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Offpoint:
Your husband is a public díck, he's got passion for boobs and big nyanshes, you've approached him to addressed the issue but his dîck is "bizy body"....

My piece of advice, don't wait until he comes home and give you free STD...
And don't think of leaving him for now, look for your ex or find a new man who can chat dirty and send you his dîck pictures (Don't send yours, you can sort)

Intentionally leave your phone for your husband go through, if he saw it... His reaction should let you know your next steps.
Let him feel what you've what been feeling too. If he wants divorce, divorce him... Bible support divorce if adultery is involved.

If he lays hands on you, drug him and chop his dîck off....


Thank you

lol.. OP if you like listen to this. na you Sabi.

do this to some men and all hell will break lose or worse, you'd be going back to your father's house. shikenan

Madam, u nor get case. I beg nor divorce o. U have no issue. In 20 years time , this man will be all yours

Really? I want to ask you a question, are you married? If yes, did your husband married you as a virgin? If no,then bleeping pssy wey different dicks don dick Taya will never make me live long or make me rich.As a rich dude,the only sweet thing about marriage is testing different fresh yanshes.i can't come and kill myself for a scam called marriage.

EJanni:
if you were told that eating beans till the end of your life would make you live longer and have all the money in the world, won't you eat it?
Continue deceiving yourself.

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Offpoint:
Your husband is a public díck, he's got passion for boobs and big nyanshes, you've approached him to addressed the issue but his dîck is "bizy body"....

My piece of advice, don't wait until he comes home and give you free STD...
And don't think of leaving him for now, look for your ex or find a new man who can chat dirty and send you his dîck pictures (Don't send yours, you can sort)

Intentionally leave your phone for your husband go through, if he saw it... His reaction should let you know your next steps.
Let him feel what you've what been feeling too. If he wants divorce, divorce him... Bible support divorce if adultery is involved.

If he lays hands on you, drug him and chop his dîck off....


Thank you...

By the way, who says Messi is not a Goat?

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This is really off point

ahnie:
Why're you scared of marriage?

Ahnie check your mail or mail me through the email on my profile

oya sorry

Let me hear his own side of the story, b4 I can give you my own advice. You can't judge by hearing from one party.

womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

We always know when there are issues with our potential partners, sm can be ignored cos it's nothing serious and sm are red flags indeed. Also when people draw ur attention to it know it's confirmation of a red flag. U took the easy road to settle rather than address major concerns, now we are here.

From what u saw on his fone I don't see a major concern cos almost all guys have such and also flirt when dating bt sensible ones know their boundries and don't pretend only to change and become smtn worse. So My concern is not the pix or flirting bt the seeming pretence to love u and later change. Tho I hope this isn't all in ur mind.

Also why did u say people thought he was marrying u for other reasons than a genuine one? I need clarification on what these other reasons cud be and why u didn't dig deeper to findout if those suspicions are real.

Also are u a boring house wife or person? Cos he might just be bored. Sm men flirt when they are bored and sm do it cos they are natural cheats.

Aunty check yourself
Maybe your legs and other part of your bori looks like...

[quote author=womanscorned post=86865653]Truth is, nothing is wrong with your marriage. I say this in the sense of the ever present friction in every human relationship and the fact that most men (including your holy brothers) usually enjoy the excitement of the hunt and tend to loose interest at the end of it. Trust me, if he didn't think you were worth it, he wouldn't have married you. So listen...

1. True! You have to guide you marriage jealously but you mustn't imprison the man. He is the same man he was before you married him. Don't expect that marriage will bestow an automatic change on him. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with a married man checking out a woman as long as it doesn't go beyond that.

If you imprison a man, another hunt begins. Now take a retrospective look at all your defences he broke down to get to you. I'm not sure you want to know what the result of this will be.

2. Divorce is a very serious thing, you must know that. Plan A doesn't work very well most times cos people dedicate time thinking of plan B. Where you are at right now, you must not ever mention 'divorce' again.

3. Nobody here can advice you on how to get back your man. Most opinions you'll get here are from kids who may not even be in any relationship. Every relationship is different and so is the technique to bring it back on track when it details. Find your own technique to do the following;

*Better than love, seek understanding
*Communicate communicate communicate (do not nag be logical and make your points)
*Make excuses for the other (benefit of doubt)
*Be patient
*Be peaceful
*Recharge your marriage (you too can take him out - research his interests and be ready to make valuable conversation)

At the end, You'll set a standard so high that he'll dread disappointing you.

Disclaimer: it's not easy oh and it takes time and dedication.

Have fantastic life.

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

Tule tule

franchasng:
see let me be blunt with you, this issue of men admiring other ladies seems to be a curse on all men honestly lol


I was thinking some men are different until I caught my elderly cousin I do look up to as chaste admiring a sexy lady, I weak


I am married, without mincing words, my wife can pass as one of the sexiest, hottest, classiest ladies in Nigeria with all the assets men dream of and just as I so desire but it has not stopped me from admiring some other ladies who are not even as fine as my wife

And she has caught me like many times even while courting and as a wonderful Lady she is, she will hit me and jokingly scold me that you and bombom, cos she know I love ladies with good shape

But u won't believe that I have never had the gut to cheat on her despite admiring some well shaped ladies once in a while.

