Don't even try that abortion of a thing...keep your baby and life goes on.

You fell for his cheap talk, how will you allow a guy to sleep with you when he's not your husband, that's wrong and now you want to abort the baby, don't just try it because is not the best thing to do, you have to take care of the baby after the delivery.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

10 years will have been enough to get admission in year one and even get your PhD

Baby mama is loading.
The stigma of after one is there and not all after one had other relationship.
I wont advise you to abort,
But
First,have you gone to meet his parent before,and possibly inform the mum about the pregnancy?
Has he met with your family once.
If you have met with his parent,leqve the pregnancy and give birth and be sure anything,the family will support u.
Let me tell u,raising kid as a single parent is hard oo if you dont have any source of income.
Be wise

So if everybody lived their lives based on the opinions of others, do you think anybody in life would take risks? Even those that are married still end up being single mothers, such is life. Have they died? This stupid fear of being a single mother, las las that’s where most women end up later on in life. That child will always be hers. Killing her child and running away from her problem, is that going to bring back the 10 years she has wasted with this man? The resentment, bitterness and self doubt that she has gained from this? ‘What will people say, what will people think? ‘ that’s why most of you are depressed, you live your life trying to conform to societal norms, and in the end you still fail.

spiceadole:


Oil dey your head.
Well scripted.

The way Nigerians are anti abortion on social media...If I wasn't a doctor and practised in Nigeria,I would not have believed almost 90% of women including the married ones have had at least 1 abortion.

They are not anti unprotected premarital & extramarital sex...Its abortion ,that everybody begins to preach against.

Funny!

This lady will be a very big fool to keep that pregnancy.
The same people,especially men,advising her against abortion..will be the same calling her derogatory names for having a child out of wedlock.

I'm glad I left Nigeria.
Our hypocrisy is sickening

Move ON
trust me that niggr ain't got you in his future plans

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Do not kill your unborn child, have the child first and see if he will change, if he doesn't move on. You don't know whether you are carrying a future governor or senator

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

My problem with you is why stay in a relationship just dating for 10years?

Is that not nonsense itself?

My honest advice is if u have an income keep the pregnancy and love ur child.if not remove it because God won't come from heaven andhelp you.it's hard taking care of a child without income becose that guy doesn't have anything to offer u.a man that likes I will mk it known to everyone including his family in two years of relationship not keeping u for 10 years even if u abort don't tell him u aborted.remove Nd wait to here from him maybe when he ask u later in about another month u can say ur having a miscarriage. Except of course his family is involved in ur relationship

funmisticqueen2:
that's a lie especially Early in the pregnancy.

Stop all this sentimental emotional blackmail.

but has life not started at that level?
It's time we tell ourselves the truth. This is not sentimental, it's reality! Once Dr has confirmed conception has taken place, and you want the baby, how do you feel of your girl says she lost the pregnancy at even 1 month old?

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Don't abort. Keep the baby. Do you know any member of his family? Let them know about the pregnancy. He will later appreciate you for it.

nijabazaar:


About respect for life? When you see a scurrying cockroach or a garter snake basking in sunlight at the backyard and kill it. Or if you use Postinor Could you say you had respect for Life.Check that perspective?

If you are in search of a child and your wife gets pregnant and Dr confirms that is a month old, within that same period, she lost it, how do you feel?

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Inform him of your decision to abort the baby, and see his reaction. if you have informed him and he felt reluctant as it is now. I will advise you abort the baby and face your life.. because with a baby, your chances of getting married with another man is not much to compare when you had none.

[quote author=Ladycewhy post=86610881] but this her case is very different,they were dating before he left ,one would have expected that when he came back it was to do the marriage ceremony that he came for ,infact that should have been the first sign to her that he doesn't have plans for her. A man that is serious would have made it his mission to come back and put a ring on it after being away for so long not to come back and chop kpekus and score goal. .

quote
Funny girl! well it all depends on the status of the relationship between both parties before the dude travels out of the country, sometimes like I rightly explained in my previously reply, you never can tell, what the other side looks like this is why I never promised any lady marriage before I left Nigeria, I know the adverse effect, that it brings to you as a person, one has to be very careful in matters relating to relationships and marriage.

