mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Are you in this world? With all these crises the world is facing you are here talking about a stingy boy friend. My God!

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

Free sex? So he should pay for sex!! Op is talking about something worthwhile, she's trying to decipher if having a future with him is the right choice. So men should pay for sex?......Now carry you prostitute infested brain off here.

donstan18:

See this one oooo...

So because he was bold enough to take his money back as agreed without any atom of shame, you are pissed?

Why were you surprised he took it back?


Was that not your agreement with him?

What a bold man he is, if men can be that bold to you women, we won't have much complaints from men.


Nonesense and POS.

Correct one

DJjayboy:
My sister, it's better you do a total lockdown on your relationship with him. Some guys are natural stingy. Someone that can not take care of his woman will never take care of his children. Relationship should be mutual. Be wise

How did you come about such notion?

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

See Dem entitlement mentality.

All dem family bukata den go give one poor guy.

Better go and find work. Dey wait for person that will sponsor your life

mharyamikeola92:


I ave my own job and a well paying job..I don’t need a man to b dere financially but is there a big deal in a man buying gifts for some1 he claims to love not necessarily money

You urself don buy am gift before?

Relationship is win win something jare

pocohantas:
Don’t let anyone deceive you. There is nothing nice about a STINGY PARTNER.


I didn’t say boyfriend, I said partner. Be it male or female.

A partner that you are even seeing regularly, should be able to give you something. No matter how little.

It is not parasitism, it is common sense. No one is independent in the true sense of it. If you were so independent, you both wouldn’t have the need for each other.

That same guy will be begging another girl to send acct number. You’ll be there doing wife material. Okay na!

It depends on the partner. I have friends I spend hundreds of thousands for. But my Babe never spend my 10k before. As She no deserve am

It's strange how ordinary GF will think she has the right ro your hard earned money. Make your money woman.
In Beyonce voice "When he whop me good, I ma take his ass to Red lobster"

Don't cope, leave him. But leaving him can only be justified if you're not a gold digger.

Designerdollars:
your family is very poor nah , of course you won't cope in that kind of situation.
No go find work
Be waiting for someone else's son to foot the bill.
Valueless girl.
Without your sexual organs you offer no value to any unfortunate guy stupid enough to date your type.

It’s misery to me why some ladies think they have nothing to offer in a relationship apart from SEX. God knows I won’t be to cope with such lady for one week. A female partner in a relationship suppose to be a supporter to her man not a total liability

LadySarah:


You sound stupid. Stop exposing it.

Ok

mharyamikeola92:


I ave my own job and a well paying job..I don’t need a man to b dere financially but is there a big deal in a man buying gifts for some1 he claims to love not necessarily money

Hope u ar not the proud type shall with this ur i have my own job bla bla, or na all this talk u deh tell am? E go chop u run ooooh.stop giving that dude money let him be the man he should be.even boy wen broke like broke self conscience still dey judge am to buy smtn.

pocohantas:


[s][/s]I ask you again, you expect the woman to
-Cook
-Clean
-Be submissive.
-Have a womb.
-Birth healthy babies.
-Respect your family.
-Go to your village every Xmas and wash your mother’s clothes.
-Entertain your friends when they come.
-Put the family before her career, while watching you go high in yours.

Then they ask you to provide, you talk of companionship. Oga, are you a human deeldo? Don’t you have shame?

Don’t tell me about how they have sex with me. Even the ones una no give money, una still call them fishbrain. Una say them be cheerful givers.

Abeg. If you have to eat frog, eat fat big juicy one. Show them no mercy!!![s][/s]

check the headline of the thread. it says STINGY BOYFRIEND not STINGY HUSBAND.

So don't be faster than your shadow.

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

No point stressing. Give me a chance. DM me..

pocohantas:


I ask you again, you expect the woman to
-Cook
-Clean
-Be submissive.
-Have a womb.
-Birth healthy babies.
-Respect your family.
-Go to your village every Xmas and wash your mother’s clothes.
-Entertain your friends when they come.
-Put the family before her career, while watching you go high in yours.

Then they ask you to provide, you talk of companionship. Oga, are you a human deeldo? Don’t you have shame?

Don’t tell me about how they have sex with me. Even the ones una no give money, una still call them fishbrain. Una say them be cheerful givers.

Abeg. If you have to eat frog, eat fat big juicy one. Show them no mercy!!!

Nigeria is full of foolish men and women. We need to upgrade from marriage to partnership, all 50/50 finish!

Ladies looking for a father should go back home to their dad. Equally guys looking for a mother should go back to their mum.

Beey:
My sister, I don’t understand why you are here asking for advice.The handwriting is on the wall, only that you are turning a blind eye.Love & giving go hand in hand.The two are inseparable.Even when God loved the world, He gave His son. With that said , any relationship where one only takes & gives nothing in return, lacks commitment because the receiver has nothing to lose.Your job is not babying a grown man.If he stingy now, he’ll be stingy when married.If I were you, I’d run when I still have the chance. Run from every parasitic relationship.Stop playing host to human parasites.Otjerwise, foot the bills now & marriage will only give him the license to continue with his stinginess.

Entitled lady, una go suffer en?

