Follow the good advisers
Ignore the bad advisers
Don't abort your future OBJ.

Nadoson1:
Pls OP, I know what you are going/thinking now about your present condition today but please remember to comeback to this forum tomorrow and tell us how you were treated like a QUEEN by same man people are throwing stones to, I believe he is coming back for you in no distance time with a very surprised package, as for your baby keep your child because that will be the link/bond to glue you two tommorow.

u sure can build paradise in the air. taking care of a child is no kidsplay. its no jokes, you fvckers apply sentiment in so many things. some or most part of that lady's is going to be stopped once she give birth. doing it alone is horrible

sassysure:

Abortion done by professional is 100% safe.

The people who do abortion most in Nigeria everyday are married women not single ladies.

You know it all.

Married women are top of the abortion list in Nigeria.
They don't accept contraceptives.... Rather get pregnant and terminate it

stupid girl, and one nigerian based guy for don dey beg you tire for love, but no na abraod bf dey your head....he don give you small dollars you open legs gbaga.....my friend ko shi danu

Both of you are irresponsible and have no business having babies.

He's 34 with no money and no plans for you, and you're 29 loving the ghost of the past 5 years.

Sorry, the baby is the victim here, not you.

Sex without protection is one of those things that wise people say "just because you could, doesn't mean you should".

martyns303:

Better a 30yr old single lady, than a 30yr old single mother.

30 years old single lady
Single mother

Double tragedy in Nigeria.

Villain7:

This is pure heartless and wickedness! If your parent had aborted you would you be here to type this thrash? Do you even have respect for life? Please, never you advice anyone to kill, because it might just get to you... Be careful what you wish for, because you might just get it...
Your advice is so crude and mean without thought! Yes, eeveryone is entitled to his opinion but be filtered at least.

It is merely a foetus. Not born yet.

If my parents had aborted me. There are still chances that they could have other children. Procreating Offsprings are not predestined but rather a natural process like the very act of respiration.

If this lady is not financially capable what is the point of having that child? What is the point of raising an offspringthat u can not nurture to its full potential? Wishful aspirations can get us only an inch.

Preshy561:

Don't make excuse for that man, cos he's broke, he's allowed to abandon his girlfriend of 10years and you didn't see the wickedness of that man?. He knows what he's doing.

I blame the lady sha.

.FEMINIST SPOTTED.

LilMissFavvy:
Are you surprised of all the comments above? It only shows how wickeddd majority of men are. He said he is broke, but had money to pay in and out of the country. A good man should stand by his lady through thick and thin, if he doesn't, then he is a wickeddd coward. As for you OP, give birth to the child, don't abort. You have to carry the pregnancy for 9months, nurture the child after birth, before you can even think of going into a new relationship. However, during this time frame, you may likely hear from your guy, all hopes aren't lost. If you still don't hear from him, then you will know you need to move on.

You've made a lot of sense here. THUMBS up.

Preshy561:

I will be the last person to choose a path for her. She knows what she wants though.

You sound so harsh in all your comments, have you been in her shoes before? or were you jilted in a relationship?


Learn to forgive unconditionally, and move on.

Lamanii22:
May we not meet someone that would waste our time.. 10 effing years... He probably has given birth over there... I wouldn't advice that you abort the pregnancy.. Kindly give birth to the baby, he would come back to his sense(s) ..

@ the bolded. You don't know that for sure.

Villain7:

This is pure heartless and wickedness! If your parent had aborted you would you be here to type this thrash? Do you even have respect for life? Please, never you advice anyone to kill, because it might just get to you... Be careful what you wish for, because you might just get it...
Your advice is so crude and mean without thought! Yes, eeveryone is entitled to his opinion but be filtered at least.

About respect for life? When you see a scurrying cockroach or a garter snake basking in sunlight at the backyard and kill it. Or if you use Postinor Could you say you had respect for Life.Check that perspective?

nijabazaar:


It is merely a foetus. Not born yet.

If my parents had aborted me. There are still chances that they could have other children. Procreating Offsprings are not predestined but rather a natural process like the very act of respiration.

If this lady is not financially capable what is the point of having that child? What is the point of raising an offspringthat u can not nurture to its full potential? Wishful aspirations can get us only an inch.

Oil dey your head.
Well scripted.

The way Nigerians are anti abortion on social media...If I wasn't a doctor and practised in Nigeria,I would not have believed almost 90% of women including the married ones have had at least 1 abortion.

They are not anti unprotected premarital & extramarital sex...Its abortion ,that everybody begins to preach against.

Funny!

This lady will be a very big fool to keep that pregnancy.
The same people,especially men,advising her against abortion..will be the same calling her derogatory names for having a child out of wedlock.

I'm glad I left Nigeria.
Our hypocrisy is sickening

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t y know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

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Don't Abort d Baby if U TRULY KNOW d Owner. Whether U hv Money or Not. Whether his attitude changes to U or not. Know that, u are under Test now. Follow Wise and Profitable Channels of Reasoning. Pls.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Nigerians are big hypocrites waiting to ruin others lives meanwhile they do the same thing they warn you against in secret.