Finally, hmmn he chop kpekus clean mouth na normal thing na

I may be wrong though, but my hunches tells me he is not sure of your fidelity. I think after you informed him of your pregnancy he made some inquiries and got to know of your escapades while he was away. Do not tell me you had no guy all these 5 years. He already knows about it and suspects you just want to pin him down with pregnancy. Simply call him and calmly ask him if he is ready for you or not. Inform him you want to abort the baby if you do not get a good answer and move on, after all you are 30. Soon market go close for your shop (if you know what I mean). Do not just keep a baby the father does not want. As a single mother, be rest assured not many men will look your side. The supply is already higher than demand and there is already female-glut, the chances of a mother beating spinsters is quite rare. At the end, it is your life!!!

funmisticqueen2:
that's a lie especially Early in the pregnancy.

Stop all this sentimental emotional blackmail.

i
am pro-life but believe ladies should be free to do with their wombs what they wish.

The only issue I have is that abortion is to frequent and more rash than it should be. People are doing this as easy as they are drinking panadol. It is something that should be considered thoughtfully and done with care,not just the next option she will just jump into .
Now a days a girl can commit up to three abortions a year.
Not because they don't have to means to cater for a child or any reason but just because they are not married. Is pregnancy a disease or what?

Abortion like every other crucial decision in life should not be taken rashly

[quote author=WildChild00 post=86615598][/quote] to chop kpekus nor be anything but to say the guy just dey waste her time for 10 good years and she sef dey mumu herself dey wait for disapora bf ,I don see too many times even the one wey dem don even get pikin together sef come reach that side begin act funny .

Mstick:
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Nigerians are big hypocrites waiting to ruin others lives meanwhile they do the same thing they warn you against in secret.


How will a reasonable person ask her to keep the baby for a man that has shown he doesn’t want it?

See some of them already accusing her of trying to tie him down with pregnancy.


Even on nairaland see the hurtful things being said about single mothers. I would gladly pay for OP’s abortion.

It’s not worth it. So many women shouldering responsibility of kids they made with runaway men without any help or respect from this disgusting society of ours.

And I would glady terminate the pregnancy for her..free of charge.

olabrinks:
So because you’re broke, you’ll now ignore your lover of 10 years who is pregnant for you? Making the poor lady doubt herself and question the relationship? This same man has not talked about marriage or settling down.

To op, this man has wasted enough of your time please. He has probably found someone else abroad. As for your child, it is not the end of the world. Your child will bring blessings to you and you will find a man who will love and accept you wholeheartedly. Good luck.

[s]TO ALL THE PEOPLE ADVOCATING ABORTION, JUST KNOW THAT THE FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS ARE VERY VERY SENSITIVE. ALL YOU YOUNG GIRLS DESTROYING YOUR UTERUS WITH PILLS, ABORTIONS ETC WILL FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CONCEIVE LATER ON IN LIFE! GO TO A FERTILITY CLINIC AND SEE HOW MILLIONS OF WOMEN ARE SUFFERING AND CRYING. I PRAY NONE OF YOU WILL BE IN THAT POSITION[/s]

I had to do that, sorry, kinda, but not so much
Meanwhile having a D and C is generally kinder to a woman’s body and life than carrying a pregnancy to term
You may advocate for her keeping the baby which is a good cause without resorting to blackmail and threats which are fallacious when the chips are down. She may decide to have an abortion too depending on her circumstances (and considering the Nigerian society and the dividual, judging and patriachial nature of its people). That doesn’t make her a monster, that is not likely to make her infertile, and that is certainly her decision to make
Cheers

Chi59:
Guys are saying "keep the baby". I have no problem with that.
Yet I see insults being heaped on ladies past the age of 28 and single mothers on this forum every fvcking day. Very nauseating. You don't want her to abort, you say it's sinful, fine.
Yet you call her likes "baby mama".OK, let her abort, you'd still say she's an "evening newspaper".
What!?

That’s why women (and indeed everyone) should own their lives and their paths and not let “sosayiti” dictate this life journey for them
But no, that’s not what I see at all
Maybe it really isn’t easy for many people to “do them”

Ladycewhy:
to chop kpekus nor be anything but to say the guy just dey waste her time for 10 good years and she sef dey mumu herself dey wait for disapora bf ,I don see too many times even the one wey dem don even get pikin together sef come reach that side begin act funny .

It happens, once the guy don land obodo oyinbo, all him eyes go cum open, he go shout na so life be? but the truth of the matter is that some sensible once still go back home to reunite with their wives or girlfriend, becos over here, the women have more right than the man, especially when it comes to separation.


