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Damnnnnn niggarrr
This days ehnn
People complain too much

No marriage is perfect

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

k

Marriage is a scam. I have been "happily" married for 9 years now, so I should know what I am saying

Truth be told some men are useless

You should have trusted your gut instinct.
That man will only get worse. I hope he doesn't dash you one nasty STD.

ahnie:
Lets wait for the elders to arrive.

Even the elders are not free from the storms of marriage.

Let's look up to God.

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

You're not alone. We PLENTY!

even though your husband doesn't have class, I must say you worry a lot, if you're working in cbn and nnpc you won't have for all this FBI work. like I said your husband doesn't have class In the sense that he got married to a Lady that doesn't have the physical attributes he want In a lady


this marriage of a thing is not a joke or emotionally restricted things. this is why I laughed at the ignorance of some churches rules on marriage, in their myopic rules they rule out taste and physical attributes in counselling and sensitizing couples to be


I love big yansh and I will never go on marriage with any lady that don't have it, this is class. to avoid extra marital affairs guys/men you should end up with a lady that had the physical attributes you want in a lady because extra marital affairs endangered men but some ignorant men see it as fun

Op, talk to someone he respect a lot about it, I hope he change. ladies should learn to studied what their guys loves most in a lady's outlook, if you don't have it and you're the jealous type abeg no go deep in the relationship

When are u getting married, your MATES are getting married.

Dont rush to marriage if you ain't ready, dont let anyone pressurise u to marry
.

See people talking of divorce like tissue paper

Una too dey complain jo. No marriage is perfect, manage the guy's problem or get out.

All na audio,man wey wan test fresh yansh outside go still do am.Make you check am nah,you fit eat beans three times a day for one whole year without getting tayad?

Mandelus:
Never believe you did wrong by reading your hubby chat... Both of you are one and there is no 2 .
Secondly don't mind this quote up here.
Thirdly all the things you desire him to do for you do it for him with time he will reciprocate it...
Fix a date with him
Cook his favorite.
Play with him... Ask him to please you if not he will not get his phone do it laughing.
Tell him you miss him if he is outside late (call or text).
Tell him you missed those moments you cherished while you where dating.
Secondly dress nice, mannered not like a LovePeddler but in modesty..
Kia he will see you as a mother if you will treat him as your grown up son.
Never take advice from a divorcees or widow ...

Had it been he his still calling you sweet names and also telling you sweet things(lies) you won't bother to check his phone


Go to your elders to seek for advise,you're not welcome here

Know your responsibility as his wife and carry it out. Other things he does are not your business but God's. Hand Him your matters and go to bed, otherwise you will die of unnecessary worrying.

Blind am na

Your husband really need deliverance .The most important thing in marriage is love , unfortunately your husband does not love you.
Finding another husband will be a Herculean task in Nigeria because you will be tagged a no go area.

Unless poorly presented, I do not see any major issues here. Ok so you turned sleuth and searched his phone and found small dirt. And you are thinking of divorce

You noticed he winks at your friends and thinks its over

Well men are visual. Always have been

Calm down. The grass is not greener at the other side. Show your husband love, respect and care. Women carry face for supposed wrongs done to them. Talks snobbishly to their man and expects him to act like Jesus christ. Naaa

Make him realise what he is doing is hurting you. If he is sensible he would take corrections. A few years down you would laugh over this

Peace

look name for free

Lol
I don't know why i keep laughing at this story.

seems ur husband loves big breasted women.this is what happens when a man who pretends that he has no spec in the physical features of a woman and says only character is the main important thing to him goes around marrying a lady that doesnt meet his spec .he would be looking and peeping at other ladies .if u are a guy who loves ladies with heavy behinds or big breast then marry one.stop decieving urself saying its only character that is important to u then when u marry a fugly flat chested woman u will be embarrasing urself by peeping at any big breasted lady that walks ur way.or those men who marry flat yanshed ladies and they will be looking backwards at ladies with curvy behinds walking past them .lots of men like that .

Look at men and wink at his friends too...


Case closed
Too many relationship/Marital problems on FP lately.... Habaa, to marry na by force?

womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

I know it is hard but for the sake of your sanity and emotions, please leave that guy.

My dear sister, I truly understand your pain. Marrying someone who thinks you're not enough for them is a very big heart wrecking experience. Initiate communication and if it didn't work out. Involve his relatives. If it didn't work out, then do whatever your mind is telling you to do.

Marriage without mutual respect always ends in shambles.

Next time slap him straight

Marriage is commitment from the 2 parties involved: once a child is in between, you've got to do everything to make it work because the child needs the both parents together!
He's not being violent. Your reaction to his supposed actions matters a lot.
Telling your brother and father about your issues doesn't show maturity and your husband can drift further from you because of that.

Na your kaya o, after all when him dey chop your kpekus, e dey sweet you and you no come tell us.

Summarily, marriage takes commitment from the parties and whatever you're to do, ALWAYS think of the effect on your child.

Originalsly:
In his eyes.... you are history. You went digging... how can you say you didn't expect to find dirt?... weren't you digging expecting to find something? Then you transformed to a digger... digging at every opportunity... and overreacting to your findings... no matter how small or innocent. Don't you think you were putting a strain on the relationship?...on the marriage? Some men can't stand drama and you are very dramatic... a drama queen. That's not what he bargained for... so basically... he's out. You seem to be the type who do not consider advice... but do things the way you see fit. Such people learn the hard way. Blame yourself for marrying someone because you were in love with him only. Younspilt the milk.... why be crying? My advice... get a mirror...look into it.

Nice one from you. U get sense

Another new akkant. We will sooon start purging from all these marital palaver tori


Franchasng

You re the problem of that marriage! You entered in with unrealistic expectations, all relationships are not perfect,( 2)you are too judgmental and you re full of drama! Calm down and be his chic,his friend and not his judge or detective! Be warned

womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

lol



But I hope if you divorce him, you won't marry another hegoat, sorry man .....cos all men are unfortunately hegoat until they prove otherwise


The next man you maybe planning to marry may be the worst lol, but if you are planning to divorce him so that you can be single for life and focus on other issues of life, then you can go ahead if that will give you peace of mind.


But don't you ever make the mistake of divorcing one man because of infidelity to marry another man who promises that he is different because no man is different when it comes to issues of the oza room

You need something doing.
A job or anything that can keep you busy.

When you start to ignore so many things, you will become happier and less interested in whatever he does.

Op, you don't have any problem. You are creating issues to hurt yourself. I believe your friends are misleading You, by the time you divorce your husband your eyes go clear.
Those who told you they 're married to Jesus, visit them or ask their neighbours, u 'll see that you are married to God. No perfect home, allow peace reign in your home