ekevwe:


Reduce how you invest in the relationship. Start having a plan B and C.

jaxxy:


Why u beating about the bush with this gal? Ask her straight up what conversations she’s still having with such an ex and if she can’t give u a good enough answer dismiss her with the quicks. It’s so simple.


How does a gal keep tabs with a guy who did all that to her unless she’s telling u lies. I really don’t get such a gal. Find out what’s really going on. Get to the bottom of it then decide.

femi4:
You too should start speaking with your ex and watch her reaction. Two can play the game

Papertrails:


The artist.... I give it to you......your really an artist... The guy is still a learner, though I think he needs to learn something from that thing he's calling a relationship, make the girl use am play draft first........ Anyways what do I even know?, some boys are dumb and foolish @ same time sha.

Yankiss:
You didn't tell us everything. What's the girl's religious inclination? She might be hoeing the ex while you are sexless in mind. Talk with her in a heart to heart. Let her know it hurts u whenever she talks with her ex. If u want to marry her, give her as a condition to stop chatting the ex. You need to visit her pussy to know if that's all she is missing in her ex or there's more to it. But bros I don't envy you. Simply free her and look for another. This one will retrace her ex sooner or later. She will.

aimuan:
Thankx for the advice anyway. But I am actually not interested in that Toto.I have gone past that.Toto does not really move me,I just need a wife that all..

scala101:

Tactical

aimuan:
Thankx for the advice anyway. But I am actually not interested in that Toto.I have gone past that.Toto does not really move me,I just need a wife that all..

fulaniHERDSman:
Dem use U dey pass time. Once whistle blow dem go re-start 2nd half.
My guy, approach the game with TIP TAP FROM BOTH SIDES WITH OCCASIONAL TEAR AWAY.
ATTACK TOO CONSTANTLY FROM

FLANKS, BUT DON'T FORGET TO FIRE FROM OUTSIDE THE BOX.
DO I HAVE TO REMIND U TO MAINTAIN DEFENSIVE

SOLIDITY, WHILE ENSURING VERSATILITY IN MID FIELD.
This guy off me walahi... him use coaching terminology make solid sense for people wey Knkw Watin Dey xup

Youngjohnosas:
God bless you sir.

Ostrogoth:

This right here is the true answer to his question. The guy from his speech, and his assertion of discipline when it comes to ladies, is grossly inexperienced. He even said he's not interested in sex (which is good, cos am a Christian too), while this girl is most probably used to having sex with the ex and would readily agree to a no sex relationship while she keeps getting it from the ex. From any point of view, he (aimuan, the op) can't ever be more than a dependable spare tire, cos she just broke up with the ex and she obviously hasn't got over him. He needs to give her space and let her rediscover herself (might take anytime btw 3-12 months of TOTAL separation-mentally, emotionally and physically-from said ex), then and only then should any self respecting man have a relationship with her.

AfroKnight:



Thanks boss.

If the guy learns the hard way, I pity the next girl he meets.

awwfar:
in other words..u be evening news paper...
And I go advice u to free her for the ex Sha

Papertrails:


Everyone learns either the hard way or the easy way but you get wiser when you learn the hard way cos experience they say is the best teacher.

AfroKnight:


The best teacher bro. A hard teacher, but the best one.

aimuan:
Hello Nairalanders.

Pls I need a genuine advice.. I met this girl for like 2 months now, and we just started dating about 3 weeks ago. Sincerely I am not interested in sex or whatsoever now until maybe later or after marriage.

The reason I really want to marry her is because of her family. I know her sister and the husband, they are very kind, so that's why I am interested in marrying this girl.

But however, she speaks pationately with her ex, which add credence to the fact that they are still in love, though she told me there is no chance of them ever coming back, even though the guy wants her back..

I feel she may go back to him in the future given how they communicate. Should I end the relationship and search for another girl?

Please I need advice

aimuan:
lol.not like that.just that I am not that fuuking fuccking guy..I was raised as Jehovah's witness,even though I am no longer their member but the training I got there still remain intact..So I don't Fancy formication like that,and I am also very discipline when it comes to dealing with women.

psalmylee:
there won't be any chance of coming together BT I assure u that there will lot of chances fucking together.. U no just wise at all..mumu man

kpada22:
Bro, I will advice you to be let her know your status. Make her understand that you want to marry her and you are not for games as such your families should be involved. If really she is interested, you will see from her answers. Also,
made her understand that the level of communication with her ex is not tolerable. Don't waste time in a relationship that may not work.

aimuan:
you idiot. Did I invite you to comment? Get out of my thread you frustrated being..

CIA88:
Well, for me, I advice you speak with the girl about this. Try as much as possible to bond with her by communication not sex. If its not working, let her go, she's not for you. Her constant communication with her ex means she's still in love with him. You will find a girl who loves you as much as you love her. Don't live in frustration trying to please a girl. I am a woman and I tell you for sure that if girl loves you, she would forgo all else.

AfroKnight:
Let me paint a picture.

She continues to contact her ex without hiding it from you. You begin to think she’s at the least, honest with you cos she is not concealing this fact. After a while, you get worried at the frequency and nature of their conversations. So you complain about it. She becomes defensive almost immediately. She tells you there’s nothing romantic between them, that they are just friends. She may even imply (or declare outright) that you are insecure. This jab hurts you but “love” compels you to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Little by little, you are conditioned to condone this unusual friendship she shares with her ex. You raise your suspicions and she shuts you down again and again. Then she begins to call you a controlling and intrusive partner. She says you are letting your insecurities drive you.

Meanwhile, she’s having steady sex or going on dates with her ex. But you’ve been browbeaten to accept the lie she feeds you. Until one day she makes a mistake and you catch her red handed and then she gets angry or teary eyed and she walks away from the relationship, claiming that he seduced her in her moment of weakness or some other bullshît like that.

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Bro, you are leading yourself to this bus stop. It is the worst feeling, when your gut tells you something and you fold your arms and watch it metamorphose into a nightmare. Make it a binary solution. She either limits her contact with her ex drastically or you breakup. If you condone nonsense she will take advantage and ruin you.

aimuan:
You really don't need to insult me..if I have an answer to all the question I won't come here seeking for opinion. The best thing to do is just advice me,not insult