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Onetimepost:
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Hello everyone.. please I need your advice

So,I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over three years now (since my year1 in school) and I just found out she was cheating with me with our caretaker.. He(the caretaker) and my girlfriend are of same tribe, I guess they kinda blend. Am older than the guy he is 23 and am 24.

My girlfriend and I are currently roommate in year 3). We moved in together late October last year.
She also cheating on me with another dude from her town where she resides. Before our academic break (22 Dec 2019) she frequent our caretakers room too often,I try tell her to stop that am not comfortable with it, of which she shrug off saying she is only being friends with him because the speak same dialet,and we all live in the same compound. She would stay late at his room,I had to tell her(sternly) not to visit his room again and she agreed. But she still visit him.

When we return from our academic break,she started to visit him again. She stayed late again with our caretaker Just outside our room and I asked her nicely to to get inside because it's late and she entered and bid caretaker goodnight. She got the bed after taking her bath,and we got talking I told her not to stay out past 9pm. She got angry saying I simply don't like him that and I hate seeing him with her,she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her.
The next day she refused to talk to me before going to class.
When we got home later that day,we just found ourselves Talking . A mutual friend (female)of our visited, we were eating and my eyes just got a glimpse of her WhatsApp message telling our caretaker that I almost attack her yesterday because I saw them together. I didn't react then,I had to keep my cool. Later that day I told my friend what I just saw (my girlfriend message to our caretaker) she said I should ignore,but anger got the best of me.i was angry because she told him I nearly attacked her.

When we got home,I asked her for her phone which she gave me reluctantly,I went through her WhatsApp messages with the guy. And I found out she do tell the guy our personal things ( including when I told her not to visit him) she shouldn't tell anyone. She must have told the guy am controlling her because he asked if am still controling her that I have no shame for trying to attack her the previous day. I went further into their chat and I saw where he told the boy that she missed her period and the boy told her they would do pregnancy test.

I know she might have told a very good friend of her about the guy,so I went to their chat. She told her friend about the guy and she told her she lived him and they had sex already.but her friend told her not to destroy her relationship for just a crush or is she willing to leave me for the boy,she said NO.

I had to check if she still cheating on me with others guys. I got to a chat and my suspicion was right.
She was telling this guy she was pregnant and this dude was ignoring he messages and chats. She later went on saying is is because she was forcing herself on him.

She had sex with this dude 25 December,had sex with caretaker 27december.
After I must have read all chats,I went home and confronted her she denied at first I later told her i read her chats and she started crying saying it was a mistake that it won't happen again ,that she was drunk when the second guy had sex with her and having sex with our caretaker was a mistake. I called her mother and told her what has happened she was disappointed in her but she also begged me to forgive her.
I keep wondering where I got it all wrong and asked her but she said i have been nothing but faithful that she can't explain something what came over her. I have been good to the caretaker I painted his room for Free. He do call me "BRO" when addressing me

To cut the story short. I told her I have forgiven her,but deep down,I haven't..

I don't know what to do..
Please help...

NOTE
I have Never cheated on her.
I believe in equality in relationship. I don't control her. I never Never check her phone all through our relationship. I guess that's why she didn't had to delete her chats.

Kindly ignore my grammatical errors

Davash222:
I stopped reading when I saw “she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her”
Women are naturally manipulative. Once she started crying, she’s guilty. An innocent woman would never cry for what she didn’t do!

Una wey dey fall in love with Nigerian women, I comot cap for una.

Onetimepost:
Admin Front Page please

Hello everyone.. please I need your advice

So,I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over three years now (since my year1 in school) and I just found out she was cheating with me with our caretaker.. He(the caretaker) and my girlfriend are of same tribe, I guess they kinda blend. Am older than the guy he is 23 and am 24.

My girlfriend and I are currently roommate in year 3). We moved in together late October last year.
She also cheating on me with another dude from her town where she resides. Before our academic break (22 Dec 2019) she frequent our caretakers room too often,I try tell her to stop that am not comfortable with it, of which she shrug off saying she is only being friends with him because the speak same dialet,and we all live in the same compound. She would stay late at his room,I had to tell her(sternly) not to visit his room again and she agreed. But she still visit him.

When we return from our academic break,she started to visit him again. She stayed late again with our caretaker Just outside our room and I asked her nicely to to get inside because it's late and she entered and bid caretaker goodnight. She got the bed after taking her bath,and we got talking I told her not to stay out past 9pm. She got angry saying I simply don't like him that and I hate seeing him with her,she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her.
The next day she refused to talk to me before going to class.
When we got home later that day,we just found ourselves Talking . A mutual friend (female)of our visited, we were eating and my eyes just got a glimpse of her WhatsApp message telling our caretaker that I almost attack her yesterday because I saw them together. I didn't react then,I had to keep my cool. Later that day I told my friend what I just saw (my girlfriend message to our caretaker) she said I should ignore,but anger got the best of me.i was angry because she told him I nearly attacked her.

When we got home,I asked her for her phone which she gave me reluctantly,I went through her WhatsApp messages with the guy. And I found out she do tell the guy our personal things ( including when I told her not to visit him) she shouldn't tell anyone. She must have told the guy am controlling her because he asked if am still controling her that I have no shame for trying to attack her the previous day. I went further into their chat and I saw where he told the boy that she missed her period and the boy told her they would do pregnancy test.

I know she might have told a very good friend of her about the guy,so I went to their chat. She told her friend about the guy and she told her she lived him and they had sex already.but her friend told her not to destroy her relationship for just a crush or is she willing to leave me for the boy,she said NO.

