Ahhhh!!!! Boss, You just spoke My mind oooooooooooooo

Originalsly:


You need to start being a man..... reading signs and making decisions. The writing is on the wall..... stop being an illiterate. From all that you wrote.... I am also sure.... you are not responsible for the pregnancy.

She's behaving like that since you have put her in the family way and you have not yet paid her bride price.

lefulefu:


u have a point ..he might not even be responsible for it..maybe the real guy responsible for it refused accepting the pregnancy hence she had no choice than to pin it on op since op is a calm gentle guy .i am even suspecting her frustration and anger comes from the fact that the main guy refused the pregnancy and she is transfering the agression to op.some girls are like that.

All you said..... most likely the case... but ... when a man is in love... this kind reasoning enters one ear and goes right out the other.

When a man loves a woman... deep down in his soul...she can bring him such misery..........If she's playing him for a fool..... He's the last one to know.....Loving eyes can never see.

If I may ask you this.
"Have you written your will?" If you have go ahead and marry ..... it is up to you!
Others before me have spoken well,I doubt if i have anything else to add to it.

All this stomach pain causing stories sha. Your girlfriend is stubborn, she is pregnant, she do insult your parents. Wetin make we come do about it. When you woo her, knacking her, who hears you. Now looking for online advises. Abeg go and settle your home yourself.


Someone should even teach me how to post on nairaland sef

seriously I laugh when I read our story, you may just be gone soon for life if you marry that girl... she's even from kogi.. go see what they do to their husbands... they pour hot oil and kill their husbands.. first let's say you are the father of that child which you have to verify... her desperation is fitchy and you have to stay away from that girl now... make her family take care of her while you provide till she delivers.. do not Marry that girl plssssssss... I had similar challenge back then but thank God for wisdom to jump it over... Are you even okay? why would you even think or welcome the idea of marriage... your son will always be yours... don't let that affect you (that's if what she carries is actually yours). If Mikel obi with all his wealth still babay daddys his Russian girlfriend, Ronaldo and all... what are you thinking?

mechanics:
She's behaving like that since you have put her in the family way and you have not yet paid her bride price.

Because it's a trap... he must avoid it ..

emperorsversion:


Because it's a trap... he must avoid it ..

hmmmm, he can't avoid it now o, it will be against him when the time comes, he should have avoided it before.

Shibaraba:
I'm done with people who come online to ask questions they know the answer to already.

My question is, how una Preeq dey strong when una broke. When I'm broke Ogbeni my Preeq no dey get life. My Preeq has the same feeling with shibaraba. I'm suspecting it has a brain sef. Once my account balance is pink if you like open the punna to my face, make your Yansh be like buffalo own, make your breasts be like oganigwe own, e no go strong.

But make account green. E dey strong even for sleep

As in when u broke, the tin go dey teh u:

mechanics:
hmmmm, he can't avoid it now o, it will be against him when the time comes, he should have avoided it before.

It can never be against him. Never. Whatever may look so is just temporary

Lol @ throwing stone at you ... For real? Are you sure she's not a psycho?.
Well.. Endure it all. Its the consequence you have to bear for fornicating. Stay away from premarital sex, no. Now you'll have to live with a toxic woman forever. And dont even try to drop her cos its olumo rock she'll throw at you this time around.

Originalsly:


You need to start being a man..... reading signs and making decisions. The writing is on the wall..... stop being an illiterate. From all that you wrote.... I am also sure.... you are not responsible for the pregnancy.

Exactly, infact maybe because he is weak, d gal. might just tie down d pregnancy on him too

GreenDee:
Exactly, infact maybe because he is weak, d gal. might just tie down d pregnancy on him too

No one is tieing any pregnancy on anyone..am 100% sure of it..

She was provoked anyways thats why she threw the stone, she only hit me once,,squeezed my shirt once before the public incidence... She wasnt like that the first 6 months of the relationship.. So i know her to an extent dont jump to any conclusion

Let me clear the air abit on people believing she has been hitting me always..

