mabea:
Who told you that it incest? I'm Igbo and we marry from the same village. People should look into this tradition abolish it, it is not healthy at all.

you got to be kidding,I highly doubt that, I hope you know the difference between town and village?

ONY3KAH:
hausas marry their cousin... Sarah was related to Abraham... Its just the culture of igbos... I was once in his position, at the end of the day I thought about the consequences on our children was it really worth it.. Cutting them of their roots just for our selfish reasons... How they'll be treated by our ummunna and all, at the end of the day it wasn't worth it.. You don't know why that culture was set that way...

Just like the Hausas marry a girl of 6years and it’s their tradition, it’s an abomination in Igbo land. So it’s better to avoid these things so our Children won’t suffer what they don’t know.

Makavelli25:
Same shit happening to me. Am in love with my stepsis
We are planning to run away

Yours is a different case altogether. How can you marry your step sister? Are you seriously fine? Do you know you share one parent? Whatever you're doing with her should cease immediately because it's not healthy.

Stevecovey:


Their main problem was that they believed it when they were told dt was the cause of their problem.

if u don't believe these fetish stuff it cant hurt You. fear is the power behind it, nothing else.

The best option is to avoid them.

Marry her at your own peril

[color=#006600][/color] To put things into perspective, I will like to make a quick clarification to help us better understand the position of the OP. In the south east, After the local government, we have Towns/Communities which we mostly and quite wrongly refer to as villages.

Each town/communities are broken down into villages/hamlets. Each village/hamlet is made up of clans also known as Umunna (Descendants of same father) about 4 -5 generation back. Please also note that villages in most cases can also trace their decent to a single progenitor, likewise towns. However, each town and village also have migrants from various places that have become indigenes of the town.

Now back to the topic. Villages dont allow people who are related to get married because it is a taboo and considered incest, I think up to the 5th generation. Some towns have a tradition of cutting family ties after the 5th generation.

My point is this, when OP referred to "same village" did he mean same town, village or Clan?

Let me state here, people from same community can get married but must not be related to one another by blood. I have seen a lot. However if both parents and grand parents from both sides (paternal and maternal) are from the same community, you thread carefully so you dont get involved with anyone tied to you by blood through your forebears.

For me, I dont think I will want to get married to a blood relative or start cutting family ties. I hope this will help put things into perspective.

Mandem12:
I had to open a new account for this, pardon me for Punctuation errors. I have to go straight to the point so as not to bore you... My story goes thus

I'm a young man of 25. I met this very beautiful girl, aged 23 now, we've dated 4 years now. She's so humble, the love grew out of nowhere. She does everything a woman would do for a man and I do everything a man will do for a woman.

I found myself not doing anything without her and she cannot do anything without involving me, we actually love each other very much.

She started pestering me to have a blood oath with her because she was scared I would leave her. I laughed it off cos I knew I wouldn't cheat on her, she is everything I wanted in a woman.

Trouble started when I brought her home to meet my parents, I was actually happy that I had found my wife...

When she left, my father asked me where she was from, and I told him and my father told me I can't marry her because she was from the same village with me and thereby related by blood thereby marrying her is an abomination that she was my sister so to say and said our kinsmen would not be Involved if I insist on marrying her... I felt my world crumbling down like a pack of cards...

I told my girl and she was like, it's an old tradition and nobody will dictate to her who she would marry and she loves me and there was no going back...

As a man, I thought about it and wanted to let her go because I wouldn't want the stigma to be on us and my unborn kids... I showed her some attitude to make her hate me but she didn't, rather she would rather beg me not to leave her even when I'm at fault. I feel bad anytime I do anything to hurt her feelings...

Now, I actually want to get her pregnant and damn the consequences, do a court wedding if the need arises and relocate with her out from our state and start a new life elsewhere...

Another mind is telling me to let her go so we can move on with our lives, or even be a fugitive for her... I however know she will hurt herself if I leave her... I'm very confused about everything, I seriously need help... Why is Igbo tradition this way? I found love with this girl, now everything is about to be stripped away from me, just like that... I seriously need an advice please...

I love this girl so much and she make me happy


Please move this to front page so I can hear from others please...

