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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by BluntTheApostle(m): 11:05am On Apr 02, 2020
Evercurious:


My dear pls stop all this' I ve my money and I dont need his'.. The truth is that YOU NEED HIS MONEY.. IF HE CANT SPEND HIS MONEY ON YOU, HE DOESNT VALUE YOU. WALK AWAY AND SEE HIM RUN AFTER YOU. BUT NEVER GO BACK TO HIM.

If you want to know the truth, he spends that money on another lady you think and feel is not up to your standard.. Pls dump that 'i m independent' idea you have in your head.it won't work here. Try to form 'needy' atimes

I have been in same situation


How did you know this?

SMH...

It is a bad thing to jump into conclusion.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Smhaykins(m): 11:05am On Apr 02, 2020
Freelane33:
Na you be the stingy guy ?

Am not stingy...just testing d depth of d river
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by pocohantas(f): 11:05am On Apr 02, 2020
Dear OP, don’t fall for their guilt-tripping.

They will call you broke, materialistic. Remind you of foreign girls.

Go to IG and you will see them paying to be sent twerking videos. Naso them dey mumu o.

grin grin

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by adabaraabdul: 11:05am On Apr 02, 2020
Forget the guy. He doesn't love you, he is just using you. That's if the story you narrated is totally true.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by omooba969(m): 11:05am On Apr 02, 2020
Vega100:


It is because of people like you I now pay every lady I f*uck, and now see all like sex workers, na still because of people like you to see wife done hard me, despite how hard I try!!!
E no go better for all the women like you when don make every girl look like common prostitutes, e no go better for all of una one bit, the God i serve go punish all of una finish and make it also hard for you to see any good thing in this life.

Amen!!!

Haaa! lol cheesy cheesy

Èwo ntèpè...? grin
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Austineva(m): 11:05am On Apr 02, 2020
proclinician:
i read this post hoping to see where you will say you bought him an iphone for his birthday and he did not reciprocate by getting u a similar device too.

You feel you are entitled to his 10N becasue u cooked food that both of you ate is that correct? Other times he did not visit your house do u starve and only get to cook when he is around? U nave said it all dear. Don't mind them

It takes a lot o begging to decipher stinginess and u seem like a begger. pls aside from cooking food in your house which both of you get to eat what other reasonable thing have u done for this guy and he did not reciprocate just leave the stupidity outside and write a proper post.

What exactly makes u entitled to his 10N aside from you are his girlfriend (I consider this very stupid) who gets to cook food for u both when he visits ?

WHy are you surprised after u said he should transfer 5k u will give him back then u asked for his aza and he gave u and u transfered his 5k back and then u came to NL to say you are surprised.

Aside from cooking food that both of u ate what else?

Most of You ladies suck a great deal
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Arsenate(m): 11:05am On Apr 02, 2020
Jaubdu:
. That half of a man is using you. Love is not dumb don't be a fool. If he is not working then I can understand. If you can cope with him the future,you are OYO
Bro, no disrespect, but you are dating Funmistiqueen which means you have an extremely poor taste in women and hence you are in no position to call another man half a man.

Just take several seats and stfu.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Glink2018(m): 11:06am On Apr 02, 2020
Adorablemeee:
Please break up with him immediately. You can't change a stingy man. I am stucked with one for 12 years now. Please run as far as your legs can carry you. Love has nothing to do with this. You will realise later that you can't cope and it might be too late. I'm regretting mine. Please run ooooo

But you enjoy his dick?/ grin

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Freelane33(m): 11:06am On Apr 02, 2020
It’s 364 Don’t go there
Smhaykins:


Am not stingy...just testing d depth of d river
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Lastmankc(m): 11:06am On Apr 02, 2020
Everyone is talking about stingy guys and nobody is talking about a stingy girlfriend.My own babe dey stingy die.I will buy her something on her birthday and still buy her a gift during my birthday .Though,she's working and I still give her money for up keep every month.Abeg,make Una free the guy joor.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Ibrahiimo(m): 11:07am On Apr 02, 2020
Wetin Women no go see for HUSBAND

We are talking about CORONA, this one is talking about BOYFRIEND, whatever, that's NONE of my BUSINESS

WOMEN cannot stay without a HUSBAND, a LADY can go to any LENGTH just to marry a HUSBAND of her choice.

