Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

Run for your life. She is neither good for dating nor marriage. A lot of husbands are now deceased because they didn't act on signs similar to yours.

For the last time, bail out fast!

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No be every woman wey get belle for man dem marry.
Never marry such woman!
She's carrying your child, no doubt, but please don't marry that girl out of pity.
She'll be kind, caring and loving to you from now henceforth, but, please don't fall for all these gimmicks.
If you truly value your life, don't marry that girl!

Your girlfriend/potential killer only went to school but she isn't educated.

Stay by her till she delivers of the baby, then tell her why you can no longer stay in such an abusive relationship.

However, I doubt if you will be alive by the time she gives birth in jail

I'm done with people who come online to ask questions they know the answer to already.

My question is, how una Preeq dey strong when una broke. When I'm broke Ogbeni my Preeq no dey get life. My Preeq has the same feeling with shibaraba. I'm suspecting it has a brain sef. Once my account balance is pink if you like open the punna to my face, make your Yansh be like buffalo own, make your breasts be like oganigwe own, e no go strong.

But make account green. E dey strong even for sleep

You knew about her toxic personality yet you went ahead to get her pregnant, for two years you tolerated shit all in the name of love or probably her beauty boosted your ego among friends.
Do well to inform her family about her toxic behaviour and maybe take her to see a psychologist

Officialgarri:
Your girlfriend/potential killer only went to school buy she isn't educated.

Stay by her till she delivers of the baby, then tell her why you can no longer stay in such an abusive relationship.

However, I doubt if you will be alive by the time she gives birth in jail

Bro am just fedup,, her mum has even apologized her on her behalf and warned her to stop insulting my parents

Her mum complained several times about that she knows an coping and going through alot that i should be a man and be calm and understand her

I'll give the same advice people give to women in such position:

Run for your life. Sha you're not hearing about men being stabbed upandan ni?

Take responsibility of the child, but flee! You don become baby daddy no niyen. No time

I once advised people to stay away from GF. They are distraction, and they wouldn't let a man focus.

Now you cannot focus. If only you had listened to my advice, you would be huzzling now and saving your wealth, then when you see a lovely damsel with good manners, you go for her immediately.


You just have to carry your cross and be a man.

Don't hit her out of anger. I just love your idea on keeping the baby and staying calm when she acts so stupid and displays obnoxious characters.

At a time, she would change, remember she is pregnant.
Many more to come also especially at night.

Don't be surprised if she asks you to roast yam for her maybe at 2 a.m, it just shows your responsibility as a man just started.

Olalan:
You knew about her toxic personality yet you went ahead to get her pregnant, for two years you tolerated shit all in the name of love or probably her beauty boosted your ego among friends.
Do well to inform her family about her toxic behaviour and maybe take her to see a psychologist

Thanks alot

Yes u are right shes preety and intelligent a 4pointer cgpa in school even at that

I have informed her family about this though
Her mum has always been d one advising me on how to treat her when shes angry that she knows her too

i shield some of her insults of my parents from my family so they won't hate her

Person wey you never marry she don Dey throw stones , how sure are you she won’t throw knife one day .
I know you saw all these before you got her pregnant . Now wey belle don enter my dear take it to the Lord in prayers

I was in a similar situation, though gainfully employed and as a gentleman I decided to get married to her.
I thought that marriage would help to change her but for the past several years I have not had peace of mind in the marriage. My family members hardly visit my house, she insults everyone and ready to fight me at anytime, nags me to hell.
I had to resort to a side chic who treats me like a king but I can't marry her, my attempt at seeking divorce brought about the intervention of my religious leaders to whom she promised to change but it didn't last long. The kids are growing and all I did was just to learn to ignore her antics, with hindsight, I would have had the baby (abortion is a NO for me) and damn whatever anyone would say and provide enough money for the baby's upkeep and we continue to nurture the baby as single parents.

Young man, you are on your way to experience the hell I have had to live with since I took the decision to marry my wife, but though I keep praying and hoping that she will change and become the kind of woman I sought

Shibaraba:
I'm done with people who come online to ask questions they know the answer to already.

My question is, how una Preeq dey strong when una broke. When I'm broke Ogbeni my Preeq no dey get life. My Preeq has the same feeling with shibaraba. I'm suspecting it has a brain sef. Once my account balance is pink if you like open the punna to my face, make your Yansh be like buffalo own, make your breasts be like oganigwe own, e no go strong.

But make account green. E dey strong even for sleep

Brother i get u,, e dey happen atimes.. But am in d poo already.. I shouldn't run away from my problems i should face it squarely

Diligentnigga:


Bro am just fedup,, her mum has even apologized her on her behalf and warned her to stop insulting my parents

Her mum complained several times about that she knows an coping and going through alot that i should be a man and be calm and understand her

Don't listen to her mum. She will try to conjole you, but please be steadfast. Don't even think of marrying such girl, for your safety and sanity.

Pls think wise

Yinabim:
Person wey you never marry she don Dey throw stones , how sure are you she won’t throw knife one day .
I know you saw all these before you got her pregnant . Now wey belle don enter my dear take it to the Lord in prayers

I saw it ooo.
But people are always like she will change infact her mum likes me alot and she has even been d driving factor to me believing she will change

You've made mistakes in life man. Fornication and getting her pregnant is among.

But I want you to know this. The fact that you got a girl pregnant doesn't mean you MUST marry her.

Please don't be coerced into doing so. You people can pick up different lives even with the baby in the picture if you manage the situation properly

And again, the fact that a girl loves you doesn't mean she's the right woman for marriage oo. It's not only love you'll live with oo rather you'll live it with her character too.