Ishilove:
DUMP HIS STINGY ASS. Love is giving and if he is too stingy to give then he isn't worth it. The best way to handle mofos like him is stop giving him. When he comes to your place, give him cold water to drink. If there is no light, give him lukewarm water. When you go to his place, make sure you eat well before reaching there. Don't buy him gifts. Call him on WhatsApp call (don't use your credit to call).

Don't spend a dime on his stingy ass and give him as hard as he gives you. Tit for tat.

Perfect, the best advise ever.

CANDYDADDY:
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op i heard about your story on osun radio 104.5fm yesterday, or are you not the one?

when men are clamouring for gender equality especially on financially aspect(who to spend in a relationship),ya'll irritating feminist frown at it

it always been men spending,now it lady,expect feminist to come for this post

Don't be a hypocrite. Even you truthfully know you've taken a lady out to any of these eateries or bought her a snack or juice just because you wanted to and felt like it and not because she prodded you to. Op's man has never done that. He's stingy and will continue like that even in marriage.

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Thanks for bringing this up for a solution...
I believe when things are not working well the way it's supposed to be, the best thing to do is talk about it for a positive change. What you can't make amend in a relationship it's will very be difficult after marriage, so I advice you to talk with him and try to see if he will change. Meanwhile, in a relationship it is a 50/50 thing, with the examples you gave I won't call him stingy. You Promise to give him back his 5k and I don't see anything wrong with that.... It normal. The reasons you're complaining is because you think you giving your all liking cooking etc and he is not showing up. That's were you have to let him see, have a serious talk with him and if he loves you truly there is no way he won't adjust his behavioral attitude or stop being a skin flint. If after all, there's is no elements of change in him, then have a rethink, because you're too big to remain foolish.

AfroKnight:
See this babe. Are you not a human being like other men who have been paying their girlfriends’ bills since time immemorial?

You too take up the responsibility of this man. Or are you a lesser being?

Nonsense. You no get talk.

This guy has only stepped aside and allowed you to be responsible for your own bills. Why does that scare you? Cover your face in shame.

Dont be a hypocrite. There's a difference between a generous man and a man who isn't. Some men can give money to a student or a beggar on the street because that's their nature. It means nothing to them to give out. Even when visiting girls that are just mutual friends, they'll buy something for them, not to mention their own gf.

The man is stingy. If he wasn't, a little giving gesture from him would prove otherwise. No one is asking him to pay her monthly stipend or take her out but once in a while, #70 nairn bread won't hurt.

I do not think you need to get rid of him, you guys need to be talking about money n contributions in relationships and how you guys want financial responsibilities be handled in your marriage. You can't just decided that he is stingy

Arsenate:

Bro, no disrespect, but you are dating Funmistiqueen which means [/b] you have an extremely poor taste in women [b] and hence you are in no position to call another man half a man.

Just take several seats and stfu.

he lacks self worth.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:




check the headline of the thread. it says STINGY BOYFRIEND not STINGY HUSBAND.

So don't be faster than your shadow.

No be stingy boyfriend dey turn horseband?
More reason he should be dumped. Let him be together with his shadow.

Brother wey mumu.

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

Was he suppose to pay for the sex before ? some of you ladies give the impression that you are doing men a big favour by having sex with him. where as the reverse is the case.

hmmm,
please run for your life.
three kinds of men you should never marry
1. stingy
2. violent
3. overly jealous that will not want your male friends near you.

all the best because love dey blind only ladies o, not men.

pocohantas:


No be stingy boyfriend dey turn horseband?
More reason he should be dumped. Let him ne together with his shadow.

Brother wey mumu.

When are y’all starting the stingy sugar daddy thread?

Jim99:


Lol u still dey sleep, wen u wake up e go don too late

I have a clique of friends, all married to pretty young white ladies. All happily married. Not to mention of several others I've seen.

Black men are like gold to white women. You know why? We know how to treat our women right.

Lol.

Humility017:




You can never buy true love

but when you find love you need care for it otherwise you'll loose it

spending on your woman within your means does not mean you wanna buy her love oga

it is because you love her....You can't claim to love someone and not give.

So why is she too, not given?......

My dear sister..
All I see is your fault.
My questions is that,have you ever talk to him concern this attitude?
Have you ever ask any thing from him and he refused to do it??
If not , it's your godamn fault.

The guy might not know this as a bad things because he knew you are financial stable.

My dear sister, don't form big affluence girl in front of your man..
You need to train his mind on how to give .
Just talk to him and that's all.

Auntyesther:
If he isn't spending on you now be calm he is saving money to come marry you... This is what the egocentric alpha males and the wife materials on social media are going to tell you. But ma, if you can cope with that character in future then keep up with him if not, give him the marching order!

We spend on wives not girlfriends. Be a wife first!

What a sad story common 5K him no fit leave for you. If na me him no go eat that food.

Op, you cripple? As you fine like that na that stingy, akagum you dey date?

Babe nah sweet woman you be, my candid advice for you, even me that is not working at d moment and also an ijebu man if i am going to my girlfriend place, i do get her some stuffs, even if it's not enough, she understands and even appreciates cos i am not working and she works how wud u travel from a state to another to go and see somebody u claimed u love and not buy anything even if it is plantain chips of #100, love is all about caring nd sharing, eyes that wil last wit one won't be doing like dis from d onset, a word is enough for the wise, follow your mind dear.