A Woman can POISON her fellow woman because of a HUSBAND, a lady can KILL her friend SHE feels is an OBSTACLE, just because of a HUSBAND.

WOMEN visit many NATIVE doctors just to TIE their man down, so that HE will be SEEING only HER, and also to SCARE other women away from their HUSBAND

YOU can play with a WOMAN'S intelligence, but don't play with HER Husband, cos SHE will deal with you

WETIN CONCERN ME!!!

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by jaxxy(m): 11:08am On Apr 02, 2020
pocohantas:


You probably missed the implicit meaning of that statement. It means, you should give value to your partner. If you don’t and they learn to do it themselves, maybe outsource it...

You are useless.

I get ur point perfectly. My point was they can do fine without bt choose not to cos there are good reasons not to.

I’m not useless. smiley
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by yommen: 11:08am On Apr 02, 2020
Smhaykins:


I av bin testing u all dis yle... Now u don fall my hand bye bringing our matter here...

Oga, of you are truly the guy she is talking about, you fumble big time. Which kind test be that? She spends for you and she is faithful to you and you've been bleeping her but your questionable character is creating doubts in her mind and here you saying you've been testing her. I haven't really been so lucky with girls but if I come across her, I'll marry her in less than 3 months.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by MiztaFabuloz(m): 11:09am On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

This you post has shown why most guys are worried about spending for you Nigerian ladies. He is obviously worried too that you are after money and I wonder why you are bothered about him getting you anything if you truly love him. Spending on a lady and true love don't connect in anyway.

You might have a good man who will do just anything for you when he is sure he is with the right woman, but you are already heading to spoiling it because of mere buying stuffs for you.

If your love is about buying stuffs for you with his money, then you might just be falling into the trap he probably set to know if you are worth spending the rest of his life with.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Hypocrit: 11:09am On Apr 02, 2020
sophtcopy:
Well he may be stingy as you presumed
And
He may not be stingy as it seems. He may just be testing you to know if you're a real white wife materia ...anywhichone, only time can tell
relationship is not a laboratory.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by EmekaBlue(m): 11:09am On Apr 02, 2020
Maybe d guy plays bet9ja so he is kinda always broke and u have being a nice lady to him,he wont forget u when he get himself back to order and learn how to use his money wisely.

but its a lie u haven't gotten even 10naira from him...thats how my gf say but i remember in our 2yrs of dating how many times i have transferred her money but not as constant as she expects

niggaz r kinda struggling and broke even with a job

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by GAZZUZZ(m): 11:09am On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

You are in your mid thirties and you are desperate.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by uncleFola(m): 11:10am On Apr 02, 2020
You should have left that man since yesterday...
What is love without giving Zero love!!

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by fredopareto(m): 11:10am On Apr 02, 2020
EfonAlaaye2023:
Op is he from ijebu town? ijebu man that studied business administration/Economics na double wahala o
craze dey ur head..me wey b ijebu man and at dsame time study economics..am a giver..just we try to b prudence

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by omooba969(m): 11:11am On Apr 02, 2020
1StopRudeness:


This is Nigeria....sex is meant to be paid for...whether directly in an olosho arrangement or indirectly in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship

Either ways, u gotta pay....

Payment in the context of sex is inappropriate, so you ain't making any sense whatsoever.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Babyg0123: 11:12am On Apr 02, 2020
Do you still need advice grin grin grin
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Evercurious(f): 11:12am On Apr 02, 2020
BluntTheApostle:


How did you know this?

SMH...

It is a bad thing to jump into conclusion.


How do I know? I HAVE BEEN IN AND THROUGH SAME SITUATION. and well if she has got some time to spare, she should go dig more and come tell us her findings..
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Freelane33(m): 11:12am On Apr 02, 2020
Hold on to what you have . See all these guys advising you to break just want a slot into you pxxxy , the so call man might be trying to bring something out , stay cool , watch him over time and if he didn’t change then you can swing into action . See if you leave him , you eyes go see mehmeh, boys are not smiling ooo , they will tear you from back to front and front to back , even me if I catch you that’s what I will do . Stick to your guy , reason with him
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 11:13am On Apr 02, 2020
if you really want to hear the truth, you won't insult people you re seeking advice from.

after all its you who made a bad choice, the man clearly doesn't love you, he sees you as his ATM.

a man who can't spend on you at this stage won't spend on you after marriage.

it seems you taught that its okay for him to keep his money, so he is doing what you taught him.

