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excessmon:
Pls what’s d real meaning of the phrase “a typical Nigerian girl”

Over 87% of Nigerian guys have low self esteem

It’s not low self esteem, a typical Nigeria girl feels she has to play around with over a dozen guys, call some friends, some uncle, and call the more emotional one boyfriend until she has to make a choice!

If you think she’s just yours and you fail to read the signs, you will end up broken with everyone looking at you like a fool!

DexterousOne:


I was expecting your comment

How business?

And did you still go to India to get that thing you said you will use to deal with your criminal (ex) staff?

Cheers

Lol.....I forgave the mumu boy because he was lucky while on the case, our company won a big contract, so I had to let him go jareh....Biz is fine.....you have a very retentive memory, abi you be teacher ni

spiritedtete:
Whatever ever your opinion is.... my take is my take... you don't freaking have to agree... but you can study the ones in your family closely... you will discover my point isn't far fetch! Get it!

Answer the fvcking question

Does it mean your mum is not honest with your dad and is sucking the d*ck of an undergrad for extra cash?

Does it mean that your sister And cousins are hoes?

Or your future daughter is already a certified slut even before birth?


When talking, learn to use your brain.

keryj:
I'm still surprised at how people go about bringing their private life to the public for advice or judgment.

Now that most of them have end up twisting your mind on her honesty, i do hope you are happy, comfortable and at peace now.

Only you know your girl perfectly well, stop passing her to others who knows nothing about her for judgment.

dey don kwome

Since u have photocopied my mind lemme just order you a chilled beer

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

realokopi:
Since u have photocopied my mind lemme just order you a chilled beer

Lol.
Heineken preferable.
Thanks.

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

Let her go, nothing honest there so because you asked her a question seizure come if you continue like that you will suffer in that relationship she might be using her condition to cover up things, once suspicious moves enters into relationship you let go cut off, she is too dramatic I don't like that always wanting you to pity her all the time using her condition to manipulate you there by doing what she does and going free, cut off.

Why is it that most Nigerians guys like generalizing things !if you gf is not honest to you that doesn't mean other girl are like that !why not you people speak for yourselves!imaging the advice some are even giving !making the guy look like dumb person !I pity most persons that com here for advice coz no good one we com out expect the one you alone gives urself .you're a man boss up n take ur own decision n act with it chikena.

ultimate77:
Why do I perceive you are just pained by the fact that you are unable to stick or attract a good man to yourself?

Go to sambisa

You about to loose an Angel, what that babe need is support, caring and love ,then you will get all you wish in a woman from her.

Pls for the sake of her health condition, if you don't wish to have something serious or future with her kindly let her be now, because if you end up traumatising her further, it will cause more damage to her brain and health.

Assume this is your sister and someone is treating her this way

Nawao...it sha get as e be

NekkyCee:
Hmmmm...biko I am an honest lady

Story.
We don hear your scores finish for area.

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

I don’t think u have lost her bt try to learn from this mistake and don’t stress her even when u think she’s wrong cos of health condition. Always be the bigger person and let things be handled calmly even when upset Control ur emotions.

Oya go to any bar close to you and tell them that I said they should gas you out with Heineken.

Davash222:
Lol.
Heineken preferable.
Thanks.

She has packed out of your house to meet the guy that called her....

Stefenijoan002:
Why is it that most Nigerians guys like generalizing things !if you gf is not honest to you that doesn't mean other girl are like that !why not you people speak for yourselves!imaging the advice some are even giving !making the guy look like dumb person !I pity most persons that com here for advice coz no good one we com out expect the one you alone gives urself .you're a man boss up n take ur own decision n act with it chikena.

Its very shameful, devastating

An innocent poor girl is called all sorts of name because she choose to date and love. For Christ sake she is beautiful, so guys will always chyke her , that doesn't mean she is going out with them too. Its too bad, you are treating this girl badly. You are emotionally traumatising the poor girl and this is affecting her health condition.


Pls stop hurting the poor girl, she can commit suicide because of you. Girls like this are fragile and requires up to most care and love

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

Am glad you are being remorseful over your attitude towards her

This weekend, pay her a Suprise visit

Plead with her to have lunch or dinner as the case may be

In your outing, reassure her of your undying love and a sincere heart

Apologies for what you did out of anger and promise her that you will caution yourself

Be very remorseful about it and assure her of her happiness

After that, you can send a credit to her line or send weekend cash to her account as a surprise

Plead with her to bring back her things that you have been unhappy and restless since she left you and your heart seeks for peace

Am very sure she will respond well

Right now she is bittered and hurt, but a simple sorry will calm down everything

Now on your own part

You have bought a raw egg and if you don't handle it well, it will break

You must learn to trust her, most open minded ladies doesn't keep extra lover, most times they are more faithful

Now you know that she is having crisis, assist her and find out what led to it and how it can be eliminated from her system