To tell you how pretty my wife is, we have gone to malls severally and other ladies will playfully ask her for a snap even though she is not a celeb, and coupled with her skin complexion u would think she is a white.

So it has nothing to do with the look of a mans wife or partner, its just a curse on men that need God's grace to overcome

it doesn't apply to only men you know? What would you do if you catch your wife admiring other men?
See my brother, why there are too much problems today on earth is due to lack of EMPATHY. Wrong is wrong. No gender has the sole right of doing wrong.

Again from the op's narrative, don't you think the man is cheating? It's clearly obvious.

Haba why are talking like that? I know checking your spouses phone leads to a lot of danger but what if he is sleeping with those ladies outside and he gets in contact with STDs or HIV?

TechCapon:
You're the cause of your problems. Why are you always checking his phone? Leave his phone alone biko

Lol. Funny woman.

Meanwhile, Pete Edochie throws more light on the viral video where he advised men never to kneel down when proposing to a woman.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf9l2Zpc2zA

[quote author=Kemight15 post=86865891]This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late


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Sweeetheart:



even though your husband doesn't have class, I must say you worry a lot, if you're working in cbn and nnpc you won't have for all this FBI work. like I said your husband doesn't have class In the sense that he got married to a Lady that doesn't have the physical attributes he want In a lady


this marriage of a thing is not a joke or emotionally restricted things. this is why I laughed at the ignorance of some churches rules on marriage, in their myopic rules they rule out taste and physical attributes in counselling and sensitizing couples to be


I love big yansh and I will never go on marriage with any lady that don't have it, this is class. to avoid extra marital affairs guys/men you should end up with a lady that had the physical attributes you want in a lady because extra marital affairs endangered men but some ignorant men see it as fun

Op, talk to someone he respect a lot about it, I hope he change. ladies should learn to studied what their guys loves most in a lady's outlook, if you don't have it and you're the jealous type abeg no go deep in the relationship

the bolded is spot-on!!
unlike women who wants all good qualities of this world in a man, (most) men are straight with what they want and would go for it.

For me, good physical attributes trumps any other thing in a lady. if you like be a brainiac with PhDs and whatever, good for you. but the moment you're lacking those stuff that drives me wild, sorry I can't deal.

idonhammer:
Really? I want to ask you a question, are you married? If yes, did your husband married you as a virgin? If no,then bleeping pssy wey different dicks don dick Taya will never make me live long or make me rich.As a rich dude,the only sweet thing about marriage is testing different fresh yanshes.i can't come and kill myself for a scam called marriage.

una go make Naija ladies turn to Nuns oh, my hand no de

Na only look the man look here Ooooo....



He did not get pregnant for another person but see all the usual nairaland women condemning the man like say him thief.




Feminism be like say na male oppression.



Wat is wrong in looking, will he walk around eyes closed becos he married Jezebel.

blackgold2018:
we men, we know each other in distance with just a look.. That's all.
You must be a kid to ask that question.

Shut up

womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

Your husband took advantage of your inexperience and innocence, sorry.

He sounds very vile with the way you described him. How do you manage to put up with such a vile human?

darlenese:
oya sorry

You're cruel. Which one is oya sorry

Fountainofyouth:
An idiot above said she's a digger, she shouldn't have checked her husband's phone, seriously they should better legalize homosexuality in this fvcked up country cos its obvious male and female marriages isn't working anymore, so that there will be more of gay marriages, at least when we see two men beating the shiit out of each other because one is cheating or the other checks his phone and see irritating photos, they'd really know how it feels, same with women too, balanced equation.

Stop looking for excuses to say u are a lesbian by guys faults

Is he your slave, why tie someone's life just because he married you metchew

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

the issue is we see signs... But endure. She saw the signs but still went ahead. I stopped reading. She was stupid and will still be. What does she want us to do now?

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

Just tell us you are ugly and guys are not calling you. Don't tell us you are scared of marriage

That's your cross, carry it and stop complaining jo

We are here.

ahnie:
Lets wait for the elders to arrive.

tiredoflife:
Stop looking for excuses to say u are a lesbian by guys faults

Okay.

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

liar. Na your ugliness no make men look your market jo

idonhammer:
Really? I want to ask you a question, are you married? If yes, did your husband married you as a virgin? If no,then bleeping pssy wey different dicks don dick Taya will never make me live long or make me rich.As a rich dude,the only sweet thing about marriage is testing different fresh yanshes.i can't come and kill myself for a scam called marriage.

my dear brother, whatever rocks your boat. But remember that virginity is not a virtue.
I pray for you to meet that particular lady that would treat you like a king you truly are, that would make you change your perspective about marriage. Life is very simple, calm down.

Though, you didn't answer my question. Bye

Ivebeenbanned:
You married someone you knew doesn't love you. Now you're suffering the consequences. For me, free that man and free yourself. Talmabout "boys will always be boys" stupid narratives like that is why y'all let men disrespect you. He brought up divorce means he clearly doesn't want anymore and there's nothing prayers will do. Its not like he is even in love with someone else, he's chasing multiple girls, even his FRIENDS GIRLFRIEND. Na dog you get for house. It will hurt you but you can't stay in that kind of marriage na. Men don finish? Shior

Men don finish for your area