I deduce that you re in your late 30s or 40s and desperate for a husband, better ditch the guy now cos you change him.

and next keep your relationship woes to yourself.

you re obviously not ready for marriage.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by seangy4konji: 11:13am On Apr 02, 2020
Only a wise woman would know that the guy is just a codedly smart intelligent guy...wisdom over much....

Majority of Nigerian ladies now are sex objects. We sex them steady and leave them. No one even wants to marry them due to their gluttony behavior as if they don't have their own parents or Jesus Christ.

When he settles down with you..you would be surprised of the care and affection...if your mind sent is on man must spend and spend ...you want to run that man down and he must and will eventually run away from you...

Just another Nigerian lady turned hoe.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by omooba969(m): 11:16am On Apr 02, 2020
Evercurious:


My dear pls stop all this' I ve my money and I dont need his'.. The truth is that YOU NEED HIS MONEY.. IF HE CANT SPEND HIS MONEY ON YOU, HE DOESNT VALUE YOU. WALK AWAY AND SEE HIM RUN AFTER YOU. BUT NEVER GO BACK TO HIM.

If you want to know the truth, he spends that money on another lady you think and feel is not up to your standard.. Pls dump that 'i m independent' idea you have in your head.it won't work here. Try to form 'needy' atimes

I have been in same situation


@bolded,

I hope all men can have this sense of entitlement as well... grin

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by atheistandproud(m): 11:16am On Apr 02, 2020
The typical Nigerian relationship is mutually beneficial transaction.

Money for hand, back for ground.

Most men sef really don't care about chores apart from the oversabi and lazy ones who think because they have 5 or 10 naira, they become royalty and na them girls dey flock after. Regular guys do chores and clean after themselves. Na just sex, that's all.

Many of our ladies can't engage me in a deep conversation about philosophy, religion, poetry, sophistry, smartphones, technology, theology etc. It's all zeeworld and gossip. Last last, I'll turn to my online forums or books for companionship.

Even in this transaction sef, many ladies always try to play a fast one and get one up over the other person.

For Feminists who want equality. This is your chance to spend like a man and you're all complaining. Everyone's gangsta till the bills show up. I greet Una.

OP: take note, no man is stingy if he's satisfied. Even in your family, there's always one person close to dad whom he cannot say no to whilst the others are complaining about him.

Go and study your man or leave him. It's a transaction gone bad. Stop trying to take the moral high ground.


*Drops mic like Obama.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Glink2018(m): 11:17am On Apr 02, 2020
It so obvious that Naija love is on a conditional basis.
Ladies are saying allow me to chop your money and I will give you my cunt. Nothing goes for nothing. It is only a fool that will die for love in naija because naija love is money for ground, back for ground

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Evercurious(f): 11:17am On Apr 02, 2020
GAZZUZZ:


You are in your mid thirties and you are desperate.

Pls SHE ISN'T DESPERATE. She is simply concerned and it's normal.. People like you make situations like this look normal whereas it isn't..


Op I bet you ,if you continue with that 'relationship', you ll eventually be left EMOTIONALLY DRAINED AND FAGGED OUT.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by cr7lomo: 11:17am On Apr 02, 2020
pocohantas:


Oya, go and marry from abroad na. Why are you people coming home to marry?

C’mon shut up. Silly set of sex dolls

They don’t give anything, but they want everything. Abroad kor, overseas ni.

So what is paining u now?? Anyway, truth hurts... Nigerian women are the most stingy women in planet earth... But still u can't point out anything valuable they do with their money ... The only time they believe u love them is when u spend on them ...what sort of ret.artded mentality is that... It's a different case if she is in need and has no income ... bleeped up creatures

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Enare(m): 11:18am On Apr 02, 2020
The only thing I would advise you is:
1. As long as he keeps you crying awh! awh!, that guy is good.
2. Satisfies you in bed, that dude is ok!
3. Doesn't cheat out side, that nigga is a gem
4. U can screw him like 10/11 spanner, that folk is awesome... Come to think of it, who is the man?

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