During the public incidence where she held my shirt tightly for me to give her back her phone,, i refused cos she was running away from the serious discussion we were having

I refused cos she has really been traumatized by the sad incidence of carrying a child outside wedlock it hasnt really been easy for her... Plus she only hit me once when i was trying so much to hold her down cos she loves running away from healthy discussion that infuriates her

Thanks everyone for your contribution any marriage is on hold for now between me and her and i want to give her a lot of space and time for things to sInk down in her brain that what she did in public was a very stupid act... She has never been like that for once all through the relationship

Well we can all blame a 20 soon to be 21 year old gurl by December.. But people should always weigh and ask reasons why she's doing somethings not just jumping to conclusions she has been caring and loving and infact this my parents she do insult is only to my face shes super scared of my parents and respect them when they are around


Thanks everyone for the contribution and as soon as her head is back i will be taking her to a therapist and a councillor for proper anger management control... No one is never perfect in life Iam not perfect either if you'll are pushing me to run away from her what about the next available victim to marry
She needs help!!! Not been castigated and rubbished

and not to forgrt she has pushed through alot of my bullshits also,alot i can begin to say on air


You'll should suggest ways she can be helped not castigating everyone

GreenDee:


Exactly, infact maybe because he is weak, d gal. might just tie down d pregnancy on him too

Most likely.... but afterall... he said he took her virginity so he is responsible for the pregnancy. And I know.... he will hold the same view if the baby comes out half Chinese.

Chai omo bro you are on your own if u marry that girl ehn one day you will become something else like beating her up how can do date a girl that is not submissive to you when you try to correct her i was In Your shoes for good 1 and half year I nearly died don't mind her parent they are trying to push her to you remember you will love with this kind of actitude for life.

She nearly ruined me i am self employed. She will goto my office and Nag at my staffs, hit me so many things
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The ball is in your court

DavidEsq:

It can never be against him. Never. Whatever may look so is just temporary

Do you think you can do anything with your body and go away with it without any punishment attaching to such, read your Bible well, from your name, you should know better and stop supporting evil.

Diligentnigga:
Let me clear the air abit on people believing she has been hitting me always..

During the public incidence where she held my shirt tightly for me to give her back her phone,, i refused cos she was running away from the serious discussion we were having

I refused cos she has really been traumatized by the sad incidence of carrying a child outside wedlock it hasnt really been easy for her... Plus she only hit me once when i was trying so much to hold her down cos she loves running away from healthy discussion that infuriates her

Thanks everyone for your contribution any marriage is on hold for now between me and her and i want to give her a lot of space and time for things to sInk down in her brain that what she did in public was a very stupid act... She has never been like that for once all through the relationship

Well we can all blame a 20 soon to be 21 year old gurl by December.. But people should always weigh and ask reasons why she's doing somethings not just jumping to conclusions she has been caring and loving and infact this my parents she do insult is only to my face shes super scared of my parents and respect them when they are around


Thanks everyone for the contribution and as soon as her head is back i will be taking her to a therapist and a councillor for proper anger management control... No one is never perfect in life Iam not perfect either if you'll are pushing me to run away from her what about the next available victim to marry
She needs help!!! Not been castigated and rubbished

and not to forgrt she has pushed through alot of my bullshits also,alot i can begin to say on air


You'll should suggest ways she can be helped not castigating everyone

I have been following this thread and comments, you seems not to be happy with peoples comments and opinions. Pls next time when you know that you cant withstand criticisms from people do not bring your problem to a forum.
I was in your shoe last year, i know she has anger problem too, i use to calm her down when she is angry thinking that i am the only person that can calm her down with the believe that she will change. I never knew she was pretending to me, immediately we started quarreling over the pregnancy which i never plan for.
there was a day she lucked me up for almost three(3) hours in her office raining all sort of curses and abuses on me. There was a day i went to her place so that we can discourse the way forward, i could not sleep that night until around 2am, she was crying and raining curses on me.I even asked her if your curse should come to manifestation and i die, who will be the father of the unborn child?

Bro your life is in your hands oh. it is left to you on how to go about it. A leopard does not changes its spots. (mine was very dramatic, manipulative and crafty )

You no see anything compare to wetin my eye see, i nearly commit suicide, na small remain

You found out she's pregnant abi you give am belle

Diligentnigga:
....her mum likes me alot and she has even been d driving factor to me believing she will change

I guess the mom is trying to compensate for the ills of her daughter by being good on you. She knows she has a tigress for a daughter.

@Diligentnigga
I do not advise you marry her. After having the baby, your family can take care of the baby. But don't marry her.

justnock:
That foetus might be the ONE to deliver us from insecurity and Boko Haram in future.

We have to wait as long?

Diligentnigga:


Yeah and shes very caring too she can go through hell and stress herself to make sure am fine

But bro she knows alot of ladies are into me and its keeping her on her toes.. Plus shes riding on the luck that my parents like her thereby using it to misbehave.. The anger started may last year and since then it has been getting worst...
What broke the carmels back was her stoning me out of anger,,

Maybe she needs a psychiatrist or a therapist

Ahh, stoning u ke, its too much oo.. well d decusion is in your hands our own is just to advice you, u are d one to make ur decision yourself, that anger is nt something you can live with oo.. but if u can cope with that forever, you are free to marry her, if nt end that relationship with maturity.