How will a reasonable person ask her to keep the baby for a man that has shown he doesn’t want it?

See some of them already accusing her of trying to tie him down with pregnancy.


Even on nairaland see the hurtful things being said about single mothers. I would gladly pay for OP’s abortion.

It’s not worth it. So many women shouldering responsibility of kids they made with runaway men without any help or respect from this disgusting society of ours.

spiceadole:


Oil dey your head.
Well scripted.

The way Nigerians are anti abortion on social media...If I wasn't a doctor and practised in Nigeria,I would not have believed almost 90% of women including the married ones have had at least 1 abortion.

They are not anti unprotected premarital & extramarital sex...Its abortion ,that everybody begins to preach against.

Funny!

This lady will be a very big fool to keep that pregnancy.
The same people,especially men,advising her against abortion..will be the same calling her derogatory names for having a child out of wedlock.

I'm glad I left Nigeria.
Our hypocrisy is sickening

My Dear Sister, when you were having unprotected sex with him,what were you thinking?

Don't abort that baby
Learn to face the consequences of the act, even if the man jilts you or not.

Have your baby, and move ahead with your life.

This should be a lesson, You need to know your guys stand in the relationship as soon as possible,if he will marry you or not,

If he says yes tell him what you want him to do as a sign of his sincerity(a kind of commitment with your family) and if he refuses to do it, then know that you have been scammed in the relationship or choose to be his Baby Mama

thesicilian:
When a man of integrity is broke, he distances himself even from those he loves. Is your boyfriend a man of his word? Consider that.

Personally I wouldn't recommend abortion due to the likely complications, and your age. And the fact that it is for someone you truly love. And what if God doesn't bless you with another child later?

My advice is deliver the child and raise him by yourself. Even if he rejects the child, it is yours for you to love.

Kindly help me understand your opening statement. if you will ? thanks

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

how many months is the pregnancy? have you told him,you wanna abort? what was his reaction? Do you think or have means to survive as a single mother in this APC era? , don't read all the bullshit wey ppl dey type here. its your life and your choice. if this isn't a super story. I'd advice you go ahead with the abortion, as long as its not over 6/7 weeks... abortion isn't deadly. dem just dey exaggerate here ni, D&C within two or three hours everything don calm. be wise... be wise.. goodluck sis

nairalanduseles:


U need to purge urself of so much hate.....its not healthy

Thought I was the only one that noticed it

Think about the complications of an abortion.

don't worry after the Valentine he will come back .that na initial grab gra ;Ddon't worry after the Valentine he will come back .that na initial grab gra,

Preshy561:
Any relationship of Morethan 2years without any direction shouldn't be continued and if you are someone that does know her direction and what she wants, you should ask questions and from his answers, you will know which direction the relationship is leading. You obviously wasted your youthful exuberance and looks on a dot, and now, the old man has rejected you.
I'm Sorry, but ask yourself if you are willing to do this or not.

Ten fvcking years in a relationship. Some people started relationship same time as her and their first born has almost finished primary school.
Any man who is not willing to settle down WITHOUT any tangible reason within two years is wasting your time. Time that can never be gotten again.

nairalanduseles:


U need to purge urself of so much hate.....its not healthy

Asin eeh,men don deal with that one

don't worry after the Valentine he will come back .if u do abortion now u go scatter ur womb or u fit for self if ur womb scatter na another man go suffer am den .and u go begin catch somebody for wintch the did has been done . meanwhile congrats in advance mama ejimah(twins)

when u dey do harder harder you no know say pikin go come out abi the guy na eunoch .no worry Waite for part two

Gilbertman:
Well, well, let's assume the story was fake and just attention grabbing, so what? We all got an opportunity to react one way or the other and learnt from other contributors. It will be a pointer also for any one(lady) that's about to fall into such situation. And guess what, it may be real- not many are able to arranged their thoughts like you would have-'"Eni ija oba. l'o npe ara e l'okunrin'". When situation arise, even the ghost of the wise will find his/her corpse at the backyard of a foolish man/woman!

K

Abortion is not an option for you. You might have complications from it. And also, it's a murder. That guy will certainly come back to his senses. Even if he doesn't, your baby in your hand is more than anything. God will see you through.

funmisticqueen2:
story story, if she meets a gynaecologist for the abortion, chances of those side effects are greatly reduced.

even if the doctor is a professional, the instruments they use weaken the uterus. Making you more prone to miscarriages and fertility issues, because it’s not a natural process. Even these pills you take are not good. These doctors will never tell you this because they make money from you. My sister is a doctor so I know. Why is infertility such an issue in this day and age? You young girls don’t understand what you’re doing to your bodies, and it’s when you get to a certain age you’ll be crying on top of a mountain begging God for blessings.

justjasper:
Abortion is not an option for you. You might have complications from it. And also, it's a murder. That guy will certainly come back to his senses. Even if he doesn't, your baby in your hand is more than anything. God will see you through.

bros abortion isn't that bad. if she do am early...na blood go still dey inside...not technically murder lol...e go be like say she dey do menstruation