. Your corpse will be food for vultures you asinine slobbering cretin.

Lowlife scallywag.
I'll be there to stretch my hands over your rotten corpse and still lay more curses upon your rejected soul, when you die, soon.
...your death is certain.
Repulsive creature.

why? what are your reasons

realtalk19:


Never ever

dapo456

dapo456:
why? what are your reasons

Saw ur email notification which I couldn't access,which is why I mentioned you.

Sniper101:

Lowlife scallywag.
I'll be there to stretch my hands over your rotten corpse and still lay more curses upon your rejected soul, when you die, soon.
...your death is certain.
Repulsive creature.

You are the lowest scum amongst scums. And you will soon be food for scavenging vultures and maggots you dim-witted 1mbecile.

Jimbadly:


You are the lowest scum amongst scums. And you will soon be food for scavenging vultures and maggots you dim-witted 1mbecile.

Get thee behind me, Satan!

Greatdre:
The little research I made also showed that many people are not happy in their marriages but will come public to display their marriage or spouse as the next best thing. A woman can be receiving consistent beating from the husband on a daily basis but would still display her husband to the outside world as the best man on earth. Thats the kind of society we find ourselves. Nobody wants to be ridiculed for having a bad spouse or union.

Just today on Facebook, majority of people don't actually lie about this kind of thing contrary to your "research".

Sniper101:


Get thee behind me, Satan!

Vermuse scumbag!

Jimbadly:


Vermuse scumbag!

Swerve, díckhead.

Sniper101:

Swerve, díckhead.

Go to hell you discombobulated swine!

Jimbadly:


Go to hell you discombobulated swine!

Walking dead.

engrchykae:
08039145158

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Sniper101:


Walking dead.

Dead dunce.

Was married, separated now.
Its a capital NO for me.

Lots of pleasant and unpleasant experiences.

ahnie:
Lots of pleasant and unpleasant experiences.

Normal.

Smartchoiice:

Normal.

Why z it so...?

Jimbadly:


Dead dunce.

slowpoke! Are you still alive?