I had to check if she still cheating on me with others guys. I got to a chat and my suspicion was right.
She was telling this guy she was pregnant and this dude was ignoring he messages and chats. She later went on saying is is because she was forcing herself on him.

She had sex with this dude 25 December,had sex with caretaker 27december.
After I must have read all chats,I went home and confronted her she denied at first I later told her i read her chats and she started crying saying it was a mistake that it won't happen again ,that she was drunk when the second guy had sex with her and having sex with our caretaker was a mistake. I called her mother and told her what has happened she was disappointed in her but she also begged me to forgive her.
I keep wondering where I got it all wrong and asked her but she said i have been nothing but faithful that she can't explain something what came over her. I have been good to the caretaker I painted his room for Free. He do call me "BRO" when addressing me

To cut the story short. I told her I have forgiven her,but deep down,I haven't..

I don't know what to do..
Please help...

NOTE
I have Never cheated on her.
I believe in equality in relationship. I don't control her. I never Never check her phone all through our relationship. I guess that's why she didn't had to delete her chats.

Kindly ignore my grammatical errors

Froshloaded:
If you still love her
Take her back

Onetimepost:
but she has the nicest of heart... or so I thought

Depressedkidd:
Broo. If you know how I broke up in some of my relationships you'll call me a boss. If a girl does something and I confront her and she starts crying and trying to turn herself into the victim, she'll just cry her way out of the relationship. I hate that manipulative rubbish with my life. How will I vex with you and then still be the one to apologize for your own wrongdoing?

zed7:
I always used to tell my girlfriends to not let me know if they cheat. I wouldn't also read your messages.
If I ever catch you cheating though, that's the end. I will forgive you but we can never be again, no matter what.
To each his own though.

placeofallure:
Your girlfriends? How many of them do you keep at once? If you have more than one at a time, you're also a cheat.

The op, please, I repeat, please, let the girl go. Cheats don't change because they get caught. If they'd change at all if they ever do, it will be of their own volition. She no even get shame dey do house-to-house! Let her go.

AfroKnight:
Lol. You have given them the license to cheat.

zed7:
You think so? People will cheat if they want to. You guys better start learning that policing women only increases your blood pressure. You can't stop others from cheating.

jawalis:
Here’s my advice: just leave the innocent girl, let her explore life and enjoy the advantages of your foolishness, you can even excuse your room for her when her fvckmates are around. As a nice guy, pls do ensure you buy enough milk and provisions as so she has enough strength to bleep the smart caretaker, then let her have the baby; you’ll take care of the child since you can’t use your brain. Jeez. What the fvck did I just read! You are the BIGGEST FOOL I KNOW. honestly you should be castrated. You living with a girl and she’s cheating under your nose and not only with one guy. Here you are seeking advice, the bitch is fvcking around and you are there calling her mother! Wait, what were you expecting the mother to say, kill her? You need brain reset. How sure are you that the person you spoke with is her Mother? Don’t you think you are been fooled, have you ever paid your sister’s house rent in school? Puss¥ Nigha. Sent the motherfvcker out of your house, move on and forget your loss.

FromZeroToHero:
Why would you leave in the same room with a lady you are not married to. Is the mother aware that you guys are cohabiting? Answer me first before I will advise you.

Onetimepost post=86263738 :
I have been good to the caretaker I painted his room for Free. He do call me "BRO" when addressing me

MrCork:
...he should take her bak after gate man fukkkk her twise?
..bro r u ok?(,no oofeense)

MizzPhoney:
I would have really knocked some senses into you, considering the fact that you are even my younger brother's age mate, I feel so disappointed in you.
What are you cohabiting with a girl for?
What is she giving you? Sex, every day free house wife duties? What exactly?
It's so obvious you aren't serious with your life oh, if you were, you'd know that you are heading for the rocks. You will end up taking care of that baby she is carrying since you are a habitual mumu!

samtol4:
Age 23- 26 the ripe age to build your career and face your studies ,unfortunately you are sharing room with a professional prostitute . I wonder how you study because she is a big distraction to your destiny ! She slept with someone on 25 and caretaker on 27 perhaps you slept with her on 26 ! Better go for HIV / STD test . Bro use the brain God gave you ,let this girl go elsewhere and live .Above all stop fornication otherwise fornication will stop !

MrCork:
...anyways bro..Am a playA & I no women.. truss me
..she cheat on u simply Becoz yor gate man dik is far far bigger than yours.
..my professional advise...never ever ever truss females below 30yrs old!!

Depressed101:
you are not a nairalander, so therefore i cannot help you, if you are? You should have fortified yourself with RedPill 1&2 by Ubunja pharmaceutical Plc. AT least, to save you from such a disgrace, now tell us how you intend to live with that winch you call girlfriend, for the rest of the semester.

Your momma and papa send you go school, you carry woman put for house.. You are a mumu man, and chances are you are the one seeing her through school..

Cowbell521:
It is not funny

..funny how? So u think it's funny? A gate man shance his wife & op is crying so u think everything is funny? Gate man dik bigger than ok dik & that's y she left op..so was funny about that?
Bro please show respect!

Zerlo:
Are u not cheating her dad by living under a roof with her without paying her bride price?

Anyway, two things are involved....
1. It's either she's d financial muscle of d relationship and u are only a glorified sissy with a stick in-between d legs. Or
2. U are naturally slow and it affects ur self esteem that u can't be assertive with a girl that f**k neighbours with no remorse.

Pls share her contact here, I believe there are hundreds more of her kinsmen here

zed7:
If you were intelligent you'll know how to use tenses. Used to, means in the past, and girlfriends don't translate to dating them simultaneously.