Good morning, let me tell you the truth, if indeed that you are related to her via blood and you guys have been having sex: it is abomination. bear in mind that marriage is like a gum that we chew which that would not taste the same from the beginning to the end; love is not the only reason when marriage is to be contracted, Pls be a man and secure your future by thinking twice now before it will be too late.

Yujin:

This case isn't that of same kith n kin. In majority of Igboland, a community (town) is made up of aggregate villages having same ancestral origin and therefore, bear a singular name to unite them. While one may marry from another village within the same town, girls from his own village are out of bound for him. I've heard of this from a couple of my friends but doesn't exist in my own town. Everyone knows you can't marry from you kith and kin(kindred=umunna). I can marry from my village but surely not from my kindred in my village. There are other kindreds in my village. But some Igbo communities have it that you can't marry from your village as everyone is seeing as a kindred.
Now to OP, it seems your community is one of such. Since she's from your village, why not ask her to consult her family and ask them if she's permitted to marry someone she loves from the same village. I expect her to return with the same answer. If that's the case, then they may not support the marriage even if you're willing to damn all consequences leaving you with only one option- eloping. If you're bouyant enough and is willing to risk all for this, then go on with it. As far as I see it, the divergence is so long now to warrant any biological problems. As long as she's not from your umunna, you're good to go. Eventually, you'll be a reference point to open up the way for others in your town. It is our unwillingness to challenge some traditions in Africa that has held us down. We're not evolving at all. You're certainly doing nothing wrong here despite what anyone wants to say. People are just scared not to ruffle the feathers of tradition. I believe that if you have some enlightened persons in your family, they'll support you. As long as she's not from your umunna and not maternally related to you(your mother and grandmother's family) you're good to go.

OP didn't explain it very well but i'm fairy certain he meant his umunna.

in igboland you can marry from your town/village but not from your kindred.

Professorcplus:
@ Mandem12... Reading the first 2 pages get me irritated by the closed minded comment of most Nairalanders. This is 21st century and it's high time we dismiss any tradition and religious beliefs that doesn't keep us moving in circles. The pretty fact is that strong humans have break from old religion and tradition belief some of which were killing of twins, abolishing slave trade, marrying outside your tribe. Breaking from bonds of old fagot belief is the best way to help humanity.

Some folks here has phobia of quoting Bible or Quran verses that doesn't relate. You can't tell me God allow Adam & Eve and their children to practice incent or have you forgotten God allow Abram to marry his step sisters Serah yet you claim God allowed it because the population of the world was small. Where do we place your God is the same, today and forever. That just shows all stories in your Holybook don't add up and were mere inventions of the Iron Man age. More of fables. A critical thinking of the Genesis story is every human on earth practise incent because it stated from the root of Adam it just depends on the degree of incent.

@op my advise for you is this; If your wife is willing to stand by you go for check up see if you are compatible blood group and genotype. In as much as she's isn't your immediate blood sister and step sister you are fine bro. The only challenge is how well you are financially buoyant. Sometimes challenges might arise you don't never think is because of the consequences you were told would happen. It's natural. Let me give you this story of a close friend...

if you dismiss religious and traditional beliefs, you might as well dismiss scientific ones too. No need to blood group compatibility test too. Let's thread carefully, certain religious and traditional doctrines are sacrilegious and like wise science. So let's think things through before we arrive at a conclusion. We never can say, cuz we havent experienced these things ourselves.

1st of all ask yourself this questions what if this step you are about to do will have effects on your unborn children, Bro use ur head take walker o

I believe U've been having sex together? If yes, then u can go ahead and marry her. Try to dissuade your parents and relatives though. Keep trying, maybe u will be the first to break that tradition.

Hete:
you got to be kidding,I highly doubt that, I hope you know the difference between town and village?

I'm talking about village not kindred. Some villages have different families who migrated from other villages and towns so they are not necessarily related by blood.

priscaoge:


Lol! This is funny. That they are from the same village doesn’t mean they won’t marry. They are bloodily related or there’s a big reason why they won’t get married. In my own place, I can marry from my village or even my community gan gan as long as we do not have any blood relation. Coming from the same Village isn’t the only reason why they won’t marry, let the OP spill everything his father and the elders told him and you will have a different view.

