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Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Hete: 8:36am On Feb 22, 2020 |
mabea:you got to be kidding,I highly doubt that, I hope you know the difference between town and village? |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Professorcplus(m): 8:36am On Feb 22, 2020 |
@ Mandem12... Reading the first 2 pages get me irritated by the closed minded comment of most Nairalanders. This is 21st century and it's high time we dismiss any tradition and religious beliefs that keeps us moving in circles. The pretty fact is that strong humans have break from old religion and tradition belief some of which were killing of twins, abolishing slave trade, marrying outside your tribe, stopping female mutation and more. Breaking from bonds of old fagot belief is the best way to help humanity. If not you will just tossed according to their wishes. Some folks here has phobia of quoting Bible or Quran verses quicker and most doesn't relate. You can't tell me God allow Adam & Eve and their children to practice incent and that God allow Abram to marry his step sisters Serah yet you claim God allowed it because the population of the world was small but He disliked it now. Where do we place your God is the same, today and forever. That just shows all stories in your Holybook don't add up and were mere inventions of the Iron age men that have no clue of the world they lived in creating stories more of fables. A critical thinking of the Genesis story shows every human on earth practise incent because it stated from the root of Adam it just depends on the degree of incent they indulged in. @op my advise for you is this; If your wife is willing to stand by you go for check up see if you are compatible blood group and genotype. In as much as she's isn't your immediate blood sister and step sister you are fine bro. The only challenge is how well you are financially buoyant. Sometimes challenges might arise so, don't never think is because of the consequences you were told would happen. It's natural. Make the right decision now and break free from cultural and mental slavery. Let me give you this story of a close friend... As at 10 years old her parent were informed from village that they have to bring her for rituals and her hair will be cut off. Her father has taken the challenges not to yield to their tradition but the mother insist for fear of consequences. The village people threaten her parent with death which makes the mother scared not to lose her daughter but the father stood his ground. Few month then she fell sick and every suspicious points to the threat of the village people. Village people still persist they must bring her for ritual as its their tradition. But with good medical care she became healthy and continue schooling with us. More than 10 years now she wasn't taken for any ritual and she's alive. Her immediate sister never go for any ritual and they are living fine. So speak to your parent to rewire their thoughts and educate them on some traditional heritage that isn't necessary because if you didn't break it another will. #Thinkwise Mandem12 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by priscaoge(f): 8:37am On Feb 22, 2020 |
ONY3KAH: Just like the Hausas marry a girl of 6years and it’s their tradition, it’s an abomination in Igbo land. So it’s better to avoid these things so our Children won’t suffer what they don’t know. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Yujin(m): 8:39am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Makavelli25:Yours is a different case altogether. How can you marry your step sister? Are you seriously fine? Do you know you share one parent? Whatever you're doing with her should cease immediately because it's not healthy. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by priscaoge(f): 8:40am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Stevecovey: The best option is to avoid them. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Liposure: 8:45am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Marry her at your own peril |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Metrodepot: 8:45am On Feb 22, 2020 |
[color=#006600][/color] To put things into perspective, I will like to make a quick clarification to help us better understand the position of the OP. In the south east, After the local government, we have Towns/Communities which we mostly and quite wrongly refer to as villages. Each town/communities are broken down into villages/hamlets. Each village/hamlet is made up of clans also known as Umunna (Descendants of same father) about 4 -5 generation back. Please also note that villages in most cases can also trace their decent to a single progenitor, likewise towns. However, each town and village also have migrants from various places that have become indigenes of the town. Now back to the topic. Villages dont allow people who are related to get married because it is a taboo and considered incest, I think up to the 5th generation. Some towns have a tradition of cutting family ties after the 5th generation. My point is this, when OP referred to "same village" did he mean same town, village or Clan? Let me state here, people from same community can get married but must not be related to one another by blood. I have seen a lot. However if both parents and grand parents from both sides (paternal and maternal) are from the same community, you thread carefully so you dont get involved with anyone tied to you by blood through your forebears. For me, I dont think I will want to get married to a blood relative or start cutting family ties. I hope this will help put things into perspective. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Maobichek: 8:46am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mandem12:Good morning, let me tell you the truth, if indeed that you are related to her via blood and you guys have been having sex: it is abomination. bear in mind that marriage is like a gum that we chew which that would not taste the same from the beginning to the end; love is not the only reason when marriage is to be contracted, Pls be a man and secure your future by thinking twice now before it will be too late. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Bratking(m): 8:46am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Yujin: OP didn't explain it very well but i'm fairy certain he meant his umunna. in igboland you can marry from your town/village but not from your kindred. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Metrodepot: 8:52am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Professorcplus:if you dismiss religious and traditional beliefs, you might as well dismiss scientific ones too. No need to blood group compatibility test too. Let's thread carefully, certain religious and traditional doctrines are sacrilegious and like wise science. So let's think things through before we arrive at a conclusion. We never can say, cuz we havent experienced these things ourselves. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by dongozzy(m): 8:54am On Feb 22, 2020 |
1st of all ask yourself this questions what if this step you are about to do will have effects on your unborn children, Bro use ur head take walker o |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Allwell96: 8:54am On Feb 22, 2020 |
I believe U've been having sex together? If yes, then u can go ahead and marry her. Try to dissuade your parents and relatives though. Keep trying, maybe u will be the first to break that tradition. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by mabea: 9:02am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Hete:I'm talking about village not kindred. Some villages have different families who migrated from other villages and towns so they are not necessarily related by blood. 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by mabea: 9:06am On Feb 22, 2020 |
priscaoge:There's nothing more to the story because Im aware that this tradition exists in some parts of IMO state 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Mizwisdom(f): 9:06am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mathiasa: Another fake story posted to attract traffic. For four years, he never asked where she's from, it didn't come up in any discussion with his parents or relatives 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Emmagggg: 9:21am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Your problem |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Holymann(m): 9:22am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Slawormir:I'm sure he meant his kindred |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by priscaoge(f): 9:29am On Feb 22, 2020 |
mabea: And that’s my State so I’m aware of that tradition hence my comment. Enjoy the rest of your weekend. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by nnaeyes6: 9:32am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam: Let me say much but illustrate the life of Cain summarily. Cain killed his brother Abel. Cain was chased out of the garden of Eden. The charge God gave to anyone who will kill Cain answers ur question. Genesis 4:15. And the Lord said to him, “Therefore, whoever kills Cain, vengeance shall be taken on him sevenfold.” And the Lord set a mark on Cain, lest anyone finding him should kill him. This means there were people who could have killed Cain after being chased out. The same happened to his great great grandson Lamech who also killed someone too. Please read Bible and just get ur knowledge opened not because u want to challenge ur pastor, but because u need not to be confused either. Thanks The Family of Cain Genesis 4"16-18. 16 Then Cain went out from the presence of the Lord and dwelt in the land of Nod on the east of Eden. 17 And Cain knew his wife, and she conceived and bore Enoch. And he built a city, and called the name of the city after the name of his son—Enoch. 18 To Enoch was born Irad; and Irad begot Mehujael, and Mehujael begot Methushael, and Methushael begot Lamech. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by mabea: 9:32am On Feb 22, 2020 |
priscaoge:You too |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 9:36am On Feb 22, 2020 |
nnaeyes6: Was Adam and Eve the only people God created? If yes? Who were the inhabitants of Nod. If No? Who created them? |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Ofadaman(m): 9:42am On Feb 22, 2020 |