So you need to sit and think, weigh pros and cons and decide if she's the right woman to marry.

Don't coerce yourself because she's pregnant and don't put in for marriage just because she loves you.

Characters defines the kind of a woman. And what kind of a woman she'll be will define or influence what kind of a wife she'll make.

Be wise, son!

IAmStrange:
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Oga ur imes or obatala no de cum again?

She get belle for u no mean say u must marry her, collect baby and do away with her and thank me.later

Davash222:
No be every woman wey get belle for man dem marry.
Never marry such woman!
She's carrying your child, no doubt, but please don't marry that girl out of pity.
She'll be kind, caring and loving to you from now henceforth, but, please don't fall for all these gimmicks.
If you truly value your life, don't marry that girl!

dem no know.

proclinician:

Oga ur imes or obatala no de cum again?

It's not yet time son. Be patient.
And it's Imes, not Obatala

IAmStrange:


It's not yet time son. Be patient.

And it's Imes, not Obatala

Lol You're very funny.

Enjoy ur week sir.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders i will make this as short as possible and please dont mind my punctuation as iam typing this in a rush

Iam a graduate though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend i have been dating for almlst two years now, we both love eachother but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn anger driven person that insult my parents, infact hit me sometimes and say all manner of words at me,of recent, i find out she's pregnant this February now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October,but we had plans of not doing abortion but shes so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and i have told her i will stay by her through everything i informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy,they were angry but they were like its fine sha since shes loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insult my parents at every small argument
3 shes anger driven,, yes am anger driven to an extent also but i have never use my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has slapped locked my shirt and punch me
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me though i dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to lets leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos shes pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as its toxic,, what about the unborn child.
6 Iam currently unemployed and infact am still at home not yet balance up well enough,but she has use nags to kill me,,saying all manners at me


All insults are welcomed please iam in die need of advise thank you

Do whatever you can to convince her to have an abortion then dump her!

You don't need this type of person in your life

Do NOT tolerate violence from your partner no matter what!

IAmStrange:
You've made mistakes in life man. Fornication and getting her pregnant is among.

But I want you to know this. The fact that you got a girl pregnant doesn't mean you MUST marry her.

Please don't be coerced into doing so. You people can pick up different lives even with the baby in the picture if you manage the situation properly

And again, the fact that a girl loves you doesn't mean she's the right woman for marriage oo. It's not only love you'll live with oo rather you'll live it with her character too.

So you need to sit and think, weigh pros and cons and decide if she's the right woman to marry.

Don't coerce yourself because she's pregnant and don't put in for marriage just because she loves you.

Characters defines the kind of a woman. And what kind of a woman she'll be will define or influence what kind of a wife she'll make.

Be wise, son!

Thanks Daddy ☺
She loves me though never cheated on me infact shes caring, neat, she cooks well but her only problem in life in anger and her anger can do stupid things

Shes intelligent and smart too,, i fell in love for the intelligence and not really cos shes preety cos i have dated gurls preetier than her

Shes 21 though

MarianaTrench:


Do whatever you can to convince her to have an abortion then dump her!

She's very strong on not aborting o

That gurl get choco for head Sir,, if i tell her to abort she might go about telling people later on that i told her to abort the pregnancy,, shes scared and feeling ashamed and her parents opinion on d pregnancy... I only wish she could change her anger

Davash222:
No be every woman wey get belle for man dem marry.
Never marry such woman!
She's carrying your child, no doubt, but please don't marry that girl out of pity.
She'll be kind, caring and loving to you from now henceforth, but, please don't fall for all these gimmicks.
If you truly value your life, don't marry that girl!

Say no more bro...you nailed it

Oga you've not told us what you did to that girl, nobody will just start screaming at you without been provoked. She's probably frustrated with the burden of school plus the pregnancy hormones.

We need to hear from the girl too.

Diligentnigga:


She's very strong on not aborting o

That gurl get choco for head Sir,, if i tell her to abort she might go about telling people later on that i told her to abort the pregnancy,, shes scared and feeling ashamed and her parents opinion on d pregnancy... I only wish she could changer her anger

She's scared cos she does not want the thing to end in complications which could end her life and affect her chances of having babies in the future.

You can procure quality abortion procedure but it will cost you a lot of money.

It's left for you to look for money so that you can take her to an experienced doctor who can give her a good abortion pill or do the abortion himself.

You cannot marry this lady, you must not marry this lady!

If you do just know that your life will be a living hell

How can u be with an abusive partner.
U should have just walked out on the relationship the moment she insulted ur parents, me I won't tolerate that from anyone at all.

Ardar:
Oga you've not told us what you did to that girl, nobody will just start screaming at you without been provoked.

We need to hear from the girl too.

Alright this is it,, we were having a discussion on how to break the news to her parents on the pregnancy cos we both have plans of keeping the pregnancy,her phone was with me, and during the discussion she got angry when i said if she cant bear the shame and pass through all dis when the baby bump hasnt show,,please how will she cope when we start facing tough tough issues later on and i immediately said and if she cant cope with it we cn go for abortion then and all this nags and insults will stop

Then she got angry immediately stood up and told me to give her back her phone i refused saying we need to really discuss this and she shouldn't be getting angered at everything and we shouldnt run away from this discussion as she has always been trying not to discuss the pregnancy thing

Before you know it she started shouting give me my phone and i refused infact she shouts was just too much but i refused cos i was having an important discussion with her and shes trying to walk away

Haba who does that