There’s more to his story!

There's nothing more to the story because Im aware that this tradition exists in some parts of IMO state

Mathiasa:
U dated for 4yrs and u never asked her where she's from abi? What exactly were u guys always discoursing all this while?
Abeg I don't believe this story.

Another fake story posted to attract traffic. For four years, he never asked where she's from, it didn't come up in any discussion with his parents or relatives

Your problem

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Be a real niggarrr and Marry that girl

Imagine
"When she left, my father asked me where she was from, and I told him and my father told me I can't marry her because she was from the same village with me "

See excuse!!!

So any body when come from same village with me na my sister or brother?
All this Igbo people ehnnn

I'm sure he meant his kindred

mabea:
There's nothing more to the story because Im aware that this tradition exists in some parts of IMO state

And that’s my State so I’m aware of that tradition hence my comment.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

Neroiam:


Tell me.. Who were the inhabitants of Nod since God only created Adam and Eve?

Is like na you create them na.. Go and read jor! Study to show yourself approved

Don't be coming here to tell me to read Gen 1-10 that i have been reading since 3decades now and no much facts as regards this subject matter.

Let me say much but illustrate the life of Cain summarily.

Cain killed his brother Abel.
Cain was chased out of the garden of Eden.

The charge God gave to anyone who will kill Cain answers ur question. Genesis 4:15.
And the Lord said to him, “Therefore, whoever kills Cain, vengeance shall be taken on him sevenfold.” And the Lord set a mark on Cain, lest anyone finding him should kill him.
This means there were people who could have killed Cain after being chased out. The same happened to his great great grandson Lamech who also killed someone too. Please read Bible and just get ur knowledge opened not because u want to challenge ur pastor, but because u need not to be confused either.
Thanks
The Family of Cain
Genesis 4"16-18.
16 Then Cain went out from the presence of the Lord and dwelt in the land of Nod on the east of Eden. 17 And Cain knew his wife, and she conceived and bore Enoch. And he built a city, and called the name of the city after the name of his son—Enoch. 18 To Enoch was born Irad; and Irad begot Mehujael, and Mehujael begot Methushael, and Methushael begot Lamech.

priscaoge:


And that’s my State so I’m aware of that tradition hence my comment.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

You too

nnaeyes6:


Let me say much but illustrate the life of Cain summarily.

Cain killed his brother Abel.
Cain was chased out of the garden of Eden.

The charge God gave to anyone who will kill Cain answers ur question. Genesis 4:15.
And the Lord said to him, “Therefore, whoever kills Cain, vengeance shall be taken on him sevenfold.” And the Lord set a mark on Cain, lest anyone finding him should kill him.
This means there were people who could have killed Cain after being chased out. The same happened to his great great grandson Lamech who also killed someone too. Please read Bible and just get ur knowledge opened not because u want to challenge ur pastor, but because u need not to be confused either.
Thanks
The Family of Cain
Genesis 4"16-18.
16 Then Cain went out from the presence of the Lord and dwelt in the land of Nod on the east of Eden. 17 And Cain knew his wife, and she conceived and bore Enoch. And he built a city, and called the name of the city after the name of his son—Enoch. 18 To Enoch was born Irad; and Irad begot Mehujael, and Mehujael begot Methushael, and Methushael begot Lamech.

Was Adam and Eve the only people God created?
If yes?
Who were the inhabitants of Nod.
If No?
Who created them?

The gods laugh whenever we complicate our lives, little candle lights like us, shinning today and gone by Moro. Can't we see that this life is too short to worry about regrets or live for others.

There are no rules in life, do what thou whilst is all of the law.

Do what you must, do what makes your soul happy.. Las Las you'd live and go like the rest of them. Why live in regrets of the road not travelled, enter the road ,make thy own mistakes and enjoy the little.life we have. It's yours bro and there are no rules. Seeking advice here won't even help you, everyone has their own opinion, you'd only get worse than you came. If you're seeking for validation, you won't find them here, do you thing bro, you offended no one by falling in love, if you comfortable then do it..Fvk de rest of em

Since your parents said that she is your sister please don't continue with the relationship for your own good in the future, you can call me on 07035818210 so we can talk how you should go about it.