The gods laugh whenever we complicate our lives, little candle lights like us, shinning today and gone by Moro. Can't we see that this life is too short to worry about regrets or live for others. There are no rules in life, do what thou whilst is all of the law. Do what you must, do what makes your soul happy.. Las Las you'd live and go like the rest of them. Why live in regrets of the road not travelled, enter the road ,make thy own mistakes and enjoy the little.life we have. It's yours bro and there are no rules. Seeking advice here won't even help you, everyone has their own opinion, you'd only get worse than you came. If you're seeking for validation, you won't find them here, do you thing bro, you offended no one by falling in love, if you comfortable then do it..Fvk de rest of em 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by valinno(m): 9:55am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Since your parents said that she is your sister please don't continue with the relationship for your own good in the future, you can call me on 07035818210 so we can talk how you should go about it. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by nnaeyes6: 9:58am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam: God created male and female in Genesis: 1:27 27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God created man outside of garden of Eden and TOOK MAN: Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it. Adam was special because he was to take care of the garden of Eden where trees of knowledge and life were planted. Now after only him was taken inside the garden, God saw he was to have a helper which he didnt pick from outside be tired be made out of Adam's rib. Bible is a mystery. Countries like Ethiopia was at the beginning and rivers linking to Eden's garden were mentioned. Adam was a special case for the following reasonsaccording to me o and not God or Bible scholars. And don't say am interpreting the bible by my knowledge because Saint Paul would say"I say and not the spirit) 1:To name things created 2: To establish marriage 3: To show of the picture of paradise prototype 4: To account to us the fall of man and how woman contributed to the fall. 5: To declare the fall of man and the rise of man through Christ. Note: Jesus was also declared in the Genesis, where God declared to the serpent that the SEED OF THIS WOMAN WILL BRUISE U. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Funaki: 10:05am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mandem12:If it's by that, everyone in this world is related. We share a common ancestor. If someone is within your extended family (3 generations downward), marriage should be discouraged. But outside that, it is not incest anymore. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Funaki: 10:11am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mandem12:Siblings means you share the same parents. You're not siblings because you're from the same village. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Funaki: 10:16am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Ausrichie:Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip are related |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 10:27am On Feb 22, 2020 |
nnaeyes6: FYI.. Nod' (נוד) is the Hebrew root of the verb 'to wander' (לנדוד). The implication is that Cain, being in disgrace, was sent to wander aimlessly. He wandered east of Eden. Attend Bible school and learn how to read the bible.. No b ordinary storybook... From your own deductions, one can say you mean God created other men and women. Why didn't He take a woman alongside and had to create Eve from Adam if male and female he created them all as you mean it. Romans 5:12 Therefore, just as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men, because all sinned. The above verse refers to the Adamic sin.. Psalms 51:5 - Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me. Job 15:14-16 - What [is] man, that he should be clean? and [he which is] born of a woman, that he should be righteous? 1cor 15:45 ..So it is written: "The first man Adam became a living being"; the last Adam, a life-giving spirit. The last Adam is Jesus Christ, saviour of mankind and He descended from Adam. The rest men and women you say God created, it means their offsprings are not guilty of the adamic sin na.. It means the bible is wrong saying " For all have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God'' |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by dinachi(m): 10:27am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mandem12:My take. You are being manipulated! She doesn't love you. From your own words let me tell you why. Have you ever heard the phrase if you love someone, you set them free, if they are yours they will come back, if not they won't come back. Clingy girls have psychological issues. Why would a lady demand a blood oat? She wants to tie you down. Don't be in a haste, slow down for at least a year and observe her again, you will be surprised at her change of attitude. Get smart! She won't die if you leave her! Its all part of the manipulation. She was very much alive before you guys met and she will still be alive when you guys go your separate ways! Run from girls that are too clingy. They are very manipulative. 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 10:31am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Funaki: Check this nnaeyes6: This guy thinks differently. He insinuates God created other men and women.. So you might be from them.. It means we all don't share a common ancestor.. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Funaki: 10:32am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam: That guy is saying rubbish |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Funaki: 10:37am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Auto200: But 19th century Britons married their relatives ( as close as first cousins). Queen Elizabeth and her husband are even second cousins. Why are their children not slowpokes today? 2 Likes |
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