People of such nature must be treated and handled with caution

Not that you both can't quarrel ohhh, but make sure you are not the one that will trigger the quarrel
She loves you just as you love her, try and give her happiness and you will enjoy your relationship with her

Once a girl is still single, she will definitely have male admires even married women faces such with a ring on their finger

Give her freedom and she will be more free with you

But bear in mind that if you won't marry her, don't keep her for long

It will devastate her overall health and life if eventually you voys don't settle down

It's not really good to keep a woman for so long, the longer time the relationship takes, the more a woman is assured that it will lead to marriage

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

bros u did nothing wrong. its very likely she's cheating. she is using her health as an excuse to evade your questions. i know some people that have seizures and i discovered that they value relationships a lot with the opposite sex. A lot of them would do anything to keep their relationship strong. u saw the red flag and chose to ignore. if she truly loves u, she would not pack her stuff from ur place. she is feeling guilty but she's playing mind games with u. she is manipulating u. let her go if she wants to go. save yourself from future wahala.

pcguru1:
My brother, I'm not saying do not open your eyes, if anything borrow extra eyes, I dey roll for street , i sabi how these girls dey roll, but at the same time , correct babes dey. I'm just telling him not to dismiss a correct babe. You think say women never show me their colour, except in my case I avoid women who have nothing to offer.

You are the most reasonable guy on Nairaland... after me

Thatssobeyonce:
All dz people asking for personal advices on a public website dont they think the people they are asking for advices about are also on NL

In Jesus name, Receive the spirit of punctuation marks in your life


Oya say Amen

Logan95:
My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

This is 2020. People are looking for money and how to relocate out of this sh*thole country... You you're busy forming final year project with relationship... Ope ooooo

Logan95:
My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

your subconscious wants to believe she is down and can’t survive because of you.. don’t listen to your subconscious, listen to your brain , call her over, forget all this unkempt and so issues, and discuss what really brought about the fight , assert your stand on if she should reply guys or not and allow her speak on her own views too.. talk it out and you both should stop using this epilepsy thing as an excuse to not communicate.. you both shouldn’t kill your relationship by not communicating exactly how you both feel, for fear of hurting the other person..

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

Stop it naw, if you have been unfortunate to get a sincere and honest girl is because you don't even trust yourself

Let those who finds one keep theirs

Haba

Thatssobeyonce:
All dz people asking for personal advices on a public website dont they think the people they are asking for advices about are also on NL

I prophesy In Jesus name, Receive the spirit of punctuation marks in your life


Oya say Amen

My ex sometimes back acted suicide attempt when she thought I wanna leave. She always threat to kill herself if I leave her.

She left months back, yet I never heard of such attempt.

Don't bite more than you can chew for any reason.

Think far beyond now...

Heroclitus:
I'm looking forward to that day when I'll start seeing things from this particular point of view... I really need this kinda mentality badly

Develope the mentality and bear the pains that goes with it

chigoizie7:
Please do. Thank you so much.

Since you really love her.

Treat her like a normal human being that she is.

Assure her that you do not want to leave, but make sure that you are truly not gonna leave, make sure that you truly love her.

Treat her like a normal human, do not pity her, she needs her self confidence and self esteem intact, and you assuring her that she is normal is the only way she will get that.

But if you keep treating her like she is an invalid, then she will start doubting herself.

If you want to Bleep her, Bleep her well, with no pity.


Offer to help her with her medications. Make sure she stick to the prescription. Since she stays with you, make it a point of duty that she eats well, make breakfast and dinner compulsory for her. With that, you can always hand her her medications after every meal.

It does not kill. You can google it brother. It is not also contagious.

Make her feel like a normal human.


Go to her house, tell her that you ain’t leaving until she comes back to your house.

When both of you are together, you can both conquer the world.

Treat her nice and she will cherish you for the rest of her life, she will respect you and make sure you will lack nothing as long as she can help.

But do not rub it on her face either. Do not tell her that you are helping her. Always make it seem like you are helping yourself and both her.


Let her know that once she is happy, that you are happy, that whatever you are doing to make her happy is for your own happiness . But if you do not love her that much. Please let her go now.


Stress is one of the things that triggers it.

You are the real man here. Everything is packed in your comment practical solution, empathy etc.
You just saved this relationship
May your days be long and prosperous

Nigerian men ehhnnn, yet you expect women to trust you all..

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

Logan95:
My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

That girl is holding you by the scruff of your kneck. Even Jupiter cannot save you. But, you have found one of the best things in life: someone you are ready to die for. Unless I'm wrong

Logan95:
Thanks man.

Do exactly what this guy said. Here's your answer.
You got yourself a jewel. Don't lose her.

RisenPhoenix:
You're the man! Glad to see woken guys are around.

@op. Faking seizures, fainting, crying, breatlessness are all classical ploys by girls to turn the tables on you and avoid answering questions. They then make you feel that you have offended them by your accusation and you now start begging the person that is supposed to explain herself.

So the seizure was faked ❓

You are a Thomas