Neroiam:


Was Adam and Eve the only people God created?
If yes?
Who were the inhabitants of Nod.
If No?
Who created them?

God created male and female in Genesis: 1:27
27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

God created man outside of garden of Eden and TOOK MAN: Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.

Adam was special because he was to take care of the garden of Eden where trees of knowledge and life were planted. Now after only him was taken inside the garden, God saw he was to have a helper which he didnt pick from outside be tired be made out of Adam's rib. Bible is a mystery. Countries like Ethiopia was at the beginning and rivers linking to Eden's garden were mentioned.

Adam was a special case for the following reasonsaccording to me o and not God or Bible scholars. And don't say am interpreting the bible by my knowledge because Saint Paul would say"I say and not the spirit)

1:To name things created
2: To establish marriage
3: To show of the picture of paradise prototype
4: To account to us the fall of man and how woman contributed to the fall.
5: To declare the fall of man and the rise of man through Christ. Note: Jesus was also declared in the Genesis, where God declared to the serpent that the SEED OF THIS WOMAN WILL BRUISE U.

Mandem12:
He said people from the same village don't marry each other because they're related somehow

If it's by that, everyone in this world is related. We share a common ancestor. If someone is within your extended family (3 generations downward), marriage should be discouraged. But outside that, it is not incest anymore.

Mandem12:
I don't know about that. Just that they said we're siblings since we're from the same village.

Siblings means you share the same parents. You're not siblings because you're from the same village.

Ausrichie:
Horseshit abeg even in my village dem go dey beg you make you marry from your village bros go and do a history check if she's your fifth generational cousin Or better still you are not related marry am ni even one of the royal bloods of England married his fourth or was it fifth gen cousin no mind all these local nairaland people wey manage find phone. They should start evaluating the people they give sim card.

Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip are related

nnaeyes6:



God created male and female in Genesis: 1:27
27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

God created man outside of garden of Eden and TOOK MAN: Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.

Adam was special because he was to take care of the garden of Eden where trees of knowledge and life were planted. Now after only him was taken inside the garden, God saw he was to have a helper which he didnt pick from outside be tired be made out of Adam's rib. Bible is a mystery. Countries like Ethiopia was at the beginning and rivers linking to Eden's garden were mentioned.

Adam was a special case for the following reasonsaccording to me o and not God or Bible scholars. And don't say am interpreting the bible by my knowledge because Saint Paul would say"I say and not the spirit)

1:To name things created
2: To establish marriage
3: To show of the picture of paradise prototype
4: To account to us the fall of man and how woman contributed to the fall.
5: To declare the fall of man and the rise of man through Christ. Note: Jesus was also declared in the Genesis, where God declared to the serpent that the SEED OF THIS WOMAN WILL BRUISE U.

FYI.. Nod' (נוד) is the Hebrew root of the verb 'to wander' (לנדוד). The implication is that Cain, being in disgrace, was sent to wander aimlessly.
He wandered east of Eden.

Attend Bible school and learn how to read the bible.. No b ordinary storybook...

From your own deductions, one can say you mean God created other men and women.
Why didn't He take a woman alongside and had to create Eve from Adam if male and female he created them all as you mean it.

Romans 5:12
Therefore, just as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men, because all sinned.

The above verse refers to the Adamic sin.. Psalms 51:5 - Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.

Job 15:14-16 - What [is] man, that he should be clean? and [he which is] born of a woman, that he should be righteous?

1cor 15:45 ..So it is written: "The first man Adam became a living being"; the last Adam, a life-giving spirit.

The last Adam is Jesus Christ, saviour of mankind and He descended from Adam.

The rest men and women you say God created, it means their offsprings are not guilty of the adamic sin na.. It means the bible is wrong saying " For all have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God''

Mandem12:
I had to open a new account for this, pardon me for Punctuation errors. I have to go straight to the point so as not to bore you... My story goes thus

I'm a young man of 25. I met this very beautiful girl, aged 23 now, we've dated 4 years now. She's so humble, the love grew out of nowhere. She does everything a woman would do for a man and I do everything a man will do for a woman.

