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MrBrownJay1:
pls, by all means, tell us all what are the responsibilities that you are talking about? better yet, why dont you tell us all what changes (in dating lovers life) the minute they get married?!

CosmicJames:
In dating, a lady can visit once in two weeks. Meaning that her guy can entertain her twice in a month.
But in marriage?

MrBrownJay1:
if you entertained a babe twice a month, why do you think that when married they should go for entertainment everyday? just because you guys are married does NOT mean you should change your dating habits (unless you have kids)... so you guys would still go on dates twice a month, and the rest of the time watch Netflix at home while curling in the sofa, et voila!

btw: if/when these guys live together, then they will now have more money for entertainment anyway...

CosmicJames:
I get your point. But I think the choice of words in my previous comment is making you talk or reason like this?
Now, consider the word; "Cater" for her twice a month. Instead of entertain her twice a month

MrBrownJay1:
thats because you wrongly assume that marrying someone automatically means having children with that person.

CAPSLOCKED:
STOP PLAYING YOURSELF. SHOW ME ONE MARRIAGE IN THIS COUNTRY WHERE THE COUPLES DELIBERATELY DON'T HAVE KIDS.

LET'S EVEN PRETEND THAT NIGERIANS DON'T HAVE RELATIVES WHO START SPRINGING UP FROM ALL ANGLES ONCE A PERSON IS MARRIED.

MrBrownJay1:
whats the difference....? whatever you did twice a month before, should also be done twice a month after marriage... unless we are talking of eating/sleeping together.

Petyprincess:
For me is 5 million nd have your house and a car shikena I'm not that demanding

MrBrownJay1:
thats because you wrongly assume that marrying someone automatically means having children with that person. there is a HUGE difference between marrying someone AND having a child with that same person.

- having a kid is a LIFELONG decision while you can separate from (and subsequently divorce) someone in just a few days.
- if you can both survive as a couple before marriage, why should anything be different after signing that piece of paper (aka if you both were happily eating garri before, then thats what you should settle with after marriage)
- whether married or single, nobody should ever dream of having children, unless they have the mean to properly care for these children (emotionally, physically and most importantly, FINANCIALLY )

Blu03:
let us be realistic tho, financial security is a very important factor. Money would influence the level of happiness in the relationship. Life is complex. That 300k wouldn't be enought to start up a family with at least three members.
The child's basic welfare, feeding, education, health care, etc. Apart from maturity, both physical and emotional, money is another solid foundation on which a decent marriage would built.

Bahddo:
how exactly do you start a family with 3 members? You'd marry two wives at once?

UyaiIncomparabl:
There's no particular amount of money that ever makes one ready. If you're in with the right person with just 300, 000 naira, marriage will be bliss. You people should stop attaching happiness to money. Money is only a means to an end.

LesbianBoy:
$100billion

UyaiIncomparabl:
There's no particular amount of money that ever makes one ready. If you're in with the right person with just 300, 000 naira, marriage will be bliss. You people should stop attaching happiness to money. Money is only a means to an end.

Blu03:
let us be realistic tho, financial security is a very important factor. Money would influence the level of happiness in the relationship. Life is complex. That 300k wouldn't be enought to start up a family with at least three members.
The child's basic welfare, feeding, education, health care, etc. Apart from maturity, both physical and emotional, money is another solid foundation on which a decent marriage would built.