You said you don't want to leave because she's carrying your child. I laud your nobility in wanting to give your child stability but that lady is not stable at all. Domestic violence goes both ways and while you may not want to admit it, you are a victim right now. Hope you've heard of recent cases of wives killing their husbands out of anger. Call it what you want my brother (love or whatever) but she obviously doesn't respect you one whit. If she did she wouldn't abuse your parents and you. I'll advise you to do your best to get a job or start something because like it or not, a responsibility has arrived. You are obligated to take care of the child she's carrying but I would not advice marrying her if you want peace of mind. Try to grow a pair bro. The first time she locked your shirt should have been the last.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

.......... Wots d meaning of dis rubbish?? Infact I don taya 2 speak English, make I knack u broken bottle..... OP I no fit advice u make u lif ur galfwend cos I no know d sacrifice wey una don put in2 d relationship jus 2 make am work buh one tin I know na say even boy no fit insult ma parents go free let alone ma galfwend..... Fix ur hauz in order bro, if u know wetin I min..... I leave by d gunz so go hide ur razor blade, even ma galfwend undastand wetin I min.....

Run for your life. She threatens to kill you. One day she will fulfill her threats. Is unborn child more than your life, she can her child as baby mama since she does not want a husband

No need to advice this one, the guy will never listen, they there dey talk counsellor or therapist ,I've seen things happen with ladies who are so hot tempered,they never end well,in fact marrying such a lady is putting your life at risk, but it seems you have made up your mind to stick with her and I wonder why you brought up the issue here in he first place. No one should advice this guy again, I repeat no one should advice this guy again.. I pity for you and your family if you marry this girl. your case na sorry

Diligentnigga:
Let me clear the air abit on people believing she has been hitting me always..

During the public incidence where she held my shirt tightly for me to give her back her phone,, i refused cos she was running away from the serious discussion we were having

I refused cos she has really been traumatized by the sad incidence of carrying a child outside wedlock it hasnt really been easy for her... Plus she only hit me once when i was trying so much to hold her down cos she loves running away from healthy discussion that infuriates her

Thanks everyone for your contribution any marriage is on hold for now between me and her and i want to give her a lot of space and time for things to sInk down in her brain that what she did in public was a very stupid act... She has never been like that for once all through the relationship

Well we can all blame a 20 soon to be 21 year old gurl by December.. But people should always weigh and ask reasons why she's doing somethings not just jumping to conclusions she has been caring and loving and infact this my parents she do insult is only to my face shes super scared of my parents and respect them when they are around


Thanks everyone for the contribution and as soon as her head is back i will be taking her to a therapist and a councillor for proper anger management control... No one is never perfect in life Iam not perfect either if you'll are pushing me to run away from her what about the next available victim to marry
She needs help!!! Not been castigated and rubbished

and not to forgrt she has pushed through alot of my bullshits also,alot i can begin to say on air


You'll should suggest ways she can be helped not castigating everyone

She is probably not just unhappy about being pregnant outside marriage but also concern about how the family will cope since you are still struggling financially. Mst young girl dreams of having a stable home where she is confident of having her needs met particularly now that she is pregnant.

All the best in securing a better surce of livelihood

Resurgent2016:


She is probably not just unhappy about being pregnant outside marriage but also concern about how the family will cope since you are still struggling financially. Mst young girl dreams of having a stable home where she is confident of having her needs met particularly now that she is pregnant.

All the best in securing a better surce of livelihood

Yes thats my best guess.. She will pull through.. But that doesn't stop me from dealing with her for that public outrage, cos have chosen to stay away from her for days if not weeks

Thanls for the contribution

Shibaraba:
I'm done with people who come online to ask questions they know the answer to already.

My question is, how una Preeq dey strong when una broke. When I'm broke Ogbeni my Preeq no dey get life. My Preeq has the same feeling with shibaraba. I'm suspecting it has a brain sef. Once my account balance is pink if you like open the punna to my face, make your Yansh be like buffalo own, make your breasts be like oganigwe own, e no go strong.

But make account green. E dey strong even for sleep

Wow! I don old finish o.

mechanics:
Do you think you can do anything with your body and go away with it without any punishment attaching to such, read your Bible well, from your name, you should know better and stop supporting evil.

Quote that oart of the Bible u have read here, to support ur bullshit talk

Run

Imagine one day she’s frustrated you to the point were one day she slaps you and maybe you push her away. She falls down and breaks her head.

Would it be worth it?

DavidEsq:

Quote that oart of the Bible u have read here, to support ur bullshit talk

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (KJV) What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. Romans 14:12 (KJV) So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God. ( Hope you are okay now?