I found myself not doing anything without her and she cannot do anything without involving me, we actually love each other very much.

She started pestering me to have a blood oath with her because she was scared I would leave her. I laughed it off cos I knew I wouldn't cheat on her, she is everything I wanted in a woman.

Trouble started when I brought her home to meet my parents, I was actually happy that I had found my wife...

When she left, my father asked me where she was from, and I told him and my father told me I can't marry her because she was from the same village with me and thereby related by blood thereby marrying her is an abomination that she was my sister so to say and said our kinsmen would not be Involved if I insist on marrying her... I felt my world crumbling down like a pack of cards...

I told my girl and she was like, it's an old tradition and nobody will dictate to her who she would marry and she loves me and there was no going back...

As a man, I thought about it and wanted to let her go because I wouldn't want the stigma to be on us and my unborn kids... I showed her some attitude to make her hate me but she didn't, rather she would rather beg me not to leave her even when I'm at fault. I feel bad anytime I do anything to hurt her feelings...

Now, I actually want to get her pregnant and damn the consequences, do a court wedding if the need arises and relocate with her out from our state and start a new life elsewhere...

Another mind is telling me to let her go so we can move on with our lives, or even be a fugitive for her... I however know she will hurt herself if I leave her... I'm very confused about everything, I seriously need help... Why is Igbo tradition this way? I found love with this girl, now everything is about to be stripped away from me, just like that... I seriously need an advice please...

I love this girl so much and she make me happy


Please move this to front page so I can hear from others please...

My take.
You are being manipulated!

She doesn't love you.

From your own words let me tell you why.

Have you ever heard the phrase if you love someone, you set them free, if they are yours they will come back, if not they won't come back.

Clingy girls have psychological issues. Why would a lady demand a blood oat? She wants to tie you down.

Don't be in a haste, slow down for at least a year and observe her again, you will be surprised at her change of attitude.

Get smart!

She won't die if you leave her! Its all part of the manipulation. She was very much alive before you guys met and she will still be alive when you guys go your separate ways!

Run from girls that are too clingy. They are very manipulative.

Funaki:

If it's by that, everyone in this world is related. We share a common ancestor. If someone is within your extended family (3 generations downward), marriage should be discouraged. But outside that, it is not incest anymore.

Check this

nnaeyes6:



God created male and female in Genesis: 1:27
27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

God created man outside of garden of Eden and TOOK MAN: Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.

Adam was special because he was to take care of the garden of Eden where trees of knowledge and life were planted. Now after only him was taken inside the garden, God saw he was to have a helper which he didnt pick from outside be tired be made out of Adam's rib. Bible is a mystery. Countries like Ethiopia was at the beginning and rivers linking to Eden's garden were mentioned.

Adam was a special case for the following reasonsaccording to me o and not God or Bible scholars. And don't say am interpreting the bible by my knowledge because Saint Paul would say"I say and not the spirit)

1:To name things created
2: To establish marriage
3: To show of the picture of paradise prototype
4: To account to us the fall of man and how woman contributed to the fall.
5: To declare the fall of man and the rise of man through Christ. Note: Jesus was also declared in the Genesis, where God declared to the serpent that the SEED OF THIS WOMAN WILL BRUISE U.

This guy thinks differently. He insinuates God created other men and women.. So you might be from them.. It means we all don't share a common ancestor..

Neroiam:


Check this



This guy thinks differently. He insinuates God created other men and women.. So you might be from them.. It means we all don't share a common ancestor..

That guy is saying rubbish

Auto200:
Hehehe. My guy! !! I hail! Make I no waste time explaining things to you. Please you can go and marry as same

Do you know why Saudi Arabia and UAE has the highest rate of slowpoke?? They marry each other to help maintain the flow of wealth . I’m telling to first hand cos I’m a teacher here in one of the mental schools

But 19th century Britons married their relatives ( as close as first cousins). Queen Elizabeth and her husband are even second cousins. Why are their children not slowpokes today?