Finally, na who nor like better thing, if na u nkor? like I said some ladies are lucky after some years the dude would come marry and take them down to Europe or America.

Igetmyown247:
Your life your choice. Follow your heart.

Hundred percent

olabrinks:
So if everybody lived their lives based on the opinions of others, do you think anybody in life would take risks? Even those that are married still end up being single mothers, such is life. Have they died? This stupid fear of being a single mother, las las that’s where most women end up later on in life. That child will always be hers. Killing her child and running away from her problem, is that going to bring back the 10 years she has wasted with this man? The resentment, bitterness and self doubt that she has gained from this? ‘What will people say, what will people think? ‘ that’s why most of you are depressed, you live your life trying to conform to societal norms, and in the end you still fail.

the way people sound tough and confident online one will think they don't need male validation.

The same people that advocate for abortion just because they are scared no one will marry them as a single mother are the same that will make mouth that they don't need men and male's opinion about them don't count.

Abortion should be legalised(even though am strictly pro-life). But would any lady be confident enough to tell her intending husband about it in future? If you can proudly tell him you did abortions for trivial reasons then please go ahead but if you will chicken out and lie about it or lie about being raped as the cause for abortion then that makes you a coward

Carrying out an unnatural procedure, using instruments to forcefully kill and remove a foetus from the womb is kinder than something that women are born to do? What exactly is the purpose of the uterus? Why do you think so many women these days have fertility issues? The uterus was created to carry life, it was not created to have man made instruments fondlingg in and out of it, destroying and weakening the uterine walls, ripping out foetuses from it. The earlier people understand this, the better.

merahki:


I had to do that, sorry, kinda, but not so much
Meanwhile having a D and C is generally kinder to a woman’s body and life than carrying a pregnancy to term
You may advocate for her keeping the baby which is a good cause without resorting to blackmail and threats which are fallacious when the chips are down. She may decide to have an abortion too depending on her circumstances (and considering the Nigerian society and the dividual, judging and patriachial nature of its people). That doesn’t make a monster, that is t likely to make her infertile, and that is certainly her decision to make
Cheers

WildChild00:



It happens, once the guy don land obodo oyinbo, all him eyes go cum open, he go shout na so life be? but the truth of the matter is that some sensible once still go back home to reunite with their wives or girlfriend, becos over here, the women have more right than the man, especially when it comes to separation.


Finally, na who nor like better thing, if na u nkor? like I said some ladies are lucky after some years the dude would come marry and take them down to Europe or America.

she dey wait make e come take her go obodoyibo,na so aunty take waste a decade of her life and is about to become a baby mama by choice,lol

merahki:




That’s why women (and indeed everyone) should own their lives and their paths and not let “sosayiti” dictate this life journey for them
But no, that’s not what I see at all
Maybe it really isn’t easy for many people to “do them”

exactly,its tough when you have bullies like lilbest3 always telling you is the society that determines your life

MrNipplesLover:
no matter how young/old you are, dating someone for, max, 2 years without sealing it is a waste of time., please, give birth to the baby.

you won't die.

I hope when she later comes to nairaland to beg for child support you won't call her scam. And same goes for all who are telling her to keep the pregnancy. Be ready to assist her .

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

but in one of ur post u said ur fiance is in SA. Which should we believe?

Ladycewhy:
she dey wait make e come take her go obodoyibo,na so aunty take waste a decade of her life and is about to become a baby mama by choice,lol

Na be her fault, na so life be, you can never predict the outcome of life.

Ganjafama:
I hope when she later comes to nairaland to beg for child support you won't call her scam. And same goes for all who are telling her to keep the pregnancy. Be ready to assist her .

oh, maybe I should have advised her to go do abortion that may lead to her death.


right?

Villain7:


Look at the image , that's how your child looks in your stomach. Killing an innocent child never tells good of us. How beautiful is she in that stomach, protect her and give her the best of care.. Please, its true stigmatization shall be before you, but it's for a time. What will be will be. I don't support abortion.
#SayNo
#ProtectTheUnborn

God bless. I can't say much but let God guide your decisions

I am very pro - live-your- life- as -it -suits- you (and also pro-choice with regards to having babies or not)
But that picture of a glowing foetus inside cupped hands is beautiful
Even though your post is a blackmailing one? I like the picture cos it warms my heart. But the poster should “do” her and not you! No?
Cheers

Jen96:
but in one of ur post u said ur fiance is in SA. Which should we believe?

SA no be abroad?